NYSparklegirl

Immmmm still awake...

I know I said I needed to go to sleep..however I guess its that OCD kicking in but couldn't go to sleep without reading all the posts from the last week......missed you guys!!

LORI>>>>you best not be canceling at last minute!!! No way....must meet you. Your one of my biggest inspirations!!! Ill have to stop on the way to where you are where ever that is again lol and drag you if I must!!!

Jodi - how lovely of you to share your feelings from the adult child perspective. You helped to open my eyes to the difficulty from your side of the fence.

Not excusing myself here you see.....just explaining a little. Hate being known as the irresponsible one all the time...but I do deserve it alot of the time!! I also have no one to blame but myself either....but I'm glad it helped even if a little.

I'm coming in on Thursday and will arrive about 6. There are no machines at the hotel we are staying. A non-gaming resort.

If you are coming in on Thursday...perhaps we can meet for Breakfast then??? Thursday night we are going to see Cirque de solei at 7:30 so wont be able to see you then but can meet for Breakfast and meet everyone together if that works for you? NO SLOTS???? good thing then as I wont be wasting my money....and not get mesmerized by those lights and ringing....so attracted to that....lol.

If Lori is coming in early perhaps we can have breakfast all together if possible...not sure.

Julie, so glad to see you post. You did a great job catching up on everyone. Hope the pain gets better for you each day. You are amazing with all you do through all of your medical problems.

DD is doing good in NV. She is even volunteering this weekend. yeah! Making some friends at work but her weekends are lonely. Keep pushing her to find stuff to do. It's working.

Yes I am single again, he pushed me one time to many. His problems are not my problems and I can't fix him.

But, good news I have a date on Saturday. Someone I'll be meeting for the first time. Taking my own advice and getting out of my box/comfort zone.

The answer to all of my big sisters here is "yes I'll be very careful, stay in a public place, let someone know where I'm at"

LauraK

I read you had a nice time on your date...so glad to hear that!!! Two hours of talking?? wow you really must have liked him alot!!! So happy for you!!! Take it slow and enjoy!!! You deserve it!

Julie, hope that you are feeling better by this week.

Laura, wow you are some daughter. My heart goes out to your parents as they are dealing with so much...your dad should have a speedy recovery.

Cherri....Hope things are settling back down for you and your students now that its been a week or so since the funeral.

Okay....my week?? Alot of walking!!! Made sure to plan the places we ate at all week a bit away so I can get some exercise walking at least twice daily. Of course Dassi and my mom were not to happy with planning but didn't do it for them. lol My mom in any case didn't come with us to most meals...so wasn't including her in my plans from the start and Dassi could walk...only problem was coming home at night.......she was tired and rightfully so....so one night she slept at my brothers house so it was only two nights she had to walk home at about 10 Pm and made sure she took a nap before going out those nights!! Still it was a shlep for three days....add to it that shes a shy girl and putting her in the middle of a party so to say with people she didn't know wasn't really her speed....but she did enjoy the families we went to and met lots of new girls her age.

Two meal parties a day for three days was an awful lot of people and food....but I did good....I watched and really was okay until this afternoon.....as the family we went to today.....she was a phenomenal cook and well her deserts looked to die for....but I had a little taste of a chocolate cake and blueberry pie...a forkful each and that was it....other then that.....I really wasn't tempted at all to overeat or eat things that were not healthy for me.

Felt even better that I walked to each of these houses and back. Each was a half hour walk back and forth....I have some blisters on my ankles though....as it was so hot that I didn't wear tights or panty hose at all....so shoes rubbed as walking in high heals all dressed for a long time in high heals wasn't really comfortable!!

My niece slept here as well last night and as an extra walk I walked her home and came back home in morning before walking to synagogue which was ten minuets in the opposite direction. Something I would have balked at last year at the thought of doing that in the AM. lol

All in all it was a good week. The best..I didn't have to do much cooking!! Just that one dish and the bought presents I bought to bring as gifts to the family's we went to.

We met lots of nice new people from the neighborhood that I think we will become friendly with as they go to the new synagogue across the street from us and most have girls Dassis age. They were friendly and have invited us after the chagim...in fact I forgot but someone did invite us for that Friday the next week but cant remember who!! uhh oohh.

Who was it??? hmm

well, I'm getting really excited about leaving Tuesday. Tomorrow we will be volunteering at the animal shelter again. I will be walking the dogs and Dassi will be socializing the cats and kittens. We've started doing this last Sunday and not sure I posted this or not. We will be doing that in the AM...and then Apple picking in the PM. Monday will be getting my hair cut and mani/pedi and in NY.....its only 15 bucks for both!!! hair cut is 50...which makes up for the cheap mani pedis lol.

Monday night ....packing....Janet...thanks for the reminder of the camera!!

Now...heres a question for you fashion bugs....in NY we dint wear white after Labor Day....but in LV??? Can we still wear white in 100 plus degrees? I have these white Capri's that I wore through the summer that I loved to death? Shorts??? teeshirts???? Sandals???

Summer clothing??

Not bringing bathing suits. Apparently Jeff did a shoot for a plus bathing suit company in July and he told me he saved several suits and cover ups for me in several sizes as he didn't know what size I wore....lol Good thing as I did not tell him I'm lbs less then he saw me last!! I just told him I had the surgery and lost weight. Wont he be shocked when he sees me!!! Cant wait.

The Buffet for the 100 bucks was what Jeff had said when I asked him about some places and thats what he knew of that was nice...lol. Figures. He said the one in Henderson was nice..hes been there. Its about an half hour from the hotel with traffic. If we get the Limo...perhaps that would be a great place then!

I wish everyone and their families were able to come as well....as we will surely miss those who cant come. I am lucky enough to come this time around being that I wont be able to leave Dassi to often and to places where I would have to spend alot with air and hotel. SO glad to have this opportunity to meet those who can now.....which is why I wish everyone can come....

okay...well now really must go to sleep...as need to get up fairly early to arrive at 11 AM at shelter.

Have a great night all and a great rest of the weekend!!!

Jodi

Hi all....quick post.

Hope all is well...and all had a good week. Ive just finished cleaning up from the 4 day holiday and am wiped. Will post tomorrow in depth.

Wanted to give an update regarding LAS VEGAS.

yes, Limo to take us places at 5 bucks a pop where ever we want to go..Jeffs company has a contract with a limo comp. SO he will arrange for us to have at our convenienience however...dont hold me to that....after all....remeber who we are talking about....Ill have to arrange this for us when arriving on Wed to make sure..its for real lol

However...I was told that Friday night if wed all like to go to the famous country club.."Stoneys" he can get us on and the beers would be free. This seems to be a popular club and Jeff said he can pick us all up on him and bring us there....if wed like to..I said Id put it out to you all.....I would love that....country line dancing and all...but being from the city and most of you from not....you might not be interested. Then again you might...and being its a famous place it might be fun!!! That and free!! That too!

Let me know.....

anyways.....must go to sleep.

Have a great night!!!

Jodi

Hi all....

not really here...as it is holiday and well....shouldnt be online however.....Dassi decided to stay at my brothers house with her cousins and walking back tomorrow morning with them......am taking advantage of the free time and well.....here I am as she isn't here...hypocrite I still am....no excuse. My mom wanted to watch this weeks "Weeds and the "The Big C" so said uch what the heck...the holiday is another three days...lol Getting so excited about VEGAS..can hardly contain myself!!

but...before that....

While I was at my brothers...for dinner in the suckah

stole myself away and weighed myself.....havent in three weeks. yea me..down to lbs. Woo hoo lbs. lbs more till goal! 20 will be great! Although I am seeing some skin hanging and I dint like it! My arms are beginning to look like chicken arms..and my neck too!! My belly beginning to sag.....am I seeing the results of not muscle building the last month?? Would this all tighten up if you do exercise and muscle building? I l know my surgeon said I can get a Tummy Tuck when I want but would I need it if I did crunches every day and weights etc?? or would this happen regardless?

Legs are great...face is great except for chicken neck!! Don't like it one bit...anyone with any suggestions for this?? exercise for chin and neck??

I guess..ill live with it if cant do anything for these!! lol Hell better then the fat that was there!!

Apples glad your back safe and sound....I guess this was your last weekend out at the lake.

I already miss Fire Island and I was just there two weeks ago. That was our last week out. Not sure about this coming summer. The way things look now...not happening. Too many expenses. Bat Mitzvah party for Dassi etcetc. We will see.

Julie, I hope those shots are helping and you feel better soon!!! All that traveling for that and waiting it had better been for good!!

Cherri....Again I am so sorry about your student how awful about the brother and his apology letter....his having to live with the guilt for the rest of his life....is hard enough I'm sure...poor thing.

Phyl I hope you are bringing that Zoey cause she is def a part of this support group!! I cant wait to give her kisses and hugs...same goes for all of the lap dogs....hahahha

Julie, Good luck with navigating through the CSE. You can get all the information you need on line from "WRIGHTS LAW on SPECIAL EDUCATION". I would also recommend speaking to a free child advocate that is available in every state/community to discuss situation to help you navigate through the IEP process, how to proceed, receiving the correct special services and supports and tapping into resources that you might not know exist. I would never have known how to get what was needed....without an advocate for my child and I'm a special educator!!! Theres just so much out there and so many laws regarding special education and the amendments that have been made since the last laws regarding Augmentative communication I think in 2007. Cherri will surely correct me and give us the history...however my point is....get educated. You are your child's first advocate....you need one yourself don't leave it for the committee on special education...their policy most times is to give as little services as possible in the least restrictive environment with the least amount of resources You want just the opposite..except for the least restrictive environment but want as much supports as possible in that place. Good luck!! In NY can help and would love to but...know nothing of your state..so sorry.

Phyl...I used to use the Aveda Rosemary Mint....I loved those products...but haven't seen them around and since coloring and processing use Redkin for color processing. The blue. Love it.

Arlene...I am a "Bare Essentials" girl! I only use all the products. I love it. Ive used it for the past ten years. Wont use anything else. Its light and the finish is smooth and natural. Sometimes I just put on the foundation and nothing else....and its flawless. At 45 you want flawless!! lol

I even use the lipstick. They have come out with a pencil eyeliner however that I have not tried. I use " 24/7 urbandecay". Got it at "Sephora" last year and I love it. It glides on and stays on till you take it off with makeup remover. I used to use "Lancome" but when I tried this....it was like wow....I must have this....and the mascara is...um um forgot...but got it at "sephora" as well.

Joyce....all I can say is...as a child who is 45 and has yet gotten her life together...I am sorry. I'm sure my mother feels the same way about me. She is saying.."Jodi when are you going to get it together" I cant keep on supporting you" I hear it even if she isn't saying it....

Some of us just have a harder time then others.why? Ive yet to figure that out.....no excuse, it is just what it is....and I understand your child cause I recognize me in that picture. I understand you the parent and again I apologize for all the irresponsible adult children..and just want you to know as I tell my parents "it wasn't you the parent who made us this way its just us but please Ive us unconditionally, with patience and some limits we will be all the better for it". Thats what I can wish us for all you parents of kids like me. Don't write us off we are doing the best we can.

Okay....as for LAS VEGAS...yes I will be arriving the 28th in the early evening....apparently I will be going to see.....Cirque de solei "love", on Wednesday night and Thursday night "Phantom". I have been told not to bring clothes or anything lol. Really?? Really??? Don't think ill be doing that....I like my clothes and don't really want to be treated like some princess. Ill bring my own clothes...and if you want to take me out to nice restaurants and shows for three days great....but thats not going to change the way things are.....Money cant buy love...and trust and honesty and shorten the distance. I can see that since planning this trip nothing has changed. Its the same ole same ole even from so far away...

Bottom line....my life is so far removed from the wheeling and dealing of the glitz and glamor of the draw of money......thats just so not me....im about giving the money and helping.....not taking and getting. The philosophy of ours is so diametrically opposed that I cannot begin to try and explain the realm of differences here. No need to...ive already explained that this relationship was never meant to be..but how can I not want to see him?? Spend some time??? Id be so close?? Id never have been able to stay away. So....going for the whole...might as well enjoy!!! So I will. I know am whoring myself lol. Its not hurting anyone. He knows how I feel so not hurting him either...otherwise this wouldn't be right...but he gets it and is okay with it. (I hope)

So....as far as food. I'm good. Yes there are great Buffet...some are about 100 bucks a pop. Not really what I was looking at for one meal that you can only eat about cup and half worth lol. SO, am good for whatever...but am going on Monday to get that card from the surgeons office about the half meals etc. apparently he has one but didn't know!!!

yes Thank you Janet got the list of #s from everyone. Am so excited to meet you all.....I cant wait to give you all hugs and kisses and thanks for all your support and help over the last 7 months!!! Without you guys....I never would have gotten where I am today with my journey to good health....and meeting such wonderful amazing people along the way!!

Is there anyone else coming in early or will I be the meet and greet committee...I can go to hotel and pick the bar that we will all meet at until all arrive. lol. (next to the quarter slots)

anyways....I must go to sleep....will post before I leave Tuesday..if you want I can check the hotel etc etc

I will also ask Jeff about possible use of Limo service however I'm pretty sure that its one that is used for their company employees but will ask.....hey who knows.

I guess the shows were not interesting? He did say he can get discount tickets to some shows. Not sure which but if we were hed get them.

Well.....have a great night all....and again....this is me as a phantom....not really online.

Getting ready to meet go and have long leisurely lunches and dinners for the next three days with tons of people I dont know at peoples houses that are in the community that I don't know..but plunging into it wholehearted...looking forward..its time to get back into life after....divorce, um death of an ex? single parent stuff...etc etc.. Who knows....Dassi will meet more kids her age and I might make some new friends as well...what could be so bad??

Chocolate cake?? Wine?? candy? ??? all of the above??? Yes, but control. I am in control, I am in control. I am I am!!!

night all

Jodi

Hi all....just checking in to see how everyones been.....

Looking good everyone!!! WOW!!! 85lbs. So Impressive yea yea yea!!!

Ive been working really hard too and am down 67lbs. Surgery was March 9th. Kind of took a hiatus from exercising the past month because of vacation, start of school and Jewish Holidays.....no excuse here but still am watching the food intake!! Will get on the wagon of exercise after the Jewish holidays...going to Vegas next week to meet some lap band sisters from this site..cant wait to me them they have been such an inspiration and sorce of support.

Its after the summer and vacations are over except mine this week lol its time to start posting again sooooo....lets start posting more regularly.

Whats everyone eating daily and doing for excersize? How are clothes fitting?

what is everyone doing about obtaining new clothes? lol

What have been your experiences with people familiar that havent seen you since surgery?

How are you all feeling about the way people are seeing you? Do you feel different? etc. etc.

Its been about 6 months so its half a year.....we are olmost there...... is anyone feeling particularly challenged at this point.....food getting boring....snacking more etc?

looking forward to discussing these with everyone in the next few weeks!

Have a great night....

Jodi

Hi all...

well its been a long last week and this week seems like it should be the end of the week meaning....another doosey week. Its another hoiday starting Wednesday night and beginning to prepare for it. My mother will be joining us so have to reallly prepare. Nice thing is we have been invited to all the meals out from Wednesday night till Saturday lunch. This will mean lots of food and lots of drink...and lots of no thank you...ill just have um um um something. Im at least confident knowing I know now what I should be eating ill be okay.

This is a big social holiday......so everyone invites people for meals to eat in their sukkah (temperary tents of sorts)We will be going to people we dont know most meals, my brother and one friend across the street..so will be meeting lots of new people from the neighborhood. Am excited about meeting new people, and now that I am in better shape, looking and feeling good...I feel good about these visits....

LOS VEGAS around the corner. I will be arriving on Tuesday the 28th in the evening...again will be staying with my friend Jeff he lives near the hotel. Did Joyce say she is coming on Thursday night?

If we want to see a show or play we can get discount tickets however I think the consensus is to visit and not see shows that we cant talk through. How about a club that has country music? Line dancing the best in vegas?

I will come to hotel in the AM or whenever to meet you all...and stay till everyone goes to sleep or till you all send me home.

Food...im good for anything. Not picky I ike food...Just need my Latte from Starbucks on the AM and im good.

Im pretty easy as far as entertainment goes....I can do quarter slots all day or can window shop. I cant really buy much as its been a month of constant spending....so just window shopping for me.

Will have a limited amount of funds...so food and entertainment....limited..but what ever we decide im sure will be fine with me. ill try to make sure that im not to tired out from the three days befores goings on lol.

It will be good if I can have phone #s and room information before....so I can find you all as you get here....maybe we should make a meeting place at the hotel something or other till everyone arrives...

Is there a plan yet? perhaps there is but missed it.

Im just starting to think about coming so much too think about before then.

Laura to answer your question about single parenting? This is how....one day at a time!!

One day at a time.....Glad the first day went well, good luck.

Julie..I hope the shots helped and you are feeling better. Tried to read all the posts and keep up with your visit to mayo and the results..had you in my prayers on Sat for Yom Kippur.

Food has been good...exercise not....cannot get back to gym....in a rut, too much going on cant get a handle on the routine, getting up at 6 and working full days running for bus...karate and homework with no babysitter....and all these holidays interupting the routine every other day it seems....I will get back into it...but not today and yes I feel guilty but am thinking about how to do all this...

also thinking about the trainer and thinking there is no way I can continue paying for that.....but am going to try some classes at gym...but not today....and I know if not today when??

not sure really....but I will maybe when I get back...in the meantime I will go and at least do cardio and meet trainer Wednesday. Thats at least twice this week Cant go Thurs-Sat as holiday.

Sunday, Monday, Tuesday is good......I hope unforseeing any problems with Dassi, or who!!

I also...had a really bad headache this weekend..thought it was just the stress of the holidays, new school year etc which is true but didnt think much of it....but my mother said I should check blood pressure I did and called doctor hystericle...185 over 85. Too high...way too high hence the headache and slight nausea.

So now....what? dont want to take meds again..but if I have to I will....but the doctor said to wait a day and take it again....as I took two benadryl last night...he thinks maybe thats why.....

could be...could be....stress thats more like it I think. Keeping calm now!!

well...just wanted to touch base.

cant wait till LV...but got to get through this week first...so need to concentrate start planning gifts for families that we are going to .....easiest thing is nuts, dried friuts and candies...or a bottle of wine always works both would be nice but that is so predictable and well im nothing but lol.

so will have to think about this one overnight.

have a great night all......

sorry been so distant...but busy busy busy.

Jodi

Hi...IMMM BAACK

Fire Island was amazing this past season. It was just beautiful. Its over and now its back to reality.....Ive tried to skim through all the posts just now but its been about a week so....im sorry wasn't able to keep up them......

Cheri, god what a horrible tragic accident. I'm so sorry for the family you and all the students in your class and school. My heart goes out to you all at this time....keep your strength up Yul need it over the next few weeks. Thinking and praying for you all.

Arlene is that baby smiling?? lol What an adorable new born. She is just beautiful!! Enjoy her thoroughly.

Glad your DD is doing great and there was no complications.

Karen - sorry the wake was so painful for you. In answer to your question, closed casket causes less pain for me. However, not wishing to offend anyone - just my opinion - I believe the whole burial ritual in America is barbaric. Fill the body up with fluids and putting on makeup and closes - why. Why not P.J's, if we are sleeping.

I always said I wanted a tennis dress, racket and a couple cans (new) of balls.

Please - not meaning to offend anyone - just my thoughts.

Our bodies are just the vessel to take us thru this life. Really have nothing to do with the soul/spirit of the person. I've told my girls, when I'm gone - don't visit the graveside, I won't be there. I'll be in the wind, the sound of the chimes on the deck, the invisible person riding in the convertible that passes them on the highway, the traveler boarding the flight, that small voice in their hearts and that warmth wrapping arms around them while they sleep.

ry -

This plan has made me cry and cry. Thanks needed that!! Sometimes it takes what someone says to snap us back into reality...and this BTW is mine as well.

I guess.....I will have a typical Jewish funeral. No open casket that irks me anyways...I believe as well that once your body is considered dead your soul is gone. The body as you said is just a vessel given to us to do work here in earth which is just part of a journey to something else....heaven? another dimension? something....and the body helps us do the work to get to another a higher level or some sort....like a ladder.....we have hands to do good work and legs to help us walk or run to do the good work...eyes to see where to go to do it and a mouth to use to speak good works....

the rest of the body well....to carry those important parts...but its the soul that is important and the body enables the soul to do the work...as the soul cannot. So....we need to do as much good as possible for this earth and to all living things to make this place we are in a better place for all...I digress slightly but the point being....that after we are gone....well the soul moves on...to another level to complete work elsewhere....I also believe that we were meant to do something specific in this world and if we don't complete that we will come back on another body or something...over and over till we get it right....perhaps other souls might be involved and therefore we might get together with them or miss them and come back over and over till we meet the key players...and then complete and thereafter move on to the next level. Its complicated...I think lol.

What is interesting to me...is that in Judaism people are buried in white...a holy garment. I think....If I recall. The men are buried with their teffilin that they have had since their bar mitzvah the profilactics...that are worn daily in prayer and their Tallit...prayer shawl.

I would not have know the above except for when Ron was burried....I asked to keep his talit...because I had it hand made for him in Israel and I loved to see him in that talit every morning...when he prayed. I would wake up and come paddling down the steps and there he would be wrapped up in this beautiful colorful shawl and I would just watch him praying in it for several minuets in awe of his ability to be totally absorbed in his prayer and how I was so proud that he can do that...as my experience with prayer never really was able to reach a deep level....and I was just so inspired by him......

well, suffice to say when I asked for this....I got the strangest looks from his brother...and I was like what?? I loved him and loved this talit it was special...and even if we were divorced Id like Dassi to have it. He said....well thats nice but he needs to be buried with it. That is what a body is wrapped in when buried. hmm never knew that. I still think of this...and after hearing it I thought....you know I could see the importance of this somewhat...he should be comforted with the items that were most special and meaningful and this certainly fit for him..as he did love it as much as me...the relationship with this item out of cloth that was made was uplifted to a holy level...that was nice...

but sill think about that talit and wish Dasi had it for a memory of him.

Me?? again...not sure if really the things we are buried with matter as no matter how holy they are tangible so...its not coming with me...so dust to dust....

A wooden pine box...next to my parents in a cemetary....where ever they will be when that happens. A small ceremony before and at graveside. I guess my child and future anyone still around related...lol will sit Shiva for seven days....talking about me and my crazy life....

After which I would hope that some or all would do something good for this world no matter how minute in the merit of my name.

Well.....pretty morbid....but even today I do things in Ron's name even though...for Dassi sake...whatever we do thats considered a "good dead" I say we are doing this in honor of your Abba...Daddy.....she appreciates it and god I hope he does as well....

Today Julie is off to mayo to get final answers I believe..I hope they are what she wants to hear.

Rosh Hashana was great....The weather was perfect....although more sun would have been preferable but no rain....so yea!! All the food turned out amazing...and that Lamb Tzimmus that I said I would post the recipe for....was gone before the night began! lol

As far as food goes....well not too bad. Got allot of walking in but not enough...it has not been a good week for exerxcize...since we've been back. Sunday night....well its been non stop...the start of the new year for school for Dassi and me and the holidays are basically hell.

I have a meeting every night this week. Last night was training for one agency, tonight is meet the teacher at Dassi school, tomorrow is orientation for my full time position and Thursday is lap band support group. No babysitter so juggling around Grandmas help and friends across the street. I am also working during the day of course 6 hours....lordy lord.....Friday night is Yom Kippur...and then Sunday I need to start cooking for the next holiday which is next Wednesday night again....

Whats keeping me going???? LAS VEGAS!!!!

Printed out the tickets....last night almost forgot to do that. until Mom reminded me.

I am not going to stay at hotel with you guys as much as id like to. My Friend achum yes...him he lives 10 min from hotel and I cant afford to stay at any hotel at the moment after the school clothes, tuition and holidays that are a fortune...but will have a limo pick up and drop off when ever I want it, whatever time that would be...and Jeff knows that the weekend is all Lap Band from Friday till Sunday. He is working anyways Friday-Sunday so he can take off Tuesday to Thursday.

So....I am excited.....just keep me away from the quarter machines...they are seriously addictive.....

well I need to head off to work now.

Have a great day....

Jodi

Linda so glad your SD is out of the woods, will continue to say prayers for her and her daughter.

Arlene, We say Mazel Tov! Congratulations to your daughter and your whole family!!! Enjoy the next few weeks!

Julie...Free from pain I hope is just around the corner.....hold on...sending you wishes.

Tomorrow is the big New Year...been cooking for three days now...olmost done. Made some new healthy alternative recipes....tomorrow Ill post them....the veal tzimmus....a sort of sweet stew traditonal food....made healthy amongst some other...fruity brown rice...etc.

Have a great night all.....

Jodi

Cheri, you wrote a few days ago.....

How old is you DSD? Children are growing up later and later. Some of it is our fault, we don't give them enough responsibility and give them too many of the things they want instead of making them work hard to earn it. Some of it is society and their friends whose parents may give them way more than we do and our kids are angry because they think they should have the same. It's this sense of entitlement. And now scientists are telling us kids brains don't mature until they're at least 25 and they don't fully have the ability to foresee the consequences of their actions. Now they have an excuse.

But I was married at the age of 19 and pregnant by the end of my college career. So I had my education in place and loved having my 3 babies. I felt grown up. My kids were my job. I was married and my husband made enough that we did fine. But our 2 income economy just to make ends meet, or to have all our wants instead of just meeting our needs, huge increase in divorce, and so many women having to raise kids by themselves while working their a$$ off just to keep their heads above Water, have made it so difficult to give our kids what they need. Out of guilt we overcompensate by giving them what they want and not making them earn the things we give them. At least, I know I did, to a certain extent.

Your words hit home and I agree with you....you put it so...that Ive had to sit back and review this weeks shopping spree....and how instead of paying the rent first....I felt compelled to buy Dassi what ever she needed/wanted even though I had no money for it at this time. Why I think its okay to pay the rent two weeks later even if the management really doesnt mind and does not even send a letter...why do I think its okay to have them wait for their money just so Dassi can have a new backpack and new shoes that cost $70 dollars even if needed for orthodics.

well, this has caused me to rethink what will be this new year and ive made a resolution....last year was to get in shape...change my health and ive done that....now....its time to get financially in shape and in order to do that...ill need some help with budget etc etc.

So..tomorrow will spend the day looking for someone to volenteer for this position....lol. Wont be easy when they work with me in the state im in....budget wise that is....so thats that..

thanks Cheri.....for wake up.....must take control and live within means and if that means no new shoes that means no new shoes....no horse back riding lessons either.....

okay thats my resolution for myself.

What I plan for others....is to help start some non profit organization for people who need clothing am entertaining a more permanent idea for the GMACH program that is not so organized and very fragmented. This is the plan for this year....and well thats my resolution for the community at large.

so there you have it. New years....purge and resolution.

Have a good night all.....

Jodi

Charlene Babies will come when they are ready to. Best to let nature take its course unless intervention is urgently needed. I never liked the idea of scheduled inductions unless they are necessary for the health of the mother and baby.

Whatever your DD doctor says....then be patient it will happen as you know.

well..its Sunday and Earl has come and gone. Glad I didnt go to Fire Island in the end as it did hit but not hard. It is still windy and the Island Im sure will be cold damp and flooded with Water in the streets. The beaches are still gross from the ocean so no going for a day or two. We will be there Tuesday till Sunday so its enough time lol. Of course I say this as we were out all summer practically. Ill be glad to get back into the swing of the new year.

except of course for the 6:45 wake up every weekday.

Ive been looking for healthy Rosh Hashana recipes but again....its the traditional holiday fare that everyone is looking for...so this creates a challenge as you all know for me...but will not fold....its going to be a healthy new year period and that includes the foods consumed on the new year holiday.

Friday I was asked to the surgeons office to be the paitent spokesperson for the single incission lap band for the Dr. Sean Garber and Spencer Holover my surgeon.

I was told it would be a photo shoot of the before and after pictures to use for the website however it turned out to be a video tapping session, photo shoot and patient exam with the doctor. So much fun!!

I had makeup and was interviewed on camera for the video tapping session where I answered the question "how has the lap band changed my life and what it has done for me" and the like.....then they taped a physical exam of a reg apt. but they didnt show getting a fill lol

That would have been a bit scary??

