SoccerMomma73

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Goodbye. Now can we focus on possibly a forum that is a must read women, maybe a magazine article (for starts) from a man's perspective, Alex Brecher? To warn of inappropriate behavior, traveling out of country, women seeking approval and attention and getting the wrong kind? I remember posting with a sweet lady with no car who lived on a farm, with an inattentive husband. Not everyone is worldly or smart to the ways of the world here.

brilliant idea. Truly. There are so many emotions at play. I've seen countless marriages fail post op because of the attention paid after weight loss....and it's definitely something the surgeons don't prep ya for.

I honestly do not know of a single Latino man that would be offended by the term Latin Lover. Quite the opposite, they would consider it a compliment!

The Latino gentlemen I know are constantly flaunting their Latin lover-ness. If I told them they were acting like a white guy they'd be pissed.

Enough with being offended from so called slurs. Get real people and put your flippin' grown up panties on. Get your mind straight and stop whinning.

Marry me. I love you.

Really thinking we've jumped the shark on this one.....

Everybody say jump, jump (insert rap Music here)

I guess maybe if you don't have the space to actually swing the rope?? Seems crazy but they'll probably be doing jumpless jump rope classes at the gym soon

Lordy people....again, common cause??? We're here for each other...support? Growth??? Companionship on this jacked up journey called life???

Go to him, don't go to him, but at least you're aware that maybe there is a problem. Be safe.

Turns out, I'm a dumper ;P I now know I can steal a bite or two of my son's cereal but no more! Yet another lesson learned the hard way!!!

Weeks out, on soft foods, I totally wanted crunch berries, so I let em soak and get soggy and ate every bite....they were delightful. They my reactive hypoglycemia kicked in and I ended up laying on the bathroom floor shaking with a horrible headache, feeling like I was gonna puke,

Huge... Like I can't lift my hand up...that kind of big.

Can't we all be me?

I don't wanna be a staple pooper!!!!!!! Nooooooooo!!!!!!!

But, if she is you, and she is me, then you must be me too!

only if I get a ring dammit!!!!

WAIT!!!! I'm not real??? Does that mean Bill isn't getting me a ring??

Actually, , Lippy, you're me. Welcome to crazy cat lady hell. Watch for hairballs when you get up at night to pee.

I'm not excusing the behavior of a married woman. Ultimately she is married and responsible for her actions. But as an obese, insecure women going through an extremely stressful time, we are vulnerable. It does not excuse her behavior, but it sure as hell doesn't justify his. The surgeon is responsible for EVERY aspect of test practice. Even if he doesn't know about it, if it involves his practice, he is responsible. His primary duty is to keep his patient safe from harm. This includes emotional harm.

After reading all this drama, my concern is not for those of you arguing tooth and nail about who is right and who is wrong. My concern is that somewhere out there we have members who are suffering, embarrassed, feeling taken advantage of, yet feel that they can't speak of it here for fear of being judged. Ultimately we are all here for the same reason, to reclaim our lives and our health, and for support while we do this. This should be a place to come for support, knowing that we've all screwed up at some point, and we should be able to voice our fears, frustrations, etc. Bariatric surgery is HARD emotionally. We may be grown adults but many of us are at a time of turmoil when we do have surgery. We're up, we're down, I personally was freaking nuts for about 6 weeks post op. I could have easily been taken advantage of at that point. Your surgeon's office isn't a place you should have to be on guard. It, like here, should be a safe zone. For anyone in a physician's office to have such a relationship with a patient, willing or otherwise, is inappropriate. I cannot fathom trying to recover post-op from a life hanging surgery and then having to deal with this type of emotional turmoil as well.

Ultimately, though I think it could have been presented in a better manner, as a consumer, I would want to know if there are any concerns with my surgeon or his office pre-op. Even if I chose to stay with the surgeon, knowing ahead of time that Omar could possibly be a bit too friendly could keep me from possibly being 'influenced' at a vulnerable time.

For those of you that used this surgeon and had no problems, congratulations on your smooth journey. For those of you that used this surgeon and feel taken advantage of, I am really sorry you had to go through this. As a medical professional, if someone in my office exhibited such behavior, I don't care how good they are at what they do, they'd be gone.

Can't we all just get along????

I can give you a few: anesthetic risk of complications with a smoker is much higher than a non smoker. Healing time is delayed for a smoker vs non-smoker. Smokers have a higher incidence of ulcer and stomach cancers for which treatment would greatly be complicated by having bariatric surgery....post op pneumonia rates are higher. Plus I think my surgeon just looks at it as 'well if she can't change her life enough to stop smoking, she can't change her life enough to be healthy post op' but that's just how I think he views it

Curious what the answer to this is! I've never heard of anyone getting a PICC line for this!!!

It is really funny. I was the biggest coffee drinker I knew. After surgery I drink maybe a cup of Decaf a few times a week. I also drink one cup of decaf tea almost every day. I know that I am not suppose to drink decaf but I do. It is funny how the urge to drink coffee is gone.

why no decaf???

I've stopped using anything but real butter....I don't use it much, but when I do, I go for the good stuff!!!

I had no sensation of full, at all, for about 6 weeks...nothing, nada, it was dead. My hunger signal was nausea, which was a pain in the butt.

Never a dull moment with autocorrect in your life! Congrats on your successes. I'd like to smother people that say this is the easy way out

Again, let's just agree to disagree. I'm not disagreeing with either message, I'm disagreeing with how they are being presented. If you have an issue with each other, either suck it up and get over it, or take off the public boards. This argument is of no value what so ever to the OP. Both sides have had their say, it's time to drop it or at least return it to a more respectful level.

A gentle reminder, before this goes further south, that we can disagree and not make personal attacks on each other. No, we don't have to all be warm and fuzzy and agree with everything that's said. Constructive criticism is welcome (or should be anyway), personal attacks are not.

Even if my mom was wrong I would never allow my son to argue with his grandparents. As said above, it's about respect, not who is right or wrong. I would take him aside and tell him you understand how frustrating it is but in her home he must respect her and follow her rules. Whether he likes it or not. Get well soon so you can get back home! I learned long ago when we're around my parents the rules of life change, even though I'm 40. (But I can still roll my eyes, just inside my head, if I really rolled them my momma would beat me!!!!!)