mom.on.the.go

since i have had surgery i have told anyone who will listen. just like anything i do, i try to live my life honestly. and it has worked out for me. i have gotten so much support. also, since my parents knew, i could not ask them to keep a secret. that is just not how we work. so my mom tells anyone who will listen -- including our mutual friends. and it is fine. it is not like at 310 pounds it is a surprise to anyone that i need a dramatic weight loss. going through this process -- i did not realize how much my weight and being morbidly obesed affected those around me. from family, friends, co-workers to business contacts. the most common reaction i get is "i am so proud of you" and what i am coming to realize is that my weight has been a concern, and burden -- if you will, for those i choose to have in my life. and my decision to do something about it is a gift not only to me but to them --- these people who would be sad to lose me (and i had no idea until i went into this process. the only person who has never supported me -- even when this was just an idea i was exploring 3 years ago -- is my only silbling...my sister. but this is a reflection of her and her miserable life. she has never supported me. not when i came out in college. her words: "i am going to tell mom and dad that i am dating a guy so they like me more".... ironically her miserable and low self-esteem has landed her in her mid-30s with no relationship with her parents or her only sibling.... i digress, but what i am saying is her lack of support is HER problem and not a reflection of my decision...and has no bearing on my success. and of course, the fact that i will be the skinny sister one day does not help HER psyche. btw, i even showed off my scar in a business meeting! lol.

i am having the same thing on my port (left) side but it is above my port site.... kind of the base of my breast. it feels like i pulled a muscle.... and it only hurts when i am standing.

my doctor asked me to wait a week to 10 days to fly post-op. (i had a business trip 3 days post-op and just had someone drive me). i am flying 4 weeks post-op and 3 days post 1st fill.

i don't during the liquid phase you are really measuring your ounces/grams by meal... it is the total per day. 70g of Protein and 64oz of Water per day... which for me means i am pretty much sipping on something all day. did you surgeon have you see a nutritionist? maybe give them a call?

i am telling pretty much everyone i share my life with. if it is someone i don't feel is positive or supportive in general -- i don't tell them right out. the support i have gotten has been positive and overwhelming. and i think part of that has to do with how positive i am about myself. my confidence about my deicisions in life leave very little room for the peanut gallery.

i had my surgery on monday and on thursday i was at work after a 4 hour work related road trip (someone else drove). today is one week post-op and i am working fulltime. i really haven't had a full day of rest since day 3 post-op. it is what it is.

thanks for the recommendation. i just downloaded it to my kindle.

great video! you definitely did recovery much better than i did at the hospital!

me too....

that is how my room was. in my morphine euphoric state i asked the nurse if it was a room reserved for famous people. she said it was large for the bariatric people... duh. i told her i rather we pretend for the night that i was a rockstar. i could hear her laughing all the way down the hall! :tt2:

since being banded on monday i am much more confident in telling people. last night i had some people over for book club and when i mentioned it everyone one was so excited and supportive. big grins. thumbs up. hugs. the support and love is becoming overwhelming at times. i enjoy socializing but consider myself somewhat of a loner. as long as i have my daughter with me -- i am happy. it just never occurred to me until this week how much people really care about me. and i never really "needed" it --- but it is sure nice to have it now. one thing i have realized is that i am probably the most obese person in my social circles. so i think my friends and acquaintances are supportive because they only see it about me and not about themselves. and more to that point...they only person who is not supportive is my sister who i keep my distance from anyways due to her overall negativity. and yep, she is someone who struggles with her obesity. still not sure what i will say at work since i work but i will deal with that as it comes. and that has more to do with the cut throat environment i work in with all guys.

i was banded yesterday -- 11/9. all went well. took me a little while to get past the discomfort but today i am great. just minor soreness around my stomach. full report can be found here: Shrinking Mommy good luck to everyone!

work people --- a couple know beforehand. everyone else will get the star jones treatment: "diet and pilates". if they figure it out -- good for them. overweight people i will tell the truth. i finally made the decision after 3 years of waffling back and forth because someone (actually at work) told me she had the surgery when i asked her about her weightloss and she encouraged me to go see her surgeon. i am grateful to her for her honesty in helping me save my life. i hope to do the same for someone else. family and friends will know as the situation arises. so far everyone has been very supportive.

disney is very good about accomodating special diets. either ask to speak to the chef at any restaurant (including counter service) and they will make you what you need how you need it. or you can email specialdiets@disneyworld.com ahead of time and talk to them about it. i have done this numerous times for my gluten intolerance and they have always been responsive. i will most likely be up there thanksgiving weekend and i will just be starting mushies around then!

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thank you so much for the real-time report.

welcome. i also have suffered from PCOS for about 10 years. i got pregnant with my duaghter 5 years ago on Actos. it is kind of a well kept secret. i have also been gluten-free for about a year and that has really helped with the pain. 10 years ago i would sit at my desk and just clench it and cry the pain was so bad. i could barely function. now i forget i have it. good luck!

my surgeon seems to make it our choice (beforehand) with him having the ultimate say after surgery. i have requested to go home the same day. i rather be in the comfort of my own home by myself.

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Thanks for checking in! I am so anxious for Monday to get here for me. Happy Healing!

i totally had a case of "last supper-itis" last week. today is my first day of liquid pre-op. so far so good. i am having my surgery with dr. bass, btw.

my mom usually does thanksgiving at her house --- so fortunately i am safe there. although i am usually responsible for the sides and specific family ethnic stuff. i should be starting mushie foods right around then so i guess in my mind it makes the idea bearable. i already warned mom that i may take off and do disney world thanksgiving just to avoid eating at a dinner table...

i love how you think!

well then i guess my suggestion won't work... i was going to suggest "The Moist November Turkeys" (you know... because we won't be able to swallow dry Proteins that well after we are banded...lol) yeah, folks, get used to it....bad humor is my speciality.... :Yawn:

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