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I too will admit that part of my reason for being banded was due to the fact that I Dont like how I Look. It has nothing to do with how others view me, call me names, perseive me . Its all ME . Im getting the band because I want to feel better about myself. What you said about the insults made me think of something. I generally have a problem keeping my mouth shut in certain situaions lol . Normally someone could look at ME and make a comment and I would not say anything. Teenagers now can be CRUEL as hell . My little sister and I were at Target a few weeks ago . My sister is 14 . ( im 31) My sister just got out of Volley ball practice. She had those tight SHORT volley ball shorts they wear. my sister is TALL and skinny , the type that CAN wear those shorts. WELL, these 2 snotty little twits walk by both were around 20ish in age. As we were walking in I saw then starring her up and down and rolling their eyes. We walked in the store and my sister bent over to tie my 5 yr olds shoes. Then one of the twits said ' OH KAY Can ya get EM any shorter bitch" SHE Thought I DIDNT Hear them , my sister did not . I HOWEVER Was FURIOUS . ( these 2 girls were not exactly thin ) I Turned around and said " They are called VOLLEYBALL SHORTS BITCH if you have something to say to her say otherwise keep your mouth shut " I get so tired of walking around the mall with my sister and see these teens looking each other up and down based on HOW they look . My sister did NOTHING To those girls. My sister about DIED by the way LOL . She was calling all her friends saying "Your never gonna guess what my sister did " . But I think girls in general do things like that BECAUSE NO ONE Ever calls them on it . Maybe next time those girls will THINK before they do that to someone . Sorry that quote just made me think of that. lol Mindy

One more , I found a chewable http://www.fish-oil-supplements.com/supplement-facts/dha-kids-120sg-carlson#ingredients Hope that helps a little Mindy

Im not banded so I cant say I have had this problem. But my Sister in law takes fish oil for a condition she has. They have it in liquid form . From what I hear its NOT Pretty tasting. BUT Just looking around really quick I did find some for Kids , so i bet that tastes better. You could probably take that. http://www.evitamins.com/product_grid_sub.asp?catID=65&subID=471 HTH Mindy

Im 30 yrs old and the only Obesity related issue I have is sleep apnea( something my father has as well) although I suspect It will go away when I loose wt . I have no other issues. I have PCOS But I had that before I became obese. I have been obese for 6-7 yrs. There is a reason they call people who have a certain BMI MORBIDLY Obese , its becaues conditions related to the wt can KILL YOU . With just me having PCOS, Sleep Apnea and my migranies ( something i have had all my life ) I am at risk for diabetes, stroke, high blood pressure, heart attacks, depression, uterine cancer , and heart disease. JUST To name a few. That's not inlucding my complications I COULD get from being obese. The symptoms from PCOS will all but diminish ( SO they say ) after i loose wt, as will the sleep apnea . ( Migraines I'll have all my life ) . I am 30 i wanted to get this surgery BEFORE I get any of these things and have to play with my kids in a wheel chair or a hospital bed. I could give a rats A$$ what society thinks about me . Personally I do not think someone should get the band because of what someone ELSE Thinks about them . Its kind of like getting plastic surgery because your husband wants YOU To have bigger boobs. Its not about the other people its about you . I count myself LUCKY I have not had any problems of major proportions from my wt. But im NOT Going to sit around UNTIL Something happens to do something . Just my input Mindy

I too am waiting to be banded . Waiting for the money . I will be self pay as well. Your BMI Is similiar to mine , Im 5'4" 240 and my BMI Is 40.1 I have PCOS and sleep apnea. but otherwise I am in good health . I debated for quite some time about lap band. I have tried the Exersise , the diets ect. With the PCOS I knew the wt loss was going to be tough . I put off surgery because I thought surgery would be tough to loose wt with PCOS as well. Then i started to research more. The only thing that I can tell you is that once I decided I decided and NOTHING WILL STOP ME NOW from gettnig this surgery . I have the will power of a NAT . or so i thought until now. lol . I have smoked for 15 yrs at least a pack , pack and half a day . I quit cold turkey a month ago . I decided i better do it now before surgery , healing is better when you dont smoke and if i gained wt it would be better to do it before the surgery . My surgery WILL HAPPEN . Im not keen on Mexico the more i read about it . Im staying in the states. What im trying to get at is .... For me once i decided this was for me and I KNEW I COULD Do this and I COULD loose wt with the band that was it . Sure i had my doubts , i still have my concerns , it is surgery , like someone else said its natural to have concerns. But Im educated about my conerns and know what im getting into. I have a friend who is banded and is not doing as well , with wt. I firmly believe that is because her DOCTOR Did not educate her enough about the band and she didnt educate herself enough about the band. I know more about the band than she does and I dont even have one yet. Its up to you to learn as much as you can about it . Then if you decide to do it KEEP Learning. Almost every question I have had is on this board answered and at least 10 people have gone through it. So bascially I think if you KNOW the band is for you... you KNOW . if that makes sense lol At least I did . Mindy

I couldnt remeber what the heart deal was called. LOL Its called a PFO . here is a more specific article http://www.escapemigraine.com/escapetemplate.aspx?section=pfomigraines Mindy

There are studies going on now that suggest that some migraine pts have tiny holes in their hearts . Its something that was found my accident by fixing these holes and in turn those pts that had migraines no longer hvae them . Its not known yet if ALL migraines pts have these holes . Migraine pts who are known to have auras are more likely to the holes since these holes can lead to strokes. . I asked my neuro about this . He said " Is it promising yes" would I tell you to go have HEART Surgery to FIX Your migraines ABSOLUTELY NOT ". It is something that I think eventually may lead to something promising . But for now I think its one of those things that happen to "Fix" people with migraines by accident who they found the whole in . I personally think it could be something BIG in the way of curing migrianes. People can have these holes in their heart and be just fine. Here is an article http://abcnews.go.com/WNT/Health/story?id=876088 What Victorianna was saying however about her doc telling her she had TMJ and too much estrogen is not untrue either. Most migraines pts have TMJ . TMJ Is not the "cause" Of migraines but it doenst help either. The estrogen deal could also be PCOS . Both conditions I have. Again not something that causes them but contributes to them , making things more difficult to treat . HTH MIndy