In any case....I was suprised when they gave me a gift certificate American Express card for 50 bucks. I was like no...this is not necessary I was happy to participate but they wouldnt take no...so I used it to buy Dassi her school shirts at Kohls....buy one get one free for $17.00. We got 8. Shes done!! That came in handy as I am now overdrawn from all the school shopping!

Today am going to Breakfast with SM and my daughter. She is buying her boots for school. They are $50 dollars at Lord and Taylor. I bought her school shoes and they cost $70. I wish I could buy her reg shoes at TJMAX or Marshalls or Daffys however.....she cant wear reg shoes she needs her orthodics to fit and braces at times etc etc etc. What a pain and expense but..whatever she needs them. lol Wish shed just have offered the shoes, she really doesnt need dressy boots at 11 she can wear snow boots or her ugs...which she will probably end up wearing most days anyways lol. Nice of her to offer so dont want to rock that boat...it makes her happy so, thank you.

Well....hope everyone has a great labor day...enjoy the BBQs and fun.

Got a fiill as well on Friday and eating soft foods still as got stuck on chicken and thought perhaps need another day of softies. I hope that stops soon.

Julie your appointment is olmost here....so excited for you to get some help!! Good Luck

Have a great day all.

Jodi

Linda

my heart and prayers go out to your family at this time....hopeing for a speedy recovery.

Hi all...

Its been a heck of a week and its not over yet.

Between work, no babysitter shopping for school clothes and getting ready for the holidays next week its been lets say challenging....

Today will be no less....was supposed to go to Fire Island this weekend but um with Earl on the way we arent going anywhere near....We live in Nassau Conty and the he is going to hit this evening..so need to be prepared.

Going to train this morning....but not into it...going anyway.

Got a call yesturday from Surgeon office...they are doing a photo shoot for before and after shots. Was asked to participate. This should be interesting as the after is not as of yet lol.

Finished the last of the organization in the apt. Goals for the summer and it is done!!! No more buckets..even went through the last one which was Dassis artwork and school savors from baby on...lol Got rid of so much "stuff" and saved only her creative artwork and reports and such. Still had one bucket afterwhich?

Good Morning Peeps...

Jodi - your gym doesn't have child care.. Even my $10 gym has it ;0) you can still get out and walk - Vacation - I can't wait - but mines still 3 months away..

Yes...it does but Dassi is 11. They have a computer room and lounge but she doesnt want to go there....she wants to stay home. I can only bribe her so much. Time is more essentially the problem...when to go and get there..

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Sorry girls but I gotta vent. Jakes teacher has been sending notes home about his behavior every day. Today her note had a yellow straight face and said much improved. Then the yellow straight face and note was crossed out and she put a red sad face and said he was looking out the window too much. Seriously? Are you fing kinding me. We have been putting him on tv restriction each nite he brings home a red face. Am I really suppose to put him on restriction for looking out the window? We requested a conference. I don't feel like that was a big enough offense to wash away his whole day of "improvement". She is being way to picky and I am afraid she is just picking on him. She has only sent home a couple pages of his classwork. They were all coloring pages and one page where he wrote his name 5 times. He hates coloring and has been writing his name over a year now. Sounds like he could be bored and tired because he isn't napping any more. I am so frustrated trying to fix a problem in his behavior when it might not be him at all. Yesterday her note said he colored all over his desk. Why would he do that? He doesn't do stuff like that with our family or us. These little notes aren't clarifying what the real issue is. Do they just not get along? Is he bored? tired? angry?

Jessica....Cheri is right on target...I would say the same.... to what her recommendations are.

QUOTE=Charlene K;1518408]Congratulations!

Hey guys~ I am pooped and should be in bed. BUSY week this week.

I volunteered in Nels' class for the first time today and the teacher is so grateful! It seems not one other parent sent in anthing (supplies for class) not signed up to volunteer. I am still just shocked. I told her I would do whatever I can! So call Mrs. Classroom Mom. Wish my mom lived nearby, she LOVES this stuff. She's so creative and loves interacting with this age.

JOB. well, yeah, they loved me! He said I was just what they needed! They want a min. commitment of 4 mornings a month, 16 hrs total. Prefer they be once a week or two days back to back every two weeks. So that you can follow up with your own patients. Makes sense. The medical director is amazing, smart, well educated, teaches med students and loves the teaching part. The medical office/center itself is top notch! They have EVERYTHING! Like a small ER. Every specialty rotates through, so you get referrals to come to you! They even have an in house optomotrist! I have to do orientation on the 14th (anyone in the medical field knows all the videos they have to show you). Kind of a bmmer when you are a volunteer- used to not mind it back when I got paid good money to sit on my butt and do nothing for orientation. Tis part of the territory. The other staff seemed super nice. The full time NP has been there since 95 when they opened. She seems really nice and helpful. Only one gal I have to keep my eye on. Can't get a read for her year.

sleep time here... peasout.. Laura

PS. thought of editing my post- it's now 6:30am and I just realized HOW tired I was----------couldn't spell or write properly. Yawn. Off to wake up the boy. 4 hrs is not enough sleep.< /p>

Sounds great!! Good luck and enjoy!

Okay must run to gym.

food choices good this week.....not enough Water however...but working at that as well.

Have a great weekend....and all those in Earls wake....keep safe and dry!!

Jodi

hi. all...was getting ready to post however....took so long to read all the posts from this past week that um its time for "Weeds and the "Big C". lol so...will post maybe tomorrow. Hope everyones weekend went well.

Last week was easy..was on vacation this week....work with no school and no babysiiter...HELP. Its only Monday and im saying....oh no.

Exercise?? Today. Not. Perhaps tomorrow. Foodwise not bad. No excuse except see above. Not sure how and whem to fit the exercise in this week when having a hard time with all the above. Will get up and start over this week tomorrow with a better plan.

Hope this is positive enough.

Have a great night all.

Jodi

Apples....on the other hand perhaps I dont want that any longer....yikes!! What happened to the "farmer and the dell, The big Red Barn''? I think ill stay in NY thank you....lol

Thanks for the run down! Wow...I have new respect for you and your family!!

Nysparkle, I had the same feeling. Like this was something we all should work on. Not just send home a note and expect change overnight. I really think it was his nerves making him act goofy. I have seen him get nervous before and he does some strange things. I volunteered again in the clinic today and she came in and told me that he has been doing awesome since we talked with him. I do think it has helped too that he knows I am in the clinic. I think some people expect me to bring him home and tear his butt up and then he won't do it again. That may be why she sent the note home. I just don't spank him. He is the kind that you can talk about things and put on restriction. He really is a great kid and in prek we never had a negative word said about him. Atleast now she is raving on his behavior. Thanks for your input. I am still new to this school thing.

Im glad that today was better....and btw I dont think Jake did anything wrong....kids dont do wrong its the teachers who respond wrong. Glad she realized that she out of line..I suppose I could forgive that...but you get one chance the next time...the teeth start to show! The question is not what you are doing to help him it is what is she doing to help him..that is her job. Dont let anyone make you think that its your job to make him behave in school....its her job. Your job is at home. Glad to hear that she gave you positive feedback. She realized that she best rectify that ASAP and she did. Again....keep diligent watch. You are your childs first advocate remember that....teachers are there to help but its your job to see that that happens correctly...no matter what school he is in.

Good luck...sounds like being at the clinic is a good thing...and lets everyone know you are involved. Parents who are involved and volenteer are heeded...trust me I know this.....as a teacher and a parent.

Well...trained today with my trainer for an hour...and then did 40 min of cardio on elipticals...

Tonight....my daughter wanted to go for pizza...she is having a friend here...so I said sure...we are walking...

well that didnt go over well.....they were like what???? But, its only five long blocks!! We dont need to take the car for every little thing.....the weather was beutiful and was about 75....so no excuse! We walked and it was really nice.

Never really see the great shops on the main street in our villiage. Its still considered a "villiage" lol even though its really a "town". The clothing stores are fabulous. They have womans, children and craft stores...a new bookstore opened and I didnt even know that...driving everywhere isnt condusive for window shopping. Unfortunately even with the sales and tax exempt week....the avenue shops are so out of my budget that looking at them make me um think what the heck?? Who shops here?? Obviously alot of people otherwise they wouldnt be here now would they.

It was nice to see never the less....and see whats what.

Of course I didnt eat the pizza at the shop. I ate when we got home. Fish and veggies. Lovely. lol.

It was a fun excursion. I walked a little behind the girls to give them some space and they were fun to watch walking and talking together. She is growing up. Im giving her her space...this week after the hustle and bustle of camp pressure. lol

Well....Tomorrow off to gym in the AM and to Fire Island for the weekend. Only three more weekends to go and Rosh Hashana and the season is over...boo hoo.

okay all have a great night...and a good weekend.

Jodi

Wooow....just finished reading all the posts from the past week...took about an hour! You gals sure are busy!

yikes...thought its been hot in NY but heck...ill take NY anyday in the summer compared to where some of you guys are.... humidity and all.

Its been a heck of two weeks...for me here. Ive been working on a new project. Im now supervising the ABA program for one of the Early Intervention agencies I work with...thing is I know nada about ABA...but I did have some training about 20 yrs ago..so I got the pleasures after saying of course I can write programs for ABA..(not), so spent the whole week last week online doing crash courses on ABA programs etc. I know Cheri is saying.....oh no no no.....however, It really isnt that difficult to write up the programs and present them to the parents and therapists to follow. Of..course if im serious about doing more of this type of work I will need to be certified. Meaning back to school...or at least back to the books through online certification. Was busy last week with this..and getting ready for Dassi to come back from camp! Cleaning and laundry,food shopping and getting this place in shape once again.

Happy to say have done all that I wanted to for the summer as far as organization goes. Even put up the curtains..permantly! Meaning Im staying here for a while. If you all remember I had my list of stuff to do for summer and hanging the curtains right was a major goal.

This week...well Dassi came home Monday and its been laundry and shopping for school and clothes etc etc. Some vacation lol. Tonight I had a break as she decided to spend the night at grandmas....so here I am catching a breather. Tomorrow she has a play date/sleep over here so Ill be able to cook and pack for weekend to Fire Island. Three more weekends to go.......the summer is olmost over!

I met someone sort of....yes, brace yourselves....one of those dates that I didnt want to go on....kind of went on one with someone I knew from college...dont know whether I mentioned him or not...but went on three dates so far...and spent a good deal of time with him on those dates. Either hes a really nice guy or hes a pretending to be one and is really good at it. lol I have some concerns well alot of them lol....but as we spend time Im sure they will be addressed or not...and then I will say hasta lavista baby. oh how negative this sounds but am preparing for this...why???? Why???? I dont know but must be careful as he could be just the nice guy I think he is and well..that could mean only one thing...and that is just inconceivable at this time....

and I wont even go into the details of all the whys that I can come up with.

Caution especially now that Dassi is home...ill keep you all posted...

Have I mentioned I think hes nice??

I was at the surgeon today...and well I know that this month has been a struggle for me...and even with the training at gym and eating healthy..Ive only lost 3llbs....but this is okay. Im not really upset, I realized that Fire Island and the vacations and different routine was affecting my progress and changed things two weeks ago to compensate and began to loose again...but I realized how easy things can spiral out of control when not on top of things, not planning and keeping to routine. This was an important lesson for me. Back on track again and feeling good about it, would not have been happy had I not changed things and just let it go on and on....so am happy with the 3 llbs. still have another 15-20 to reach goal...but if I only reach 15 I will be happy....heck im ecstatic now at 158. If I get to 150 that would be great too anywhere between 135-150 within normal limits depending on whom you talk to for 5'5".

Okay....these are responding to posts over the last two weeks....so forgive me for being so tardy but must respond even now after the fact.....

LauraK....I love that story and read it to my daughter everynight...from age 3 to about 8. I still occasionally read it to her when she needs a pick me up...or I need one lol however Ive cried every time I read it...no matter how many times. My favorite along with "Dont Forget I love you" by Miriam Moss that is a good one as well if you havent heard of it and "The Kissing Hand" by Audrey Penn. This is a story about a mommy squirel and her baby getting ready for the first day of school. These are all books about the relationship of mothers and their babies depicting in each scenarios of how each mother deals with the impeding independence their children continue to have as they grow up. Tear jerkers all of them. lol

How I loved to sit and read to Dassi everynight.. the same repertoir...."goodnight moon" always ended the evening along with the "Big red Barn" oldies but goodies. Enjoy this time.....I know you are. I could read it in your posts!! Dont forget ever....

Cheri, wow. You and your students are in my prayers.

I wish you all the luck in finding the funding you need to help all your students in need.

Karen, im glad your hand is on the mend. I hope it doesnt hurt to much..but you know.....you can always say it hurts a little more then really...you deserve to milk this for all its worth youve had a tough summer!!! USE IT!!! lol

Julie, Hoping little Mimi feels a little better and is recouping after her surgery....poor thing and you are feeling okay and are getting excited about the wedding....as it is nearing. I agree..stopping any meds now....maybe not such a good idea before the wedding. That is just my two scents....When I went off zoloft....wow....people wanted to just strangle me as I was um off the wall for a bit until my system regulated itself. (seriously)

Of course there are those that think that I should still be on it when I am about to self destruct at times lol.

Jessica, Why why why are some teachers so inconsiderate?? Id like to take your sons teacher and shake her silly....Its only the second day of school and allready she is focussing on the negative???? Perhaps your son was so excited and nurvous about the prospect of starting school that he could not sit and listen??? Is this a possibility?? I bet it is for all the children. Im apologizing to you as a teacher...no way no how should any teacher tell a parent this information about a child in a note if this was truly a concern..

I would speak to her directly to find out how she is going to help him develop these skills number one and then request that if she has any concerns regarding his readiness skills that she phone you and speak to you directly or to set up a meeting with you and the social worker and her together to determine how to help him achieve these goals and whether he needs to recieve any resources to help him. Im sorry to disagree with people regarding your husbands position however, after this Im sure his opionion has solidified even more about the Public School experience. The only advice I can give you...is to advocate for your son while he is in this system and make sure it works for him and you not the other way around. This teacher needs a lesson in positive teaching and you have the oppurtunity now at the beginning of the year to let her know that this is the way you expect her to teach your child and reach out to you if needed....

(oh and I have some other choice words for her but ill refrain from them at this time...and keep my professionalism in check)

Lori, Im glad you enjoyed your vacation at least the part when you werent alone. It is lonely going to such a romantic place to sit by the pool or eat alone..when everyone else is probably with someone or family...so can imagine that that might have felt awkward.....

Janet, I am ROTFL....at Andrew and your relationship...why it reminds so much of myself and my mother...Your descriptions of your experiences with him. I promise...sometimes with some kids...(like me) there will always be drama even when the kid is 45. lol Good luck.

Linda, Im crying for your little Merry....Its so sad to see our little furrys in pain or crying...but the worst is over and you will see that she will get used to the situation and will not even know anything is different after the recouping time....I was crying that she didnt want to be touched and you were going to sleep on the couch next to her..so sad...but you did the right thing! You did the research and had many opinions about the right treatments....so you gave her life..and her quality will not be diminished at all...give yourself a hug and give her a kiss for me....

Judy...Hope the dinners you had for your co-actors went well. Have fun with your boy toy lol Make sure he takes you to nice places and treats you well..who cares how old he is...as long as you enjoy spending time with him and he makes you feel good. (You could also be making him feel good and treating him well as well achum).

Melissa I hope you are feeling better. Stress does bring on viruses and colds as well...take time to coddle yourself now....

Karen, I dont know what its like to be a farmers wife but I always wanted to live on a farm so I am envious of you and your family..and love love your stories about the daily goings on of the farm.

Okay then.....think I must have missed someone..so please forgive....

Have a good night.

Jodi

Hi all!!!

well..im back! The weekend was fantastic.......we had a fabulous time. Met some amazing people....some more colorful then others...but everyone was.....peace, love and everything is going to be allright now.....

well, it was!

Got a lot of exercise setting up the tent, hiking up to the loo.....which was about 1/4 mile away..danced and sang along to all the old music played at Woodstock....years and years ago.

Didnt really sleep much and sleeping with three other people in one tent..not really good sleeping conditions....however thanks to everyones tips on what to take with...we were well prepared for any and all situations!! Thanks all.

Unfortunately the food situation was slightely not what the usual is....but thats okay....nothing drastically different.....so not great but not horrible...that i didnt plan for....I was in control. I knew what I was eating and planned each piece of morsel that went into my mouth..including the two oatmeal Cookies on Friday and Sat. Other then these planned treats...I was okay.

I trained today for an hour with trainer.....weights and muscles building.

Food....was oatmeal plain..... in the AM, ptotein fruit shake for lunch and sauteed brocoli and chicken for dinner...oh and of course my Decaf latte from Starbucks in the PM for snack.

Ive been reading the posts over the last few days and wow....so much is going on with so many people! So, let me just say

Melissa...Im so sorry about your lay off. When I had difficulty when Ron passed away I went to all the synaguages in my neighborhood and asked for help. It helped me keep up with basic payements and necessities the first year. Sometimes we have to do what we have to do in order to get by....for ourselves and our families....Cheri had some great recommnendations...churches are also a good ldea to include. Grovel now pay back later when available....thats my motto when in need. No need to feel embarrassed everyone hits a bad spell some more then others in different ways and at different times....no need to feel bad....glad you are sharing...you need to be able to share and vent and get some ideas and support....dont let this set you back regarding food, exercise and fills. Embrace this time to better yourself in any way you can!

Someone lost a friend but im really sorry...I dont recall who posted...but I did read that post and felt so bad. So sad....sorry for your loss....sometimes friends are closer then family and when tragedy falls its as if we have lost a piece of ourselves again...so sorry to hear about this.

Julie...its olmost Sept 9th. Crossing those fingers for you.

Laura....Your mom seems like a tough lady...I dont know how I would have gotten through the year shes had allready....glad the epidural has helped

Great.,...Hawaii? So nice. Enjoy, Enjoy, Enjoy!

Linda...what great pics....these are what I call framers! Got to hang them where you can see them everyday. Adorable and you are as well!!!

Joyce hope your daughter is doing better....

Who was it who posted about the obnoxious mean lady at Wallmart?? That one....she will end up in hell. Embarrassing someone is the worst sin you can do....as it it is the same as killing someone...as when you embarrass someone the blood drains from their face and away from their heart and this is what happens when someone dies...and when this is a public humiliation its even worse.....they are going straight to hell. I dont understand how people can be so unkind....it certainly isnt the Christian, Jewish or just plain human way. Uch horrid.

But...in the meantime..its important for you to say to yourself you are not responsible for other peoples actions and you cannot control other peoples actions and you did nothing to deserve this behavior.

Well....I must go to sleep. Booking my flight tomorrow...got a great deal on Delta direct from NY to LV. Was waiting for a deal and its here..dont want to wait much longer.....

Anyone want to share a room with me?? I promise not to snore....no more snoring! lol

If there is someone who wants to would love to let me know what the possiblities are.

Oh..and yes my port bothers me alot and you can actually see it!!! Its on the right side of my belly button a little upwards.....what a place for it!! I did mention it to the surgeon and he said the more weight you loose the more you are going to see it as well. He also said if it really bothers you they can move it with a local anesthetic to a different location imbedded in the muscle so you wouldnt see it and change the size to a smaller one...

