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Hi, I'm out 1 year now and am lucky to eat 1 cup of anything. I can bearly finish a whole sandwich. I can still only swallow 5 gulps of a liquid before it "hurts" . What size bougie did your doctor use? When I was sleeved back in Dec 2009 I woke up HUNGRY! I never lost the hunger thing they are so proud to say you'll lose. . .but i've dealt with mine as you can see from the weight loss. . . I really don't know what to tell you, other then portion control and exercise. . . good luck!

Hi Sarah, I'm so sorry to hear that. . but if we were perfect we'd walk on water right? We're not perfect it makes us who we are HUMAN. . . here is a little suggestion, if you can't tell her, just print what you've written on this post and give it to her. . . she can read for herself. . . but either way she needs to know. . .the doctors aren't psyhics they need to hear from us our problems. . . just give her the note. . . good luck

UGH, your so sensible my darling friend! That is why I love you! Your a fabulous inspiration! I'm so glad your on this forum Tiff! I needed that kick in the butt! Thanks!

Sorry don't really know what to tell you here except maybe rehash as to why you two got married in the first place. What did you love about him, why is it gone now (if it is) I remember the first time ever when i lost 100 lbs on my own . . . I was miserable and bitchy big time. . i wanted to be free and carefree . . i wanted so many things . . . but the reality was that i was a mom, wife, and had to work and help pay bills. . .i NEEDED a break or something I wasn't sure what i wanted. . soooo I did something really stupid, I went to a conference and invited a friend to go along. . he was going through a divorce and liked me. . .but we only liked each other as friends not as lovers. . . so we went. I stayed at one hotel, he stayed at the other, I went to the conference and in the evening he'd pick me up and we'd go for dinner, and long walks or sit in a restuarant for hours just talking about nothing really. . . just friends. . . well the last day of the conference I needed to see if I had any feeling for this guy, I asked him (yes asked him) if I could give him a kiss, sure he says. . .well guess what??? NOTHING, yuk it was kissing my brother! Ewwwwww I nearly died. . . gross. . . .I told him thank you for the nice 3 days and i was glad he was my friend. . . went into my hotel room and asked myself if I had any idea of what i was doing. . . i did a reality check . . . i had a loving hubbie at home who had never cheated on me, i had 2 kids at home who drove me nuts like kids are supposed to do, i had a lovely home, which some don't have and I had a not so bad job and bank account. . . what more did i really want???? Did I really want to start over with relationships? NO, that is too much work. . so I picked up the phone and called hubbie and talked to him for a while. . . when i came home I gave him the biggest hug ever told him and the kids that i loved them and was glad i was home with them. . . after that everything was ok. . . i'm not saying that life has been all sweet and wonderful along the way, but about 10 years ago I had the perfect opportunity to cheat on my hubbie and leave what I then thought was prison. . . thank god that guy was only a good friend and we didn't have any sort of feelings towards each other in that way, but it made me realize what i really had and did i really want to lose that??? So here I am telling you my story, but it's not your story. . . we all have to walk our path in life, and whatever path you chose is the one you must travel. . . but before you travel it, think seriously about it. . . the grass is NOT greener on the other side. . . actually most times its pretty darn brown and burnt. . . Good luck and thanks for listening. . . . I have never told this to anyone. . .thought it was one of those things I'd carry to my grave. . . .

bless your heart. . . i understand your sadness, your probably still pretty puffy from the surgery. . (that surgery is a bugger) but take heart it goes away. . don't stress over those pounds girl, can i make a suggestion? when i first got sleeved I vowed never to become a slave to the scale. . the day i came home from the hospital i put that scale into the garage and only got weighed when i went to the doctor. . . and every time i went i was soooo very happy! the results were amazing! i didn't have that stupid scale making me depressed i loved it. . . then after about 6 months i brought the scale back in, set it according to the doctor scale and only weighed myself 1 time per week. . . i hit a major stall for 3 1/2 MONTHS not weeks MONTHS. . .but i knew that it would eventually move, so i mixed up stuff i did. . . one day i would eat more calories, the next not as many, one day exercise, the next nothing. . .and eventually that stall moved. . . i'm on another stall now again, but its the Christmas season and i'm not going to stop living just because of it. . .I'm going to enjoy my Christmas and then for the new year my resolution is to return to the gym 3 x per week and not to stop with the exercise (I really hate exercise) it's funny how before the surgery our new years resolutions were always to lose weight, now it's to exercise! Don't be sad honey, it'll be ok, this surgery also plays with our hormones abit. . . good luck your doing fabulous and will continue to do great. . . just keep posting and enjoy your life. . . enjoy what you have been given , it's not going away, it's with you always and will work with you. . .

