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You give a bit more insight to the story here. You say you are expecting now (congrats!). So this of course will delay the surgery. He's probably seeing it is as never ending obsession, and that you might not go through with it after the baby is born. How far in the future is your surgery? A year, maybe more? That's a long time for him to listen. Yes, I understand you have listened to hunting stuff for years. I've been going to drag races for years, too! I excused my hubby from Harry Potter watching this year. He's so thrilled he doesn't have to go to ONE movie....When we normally make a day of it. Meeting up with friends, doing brunch, movie, then dinner. But my freind's hubby couldn't make it this time, so I gave him the out. He's over the moon!

You also say you've been on zoloft (I am on it now), your symptoms will need to be under control before most surgeon's will proceed with surgery. Many insurance companies/surgeons require a psych eval as part of the pre-op work up. Mine was no big deal. Just a chat with a psychologist. We discussed my mental history. It wasn't anything that would cancel my chances, but if my symptoms weren't well treated it could have.

Well I am expecting, but am proceeding through all of the insurance paperwork and going to my first seminar in December. I am due Feb. 7th. My insurance is pretty good and the lady at the hospital I am going to thinks that I will be banded about 6 months after the baby is born. I am actually NOT on zoloft, but was taking it at the beginning of my pregnancy due to hormones...I feel a lot better now that my body is used to the different hormones in my body. I am not worried about the psych evaluation as I am not usually a depressed person. Im actually quite optimistic. Almost to the point that I can get on a depressed persons nerves easily. I have been talking about LAPBAND for a while and it has never bothered him until I started going through all of the motions to actually get the procedure done. My obgyn says I can have surgery 6 weeks postpartum, but I figure it will take a little longer to get everything my insurance needs.

Well, as of right now I still am that fat girl. The smallest I have ever been was in a size 8-9 when I was 18. I am 5'9 and was pretty thin. I thought I was an ogre!! I look back at pictures now and WISH I was even half that thin!! Its weird how our minds play tricks on us. I think the reason I thought I was so fat back then, was because I had a lot of pudge. I didnt exercise and was "squishy"...lol....When I am finally banded I am going to do cardio, weight train and eat/drink a lot of Protein so I hopefully will be somewhat firm. Good luck to you...One day, I might be contacting you to see if you ever figured out how to get passed the fat girl mental image!

I hope its not the insecurity issue..He knows how crazy Ive been about him for these past nine years. I put up with a lot and kept giving him chances. Now that we are older and have one child and one on the way, we haven't had any issues, other than I think he spends too much money on hunting gear, lol. I tried to talk to him last night and he told me I was too emotional and wants me to go back on my zoloft. Ugh. I keep reassuring him and joking about how things will be better when I am thin. Not to be gross, but I have no sex drive at all and I know its because I am overweight. Its not fun for me....so I tell him to prepare himself when the weight does come off...lol...He is a great guy, it just stinks that I cant talk to him about this. Thank goodness I found LAP BAND talk!!

Thank you guys for the response. Its just hard not being able to talk to the one person that I should be able to share my hopes and dreams with...It doesn't seem fair to me...I live far away from my family and he is my only support where we are at. I dunno what to do.

He is overweight, but not obese....maybe that is why, then...insecurity. I did tell him today that I wanted him to show me how to lift light weights after surgery and asked him if we could start exercising together. He was totally against that and said if he wanted to lose weight, he would just watch what he ate until he lost a few pounds...I dunno...Maybe we are hitting a fork in the road. The only thing that worries me, is that if he is this unsupportive now, what is he going to be like after I have it?

Hi guys....I just completed registration forms for the hospital I will be going to and my seminar is December 14th. I am so excited, as I have been heavy my entire life. My husband at first, when I told him I was going to do this, was okay with it...Now that I have been on the phone with our insurance and the hospital he is starting to get annoyed. He called from work tonight and I told him I was looking at before and after pictures of people that had been banded and he said I was "obsessed" and he was tired of the word lap band already. This wouldnt bother me, but I am so supportive of all of the things that he does. He is an avid hunter and spends most of his time in the woods or watching outdoor television. As this is not my cup of tea, I have learned everything I can about his sport and am even going hunting with him this year. I am completely crushed. How can he be soooo insensitive?

Thanks guys!! Im hoping it will all be covered. As for documentation of weight and weightloss attempts, I am sure I can swing the last 3 years, but any further back will be hard to get....fingers crossed!!

So Im pregnant and now am covered by my new husbands insurance, so this means LAPBAND! My question is how long after a c-section is it safe to get lap band? I really would like to do it soon after the baby so that my BMI will be where I need it to be to get covered. Any helpful advice would be great!

So, Im not going to have this surgery for a while...(Got a little one growing inside of me at the moment), but you can bet your sweet patootie that I WILL be getting this surgery after the baby has come. My question(s) is this...has anyone ever been denied if they met the 40 BMI requirements? I have federal BCBS basic option (anyone know anything about that insurance??)..I just hope everything does go smooth and I can have this done. Im tired of not being able to do simple things that people take for granted!!

I just had to write on this. I am very heavy. Have been my whole life. Except for my senior year in high school. I weighed about 167 and was in a size nine. (Im almost 6 foot tall). My dating life didnt improve. It was when my self esteem improved is when my dating life started improving. Ya know what, my self esteem didn improve until I was about 200 pounds. I stopped caring about what people thought and learned to love myself. Sure, being thin can attract men, but it wont keep them...