NYSparklegirl

Hi everyone.

Well, I am hearing that you all want to go back to FL? Well next year then maybe!

I hope that Little Nelson gets better soon its so sad to see our little ones sick...but playfulness and energy in btween the fever spikes are a good sign.

Im so happy to hear about all the excitement about hitting that point...and the weight loss and passing breaking the points..of staying the same for long periods of time... Congrats to all.

Hope all is well and everyone had a great Presidents day and all those on Holiday are enjoying.

I am on vacation however because I want to take off for the week of surgery and if need be the following week im working this week...and I worked Christmas week as well so just in case I need two weeks I wont feel guilty. So...Im pretty much working for free again this week..or it certainly feels like it!

Its kind of strange how I was so busy the last three months getting all the consults and tests done...and going back for follow ups...and now..its so um quiet. Since I orriginially was supposed to have my surgery on the 8th of Feb and I was bumped because of the sleep apnea for six weeks supposedly. Well...now that..that was cleared before the six weeks...due to good behavior lol. I feel like Im in limbo...just waiting around doing nothing. Im ready...but have to wait a month. Not happy! Im ready. I know another month wont kill me however.....this was a good time for me...not March....March 16th is my daughters bday. Purim is the first week and Passover is the last week. Can there be a worse time?? NOOO. but...like all others..who are waiting...I am waiting as there really is no choice unless there is a cancelation..which there might be...but if there is it will still be after the first of March! Lol

Okay....finished venting...sorry..just tired of the waiting after all the busyness of getting ready for the surgery! Kind of a let down at the end of the process...instead of the surgery being the culmination of the whole process.

well...I certainly have plenty to do besides the surgery stuff to keep me busy.

Tomorrow is pet day at my daughters school. Not really sure how im going to get the dog to the school at 11:30 and then go to work and be home by 4:30. Im not a magician but sometimes feel like I need to be one. I really dont want to bring the dog to school. She isnt going to like it! lol but, the kids are expecting all their pets for show and tell? Didnt show and tell end in pre school? My daughter is in the fifth grade.

I think that the dog should just be able to come to school for the day!!! Yea. Let her take her with and bring her home. Im sure the class would love to have her eat all the school lunch leftovers that the kids throw out!

I told the parents that I work with in Williamsburg that ill be bringing the dog to work with me afterwards...I thought they were going to have a heart attack right there...until I told them I was kidding. (yikes)

Its olmost Wednesday and I still have baking and shopping to do for the upcoming holiday of Purim. Why im procrastinating im not sure...but there is still one more week left before..and ill just kill myself the last week like always...to get everything done in time..lol (WHY I ASK??)

The one thing I did do ...is get my daughters costume ready. After seeing "The lightening Theif" She wants to be "Medusa the greek goddess" on Purim ..like Holloween the kids dress in costumes....So..I was able to get her a Roman mideavil costume...now I just have to figure out the hair?? snakes?? lots of snakes?? any suggestions..will be accepted gladly!

Well you all have a great night!!

Jodi

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Hi Whitney' date=' Welcome!! [/color']

You just keep posting and we will surely get to know you and make sure you remember how fantastic inteligent, beutiful, and talented you are regardless of your appearance...no matter what your outward appearance might be and before you know it....after being banded you will begin to feel the same on the outside as well as inside too! You seem to have a built in support system from your parents at home...that surely will be some help and support! Good luck!

Hi Edmgirl

Welcome....Glad you posted! Jump in share/ask away and respond anytime. The more we all do that the more educated we all will be regarding the ins and outs on this jouney we are embarking on in the same time frame, Good luck!!

Hello Everyone,

First things first.. I am excited about starting my life over or beginning a new Journey which ever statement you would prefer. I am only 23 (yes, I know rather young to be banded) But there are so many issues medically in my families history that requires me to take charge of my life.

My tentative surgery date is right around the corner. March 2, 2010. I am just waiting on the insurance to accept. My last office visit was 2/9/10, and they said they will know within 5 to 7 days.SO I am just waiting on the lucky piece of paper to come in the mail finalizing my surgery date and bootcamp date.

My procedure will be funded if accepted by the insurance company.

Hi StevieVeith,

HI.....Never to young...the younger the better...for the rest of your life youl be healthy! I hope you get that date...the 2nd...Good luck...keep is posted!

And we have the same date should go here

Yea.....Us!! There is a possibility that I get a date sooner if there is a cancelation between now and March 15th as Im now cleared for surgery however....im not expecting any time sooner. lol

I am sad My surgery Date got moved... Its now March 19.. Guess the Doctor is out of town March 12.. Nothing like waiting 3 weeks before to tell someone...

oh no...im sorry to hear this...I was sad to when my surgery was bumped from Feb 8th to March 15th because of sleep apnea...but your right....that wasnt nice....but maybe its an emergency? I always think that what ever the date...given instead for some reason...is somehow meant to be...and maybe that will be revealed to us at some time and then maybe it wont...but whatever the date...it will happen and we will keep you company until then....anxiously waiting together!!!

Thanks Finding me!... The Price does include all the fills if I could go to the Clinic in Toronto... But I live in Alberta so they have teamed up with a Dr. here... I heard the Dr. only charges $75 a fill, so its not too bad. Eventually I'm hoping the Government will allow private Dr.'s offices in our Province and they can open a clinic.

Wow.. my insurance does not include fills even after they pay in full for surgery but not cover the fills....how crazy is that?? so Im going to have to pay $250 a fill. Im coming over to you! $75 is not bad at all!

Hey all,

Snowing again today in NY. I was going to see the psych today but decided not to . I'm not much for taking the bus & train and definitely didn't want to navigate all of that today with snow on top of snow on the ground. I've already broken my ankle 2x in the last few years. I think that's another result of my weight.

I'm a little depressed today. I went to the mall yesterday with my DH. I wanted to buy a Coach wallet that i had been looking at and a bag .

Have you ever just felt invisible? That's how I feel, invisible.

I'm standing in the store with my big down coat on and my long matronly skirt to hide my fat and my boots on and I just feel invisible standing there waiting to be helped and being ignored and I feel inside that's it's because of my dowdy , fat body now. After I finally got someone to wait on me I went across to the MAC store and same thing except as I walked in one of the young girls says "hello M'am" UGHHHH!!!

How did I ever get here? How did get so fat that I'm having surgery to help me solve this problem?

I have been told my whole life how pretty I am and then it turned to you have such a pretty face. Now all I feel is fat and unattractive.

OK, I just had to vent somewhere. I'm too embarassed to tell my DH how I feel and my friends would never understand.

Oh Im so sorry...you had this experience..but I have to also say...Ive felt the same way at times. Its worse when you see people who you havent seen in a long time....and for me..well Ive just gained my weight after pregnancy so ..those I havent seen in the last 12 years and I see them...are like....omg what the heck?? (that makes me feel real good seeing them, not) I then feel like I have to explain how this happened. Like I know?? I just got married, had a baby got divorced, my ex died and im a single parent...thats how...need I say more to them?? As far as shopping and going out etc etc...Its the same..you get treated differently...I know this first hand. SO. Ive stopped going out shopping...as nothing looks good anymore anyways! Why bother!! Im just waiting till I can go back to reg sized clothes...12 and under lol. Ill be happy at 12 at this point!

I just know...I need to be happy with me...regardless of how much I weigh...I know I need to present myself in the best light....regardless of the situation...and remember....I am a fantastic person...and if whomever cant see this....I just say...heck with them...they arent worth it. However much I say this....no matter it still hurts and it still feels when we are made to feel small!

Im sorry you are feeling so bad. Perhaps...in time. In a very short time you will begin to see things a little differently. Until then....chin up and we are here to listen to whatever you have to say and feel!!

Jodi

msdv.....I wish I could give you a big hug. I think we can all relate to how you are feeling or at least I can. But you know what it is ok and you are ok. You know why.....because you realize that you need the help to lose the weight and you are doing something about it. We are in this battle together and we are going to win. And next time you are in that store you demand their attention! You hold your head up high and make sure they see you and if they pretend they don't make sure you make a stick to get them to wait on you!!! lol...and as far as being called m'am take it as a it is a generic greeting. I answer phones all day long and that is how we address everyone regarless of there age. be it 60, 23, 45, or 98.

I couldnt have said what you just wrote any better than that!! You are so right! Oh and about the Maam...I have this friend...she is from Texas..and omg...when she has to talk to a stranger...for something and she says...excuse me Maam or thank you Maam...I want to smack her silly, lol I know she only means well but here in NY...well I hear the possibility of being insulted but your right we cant take it to heart.

Hi everyone.

Hope all is well and everyone had a great Presidents day and all those on Holiday are enjoying.

I am on vacation however because I want to take off for the week of surgery and if need be the following week im working this week...and I worked Christmas week as well so just in case I need two weeks I wont feel guilty.

Its kind of strange how I was so busy the last three months getting all the consults and tests done...and going back for follow ups...and now..its so um quiet. Since I orriginially was supposed to have my surgery on the 8th of Feb and I was bumped because of the sleep apnea for six weeks supposedly. Well...now that..that was cleared before the six weeks...due to good behavior lol. I feel like Im in limbo...just waiting around doing nothing. Im ready...but have to wait a month. Not happy! Im ready. I know another month wont kill me however.....this was a good time for me...not March....March 16th is my daughters bday. Purim is the first week and Passover is the last week. Can there be a worse time?? NOOO. but...like all others..who are waiting...I am waiting as there really is no choice unless there is a cancelation..which there might be...but if there is it will still be after the first of March! Lol

Okay....finished venting...sorry..just tired of the waiting after all the busyness of getting ready for the surgery! Kind of a let down at the end of the process...instead of the surgery being the culmination of the whole process.

well...I certainly have plenty to do besides the surgery stuff to keep me busy.

Tomorrow is pet day at my daughters school. Not really sure how im going to get the dog to the school at 11:30 and then go to work and be home by 4:30. Im not a magician but sometimes feel like I need to be one. I really dont want to bring the dog to school. She isnt going to like it! lol but, the kids are expecting all their pets for show and tell? Didnt show and tell end in pre school? My daughter is in the fifth grade.

I think that the dog should just be able to come to school for the day!!! Yea. Let her take her with and bring her home. Im sure the class would love to have her eat all the school lunch leftovers that the kids throw out! Other that im working for free this week....lol Its olmost Wednesday and I still have baking and shopping to do for the upcoming holiday of Purim. Why im procrastinating im not sure...but there is still one more week left before..and ill just kill myself the last week like always...to get everything done in time..lol (WHY I ASK??)

The one thing I did do ...is get my daughters costume ready. After seeing "The lightening Theif" She wants to be "Medusa the greek goddess" on Purim ..like Holloween the kids dress in costumes....So..I was able to get her a Roman mideavil costume...now I just have to figure out the hair? ? snakes?? lots of snakes?? any suggestions..will be accepted gladly!

Well you all have a great night!!

Jodi

Review of the weekend:

1. Everyone was a cutie-patootie. Especially Nelson.

2.There was eating. Our surgeons would be proud.

3. A man at the food Court wanted to know how we knew each other. I told him we were former porn stars.

4. Julie can go from awake to dead asleep in 7 seconds.

5. Sharing scars and port placement has made us lapsisters.

6. Shopping was fun. The Florida economy improved this weekend.

7. Laura had to be restrained from running over the airport security guard.

8. How much Crystal Lite can 6 women drink?

9. I even showed Janet my scar from my breast lift. We are now going steady.

10. We missed you and want you to be there next time!!

Judy

This was the funniest....thanks for the description. Im glad to see you all had a great time!!

Hi all....just wanted to say....you guys are great. Thanks for all the pics and posts. It was nice to hear and see you all having such a fabulous time together!!!

Thanks for allowing those of us not there to be a part of your very special weekend!

Have a great week all!

Good evening everyone. I went to a support group this morning. The group was surprisingly large. I would say that there was about 35 to 40 people there. It was a group that the doctor that is doing my surgery has started. It is at the office and meets once a month for about 2 hours. I really learned a lot and got some great tips. One of the things that I learned was that my doctor wants you to eat your meals with in 30 minutes..no less and no more. If it takes you less your are eating to fast and not chewing your food well enough. If it takes you more then you are "grazing" and may be able to eat more than you need to. Also one of the ladies that was there, she lost over 100 lbs in a little over a year, said that she went out and bought toddler size plates, bowls and utensils. She said this helped her with Portion Control and the right size bites of food. Makes sense to me. She said she even carries them in her purse when she goes out to eat. I am starting to fell a little better after going today and can't wait until the next meeting. I even met someone that was just banded last month and she gave me her email and phone number and told me to call her whenever I had a question or just wanted to talk about it. Oh, they also have a clothes closet that is free. As you loss weight you can bring in your old clothes and get new ones so you don't have to run out and spend money everytime you loss a dress size. This was great news as I am self pay and it is costing me $16,500.00 . But I know that it will be worth every penny in the long run. Wow this got a little long.

Hi...this sounds really great. Thanks for all the information. This was so helpful.

I wish the support group that my doctors office had was as informative as yours!

I went to my first one with them Thursday night and well...it was nice but it was more like going to an AA support group. I love the idea about plates and the clothing exchange. I am going to recommend we try to do the same. I for one certainly cant afford new clothes! There is btw also a clothing exchange thread on this site as well....I posted to it but havent gotten responses yet. Thanks for sharing!

So I have been reading a lot of posts were people are talking about all these tests and meetings they have to do. I did not have to meet with a phycologist or a nutritionist. I also do not, that I know of, have to have an EKG or a sleeping test done. Are those things only required if you are covered by your insurance? I am I not having to do these things because I am self pay?

Hi. I had the same question you had after noticing that not everyone was recquired to have different consults and tests done before surgery. What I was told..that it really depends on the state, hospital, insurance and doctor that you are using....however it seems that NY recquires the most testing and consults to have done..I couldnt believe all the doctors and tests that I needed!! All in all it took about 6 months just to get those clearance letters!