Welcome Mona and a big Congratulations on choosing the sleeve! You have picked the right one. . . it's a great tool. . . just be prepared to use it. . in the beginning I really hated it cause the changes are so wild. . . you are so used to eating anything and everything in LARGE amounts and suddenly overnight it's snatched away and your expected, or should i say forced, to change everything about your eating habits. . . it's tough and i had buyers remorse big time. . . but when you start to see the results and consistently, you will be so happy and it's even better when you get to shop for "normal" sizes and smaller things. . . when clothes in your closet fall off you and you actually can fasten your seat belt when your in the car, or plane, and when you can clean yourself without pulling your back out of place! Girl your gona love this, just don't get discouraged in the first few weeks. . . there are stalls you will have to content with, I was on one for 3 1/2 months, but i just sucked it up and dealt with it and it moved eventually. . . remember too that Rome wasn't built in a day either. . . you didn't get fat overnight and you surely won't get thin overnight either. . . hope this helps a bit. . . chat soon again and the best of luck to you!

My experience has been that our skinny friends who are jealous over our surgery is because they are worrying that we are going to better looking then they are. . . and that is true. . . just plain jealousy. . but you know what, once you start losing weight and getting more confident in how your looking, you'll see those friends slow start to disappear. . it's weird but so true. . . skinny people have overweight friends cause they (skinnies) have low self esteems and beside their overweight friend they appear more confident cause the overweight person has a low self esteem already. . . this is just an observation. don't let them upset you, pity them cause of their low esteems. . . poor things. . . you are blessed to be who you are and that your helping yourself. . . keep up the excellent work !

I'm not sure if you could have hurt yourself but I would definately call the doctor especially if they don't stop hurting you. . . or go to the hospital if the pain gets worse.

Thank you everyone! You folks sure are sweet! I've been on here for a really long time about 1 1/2 years and everyone is always so supportive and sweet! Good luck to each and every one of you and a very Merry Christmas and and all the best in the New Year to all of you! Cheers and enjoy the holidays!

Bless your heart Kathy. . I had a stall that lasted 3 1/2 months. . . but you know what it finally moved and i started losing again. . . it's rather depressing but keep your chin up, at least you've lost the 35 lbs right! Could you have lost that by yourself without the surgery? Don't compare yourself with others thought that will set you up for heartaches too much. . . you are your own person and your body does it's own thing. . . so what if your friend lost so much more, your losing too. . . it'll move for you too, just be patient and keep doing what your doing! by the way, i have a dumb question, what is plication surgery?

Wow this gets better every day. . . so today at work they announce that all the supervisors will be having their pictures taken. . .but they want everyone to wear green. . . ok I'm wearing blue today, so they give me a ladies shirt. . . yeah as if this will fit. . . but i go to my office pull off my uniform top and PUT ON THE SIZE L LADIES CUT SHIRT!!!!! AND IT FITS PERFECT!!!! Wow did i get some compliments on that! So I asked if I could keep the shirt! the answer was "sure why not, it doesn't fit anyone else around here! " I felt sooooooo good!!! :lol:

:lol: that's a cute story! thanks for sharing!!

:lol: that is funny! make sure you walk A LOT!!!!! will definately help move that gas!

Hey there, well of course there will be bashing going on here shortly after I answer your question, but here it goes. . it really doesn't matter Michael. . . my doctor didn't have me quit or do anything before my surgery. . .he said first off that it takes quite some time to "shrink" livers. . he doesn't believe that you should "stop" smoking . . . your just going to start up after anyhow. . he said it's good cause of the anesthesia, but it really didn't matter. . .the alcohol thing, well you really don't want to put something quite as harsh down there right off, I started my rum and cokes up again at 3 months out and let me tell you that was so good! I think in all reality, let yourself heal up really well, and continue to live your life as usual. . . we are given this great gift to help us and help it does! You will loose the weight some of us quicker then other some of us slower, but hey Rome was built in a day either. . . But don't go crazy over everything. . .life is way too short. . . . ok forum lets have it! :lol:

HEY!!! I'm a spring chicken and i'm 50!!!!! I love my silver hairs and as my gracious mom would say "I worked hard for every one of them" My hair started darn right falling out about at 3 months post op and haven't stopped yet. . . it's amazing i have any hair left. . .i could have probably made 3 wigs out of all the hair loss. . . it's terrible, but other then having gotten VERY thin it's not that bad. . . i still have really long hair (refuse to cut it, then i really won't have any left) at least there are no bald spots. . . can't wait til it stops and maybe starts growing back, otherwise I will be a complete match with my husband!!!