I was happy with that thought...and I am thinking about it as it is always hurting from the top of jeans or skirt waist band...every article hits exactly on the spot where the port is located and sometimed I need to roll down or hike up that skirt a little higher then natural....its getting annoying so Im glad im not the only one.....wonder where a good place is as I hear everyone has some issue with it no matter where.....but olmost ready to move it but dont want to rock the boat all is good....now. lol

okay....well going to sleep....its been a long weekend..and im pooped.

Have a great week all....

Jodi

Good morning! It's supposed to be a cooler day here today in the 80's which is perfect for me!

Jodi, if I haven't commented I agree with the others, love the new pic. I enjoyed reading about your planning for Dassi's bat mitzvah. Is it a problem going to Rachel's tomb in Bethlehem. I know when we went to Bethlehem to see where Christ was born we had to cross into Palestinian territory. We had to leave our Isreali/Jewish tour guide and bus driver behind and board an Arab bus with an Arab driver and guide to go in. It was kindda scary and I was very relieved when we crossed back over. Of course, we couldn't cross back over until we visited their gift shop. Now that you mentioned it at the wall it was only the boys doing their bar mitzvah's and I felt sorry for the women who had to stay on their side of the wall and were standing on chairs trying to see over and throwing candy and some were singing. DH described things to me on 'his' side of the wall he said there was a library there and how they had this plexiglass by the edge of teh wall and it was dug all the way down and you could see how far down the wall went, we didn't have that on our side. Also when we went into the church where DAvid's tomb was we had to go on seperate sides.

Janet, goodness you keep busy! NO wonder you are a size zero!

Laura, your poor mom, that sounded so painful, but am happy to hear she is getting some relief from the shots now. Is Nels excited about starting school soon? I know in Denver, my friends kids started today already.

Lori...I wasnt aware of this...I do recall now that we did have to walk a while from outside to the tomb....hmm will have to do some more research about this as my dad and mom would not be able to trek there....hmmmm hmmm. Dilemma....

yes, its a lovely experience for everyone...and the sweet candy for a sweet life is fun...try to hit the kid as hard as you can and no one gets in trouble....the girls love this part!! You throw it right after the boy is called up to the read from the torah for the first time....then they get hit with all this sweetness...not sure where that came from...lol Must be a jewish thing...you get something yummy and then a zetz...(hit) right after...so typical. lol

Lovely how the woman get to take backseat at the wall of all places....the holiest of holies.....Yes, I do remember seeing the plexiglass...and all the way down. Not sure if you went to what is called the small wall located on the side in the back of the area where the men were...you had to go down a tunnel or sorts to get there...thats where I liked to go pray....away from everyone else and private...so no one can see me and I can cry my eyes out and not be embarrased...not that I should have been there of all places....but nevertheless....I like my privacy at those times.

was just thinking....perhaps we shall be the first bat mizvah there....hahahh theyd stone us.

Thanks for the info...will do some of that research this week.....achum. (hope)

Jodi

Jodi,

Thanks for the information -- do you know how old the poodle was when she had her amputation? If you think she was older I'd really love to hear how she adapted when it was done. I'll pm you my personal e-mail. If that lady would be kind enough to give me advice, I'd be very happy for it.

Thanks,

Linda

ahhh. I was wondering about that post. Yes it was Judy who posted that....Im jodi lol. So many J's cant keep em straight myself.

Good luck.

oh...sorry. Dassi is pronounced...like Darcy without the r? Its Hadassah....so its sounds the same...but just leave off the ha and the ah and add the i after the s. lol. I guess.

Hi all...

Okay found this amazing bakery in the Lower East Side of Manhattan.

No glutten, no sugar, Spelt and agave...everything all natural vegetarian.

Boy am I a happy camper!!! I bought ten things and had a small teeny weeny bite of each...just had to!!! The only thing I didnt love....the agave sweetened, glutten free Brownie....tasted like..um passover brownies too sweet!!!! Everything else to die for!!! All this and a Kosher certification as well...meaning I could bring this stuff in the house...and I could now have healthy treats for shabbos for Dassi and her friends...oh yes and me. lol.

Doing the happy dance...woo hoo. Happy days are here again....havent had a treat like this in five months.....

Jodi, I love your new profile pic. You are so beautiful...

thank you...!

Ok I don't want to be a JAP, I'll just be a princess. lol

no no JAP....lol

I am so excited. My uniforms are scheduled for delivery today. I will post pics when I can. Who doesn't love getting a package.

The deal with the books is if you buy them new, you can access them online too. They have the entire book online and last semester I found that so helpful when studying. Plus talking with a student already in she said it really helps speed up writing out care plans. She copies and paste right from the book into her care plan. I want that but if I don't have the money I may have to just do without and buy used. We don't use credit cards. we use cash for almost everything. We are considering getting a small loan though. We can pay it off as soon as I get my financial aid. Just something we are considering.

At some point today I gotta run my son to my MIL. It's and hour drive. She is gonna let him stay the night since we have the dinner tonite. My SIL just moved back in with them yesterday. It is kinda crazy over there right now. I just didn't know anyone else on such short notice. Sometimes people without kids don't think about things like this. I gotta make some friends close to here.

We are very nervous about the babysitter thing. I do intend to pay my family for babysitting. You are right that it can cause drama though. We are really protective of him. He has only had 2 babysitters. My MIL and my Dads girlfriend. He has never even stayed with my stepmother or mother. We hear so many horror stories about babysitters. I am gonna ask my Dad's girlfriend first. If that doesn't workout I will look into hiring a professional. I wonder if the ymca would do a pick up at the school? I'll call and find out about that.

No JCC? Sometimes a JCC will offer after school and will pick up from the school as well...no need to be jewish either...not sure if there is one in your area but check it out if there is....

Phyll I hope your back feels better...I for one love the Chiropractor...I would go every day if I could!! I go and get a deep tissue massage and then an adjustment and I feel great after...its one price..for both so that makes me a happy camper. My daughter loves going as well.

She gets real upset if we dont go once a week..she says it helps her concentrate and keeps her body from getting out of sync. Ive been taken her since she was a week old!

If she got sick or had any infections especially ear ones....it was right to the Chiropractor before the Dr.

You should try it....you never know...id take that adjustment over drugs anyday. Hope you feel better soon.

Can't believe winter preparation has begun for you. Such an interesting time in life for you and hubby.

Jessica - love the new uniforms arriving by mail. Always fun to receive a package. So proud of your dedication toward making a great career for yourself thru all the hard work. It will pay off.

Spend from 11 pm to 5 am at the hospital with 47 yr. old daughter and her hubby. She was admitted to psychiatric unit of local hospital and I'm praying that solutions will be found to help her embrace a healthier, drug-free lifestyle. She battles chronic depression.

Leaving to meet a dear friend for lunch - then a nap and dinner with other friends who are caring for their 4 grandsons this week.

Busy day.

Oh I hope your daughter feels better soon and the facility is going to be able to meet her needs...Shes lucky to have you and her husband for support...thats half the battle for any illness, but if drugs can help for the interum until your daughter can begin to take control of her life herself.....it might be the best thing at the moment...Drugs are a tool and need to be used as such....some were never meant for long term use...some longer then others...but whats important is that she realizes that she needs help and cannot get through

this alone.

Checking in from my phone so there will be typos just a warning.

Ok the weirdest thing happened to at the gym. DH and DD say I was hit on. This guy came up to me and started talking and talking he goes on to tell me how he likes older women because they are wiser, more experienced, and comfortable with who they are and he likes curvy women. I told dd about it and she said, mom he was hitting on you, dh concurred. Its been so long i didn't even recognize it. Lol. I did the class today at the gym and so did he.

Janet, dh's secretary was speechless after i told her i was queen but i earned her respect after that. Lol

Jodi, dh and i were just saying we'd love to go back to Isreal but have no plans to do so. When we were there they were having lots of bar mitzvahs at the wall is that where you'd do Dassi's bat mitzvah? Btw how di you pronounce Dassi? Does it sound more lassie or daisy?

Laurak, sorry things didn't work out with the ex but glad you recognized that now

Lori....ROTFL...hahah. Good for you!! So it isnt just me...its this newfound postive energy that you are putting out!!! You must feel pretty great!! No matter who he was or if he was "younger" the fact that he payed attention and gave you attention...should have made you feel like a couger...grrrrreeeat! Btw.....enjoy the first visit to OB..Dr. The first is always the bestest!!! Congratulations again!

No, we arent going to have her Bat Mitzvah at the wall....the men would stone us if we did. lol Woman arent really supposed to bring attention to themselves and god forbid they might make a spectical by singing aloud there together....lol No....im not ready to get that much attention ....yet.

So far I looked into several different programs...for bat mitzvah girls...what I found was....that in Israel there is no such thing as a big party like in the states for this occasion where a girl turns 12. What they do is they take on "chessed" projects (acts of kindness) from Rosh Hashana of the year of the birthday till the following Rosh Hashana the next year...the new year to the next year, During this time....the girls take upon themselves several projects and work with them the whole year...at the end of the year they have a meaningful celebration of sorts.

So...I thought...heck Im not going to spend 10,000 dollars to have just a party here in the states....and invite her whole class and the second class.....nope...

Havent decided which program to choose from...yet.

There is one program in Israel...in Natanya...there is a girls orphanage....more like a home for troubled girls who cannot for whatever reason live at home. You can donate a certain set amount of money to the home....and they will make a big dinner celebration for all the girls together who live there along with your child and family so that they too can go to a party. I like this idea...but again its only a party...I was thinking of doing this and something in conjunction with it......maybe the second program....which takes place

At Rachels tomb (an auspicious for girls and woman to come pray in Bethlehem). Here apparently you pray for Rachel who is one of the four mothers to help you..have a baby if you cant....(as she cried out to god to give her a child and he listened and did) or a girl who wants to get married.... so we pray...saying..."mamma Rachel cry for us again....wont you shed a tear for your dear children and pray that we should get what we need....together).

When a baby girl is born they bring her here...and put on a red string that was made with prayers to ward off the evil spirit...and to recieve special blessings....

I like this idea....and I think for Dassi this would be the most meaningful for her.

The program....starts in the U.S. at the beginning of the year and you begin learning with your mother, sister, grandmother..(woman) something of importance to being a jewish woman...and then you come to Israel and then do several projects...like volenteer in a Soup kitchen for a week with your mother or others...or a hospital or give Water out to soldiers or babysit for parents who lost children do to war etc etc. You pick what you want.....

I like this idea and id like to combine the two...as well.

I would also like to begin doing other chessed projects here in the community.... maybe collect clothing, school supplies..or whatever to bring with us to the Oprhanage in Natanya which weve done the last time we came and it was a fabulous experience for Dassi and she would like to do this again....

so to answer your question....um not sure...but youve prompted me to get on the ball to get things rolling New Years....is just a month away and I havent even been in touch to see about the real possibilities...who knows...perhaps both of these ideas will be astronomically expensive and we wont be doing either on the scale I would like...and will have to look into others.

What ever the case may be....Im thinking that it will be passover time...and thats something that at least has been the consensus..all around. Of course my dad....funny guy....called just last week and asked what date he should make the airline reservations....and I just laughed!!!

Who did he think he was talking to??? He should know that I wouldnt have a plan about 10 months in advance of anything! lol

wew...that was a long response to a simple question but...you asked lol. Hope I didnt bore you with this....but perhaps you can help...with an idea or other even?

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Hi gang! Down 1lb.....I'll take it!!! I have to change my ticker. Today's class was about change. What was the biggest change in our life?......hardest thing about change?....biggest benefit of change? It was really a good lesson. I think it is hardest for the ladies having with children at home. Kids don't like to change the foods they have been eating. One lady was even crying because her DH and kids won't support her. I was there once.....that's how I got here.

Great, yep, I think you were hit on. Good for you!

Janet, I will see if I can take a pic with this Mac. I am such a tech dummy. I am spoiled having two DS programmers, DD with a masters in educational technology, and a really geeky DH. I just have to whine and they help so I will shut up.

Jessica.......you look great in your uniform!

Phyl, I wish you could stay somewhere long enough to get some therapy. HUGS!

Apples, thinking of you today! Prayers going up for you!

Jodi.......you are a pretty girl!

Thank you...

You always have such good insights to tell us about the things you learn at support group. Thank you for sharing.

Cherri, I hope that you will get to the bottom of what ever is ailing you and you can just change your diet and not have to take so many extra pills.....being in pain is no fun....I hope knowing what is causing it will help somewhat as well. Thoughts are with you.

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janet - Love the hair cut oit makes you look so young.

Sorry guys to manny posts to catch up on.

Tomorrow I am going to get my tubes tied what fun. so I will not be at work for two days yeah but then I will be in pain :thumbup:

Well I will chat tomorrow love you all

ouch. I hope all goes well and recouperation is minimal.

okay..all...I post way way too much!!

Have a good night all

Jodi

I was seeing Dory Ferraro at LIBC in Levittown but she has changed her hours and isn't as available as she used to be. I love her and her staff and hate to change doctors but don't know what to do. I'd like to see someone at least once a month and go to support group meetings. Does anyone know of a good surgeon/doctor in Nassau County or Queens that is accepting new patients?

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Hi....yes. Long Island Bariatric group...they are located in Manhassat on New Hyde Park Rd. 3003. You can see the add for them on the side if this site...where all the ads are. lol

There are two surgeons. Dr. Shawn Garber and Dr. Spencer Holover. They are affiliated with the New York Bariatric group. My surgeon was Dr. Holover but they work together. They also both attend and run their monthly support group at the Demetrius Center on Norhtern Blvd. second Thursday of the month....Tomorrow that is!! Why not stop by and meet them the nutritionist and the PA. You wouldnt be sorry....

Good Luck.

Jodi

Must have lost an earlier post...

reply to Lori...

Nooo. they werent laughing at you, they were laughing with you regarding the Israeli dancing....lol

Dont laugh..weve all had to do the "horah" thats what that dance is called..that you danced to. Its a traditional dance from Rusia that was used at weddings in the shtetle. Easy steps!!

I think its great to learn dances, songs and music from other cultures...

Funny story...once when we took my dad on a getaway for his birthday one year to this hotel upstate....they were having an anual Polka festival. OMG I lost my marbles. I love Polka!! Especially the line dancing....I forgot the name of the man who is like leader of the pack when it comes to the top band....

I loved him best....took a few lessons that weekend as they were offered throughout the day and at night danced the night away! It was the best weekend we had! SO..If i come visit you can take me to a Polka dance...but none of that old grandma stuff from the 18th century....lol

When are you going again to Israel. I think we are going to go Passover this year and make Dassi her bat mitzva there...somewhere. Would love to have some familiar friends to join us so if you or anyone else for that matter will be there then....you are all invited.

Janet, love the bangs, I agree you look younger. And good for Andrew -- he's a nice young man -- it's always nice when they act more mature than you expect isn't it?

Jodi, you are so fun -- I love reading your posts too -- so entertaining. You behaved honorably -- unlike those men -- but glad that you got the compliments -- bet they made you feel pretty good and I hope not too uncomfortable.

Lori, I was at the gym this morning watching the news -- they showed the crazy woman at the McDonald's drive up window who had a fit cause they didn't serve McNuggets at breakfast -- I admit I thought of you - that wasn't you was it? LOL.

Poor Apples, I hope they can get her fixed up and comfortable. Poor girl!

Arlene, my friends make those cool tie things to send to the troops - I hear they work great!

Judy and Janet, thanks for the input on the dog issue. We are meeting with another vet on Sat. It's just a horrible decision. Last night she had a t-bone bone -- she was jumping around and really enjoyed it. Like I said, she is healthy and active -- so will probably request that they remove it and TRY to suture it and as a LAST RESORT amputate it if it won't work - cause as I said, she is our baby and is still happy and healthy. I hope she'll bounce back okay. This family -- always something going on with someone's health. Yes, my SD does take advantage of me and I try to not let it get to me, but it does. As you all know, I just love being with my GD but I do not like to be manipulated and/or used and i think that goes on with her -- she acts like she's too sick to have her when in reality she wants a break -- I'd be okay with giving her a break -- but I'd like honesty from her -- not being manipulated into doing it. Hope this makes sense.

We had a terrible storm this a.m. - my little town had to have some residents rescued from flooding at 5:15 am. -- they were standing on their mini van calling 911 with their cell phones -- we got 3.8" of rain in about one hour. What a way to start their morning, poor people. The road out there is still closed -- this has been such a wet summer - so the flooding is finally happening. I'm one of just a few people who didn't have Water in my basement this morning -- lots of people had to miss work to clean out basements. I'm very lucky.

Well, time to go home -- need to get going. Went to gym, did my 35/35/30 this a.m.

CBL

Linda

Hope everyone was safe after the flooding. In our old townhouse in Forest Hills....we used to get flooding in the basement in the summers whenever it rained....come to think of it winters as well. I was so afraind to open that basement door everyday...because we never knew when it was going to hit us. We finially had to get a sub-pump installed it was happening so often. Before we knew about the possible flooding we made the basement into a playroom for Dassi...had a bath and shower as well....we had a toy room and bedroom area big enough for play...all the toys and games TV and bedroom set was ruined during the first flood. Dassi still talks about some of her favorite stuffed animals that had to be thrown away afterwards.

Natural disasters suck....but as long as no one gets hurt its all good....everything else can be replaced.

I hope Merry will be okay. Dogs are usually fine with three legs and get acclimated fairly quickly however...surger like that is questionable Im sure....glad you are getting a second opinion. Starlight developed this big...something on top of her thigh..perhaps a hematoma or other...but the Vet said...it looks and feels worse then it is....this isnt something that bothers her or is dangerous leave it alone....but it bothered me that there was this golf ball on her and I wasnt doing anything about it..but saw two other Vets and they said the same....so left it. Hopefully it can be taken out without amputation...

Linda, sorry about your Merry. Hope they can just remove it.

Janet, love the hair.< /p>

Great, that's right gotta get what you paid for. lol

Joyce, Judy & Jodi, I guess you could be called the 3 J's. I want to be a princess too!

Good juju heading apples way. Hope all turns out ok for her. How is she going to junk up the thread with a bad wing?

Jessica, you will do wonderful in school and meeting new people.

Well a good 3 weeks with the ex BF. Ex is the word again. He is so confused, flip flopping back and forth. I think the brain tumor is effecting him more than any one knows. Kind of devastating but I will make it. Walked it off instead of eating it away. So it is a major victory for me.

Laurak

Laurak you dont want to be a JAP...they are spoiled and rotten and obnoxious and you are none of those..things.

Neither is Joyce or Judy. you all may like and deserve to be treated like a princesses and you should be!!!! ...but JAPS dont deserve the time of day. I grew up with Japs....and they arent very nice...selfish and self deserving people do not deserve my friendships...so you are all not..trust you me.

Jessica, Is it possible to post at the nursing school somewhere about needing some books and perhaps students from the past who dont need the books you do can either lend or sell you them? We used to have a book exchange program in the special ed dept. That was the only way I got any books...I couldnt afford new ones. I also liked the highlighted ones as well....so I would use that as study guides..and didnt have to make them myself.

Perhaps..in a community paper you can put a post? A penny saver of sorts? Godd Luck....I c you are getting organized thats great.

Also...a bit of advice from the peanut gallery....I thinlk that finding someone who isnt in the family to babysit could be a better choice...dealing with family sometimes...not always but sometimes become sticky...I always prefer to pay someone then ask family as there are always strings attached somehow...but thats my family and doesnt mean its yours....but many psychologists would agree....peace of mind is more important if there is any concern regarding this at all!!!

Janet....I love the bangs....they are great, Def makes you look younger.

Have a great night all...must get some sleep as Im taking my boy.....on a trip with his mom tomorrow god help me..lol

If he gets one scratch on him that nurse is going to have my head on a platter Monday when she returns!

Taking him to a Snoozelin room and water therapy....cant believe mom is allowing me to do this...next will be pet therapy!!

Jodi

oh. Laura..Hope all goes well with your mom.

and you are such a good daughter to help out when needed....even when you havent even rested from your trip!

Julie....you sit and say thank you when you are complimented lol Yes you do deserve the credit and you dont even know it!!! But we are here to tell you different!!! You are fabulous and amazing...and 300 people is an insane amount of people no matter how little you say you are doing...we know you by now....you are doing way too much!!! Enjoy, Enjoy!!

sorry junked up the thread. again.....

Hi guys....

Frizzy hair? ??? ha....the worst is here. Curly and frizzy. In humid NY weather???? Must use something good. Ive tried everything and since I blow dry and straighten with Iron after...I need something to control that frizz or no matter how much I straighten I frizz the second I get out of doors.

I use..."OSIS + Magic" (Anti frizz gloss serum) by Schwarzkopf I use a pea size and it lasts till the next wash.

I used to straighten with the brazilian straightening..then didnt need a thing...but cannot stand the smell of that stuff and since needing to leave the stuff in hair for three days before washing out....I couldnt stand it...had to take it out in a two days...it was fine after but the thought of doing that again....uh no thanks...ill stick to iron and antil frizz. lol

Camping and me??? well, wasnt aware that there was going to be no bathrooms or Water. lol

Kind of was just like sure...camping sounds like fun.

Suppose ill have to make an apt for mani/pedi on Monday morning...chiropractor and massage therapist as well come to think of it. lol

no..I dont have any camping equipment. I figured we would just stop at Wallmart on the way up there and pick up what we need??

I have a flashlight. A three man tent...other then that um not too much. Will borrow a blow up mattress and an ice chest or two. This is going to be real fun...uch um.

Ill probably be going to visit my two friends...one in a bungallow colony and one who has a house ten min away.

Thanks for the calculations regarding waters....I figured...someone would help figure that one out!! lol

Thanks for the suggestions....baby wipes?? what a great idea. Ill take more if anyone has any....and since some of you are avid campers...bring it on....as you see...this city girl....has no clue what shes got herself into!!!

Judy fortunately my parents didnt believe in bringing up japs sadly. lol

Monday night weddings...yes they are on Mondays and Wednesdays because its auspicious to have a wedding on the same day as you read the torah during the week. Also...the real reason is its cheaper as well.

Its seems however the more religious the more chances it would be that irs during the week. A real pain for some people....but the nice thing is it never is black tie...so you can dress more casual then on a weekend wedding.

Israeli dancing?? yes, Hava Nagila is a song that you would dance to Israeli style however, the danciong that is done at religious weddings is called simcha dancing really. Simcha meaning a celebration. The music and dancing is a mix of modern dance and israeli dance with some alot of line dancing as well.

"Hava Nagila" (spelled correctly, yes) song is an old song from our grandparents decade and we young ones (young hah) wouldnt be caught dead dancing to that song, its also notorious for non religious affairs to have that song and dance as the first "jewish dance" and then switch to reg american dancing as it is the one song that jews are familiar with regardless of their practice, or where they are from. Sorry....though....Im sure that the Israelis were not laughing when you taught you that song and dance...but it is a traditional one that we all know...and occassionally will have to dance to..unwillingly. lol

It was a very nice wedding..the kids who got married..and I call them kids as they are respectfully 20 and 21. lol

They are children of friends that Ive had from our bungallow colony....the "kids" grew up together in the colony from the time they were about 5. They recently met about an year ago at a party apparently in the city and decided to go out and that was that....How funny is that?? The parents are friends...and have been for years but stopped going to the colony when the kids got older. All the families....that went together for so many years kept up the friendships and got together during the year for parties and such....the kids...are all getting married now and there are lots of weddings to attend.....but this wedding was special as it was two kids from the colony itself getting married and they werent going out when they were growing up together....not at all.

The story..goes when they were about 11 or 12....the boy apparently made a comment about girls and how stupid and not strong they are....and the girl....she said Ill show you and she popped him in the face.

these are the two that are got married today.....Funny how things turn out...and no one would have ever thought it!

So...It was a bungallow wedding so to say....the whole gang was there....and it was alot of fun. It was like being back there and having a party on a sat night...at the casino. All the children were there as well...but they were hardly recognizable as they are now adults pretty much. Dassi would have loved to have come as she was the baby of the crowd...along with the married kids sister who she was best friends with and is her age.

There was three tables of bungallow people...and only six other tables...it wasnt a big wedding but it was beutiful. The dancing was great....

Funny though how the same songs and music were played like at my wedding 13 yrs ago lol. Its not always like this and alot of young people have crazy hebrew music but this was music I was able to recongnize..lol and knew all the dances to.

I miss these people...I have such great memories of the summers spent at this bungallow with these people....I actually heard some stories about Ron that I never knew about....with him and the guys....they seem to have missed him here at the wedding. I didnt think about that until then and realized that yes...he should have been here as well....oh well.

I also..got great compliments! lol From some more then others...its interesting...and im wondering why....a few of the men were friendlier then I remembered. Now I wasnt really friendly with the men...but with the woman....the men werent there during the week and on weekends...the men came up so really didnt have much to do with them....Ron did as they socialized and when we divorced...those two years after....I tried to stay away from any other womans husband...as the bungallows were fairly close together and I shared a porch with another family..and always made it a point never to be alone with any of them at any point no matter what...not a good situation to have anyone even think anything....after all I was the divorced one...the only one...so I needed to be careful these were my friends...and i wanted to keep them. I say all this because three of the men....tonight they were...more then forward about the way they thought I was looking and they were just standing to close or sitting to close or talking to close...? Men who never really were of concern or payed much attention to me at all..and never approached me this way at the colony in all those years.

It was just interesting....the way they were behaving..not to mention the few who were slightely tipsy and was just being to firiendly one who called me aside to tell me how fabulous I looked?? ....i was a little embarrassed. I was flattered but im sure his wife wouldnt have thought so!! It was all fun but was well to aware of the vibes and kept in check.

Perhaps I am reading into things more...or maybe not.

What im finding is that people in general are treating me different....I feel this way...perhaps its just my perception but I wonder how much is real or is my imagination.

It was good it was a religous wedding and I was able to dance with the woman only and although it was seperate seating I made sure to sit in between two woman friends. lol.

There were several friends also who wanted to set me up....grrrr. I love them but....grrr. lol

well..I exercized for about an hour and a half. Burned lots of calories...and only ate some chicken and string Beans. No shmorg board at all. Had red wine then thats all.

Someone posted pics to facebook...perhaps you all can see them. Id post a few but not sure how to get them from the person who tagged me...and sent it to me.

Well...must go to sleep. Am working 2-7 tomorrow as again..I am the all around person ....still no replacement nurse. Training at 11. Am sore from yesturday training!!

Okay...junked up the thread now for sure!!!

Have a good night all.

Jodi

I miss my friends. I miss playing mahjong everyday.....and I miss my bungallow...I loved my bungalow more then I did my apt still do!

hi all.....sitting here at work and thought id check in....

Today I am teacher, herapist, babysitter, nurse and mom. My boy is taking a nap so..just doing um nada and instead of eating...figured Id post!

No body is around...Mom working in basement and Nurse is on vacation and no replacement can be found so outside of medication im it. lol. Nice job.

Suppose I cant complain....there are days when I get peeved when therapists come and I dont get enough of my time in with him so today I get to do everyone elses job. Fun.

Brought my clothes with me to change for the wedding..where I will be dancing away the pounds. Israeli dancing mostly so that counts as exercize...doesnt it Janet?? lol.

I have one date set up for this week but actually am thinking about canceling it. This is a third date but I dont think its going be good idea..as im not really thrilled with him....so why bother going out with him and make him think that there will be something that isnt?? I dont want to lead anyone on.

Going camping this weekend in Bethel NY. This is real camping! No bathrooms, showers, Water no ovens....talking tent camping guys. Not sure im cut out for this but....my friend Renee wants to go..its this retro fest music thing..and there is a group of about 7 of us. I suppose I will be in charge of food and cooking so I will make sure everyone is going to eat healthy healthy!!!

They are going.....to hate me!!! lol Haah Haah

Biggest concern....

have to figure out how many gallons of water do I need to bring????

Okay for all you mathematicians...acountants or financia wizzes....

Ill have to bring jugs of water just for me....and hide them!!

so if I need 74oz a day and Im going for three days how many gallons of water do I need to bring??

Yes...I know im the teacher but...im a teacher of babies....no math involved!

uh.oh i was wrong....the respite worker is here!! Forgot she comes at 4:30!!! Well...then must go answer the door...and get ready to leave at 5 for wedding.

Have a good afternoon.....

Jodi