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Welcome Neverquit, Matilda and Daurceart NEVERQUIT!!

Glad you guys posted....March is just around the corner....jump in anytime you see a post you want to respond to or ask questions about etc etc....we are all here to help and support!!

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Just wanted to say Hello..this is all new to me...will be banded March 1st...trying to learn how to navigate around this site!

Hi, Girl2boy1 Welcome....yes this is a great site. Ive spent hours just trying to read all the posts from just a few threads. After a week or so...youl begin to see which threads are interesting to you and which you want to subscribe to!

Keep us posted about how its going.

Melanie:unsure:

Hope you don't mind if I join this thread. I am new to the forums but have been lurking for a few das now. I am excited and scared to have this done, so I am looking to find a few people that are about to get banded as well. Good luck to all of you on this wonderful new journey that we are about to start.

Date of Surgery: March 25th

Where Surgery will be: KS

Doctor/Center: Dr. Malley/New Hope Bariatrics

Seminar date: December 2009

1st consult date:Feb 10, 2010

Consults and tests completed: I only had to have 1 consult and only pre-op blood work to do in March.

Tests still needed: pre-op blood work

How is surgery funded? Partly cash, some help from my parents , but mostly financing.

Concerns? How will I eat after? Will my family be forced to eat the foods I eat or will I be the one eating something different? Will I regret having it done? I could keep going....

Reason for banding? I have become a person I never wanted, nor thought, I would be. I need to be a better mother and in order to do that I need to lose the weight so I can play with them and just have the energy that is need to keep up with them. Plus I want to feel comfortable about myself so I can be a better wife to my husband. Somewhere along the road of life I have lost who I once was to the weight and I am ready to find that person again.

Hi. Finding Me....Welcome...of course you can join us...just jump in at any time to respond, present concerns or just touch base about whats going on and how your journey is going! Good Luck on the road to finding yourself. I am reading a really good book that addresses your concerns about eating after the band and families etc....you might want to check it out..Im finding it helpful about food, eating and retraining our brains on how we think about food and eating called "BECKS, DIET SOLUTION" check it out maybe it will hep you too. Welcome again.

Jodi

Hi all,

I'm starting to get very anxious about everything.

As said before I had to cancel my endoscopy on Wed. because of the snowstorm and now I have to wait until the 22nd for an appt. cuz my Dr is going on vaca.

Next week on the 17th I meet with my surgeon again and the nutritionist.

I already met with a nutritionist with the NYU program that I paid $250.00 cash for and she did no more than recite to me what was obviously a speech that she gives everyone and gave me a photocopied manual of what not to eat and what to eat b4 and after surgery. I thought it would be more personalized so I am not too excited about seeing one again if I'm gonna get the same treatment. No one has mentioned whether I will have to pay again.

Next week I also am having Ab/ultrasound which is a little nerve wrecking . I had one about 9 years ago when I was having woman probs but don't remember much about it other than it was uncomfy. You have to starve from the midnight b4 which will not be a problem for me .That's part of my weight problem I can go all day w/o eating and then around 4 I start grazing. However after not eating and drinking from the midnight b4 I have to bring a 32oz bottle of Water with me and drink all of that in 1 hour and hold it b4 the test :smile:.

I hope my DH can take off that day so that he can go with me.

I still have to book an appt with a psychologist . I guess I should get on that today and I have to get my last 6 month med. supervised diet sheet from my PCP that appt is the 25th.

So with all of that still to go and then them sending for approval from my insurance I'm really not thinking that my surgery will still be on the 8th . Hopefully my insurance will quickly approve. I have BC/BS and GHI. I'm not even going to consider that I won't be approved. I have every reason to be approved my weight is very high about 250 my BMI is about 46 and I have 2-3 comorbidities.

I'm also feeling anxious about trying to lose a little b4 my surgery and starting and sticking to some exercise program. I was going to Curves but the owner there is so intrusive that she can sometimes make you uncomfy. My membership is over in March and I don't plan on going back. I have a treadmill and everything else at home.

Ok, I know I've had a long rant but that's how I'm feeling today.

Any suggestions, tips, what's everyone else doing in preparation?

Hi. I see that you wrote about having to wait to get a a consult with a nutritionist..even though you allready had one at NYU that you paid for. Why do you need another one? Cant you get the one you had the original consult with to give you her letter of clearance? I didnt have to use the nutritionist or psychologist from LI Bariatric if i didnt want to..and I didnt as they didnt take insurance and if found my own people I could. So i did...I called oxford and I asked them for referals and they gave me several in my area. Perhaps you can do the same? I would ask your doctor if you can use what you have previously..like you said no reason to have one again! I agree.

You all are so fortunate that your insurance seems to be covering most of the surgery. I was rejected from BC BS even though I have a BMI of 34, osteoarthritis and diabetes. I just couldn't afford to self-pay with a US doctor so we will be going to MX for the surgery.

The doctor was actually referred to me by a local bariatric surgeon who was trained by the MX doctor! I will be following up with the local bariatric surgeon for all my after-care, fills, etc.

You really want to do this..and you found a way you could!!! Good for you!! Good luck! Ive heard alot of people having going to Mexico and have a great experiences.

So...Today....I got my clearance from the sleep doctor.

He said hes pretty confident that ive been using the CPAP machine correctly...as he watched how I put it together in his office to demonstrate.

I felt like I was being tested putting together this machine...like I was being timed for precision and confidence lol. In the end...he laughed and said...I really didnt need to see this demonstration but you were so set on showing me you are using it properly..that I let you he said,

"I just needed the information of the calibration of the machine thats why I asked you to bring it". hmmm. did he think he was funny?? lol ( I took that whole machine apart and cleaned it etc etc) Just as well...he gave me clearance three weeks early....

meaning:

I get to have surgery...when there is a cancelation...between now and March 15th when my surgery date was rescheduled from Feb 8th. Now it could have been the end of Feb...but go know.....he said he wanted 5 to 6 weeks...so I changed it for 6 weeks.

so now, I wait for a date..either March 1st or2nd or 8th or 9th. If there is none....then Ill have it March 15th....Id hate to have it then however, Dassis bday is the 16th and I would hate to be in the hospital on her bday as ill need to stay overnight. boo hoo. I would go next week if I could bu they still need to get insuarance clearance and that takes up to two weeks..with Oxford. so I wait..patiently. not!!

I did go tonight to the support group that my center has once monthly. That was fun...met lots of great recent bandsters and want to be bandsters. We talked about some concerns and how and why people are banding....etc etc.. The surgeon was there to answer all questions that was nice....it was pretty far out so...I wont be going again as I needed to have a babysitter and that cost alot....as it took all in all a few hours...

well....Thank god...there is school and work tomorrow..If I have to cook, bake and organize one more closet ill kill myself....Dassi had some friends over for the day and they at least had a blast in the snow again for the second day in a row. To think...that there is another day off on Monday?? Feels like another week vacation unplanned.

Monica...let us know how the book goes for you!!!

Well....I hope that everyone is where everyone needs to be this weekend or at least on the way!!! Have fun in the sun....and havea great time....enjoy everyone!

So...Today....I got my clearance from the sleep doctor.

He said hes pretty confident that ive been using the CPAP machine correctly...as he watched how I put it together in his office to demonstrate.

I felt like I was being tested putting together this machine...like I was being timed for precision and confidence lol. In the end...he laughed and said...I really didnt need to see this demonstration but you were so set on showing me you are using it properly..that I let you he said,

"I just needed the information of the calibration of the machine thats why I asked you to bring it". hmmm. did he think he was funny?? lol ( I took that whole machine apart and cleaned it etc etc) Just as well...he gave me clearance three weeks early....

meaning:

I get to have surgery...when there is a cancelation...between now and March 15th when my surgery date was rescheduled from Feb 8th. Now it could have been the end of Feb...but go know.....he said he wanted 5 to 6 weeks...so I changed it for 6 weeks.

so now, I wait for a date..either March 1st or2nd or 8th or 9th. If there is none....then Ill have it March 15th....Id hate to have it then however, Dassis bday is the 16th and I would hate to be in the hospital on her bday as ill need to stay overnight. boo hoo. I would go next week if I could bu they still need to get insuarance clearance and that takes up to two weeks..with Oxford. so I wait..patiently. not!!

I did go tonight to the support group that my center has once monthly. That was fun...met lots of great recent bandsters and want to be bandsters. We talked about some concerns and how and why people are banding....etc etc.. The surgeon was there to answer all questions that was nice....it was pretty far out so...I wont be going again as I needed to have a babysitter and that cost alot....as it took all in all a few hours...

well....Thank god...there is school and work tomorrow..If I have to cook, bake and organize one more closet ill kill myself....Dassi had some friends over for the day and they at least had a blast in the snow again for the second day in a row. To think...that there is another day off on Monday?? Feels like another week vacation unplanned.

Okay...again..hope all who went to FL have arrived safely and are enjoying finially meeting!!

Have fun...and um stay out of trouble! lol

Jodi

I see that you have Oxford Insurance I have Oxford too and I was just approved today!! It only took them 2weeks. They are pretty fast and don't have alot of hoops for folks to go through. I will you well I go pick my date next Wednesday. So hopefully I can have my surgery done March 1 or 2. Good Luck Wish you well on your weight loss goals & journey. :scared2:

Hi. BabyDiva yes, Oxford I hear is pretty easy and takes about two weeks to get approved. I hope that all will be good and they do approve! Tomorrow the center is starting to send them the request....do you have a copay with Oxford im paying $30 for each visit and for all the consults and tests....alot so far!

I havent spoken to Oxford yet whether there is a copay for the surgery itself...not really looking forward to hearing the possibility of having to pay more for the surgery....it will be hard enough to pay the $250 per each fill that insurance doesnt cover at this time. lol Thanks for the info.

My Surgery Date: March 12

My surgery is in: Pittsburgh, PA

My doctor is: Doctor Urbandt.

Insurance: PPO Blue Plus (Blue Cross)

Seminar date: Never had one

First Appt:July 27 (I believe) Insurance Required six month diet

Met Surgeon: Every 2 months since July heheh

Psych Evaluation: In Nov dont remember the date..

Tests I still need: EKG, Blood work

Reason for banding: I am only 26, have been active my whole life (hints the username) but my food intake has always been my problem area and I never feel full.. I am always just feel hungery or Stuffed hehe. Plus I am Paramedic And Volunteer Firefighter, Hope to one day get a paid firefighter/medic job. Plus I have a strong family history of Heart issues and diabetes, Neither of which i want heheh.

Concerns: I still I won't feel full, and that I may just be trying to go back to work so soon.. But I am not good for sitting around, I am afraid if i dont take weeks off a work , all i will think about is food.. ( I am only taking 1 1/2 weeks off work (medical field, some bending, no lifting patients at all) and 2 weeks off my Paramedic Job (this is the one i am most worried about cause I do have to lift patients but I do have a partner with me to help lift)

BTW I am 5'10, Starting weight was 302, I am now around 275 but still trying to lose, Would love to be under 270 for the surgery.

Welcome LiftingChic, I hear you and all your concerns. I think everyone has pretty much the same or very imilar. lol. Yet we are all here waiting to be banded shortly so we must want it badly regardless of the concerns....so we have a month..pretty much to have those concerns squelched addressed or answered .

Tonight I went to a support group at the center where im being banded with people who are going to be banded or have just been banded. All the concerns were addressed and well..bottom line....each experience for everyone is slightely different and each surgeon has different rules and regs. lol but, the group was a good beginning to get all those concerns and then some on the table. I think I will go again at the end of the month. Maybe you should find one and see if that will help you as well?

You talk about your job and the physical demands but your jobs psychological demands are stressful too...Paramedics have the most stressful jobs in the US. Kudos to you. If you can take the time off now by doing this for yourself and getting healthier you will eventually be taking off less time later? Just a thought.

Hopefully you will get your surgery date...for the March 1...but if its a week or so later....youve waited this long it will come!!!

I will be arriving thursday nite real late. So I will probably meet up with yall on Friday morning. My husband is coming but my Son is staying with my inlaws. We are debating right now on riding the motorcycle. I didn't want to bring it up so I was waiting for my husband to realize it might not be the best riding weather. We have been in worse but didn't really enjoy ourselves.

I wore my new jeans to school today. Also pulled out a shirt I outgrew. It felt kinda akward not being hidden behind my baggy clothes. I am starting to see my curves again instead of just being a big circle. It sure did feel good though looking in the mirror knowing I am gonna be thin again.

omg...you go girl!!! Good for you! I am so happy for you!

I am to freaking excited to work !!!!!

Jodi - OK GF Vegas is out :0) We want you to come :0)

its okay....if all everyone wants to go...thats okay..by next year....who knows I could meet someone else by then and not even remember the guy in Vegas....name...(dought it) lol If I still feel the same...ill just be hyper ventilating the whole time and looking over my shoulder terrified!!

Julie - I will ck my bag curbside when I get to the airport at 5:30 tomorrow morning.. I have to pay $25 to ck - thats stupid - they better not lose the sucker if I gotta pay them..

You can only print roundtrip if you are returning less thant 24 hrs - like business pple who travel and come back the same day - it must have to do w/security (Do you know why Great) - Since we don't have a printer at the resort - we won't be able to ck in online - we will have to ck in at a kiosk (sp)..

Laura - I'll get your butt in the gym w/me on Friday & Saturday mornings - will help you get a little closer to your goal ;0) !!!

Your DH is too sweet :0) 1!!!

Well lunch time - salad today ;0)

CBl

It is a little overwhelming right now to wade through all the trip stuff, especially for newbies and even for those not able to attend.

It might be good next year to set up a separate thread for those going on the trip to make and confirm all arrangements. This thread could keep inviting people and giving some details.

However, its dealing with life that often gets us into the food, so putting our issues out there on a daily basis, our struggles, our triumphs, etc., helps us stay out of the food.

I'm struggling right now. I was afraid the maintenance stage would bring that and it has. All I want is sugar and chocolate. Not gaining yet but it can't be far behind if I can't get on top of this.

However, I have been on a spiritual high the past few days even though I'm struggling with the food. Go figure. We did this amazing song on Sunday called Revelation Song. You can see it on Youtube. Amazing. I saw two sunrises while listening to the song that were amazing. The first had a rainbow to the right of the sunrise. I've never seen a rainbow on the same side as the sun and never at sunrise. I was on my way to choir practice before church, listening to Revelation Song as practice before the practice.

The next sunrise was the next morning on my way to school. A straight up and down shaft of tangerine light rose directly from the rising sun like a finger pointing straight up to God out of a mango-papaya horizon.

Part of the Revelation Song says: clothed in rainbows of living color and goes on Holy Holy is He.

Man! I couldn't stop praising Him or listening to that song. Finally moved my CD off repeat today. There are other songs out there but I'm still waking up with that one in my head and singing it while I walk around the school exercising. Wow!

Cheri

omg that is so amazing....to wake up to a Revelation song and see a rainbow at the same time...two days in a row..it must be a really good sign! Isnt it great when we can keep a good feeling from morning through the day.....

thanks...youve lifted my spirits with that anectode....

btw..I dont mind hearing about the trip you are all taking...Im excited for you all..youve worked hard for the last year and developed some really important friendships along the way....whom are very supportive...I am happy reading about how excitied you are all and so im happy for you all....I like it! thats just me!

Hi all....

Just for point of interest/reference....

The February Bandsters are beginning their surgeries this week and ive been reading their posts.. to see what kind of experiences they each are having..I started out in that group but got bumped to March which is how this thread.group was started. I wanted to wish them all luck and see how they were.....

Its kind of interesting to look up to them and kind of see them as our mentors as they are a month ahead of us in getting banded.

I think it would be a good thread to read if you want to know about peoples recent experiences being banded in the first days....

I think its helpful.....to know at least for me.

another snow day tomorrow.....and ive spent the day cooking and baking ....what ever shall I do tomorrow? Clean and shop online??? lol

Have a great night all.

No Jodi, I did not get my endoscopy this morning. I cancelled it because of the storm. My DH works integrally with the City when we have storms like today so he was not going to be able to come with me.

Unfortunately, the Dr is going on vaca next wk so I won't be able to get it done until the 22nd.

Yesterday I saw the pulmonologist and had an echocardiogram. This morning I woke up with strep throat :rolleyes2:

I still have to set up an appt with the psychologist. I have a small feeling inside that I won't be able to have my surgery on the 8th.I hope so though . I tend to be a worrier.

thank god....you didnt have the endoscopy today....as you have strep. That wouldnt have been a good thing I would think...they might have cancelled it in the end regardless? Im sorry you are not feeling well.

If all that you are waiting for is the endoscopy and the psychologist...it shouldnt put off the surgery for the 8th.

Hopefully it wont...but no matter when it should be the right time..thats what counts. I also am a worry wart and am always the pessimist...but some things just arent in our control ...like the damn snow lol

How was your day? Tomorrow there is also no school in LI. I have the babysitter in the PM but...I have these two doctor apts. the second consult..and the pulmonologist afterwhich my daughter has an apt with the ped. orhopedist for braces to wear at night.

what a day its going to be...I hope things clear up by then.

Well, have a good night...feel good!!

Jodi

Well...all you Feb Bandsters.....you guys seem to be doing great!! I wanted to check in and see how you are all doing and everyone is really coming along...glad to see....Good Luck...with the rest of the months bandings....Ive been keeping up reading posts but there are just so many...but just wanted to let you all know that ive been thinking about you all!!!!

Hey Jodi,

I did get an email asking me to come in and consult with Dr.Garber but that would have meant too much travel for me.

Oh boy I hadn't even thought of the device blowing up in a plane :rolleyes2: now I'll have that in mind.

I live in Brooklyn so Methodist is a little more convenient for me. I live in the Canarsie/Spring Creek area.

Funny, there's a Bariatric center within walking distance of my house but I have never heard of it or read about it anywhere so I didn't check them out.

I hope that all my testing goes ok so that I can hurry and get this part over with. Already today they are predicting a big Nor'easter coming our way so I may have to cancel my endoscopy for Wednesday and make it for next week.

I think I may check out that book you recommended. I have already read 3 books about the surgery.

I'm thinking of starting my pre-op diet early. I am so bloated and fat now . I just can't stand myself. I'm going into the last month of my 6 month weight loss and have not lost a pound.

I bought a case of chocolate Muscle milk light and I have samples of some other Protein powders like Chike and unjury.

I would love to lose 15 -20 lbs before my surgery.

Is anyone else trying to lose before surgery and if so how?

Hi...

was just wondering if you were still on for your endoscopy today or they cancelled your procedure due to the BLizzard. I hope all is well and if you did go for it....it all worked out and you are feeling good!

Keep safe and dry!!

Jodi

Hi all.

Good morning. Well, we are having a real snow day in NY.

All the schools are closed so...I figure if this is the case so am I even if I didnt get an official we are closed from the agency I work with...why I dont know. Should have I suppose if the BOE is closed all over in NY. LOL

Its a great day for baking, cooking, drinking hot chocolate and watching soap operas! I have lots of baking to do for the holiday coming up ....and Im going to be making healthy baskets to give out to friends and families for the holiday Purim. Just need to find some healthy recipe for Hamentashen....using whole wheat flour. hah

I think we will venture out and go to the supermarket which is around the corner and buy all that we need...If I can convince Dassi to come...otherwise...we wont be baking Hamentashen as I dont have the stupid filling at home.

I had two appointments cancelled today. One with the surgeon for the second consult..just to touch base...see if anything is missing in the files and to discuss anything else needed for surgery. I think pretty much all is done and for the next month Ill be starting a exercise program and begin to read "BECKS SOLUTION"! The other apt. was a follow up with the pulmonologist to see how the CPAP machine is going.

MOnday, I went to a new Chiropractor where not only do you get an adjustment but you get a deep tissue massage. I liked that. I needed an adjustment because ive been so nurvous about the CPAP working at night that I apparently am tensing up and sleeping in wierd postions..so ive gotten a stiff neck and slight muscle tightening in the upper back. Not helping the Asthma. After a week.....I figured it was time to find a new Chiropractor here in the neighborhood. No one really recommended anyone in particular but after a year and a half of being in this neighborhood...I figured I needed to just pick one and try. Im happy!! After I was happy; I took Dassi and she was as well!

Now.

I need to find a dentist. lol I found everything else...but not a dentist for me. Im hoping ill find one before Ill need one.

Hope all is well and everyone east is warm and keeping safe out of the snow....and driving if possible.

Jodi

Hi all.

Good morning. Well, we are having a real snow day in NY.

All the schools are closed so...I figure if this is the case so am I even if I didnt get an official we are closed from the agency I work with...why I dont know. Should have I suppose if the BOE is closed all over in NY. LOL

Its a great day for baking, cooking, drinking hot chocolate and watching soap operas! I have lots of baking to do for the holiday coming up ....and Im going to be making healthy baskets to give out to friends and families. Just need to find some healthy recipe for Hamentashen....using whole wheat flour. hah

I think we will venture out and go to the supermarket which is around the corner and buy all that we need...If I can convince Dassi to come...otherwise...we wont be baking Hamentashen as I dont have the stupid filling at home.

I had two appointments cancelled today. One with the surgeon for the second consult..just to touch base...see if anything is missing in the files and to discuss anything else needed for surgery. I think pretty much all is done and for the next month Ill be starting a exercise program and begin to read "BECKS SOLUTION"! The other apt. was a follow up with the pulmonologist to see how the CPAP machine is going.

MOnday, I went to a new Chiropractor where not only do you get an adjustment but you get a deep tissue massage. I liked that. I needed an adjustment because ive been so nurvous about the CPAP working at night that I apparently am tensing up and sleeping in wierd postions..so ive gotten a stiff neck and slight muscle tightening in the upper back. Not helping the Asthma. After a week.....I figured it was time to find a new Chiropractor here in the neighborhood. No one really recommended anyone in particular but after a year and a half of being in this neighborhood...I figured I needed to just pick one and try. Im happy!! After I was happy; I took Dassi and she was as well!

Now.

I need to find a dentist. lol I found everything else...but not a dentist for me. Im hoping ill find one before Ill need one.

If I can have an opinion and im not sure I do as I am a newby...lol

..I would like to go somewhere other then Las Vegas...next year. Ive been there three times in the last year and dont really care to go back there...more because im afraid of what might occur...I was in a pretty serious relationship with someone who moved from CA to Las Vegas and he lives there full time now....he is a production manager and he practically lived at the Monte Carlo. I stayed there many weekends. Finially I had to break it off with him as he didnt want to move to NY and I didnt want to move to Vegas as I have Dassi here...in NY and I just cannot uproot her from here...I was thinking of LA before he decided to move to Las Vegas which was doable but there is nothing for us there..so when that happened...I decided it was time to pack to in. SO,,, the thought of going there....makes me sweat alot and the mention of Monte Carlo.....im running like the wind the other way, pretty silly reall but im so afraid to have that relationship pick up after trying so hard to let it go.I know just hearing that voice.... lol.

Please lets go anywhere ...Alaska?? S. America? Mexico? somewhere else if we are making choices now. lol.

Well...you all have a great day...and those east like me....keep safe and warm and out of the snow if you can!!

Just a quickie,

I am headed out the door to have my first fill. I am nervous but excited all at once. He asked me to lose 6 pounds and my scale says I lost 8. Hopefully his scale won't read much differnt. I don't want him to tell me I screwed up again. I am still trying to get the hang of this. Finding the right things to eat at the right time around my school schedule. Then, not eatting myself to death on the weekends.

Jewel. I dont know how you do all that you do....Kudos (spelling) to you! You have so much on your plate and yet you seem to make everything look so easy?

See you soon

Melissa - Oh I am so sorry that you aren't going to make it !!! Sorry that your other vehicle has a blown engine...

Ya sometime crap happens - but this too shall pass. We have next year - Lets do Vegas !!! So start putting $10 bucks a week away for our next get together.. Hugs - I know how dissappointed you must be.. We are too..

Las Vegas?? uh oh....better start saving now is right!

I would love to come and join however...Las Vegas....has some interesting meaning for me...and well. Not sure I can do Las Vegas today, maybe by next year Ill think different lol

Long Story..,,too long for now. I dont have great luck in Vegas. Men! lol

Hey gang - back from the gym - had a good work out - food has been good - I have been tight - I think the whole stress issue w/all the company I have had. Still tight tonite - but this damn dog isn't helping .. it's a cute thing but my dogs still don't like it - it's just another hassle I don't want and Andrew and I keep having words about it..

I know what you mean....dogs are great but when one throws everything off...the stress alone can drive you nuts. Good Luck....

Not much to report really - need to get out of these workout clothes and veg for a bit - I have a tad of a head ache..

cbl

:cursing::bolt::cursing::crying::crying::crying::crying:

Ok Fl group now it is time to say I can't come.

I am so sad and angry that now I can't go to Fl. I cryed so hard yesterday and today I tried to post this 3 times but canceled it hoping things would change.

I really wanted to go so badly I have been planning on it and then everything has been going wrong for the past month. But then somehow I always manage to find a way around the problem. Fiest I was driving to Fl and my mom was going but she bailed on me. So then my best friend was going and she missed a whole week of work due to the flu last week so she bailed (not her fault I know). So then I was going with my sister's boyfirend but that did not work out. Next attempt I was going to fly and my sister in law was giving me her miles but an emergency happened and she needed them to fly somewere fast at least that is what she told me yesterday. But I was still okay because I figured that I could just drive myself even though my hubby did not like the idea.Then late last night the nail in the coffin so to speak my husbands van blew a head and the money I had for the trip flew away. We have to buy another car or another engine.

This freakin sucks I want to go so very badly but can't. I am trying not to be a little kid about it but aaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh

As I am typing I am crying I wanted to meet you all so badly you have all helped me so much through my journey I wanted to give hugs and say thanks and just hang and chat with you guys.:cursing::girl_hug:

I hope I can go on the next trip I guess I will start saving money now.

Again I am so very sorry everyone. My husband is upset to because their is nothing he can do to make me feel better. He said he wanted to do something with me for Valentines day but I don't want to do anything but pout.

Melissa, Im sorry you cant join everyone this year however you and I can go next year as well! I see that this trip was important to everyone Im sorry that "stuff" seems to screw us up sometimes from doing things we really want. Valentines day is olmost here...please give yourself lots of hugs and kisses you deserve it!!

Julie, glad your are back safe and sound. Just a few more days and we will get to meet. I'm checking a bag too...I'm bringing too much stuff, but that's okay. I'm bringing my little collapsible ice chest and that's going in my luggage too.

Spent SB at my sister's. We were watching it for the commercials, but they weren't all that great. So we lost interest and started watching a movie. DH was at a friend of his.

July and Jodi, very interesting information. Having the traditions of your faith and family is pretty special. I copied and pasted your explanation of shabbos onto a word doc so I could keep it. I like that view.

thanks..that explanation solitified (spelling) it for me. I liked it, kind of hard to remember to actually think about that each week with all the hoopla but it is a nice way to explain it.

We went to the Ansel Adams show at the Museum of Art today. He truly had some amazing work. I think we are going back on Wednesday because there were so many people there we didn't get to see all the work. Afterwards we walked to some of the Gem & Mineral show dealers. Didn't buy anything this time. So I didn't spend any money and I got a good walk in. It was a good day.

Off to bed...tomorrow is another work day.