Did they tell you WHY you have to quit coffee? I totally love coffee too, but won't tell you what to do cause it'll be wrong. . .

Aww Tiffy, I'm sending big hugs your way! I literally could feel you crying over the internet! I'm so sorry this happened to you. . . but at least you have your $6.00 maidenform push up bra right!!! Naw bitching is good, so go for it! I still love ya!!!!

how very wonderful! your doing so great! Keep up the positive outlook and the great job! you look very beautiful on your picture! very happy

I don't know if this will help anyone out there but I like to share my story a bit with you. . . on December 29th i will be out 1 year! I've lost a total of 140 + lbs, and can't even imagine how many inches. . . I 've gone from a snug 4XL to a L in uniforms and from 32 W to 14/16W in jeans and dress pants. . . Folks I LOOK GOOD!!!! This was my 18th major surgery and with each surgery I have been nervous and anxious (im highly allergic to ALL narcotics and have to deal with surgical pain in different ways. I use diversion) . . the feelings are normal but you know what? I'm still here! My specialists call me the "hollow one" :lol: Some doctors humor is really different huh? But its funny! So I'm hoping this brings a bit of comfort to those out there who are worriers and to those who are just plain old nervous about it all. . . it's just a few hours long and the next thing you know YOUR LOOKIN MIGHTY FINE!!!!

You have such a postive outlook! Your going to do fine! You'll get back on track, I can tell ! You really want this, its tough, but your a woman and you are tough, we are all tough and can fight the evil obese monster! We'll put on our SUPER powers and zap that monster! Together we can do it. . . P.S. I really hate exercise too, my new years resolution is to get back to exercise but only 3 times a week! Not every day. . .that is really way too much and makes it more hateful! Good Luck! You CAN and WILL do it!!!!!

I think I've reached my goal size 14/16 (at 6'0 tall that looks really good!!) but then it becomes a game with me, now i want to see if i can say loose about another 20 lbs, then if i get there, how about another 10 and so on. . . now it's more personal then anything for me. . . size wise?? Well whatever happens huh?

Believe it or not, I actually "LIKE" myself now. . flabby arms, loose skin and all. . .in clothes i look really good and i actually took about 15 years off. . . even my mom and those who haven't seen me in a while state I look A LOT younger. . . I have no wrinkles in my face at all and I'm sooooo very grateful for that. . . i'm 6'0 tall and 205 right now, wear 14/16 (depending on brand) and feel really really good about myself. . . I would love to lose about 30 more pounds, but that can happen after the new year. . .if it happens good, if not then that's good too. . . whatever I'm blessed with is what I'm happy with!

Wow, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. . . i didn't have any complications at all, so I can't share that, but I can share cyber hugs and blessings to you. . . hope you'll be ok. . . keep posting and Gods Speed!

hahaha! Yeah I found it all together rather odd, but I'll just say she's 80 with poor eye sight! She did mention however I looked 15 years younger! (thanks mom) so said her friend who looked at my obese pictures. . :lol: Thanks to all of you, you made me feel pretty good about all this. . . your all great!

Well during thanksgiving i had my mom come to San Antonio (she is from Canada) for 1 week. I went to pick her up at the airport. I haven't seen my mom for 3 years. She knew I had the sleeve done, but didn't believe me that it would work. . .sooooooooooo when she got to the airport, she walked right past me. . . I grabbed the coffee i had for her and went galloping after her. . .MOM I yell, well she turns around and after hugs she says "Is this really you?" Really? Please don't lose anymore weight and what happened to your hair? You used to have such thick beautiful hair". . . .well I just brushed the comments away and told her I was so happy to see her. . . that was that . . . the visit went well though and I didn't have thoughts of sending her back via FEDEX this time! :lol: