maryrose

Wow, cmw, I just noticed you lost 169 lbs?

Holy Cow! Good for you.

Any pointers? :cursing:

Absolutely yes, stress does a number on my band.

When I am going through this I try to stick to my Protein drinks.

The problem I had one time was that the stress made me want to eat even more and I found myself constantly PB'ing and really got myself into a rut.

It passed, but I scheduled a consult with the psychologist to try to work out these issues that I have.

Sorry you are going through this, but I find if I stick to bland foods and mainly liquids, I can get this under control.

My clinic also recommened bypass, but I refused.

Did they outright "refuse" the band or did they suggest the bypass?

If you feel you can follow the band rules then you should go for it.

I was firm with them and told them I did NOT want the bypass. I felt the same way about the bypass surgery.

Did you get as far as a phychology consult?

Sorry you are going through all this stress with this nutty woman stalking you.

I am wondering if you could just lay low on the internet until this passes?

I would suggest getting a new e-mail address and only conversing with people you know and trust.

I am puzzled that these terrible things happen, teen suicide, etc.

This might seem like a dumb question, but if these terrible things are happening (don't mean you in particular), why don't they stay off the internet?

I don't consider it caving in, but rather getting out of the range of fire with these crazy people.

I would just stick with the old fashioned way of using the telephone and talking to people directly to get away from these nuts.

Why do some highly "educated" people have to act so stupidly smug?

I'll never figure that one out.

A major cost for surgery is the OR time and the anesthesia, surgeons bill, etc.

My guess is they will only be charging you for the band itself seeing they will have you in there for the hernia repair.

I would check it out closely though so you know "exactly" what you are paying for.

Plus, if they do not cover the band, you will probably have to pay for all your fills and followups.

Maryrose, thank you so much for your post. I need to remember to keep the focus on myself. It really is easy to compare myself to others. I'll never work out 6 days a week, though I have been known to walk (we have a track at work and I have a treadmill at home) at least five. In my early post op days, right after surgery, I walked twice a day.

But I have had some major nonscale victories which, again, I need to remember.

Your post is a great comfort to me. Guess it helps being the same age! :smile2:

Hummingbird, I envy you, and thank you for posting. You are so right when you say we all have our issues, and I appreciate the fact that we can all talk about them openly and honestly here.

Debbie

Thanks Serenity! You go girl!

Serenity, this is a great thread!

I see we are the same age. Let me just say that for me, I cannot say it was a breeze at all.

I think the hardest thing to strugge with for me was trying to compare myself with others. I would get so jealous reading about others losing tons of weight and being able to get out there and exercise for hours at a time.

Being 55+ I have to say I have different challenges than someone in their 20's and 30's and once I came to grip with this I felt a lot better about my progress being a bit slower.

I have been through knee surgery, have a herniated disc in my neck and supervise a transciption company of 22 women.

I have had some major pb'ing days from overeating because of my stressful job and have had a few visits with the psychologist to help me out with these things.

BUT - if I really pay attention and let my band to its job and follow the rules, it's a wonderful journey and I love my band!

I started walking a little at a time, now below to a gym and go almost every day!

Every day is different and we have to be happy with OUR own personal goals and plateaus.

Going from a size 3X top and 20 wide pants to an x-large top and size 14/16 pants is terrific for me! I am happy with that right now.

I still have more to lose, but it's all good!

o she will be back. Give it a cuple of weeks and she be emailing you again.

I agree. She will be back.

There are a lot of things here that do not make sense. She does not seem stable.

I never realized that thinner people felt that way when we became thinner than them. That's very interesting to know.

Is you "EX" friend single? Did a lot of the things you two do together revolve around eating out and things relating to food? I know that can be an issue.

I'm thinking acid reflux also.

I get this once in a while and stick to bland foods and take over the counter meds.

If it does not go away, I would check with the doc where this is something different for you outside of being preggers.

Not sure is this will work, but trying to do a before and after picture.

April will be my 3 year bandiversary and hoping to get into onderland by then! That is me with the dark hair.

I love peach baby food. I take a teaspoon or two and add to my fat free yogort, not for nutrition, but it really makes it taste delicious. Never counted how many calories, but I don't think it's very much. Usually a couple of jars will last the week. I have also heard people use this on toast instead of jams. At WW's we used fruit baby food all the time.

I know it's hard, but it takes time to find your little "niche" away from everyone.

I am sorry your family is not being more supportive. Have you talked to your mother about this?

My husband eats a lot of bad stuff. He's thin and does not put on very much weight. He loves his twinkies, candy, etc.

I put all that aside on top of the fridge.

It really helps if you keep low cal munchy stuff around to help fend off grabbing their stuff.

It's not easy, but hopefully you will figure this out.

Just want to add that this is a great thread!

I hope we can keep this going. :thumbup:

How's everyone doing on this thread? if you're like me, we touched on a subject and decided to avoid it. So let's work through this together. We've all been there and to avoid it, we are allowing food to win.

I haven't been back to this thread in a little while. Since then, I HAVE MADE A FILL APPOINTMENT. That was step 1 for my new year. I actually kept putting it off, but my brother has turned into someone to inspire me. He is going to have gastric bypass surgery next monday and he is on the pre-surgury diet.

We have created our own little group on livingstrong.com and use their tool called my daily plate. this is an easy access way to journal all that we eat and we all know that using a food journal is the BEST tool we can ever do for ourselves. he can even access it through his ipod.

it's easy to go on and create my daily food and it keeps track for me of calories, fats, carbs, and so on.

My next step is getting back to exercise. I have not worked out in a routine in MANY years. It's been all about the kids for the past 8 years. So this new year while i was looking into the community education book for classes they might like, i found an exercise class that they are holding during the same time as a lot of the kids classes at the same school. I wanted to start with something easier on the knees like Water aerobics, but i thru caution to the wind and signed up anyways. I start this saturday. Zumba here I come. i'm feeling this is my foot in the door back to exercise. and it feels good.

For anyone out there feeling bored with their routine: make a change to it. add different music; do something different for a week or 2; but don't stop. work thru it.

For those that emotionally eat or night time eat - easier said than done - but get out of the kitchen. I was driving home last night from work and i was upset about something my husband had said. I wanted soooooo much to pull into the next gas station and buy a bag of chips and dip and gorge myself to relief. That has been my poison of choice for the past year that I've been off track. Amazing what you can eat when it slides down. But something wonderful happened - I kept driving. I made it home, I actually told him that I didn't like what he said and that was my relief. Guess what, we didn't solve anything, but I wasn't hurting myself over it and setting myself back.

My nighttime eating comes and goes. sometimes i feel that once i'm alone (all are off to bed) i'm entitled to eat. I'm usually the last one awake and my routine is to watch tv in the kitchen and clean up and make lunches for the next day. Since "starting over" for the past week, i've been trying to make changes to this. trying to make lunches right after dinner, cleaning it all up and getting out of there. it's helped. also, making my own lunch allows me the feeling of doing something for myself during all of this and is somehow satisfying. plus i'm usually using leftovers for my lunch, so I know in my mind, i get to eat them, and it's ok that it's not right that minute. (sometimes typing out your life can give you insite to some really kool things).

we all need a kick in the butt but don't want it.

Well when you are ready you know you are the only person that can kick yourself in the butt.

My 3 year band anniversary is 4/24 and i want to hit onederland. I haven't been there in a VERY long time and that is my short term goal. i have 32 pounds to loose to get there and 3 months to do it. I'm glad i got my band and i'm glad it's still here for me to use 3 years later. I may not make it to my alltime goal all in one continuous journey, but so far, i'm happy.

Gonna, this is SOOO freaky.

My 3 year anniversary is same time, give or take a few days and I have that same goal.

We should join up and support each other. I also want to lose about 30 lbs. for my 3 year check up.

I just joined a gym and am really, really trying hard to get out of this slump.

I started out at about the same weight as you also.

I just want to get under that 200 mark.

Thanks you kkarryall!

Sorry I took so long to respond. I have been having computer issues.

I did well on the interview and was offered the position, not really the hours I wanted, but it's OK for now.

BTW, I made a mistake on my resume. Had a typo in my phone number!

Jeeze...just a warning to anyone reading this. Be sure to check that resume for errors. I felt really dumb for not catching this as I am a medical transcriptionist.

Good Post,

Actually my daughter said I looked "smaller" and "shorter" after my weight loss.

This is a really great post!

You make a really good point! I don't think I had low self- esteem, but may have been more self-conscious about the way I looked.

Something interesting though, and I hate to admit this, but since the weight loss I do notice some, not all, people are actually nicer to me. That REALLLY bothers me to no end.

I have seen this in my own family and that really hurts.

Nice to see I wasn't the only one that thought so.

Nancy & Kimaly, I agree with you two also on "riding the white pony" remark.

I thought those nasty derogatory remarks would have gone away by the 21st Century.

Kimaly, I agree with all your comments on this post. I can see you are also a "lady".

My mother-in-law is 82, does not know how to write out a check, has never had a job, basically just lives day to day and has been well tended to by my father-in-law for 62 years.

So, I would have to say, yes, back at 29 years old I have had more life experiences that she.

This is a great place to come for help. I have seen a few posts relating to this issue.

Sorry about your brother. It is such a worry.

At the weight loss center possibly you could make an appointment with the counselor?

Replacing one addiction (food) with another is a very real issue with this kind of surgery and this happens.

This is a great place to go for advise!

Point well made, but we are all here to help each other out.

I will take any advice/help anyone wants to give.

If I ever try to reach out "by accident" being 55, I apologize in advance.

Hi ladies,

This is my problem. I had mostly black and brown clothes. Have had to replace most and have problems with matching things.

I bought these new brown high boots to wear with a brown skirt, but they really actually look better with the black slim skirt for a job interview.

Would you wear brown boots with a black skirt?

I agree that those sneak snack attacks at night are a real problem for me.

It's almost like my "reward" at the end of a hard day to kick back, watch a little TV and then look for something good to snack on. We all know what we are supposed to do and not do, it's just putting this into place and following through.

The only answer I can come up with is possibly a radical lifestyle change that will not let us fall into this habit.

I'm not talking take a bath, doing your nails. That does not work for me. I'm thinking a change in routine, possibly going to the gym at night or taking classes.

Sorry you are going through this. Seems food addiction and other addictions can coincide.

I have a brother right now over the edge with alcohol and am very, very worried about him.

If you check the other sites here, there is a 12 step program for OA and there are other posts related to this issue.

Being from a family of alcohol issues, I can see where you are really having a hard time and hope you can find the answers you need.