Eva

Good morning! Right now 67 degrees in FL sounds wonderful, I am looking out at a very cold and snowy view, can't even see the mountains today, and I am all wrapped up in my blanket trying to stay warm. Can't wait! Does anyone know how much each persons share of the room and expenses will be? I want to bring some cash to reimburse whomever I need to.

Got up at 530 this morning to have Breakfast (went to MCD's) with DH as he is leaving for Atlanta today and then he comes home on Thurs. we will actually cross paths possibly in the airport on Thurs. as he is coming home and I am connecting to FL. I won't see him til Sunday afternoon.

Went to future SIL's for a SuperBowl party yesterday. I had no interest in either team so just picked the Colts to pick a team and they lost. I think in the future teams should pay me not to root for them then they are guaranteed a victory, no matter who I pick they always lose! I didn't think the commercials were all that good. I always like the Clydesdales ones and this one was cute but some of the past ones were better. Guess my favorite would have to be the Dorito one with the dog and the no bark collar that he takes off and puts on the guy. Enjoyed the Who at halftime but they were a little past their prime. I feel sorry this morning for Carrie Underwood, I heard her getting bashed pretty good on the radio for messing up the nat'l anthem, guess she didn't do that great. I thought she sounded fine and there was one note at the end that was a litte off, but gotta give her credit. I guess she's the first one to sing it in years live. She insisted on performing live, usually the prerecord it.

Jodi, quesstion on the shabbat. Do you light a candle on Fri evening at dinner that you can't blow out? I had a Jewish friend that I stayed with in Brooklyn years ago and we had some special dinner Friday night. AFter I helped clear the table and blew out the candle, she got really uptight and said it was to never be blown out and I felt so horrible I never asked why but have always been curious. Then I dried dishes and put the silverware in the wrong drawer with the wrong silverware certain ones weren't supposed to touch or something??? Thanks for the education!

Julie, glad you made it safe on your trip. I haven't decided whether I will check or carryon. I never pack til the last minute so it depends on how much I have. I am thinking I will check though so I have lots of room for shopping just in case. That means I'll probably find nothing. LOL I hate dealing with a carryon and finding overhead room for it and hoisting it up in the overhead which is something you might want to consider with your bad shoulder. But also I am lucky with my flying benefits I don't have to pay to check my bag either.

Janet, looking forward to you getting back to normal on here, miss you and Apples when you are gone.

Apples, miss you! glad you are enjoying your time in FL so far though.

Melissa, sounds great if we can hook up on the same flight or time!

Phyl, are you back from the cruise yet? How was it? Did it improve once you set sail??? I am trying to save up for a cruise in May. DH says since we are going to Isreal in a few weeks that is our major vacation this year, but we've done a cruise a year for the past several and I really want to do one again so I had been savign all my paychecks and any other unplanned money that comes in (like I got a refund for overpayment of a hospital bill, etc.) so hope I can swing it.

Im laughing out loud as Ive had the same experiences youve had before I knew any better either about what shabbat was about.

You light the candles at sunset friday night and they burn about 5 hours or so. It is the time when shabbat starts.

You dont blow them out....(but you didnt know). I would have laughed not get angry....silly really. Or whom ever should have explained this before dinner.

Lighting the candles is a spiritual act. Fire is auspicious so we use that to begin the shabbat and let the light......"light" up the table, room, our lives. We say a prayer after we light the candles to say we are lighting these candles and bringing in the "light" (knowing) of the sabbath time. Sometimes a candle is lit for each member of the family...and Ive been in houses where there are about 13 members and there have been thirteen candles lit. It is really beutiful.

As for the silverware....you use seperate for meat and dairy so when not in use its easier to keep seperate so you dont get mixed up and use them together or for the wrong foods by mistake. If you put them together when puttting away its no big deal...you just take them and put them where they belong. Im sorry who ever it was that you were staying with made you feel bad or sorry...this is the problem sometimes with people who are so inflexible and take things to the letter of the laws...Phooey to them. These could have been such a beutiful customs for you experience.....if they were explained within the beuty they were supposed to show.

Have a great day all...late again for work grr.

Jodi

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Hi,

March 12 can not come soon enough. Right now I'm trying to figure out how much time I should take off of wok. I have a very physical job, so i'm hoping that a couple of weeks will be good. I have a lot of time that I can use, but I hate being away from work. I'm curious how much time others have had off or are going to take off. Have a great day!!!!

From what I hear....the average time people have been taking off is about a week and taking it easy the following. I put in for a week and the following ill take it if I need it. Lucky that my work is flexible enough that I can at the last minuet take off more or less time. Deffinetly a week however. I work with babies and so lifting and bending, sitting on floor and standing up is problamatic the first week or so....not sure about the second. I have my 2nd consult with the surgeon Wed. I will ask what he thinks.

Hey Jodi,

I did get an email asking me to come in and consult with Dr.Garber but that would have meant too much travel for me.

Oh boy I hadn't even thought of the device blowing up in a plane :cursing: now I'll have that in mind.

I live in Brooklyn so Methodist is a little more convenient for me. I live in the Canarsie/Spring Creek area.

Funny, there's a Bariatric center within walking distance of my house but I have never heard of it or read about it anywhere so I didn't check them out.

I hope that all my testing goes ok so that I can hurry and get this part over with. Already today they are predicting a big Nor'easter coming our way so I may have to cancel my endoscopy for Wednesday and make it for next week.

I think I may check out that book you recommended. I have already read 3 books about the surgery.

I'm thinking of starting my pre-op diet early. I am so bloated and fat now . I just can't stand myself. I'm going into the last month of my 6 month weight loss and have not lost a pound.

I bought a case of chocolate Muscle milk light and I have samples of some other Protein powders like Chike and unjury.

I would love to lose 15 -20 lbs before my surgery.

Is anyone else trying to lose before surgery and if so how?

I wonder if what that Bariatric center is about in Canarsie.

You are in Canarsie? I work in Crown Hghts...so I pass through Canarsie everyday to/home from work. Yes, LI or NY would be a trip to get to for you to use Garber or Holover. Even for me Manhasset is a trip but my saving grace...all the consults and tests with all other doctors have been in or around the same building as my surgeon. Ive scheduled apts on the same day and right after one another lol. Three are on the same floor even and they were all refered by my PCF and surgeon.

Im also a little concerned with the snow storm on the way for tomorrow. I have the 2nd consult and a follow up with the sleep center/Pulmpnologist in the afternoon. I will be coming from work in Brooklyn to LI for the apts on the North Shore and I live on the South Shore. Im not happy about the thought of all that driving in the storm. I guess Ill have to not go to work lol.

I hope they dont reschedule your endoscopy if you dont have to. I did need to take the rest of the day off after I did mine. My throat was sore for three days. More scared of the endoscopy then the whole surgery and all the other tests combined...but it really was nothing to be scared of after all.

yes, check out that book if you can find it lol. I had such a damn hard time. let us know what you think.

good luck with that....drive carefully and stay WARM!

