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I love jay robb also no after taste..sometimes i put some sf ff pudding powder in the chocolate to make it a little stronger.

I was banded in Nov and I have lost about 38 pounds I feel like a failure also like it should be more but Ineed to remind myself of what I have lost and keep pushing ahead

Just from hearing your story I think that you are amazing! I am going through much stress now and a crazy marriage and so on and I find it very difficult to care for myself the way I should. But you found the courage to fight cancer and you can fight the little bit of extra weight as well. You are beautiful ! Dont ever let yourself forget that!

Hi everyone. I was banded in November of 2011 about 7 monhs ago and I have only lost about 35-40 pounds. I can og course eat all the bad foods and the good foods are as little harder to eat. I do occassioanlly get stuck and I also get shoulder pain when i eat a little too much or get stuck or sometimes even on the first bite. I think I have about 7.5 cc's in a 10 cc band. I think if i get more I will be stuck all of the time and if i get some out i will be hungry b/c I feel now like it does very little to help me. I am starting to feel like this band is a sham and part of me is regretting doing it. I I am still fat but now have scars on my stomache for when and if i do lose the weight and also now i always have to worry about this foreign object in my body. I wish I could have just done this on my own and had faith in myself to just do it! I dont mean to be so negative i dont want to be i want to believe that this was the right thing for me I just need a puch LOL. THANKS!

thanks everyone I am trying so hard to keep positive! I appreciate that you guys all offered positive words and did not attack me! I will keep trying and if anyone is interested in a buddy I could use one also!

you look great How long did it take you to lose the 50? I lost 35 and feel like I still look the same! LOL

I need help I am 7 months posty op and I have only lost about 38 pounds. I was certainly thinking I would be thinner by now but anyway I know it is my fault. I have been under crazy stress lately that I would never imagine I owuld be under but here I am dealing woth it but not being able to stick with a healthy diet and get the exercise in. My band is pretty tight and I should be able to lsoe but instead I have been eating ice cream daily..not the low fat stuff either and it is so easy for me to eat and it has become like anew addiction to me. If i eat chicken sometimes it seems to get stuck and a few times I have had to make myself vomit to get past the painful stuck episode. I can get fill taken out but then i am afraid i will be hungry all the itme again and there goes purpose of band. I feel like a failure in many ways and I need some advise and or friends! Thanks

thank you guys for all of your responses!

I always get the shoulder pain if I overeat or get stuck. The doc said it is a nerve that can be irritaed that causes it .

I am four months post op and when i eat I get left shoulder pain...especially if I eat too much..so weird...anyone else????

I am 4 months and 30 pounds gone so I think that you should be very proud of yourself! I was feeling down and my hubby said look at it this way that is 30 pounds gone that you are not gaining back..I did want to be in smaller clothes than this for the sping but I do have to look at the positive that my old clothes are falling off of me even if I am not exactly where I want to be.

I am having some difficulty in my journey and thought I would turn to all of the pros for advice. I got my band nov 15 2011 and have lost about 25 total. I am glad I lot that but feel that it should be a lot more. I have had three fills and I am now up to 6.5 in a 10 band. I am finding now that it is difficult to eat many things and that they even hurt a little going down, especially in the morning. I also find that when i eat I get a pain in my right shoulder even with the first few bites. Another thing I have found out is that jink food goes down all too easily when the healthy food like carrots goes down painfully. I dont want to give up on my band but I am starting to get frustated and wished i just did this the old fashioned healthy way. Please help!!!

Hi everyone! I really need advice. My husbands and my relationship has always been an up and down type one with verbal fights and we have always been very different I am very sensitive, he is not I am social he is not. We have been together for 14 years and have two kids together now ages 7 and 4. Well two years ago after all the strain of the marriage and mental abuse I started talking to a friend from High school for a few months I did see him on person once and we shared a peck on the lips nothing more. My husband found out from an e mail that was left in the computer and he flipped out and then was abusive to me for two years. Because of my guilt I put up with the abuse and b?c I wanted to make the marriage work for the kids sake. My hubby and be great and wonderful and then shift to moody and horrible and I also I guess kept around for the good part waiting for it to get better again. Well I have been completely honest with my hubby and since that incident have not talked to another male outside of his knowledge. Then valentine's day weekend i found text messages accidentaly on my husband phone written to a girl that were very flirtatious. He then made up three storied before i got to the truth of it was an old flame from college who he has been talking to he claims they never saw each other yet what he wrote at 3 am to her makes me wonder. So here is the problem i am so angry for what he has put me through and now he turns around and does this. MY mom thinks we can both put it aside now b/c in a way we are even but i dont really think that we are and I am not sure if i can get past it never mind the fact this is not helping me to take care of my health! Oh and I have been going to counseling on my own hubby never believed in it now is willing but let me tell you he is also away now for 5 days to a tropical place with his brother for a trip while I am home with the two kids.... tell me what you guys think!!

There have been a few instances of physical intimidation but now for the past 6 months or so.

I have had one fill and I was wondering what feelings do you guys experience when you overeat.???? I can still at a decent amount of food but at times I get these weird feelings and I am wondering if that ms my band telling me that I am overeating even though I am not getting stuck.

i take the bariatric advantage also but they are so gross i do not even take them sometimes which is not good do you usually take 1 or 2 because i was even forcing myself to take two?????

Just wanted to say hi to all of the November bandsters and to see how we are all doing. My weight loss has been slow but I suppose steady. The holidays were hard and I ate more than I should have but I did not gaim I still lost 1 pound which is better than the gain the year before. I am trying to hang in there. I just had my first fill and still do not feel much restriction but I am trying to monitor myself. Hope everyone is well!

Hi everyone I am three weeks post op today and I am wondering why it is easy to eat cookies and chocolate and the chicken gets stuck and causes me to wretch. Anyway I should not even know that those bad things go down and I feel that I am getting off of the right and healthy path. I have been very stressed and I need alternative ways to deal Please Help!!

Thank you guys for the great advice and support. How do all of you deal with stress when food is not longer there to medicate yourself. I need salist of ideas that maybe I can pick from when things ger bad I feel really down and out. I know one I do is come on these boards:rolleyes:

I have been seeing a therapist and she does try to guide me but she also undertstands that it is such a difficult situation that she does not try to make the deision for me. I guess the guilt is really keeping me down and my low self esteem and he knows that and uses it to his advantage. Like I said he is not all bad but I am feeling like there should not be such a price for the good times. When know i dont even feel the good times b/c there is so much anger and pain all day every day Oh and yes he is very controlling and i was never allowed to have male friends since we got together i mean we do not even have couple friends that is why i think he flipped when i was talking to the other guy. I cant feel guilty forever and let this hold me down

I honestly know that he would be lost without me I do so much for him and the kids to the point where it is probabloy ridiculous. But I haver told him beofre that if this does not stop I wil be leaving and I think he just does not believe it. I think he thinks he has me b/c of the money fears not having his salary and mainly b/c of the children. One day he will tell me you have to do what you have to do if you are going to leave and then another be hugging me and telling me he would never let me leave b/c he loves me so much. It depends on the day:(

Well after we went to counseling the therapist decided she was not getting anywhere with the two of us together b/c my husband was so stuck on the me talking to the other guy and still did not stop his abusive tactics. So he saw her a few times on his own and then stopped b/c he said he was too busty with work and i started seeing another therapist on my own. HE does not believe in counseling and does not want ot go back I have asked him. HE knows our marriage has issues and he always says he knows how to and that he will fix it himself and that he knows what he has to do (obvioulsy not) He is a moody person in general and he is towards everyone ...his family knows he is crazy also .......he will never go on any meds if needed and will never see someone about it. It is not in his beliefs.

I would have to say last physical outburst was about sept. It seems to cycle about every 3 months to an episode and then the regret and the i an sorry and i love you. It is never punching but more so holding me down, trying to force me to have sex, things of that nature. I have had bruises in the past but on my legs ..never my face he is too smart for that. It also always happen in the middle of the night when the kids are asleep and i dont want to wake them up or leave the house and cause drama like calling the cops. He is for the most part a good father but he can be rouh with them also like old school discipline which i dont agree with and he knows it. he will not hit them b/c of my belied but he will pinch, pull a piece of hair things like that. My older child loved him but lately does not want to be home with him he wants me or my mom to be home and says all he does is yell and fight with the kids. He is a good provider and at times he can be very wonderful. HE will buy me things tell me how beautiful I am and act like things are great. His moods are so up and down and i feel that this relationship has been emotionally abusive since the start...which is not that it is right but lead up to me talking to someone else. I never felt cared about or fully worthy. I know my own self esteem issues. I dont know if i love him anymore b/c i am so angry with what he has done to me. Now that I am not medicating myself with food anymore it is getting harder to deal with the feelings and the anger and it is spilling out. I try to love him and the anger gets in the way. If he is in a good mood and i go along with it things can be great but if he is in a bad mood the whole house senses and feels it. I did ask my son the other day how he would feel if mommy and daddy lived in seperate places and he said that he would be very upset b/c he wants us all together and that would not be a"normal" family. It is so hard.

Hi everyone ! I am baffeled by my body LOL. I had my surgery on Nov 15th and had a 2 week pre op diet . I have lost about 16 pounds ....mostly from pre op. I have started purees and some mushy foods on Thanksgiving and since then I have not dropped one pound and today the scale said actually up a pound! I am eating all of my protein and have been averaging in between 950-1050 calories. I should be losing in my head....what the heck is uo or am I doing something wrong!

I dont think so I have been trying to be real careful with low salt and low carb also:(