Hi Everyone: Well my surgery is set for March 24th. I am 62 years old, 316 lbs, want my life back so I can enjoy retirement, lost my job last April, so now I'm one of the statistics you read about every night. Made up my mind to have the surgery while I was still on Cobra so I wouldn't get

turned down with new health ins. Also wanted to do this while I am still receiving unemployment so there is some money coming in. My social security will go to pay my new health insurance premiums when Cobra runs out, so time is of the essense. I've been thru all my tests and so far so good, no problems. I just want to get it over with. I seem to be stressing about the two weeks before the surgery and the 2-3 weeks after. I hope I make it thru the stress of these two, they scare the hell out of me. Good luck and God Bless all of you. Eileen

Hi Eileen.

Welcome!! Glad you have chosen to stick it out and are still going through with the surgery!! Seems like you are doing what you can and doing it well...you have a great attitude about getting it all together now while you can...I feel the same. I finially decided to go to work for an agency full time to get the benefits so I can do this surgery and get healthy. I was an independant contractor before and had to pay my own for everything...so I decided until this is all done and finished and over....meaning...im down to a healthy overall condition...including all the weight loss I will think about going back full time...right now...this is good!!

Let us know how all is going. keep us posted!!

I had originally thought I'd be banded in February as well. But, that's not going to happen.

I will be banded on march 17, 2010.

As you can see from my sig, this has been over a year of trying to lose the weight after I was denied, only to lose and gain it back and then some...as is the classic yo-yo.

For more about me and my journey, check out my blog.

A Fat Chick Gets Skinny

I will be banded on the 15th so we are the same week....Your blog is cool. Thanks for sharing. I hope all goes well now. Keep us posted.

Shabbat and shabbos are the same thing. Some Jewish people pronounce the last Hebrew letter in the word as a T and some as an S. (I was a Bas Mitzvah; otherwise known as Bat Mitzvah--no difference.

It is Hebrew for Sabbath. It is celebrated different ways according to how religious you are--orthodox, conservative, reform. When I was in Israel having a Shabbat dinner with a religious family, the toilet paper had already been torn from the roll and set aside for use. That's how religious they were. Me? Growing up, I went to synagogue services on Friday night. We usually had a nice dinner at my grandparents' house...shabbos candles were lit, challah bread was there, a brisket, some matzoh ball soup---this is making me smile and tear up. It's family time, a time to rest. God rested on the 7th day--and so do we all.

There will not be a quiz.

oh no...no tearing up....did not want that..however if you are ever back in NY and want to come for shabbos dinner you are ever so welcome!! Cant promise food like your grandmother but it would be somewhat close. As for anyone else passing through....just give me a couple of hours notice dont need more then that and your all welcome! Door is always open!

Hi all,

Well its been a heck of a week! Finially am getting a sec to sit and reflect a bit and catch up on some much needed sleep.< /p>

Finially getting used to the CPAP machine...at least I think I am. Im not fidgeting with it all night ..thinking the mask is not on right or the Water has run out etc etc.. I havent really seen/felt any changes as of yet except that the dog isnt waking me up after woken the dog up to take her out or to play. lol My daughter hasnt noticed if im not snoring but if the dog is not waking up then I have to assume im not snoring correct?

Today...we went to the cemetary because this week was the anniversary of my ex. death. My ex-husbands family two brothers and wifes came as well. One brother and wife from Israel and their daughter and husband...and the other brother who lives in NY. We never see this brother from NY even though he lives close by.

The brother from Israel well...we see them and their family when ever they come to the states to visit, go figure.

They took my daughter out for lunch and a museum after the cemetary wand spent the day with her. That was nice of them. They invited me however I was happy to have some time to myself and I wanted them to spend time alone with their niece without me impeding. They brought her a beutiful necklace from Israel and a present from the museum. I wish they lived here not there....she could use some relatives of her fathers for support. oh-well.

It really upset me today ...at the cemetary, to again realize how sad it is to have to comfort a child who lost a parent. It is so ironic that this should be able to happen, Its just so unfair. It should be only allowed to comfort middle age and older people who loose parents. No other situation should ever be allowed. I know this is foolish thinking however when you have to hold and comfort a ten year old...its soo wrong and sad. Whats worse...about the whole ordeal? Her father wasnt even my husband any more..and yet who else can go and comfort her and take her to see him to pay respects if no one is around from his family to take her...and would I want someone else to take her at this age and comfort her?? no...I wouldnt. Shes my daughter and I would never let her hurt alone ex husband, husband or not. The whole damn situation really is sureal. His brothers/wives/nieces and daughter...and then me...the ex with them. Kind of ironic really. Karma I guess.

Well. another year passed...and as each year goes on...the anger, resentment, unanswered questions and hurt dissipates some only sadness remains. Perhaps in time that too will turn into something a little less painful. For my daughter this may take a lifetime....

okay enough....

this week...is another week of new beginnings!!!

All consult letters are in. Apt. with surgeon and pulmnonologist. Then if all is good im good to go.....

Then its just about waiting.

Big month ahead. Its Purim time. Thats the fun holiday when all the kids get dressed up an deliver goodies to all their friends. Have a big meal and go hear the story of Esther the Queen. My daughter was born during this time so she is named Esther in Hebrew....Hadassah. SO...somewhere in the middle of all this will be her birthday party. lol (somewhere)

The big question is....how to make fat free Hamentashen? whole wheat cookie doe? fat free filling? What type of food shall go with it in the baskets for at least 10-20 people? Frut....yes, Nuts yes chocolate molds maybe.....Ill take any suggestions...but have discussed with my daughter that what ever we recieve is going right back to someone else afterwards!! no candy in the house. no no no!

any suggestions on making healthy food baskets? There needs to be three different items of foods...of course..we arent talking yet of cooking the meal for that day...that will of course come later.....much.

Have a great week all and enjoy the FL sun!

Youve all earned it for sure.....I cant wait to hear about all the good time.

Jodi

oh your welcome btw....no need to thank me...thank who ever started this site!!!

Hi NYsparklegirl,

Hope you are having a great Sunday!! Thank you so much for starting this thread. I'm thankful to know that there are others going through the same thing I am. Please tell me where I can find the "Becks Solutions" you mentioned in your post.

Thanks, Monica

Hi Monica,

Today..was great....I actually had some time to myself which rarely happens. My sister and brother in law who was in the states for vacation came to take my daughter out for the day! Spent the day..just shopping at the mall as it was sooo cold in NY. lol

Hope you had a great day as well.

I was told you can get the book on Amazon.com. I tried three Barnes and Nobles and finially had to have it put on hold at one and then transfered to another in order to pick it up! All sold out...it is a goody. Anyways...good luck finding it. Let me know when you do and if you get it and if you like it and find it helpful

Have a great week Jodi

What is "Becks Solution?"

Hi, "Becks Solution" is a book about changing the way we think about eating and food. The premise behind it is..its all about our brain not our stomach or mouth or food. Its our brain and how we have been trained to think about food and eating a certain way. In order to loose weight we need to retrain our brain..

Food for thought!

Let me know if you get it and what you think of it!

Jodi