Thanks Ive been using the lotrimin powder spray for a few days now . its getting better. I got a few new bras. Its getting better slowly .Ive had it before under my "apron" On my tummy . Thanks everyoen for your advice. I love that site too Mindy

Its been close to 2 months for me now since I have quit and im no longer on patchs . I can say that I can think " I kind of wish I could smoke" then its gone. Or almost in habit think " Time for a cigerrette" then go "OH wait i dont smoke" I was at my parents today watching NASCAR with my dad , our usual Sunday deal, really for the first time since I quit and he would go outside and I went outside w/him while he smoked and had not urge. So its easier. I think the "wanting" a cigrette is more of a habit deal , I use to smoke after I ate so I think of it sometimes becuase i feel like i SHOULD be doing that / Does that make sense LOL GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE I Hope ya'll are still doing well . :tape::gluck:

I could not agree with you more. I have had migraines for 20 yrs , since i was 11yrs old. I had tried EVERYTHING . I finally gave up on trying new preventatives because i figured" what's the point nothings going to work anyway " Finally my doc started me on Topamax I decided " OK I"ll TRY IT " It works . It has some strange side affects that I have heard others on my migraine boards just cant handle. For instance , the one's I have are numbness in my hands and feet( usually in the tips of my fingers and the bottoms of my feet) tinglying sinsations in my face and forgetfullness. The numbness is usually short term lasts for about 20 mintues when it comes on . SOME People can not tolerate it at all. But i figure its better than having a migraine. The meds have decreased my migraines from 3-4times aweek 5-6 in the summer to 1-2 a month . Its VERY manageable now along with the wellbutrin. I did not realize HOW bad I felt until i started feelign " Normal" I personally HIGHLY recommend preventatives. It takes a while sometimes to find the right one but its worth it .

The High school my son will go to is Hays. Up until a yr or so ago Hays' Symbol was the Confederate Flag. It flew at the school, on the school , it was ON the football field. On school Tshirts ect.. All the points that you stated TOM were debated when people started an uproar about removing it. My "issue" with that was the Hays Rebels as they are called has had the confederate flag as long as the school has been open as its " Symbol" , I for the life of me couldnt understand why it was an issue now ? Im sure it was an issue for some I dont know before that point. But it got UGLY around here over this. Before this though , honestly you would see people of ALL colors wearing everything and anything with the confederate flag on it. The flag is still flown , just not at the school , its still around , the mascot now is a yosimite sam looking guy " rebel" But the "Rebel" Flag is still around just not the "offical"symbol of Hays HS. I personally and honestly ( dont shoot me) do not know enough about it to know if I should be offended or how i should feel about it , i just never took the time to learn about it . So i can not say one way or another. Was it better for those Amish children who were held hostage and eventually killed to not know hate ? To be sheltered , but when it walked into the school they were in and they were confronted with it by a man holding them hostage . Was it better for them to be SO Isolated that they did not know people like that exsisted , people COULD hate like that ? Then when something happened like that , what must they have thought ? Its all a very tricky deal. Just like raising kids . Its a very slippery sloap to know what to do between what is right and wrong and what might shape them the right way and the wrong way . Its rough , at least for me sometimes.

I am so glad that your BF is coming around. My husband is as well. I also was upset about not getting any support. I currently am having " issues" with skin break down or something under my breasts and I was so upset today over it. I Showed hubby and he said " OH DAMN what is that from " I told him " BEING FAT" started crying told him they were " Fat Sores" . Later today our office manger came over , i thought it was weird he was over on Saturday . After he left hubby says " I think your surgery can happen in December " . they were going over money from the business . Something else when I had my break down he said that you might want to think about Sherrilyn. My husband told me " Mindy I feel like im in a catch 22 with you , if i told you I Think the Band is a GREAT IDEA that's awesome you would say something like , YOU THINK IM FAT I KNEW IT U Want me SKINNY .. if i told you no you dont need it , you would say ... SO YOU WANT ME TO BE FAT AND MISERABLE " and ya know he was SO RIGHT. I would do something like that. So maybe your BF feels a bit like that too . Im glad he's coming around. As for me and the band: Im doing it because I WANT IT , i have never wanted anything more in my life (other than my kids) BUT I want it so bad because I NEED IT . I NEED IT TO be around for my kids. When I heard those words " YOUR MORBIDLY OBESE , it scared the crap out of me. I NEED this ... HTH Mindy

Personally I notice it more here. I lived in ILL until I was about 10 and go back there some and speak to family who lives there. Not saying its not there but I think Texans (Southerners ) ARE more vocal about it ? Idont know . Im being sterotypical again ,,,, but I have noticed this. Up north its not as obvious . Just my opinion . Mindy

WOW I have never heard this before. It makes sense to me that you have to learn the "full feeling" though . Since most of us probably do not know what the normal "full" feels like. This is interesting. Thanks for the info

This is something that I worry a great deal about . I am not banded yet , Shooting for December. But I have chronic migraines . I am on preventatives now for them . Off of my meds I average about 4 migraines a week. Which generally will make me throw up about 2 of those. I had a dentist ask me once if i was bulimic. I told her " Do I LOOK Like im bulimic at 248 pds " LOL . I CAN If i have to STOP myself from vomitting however, usually throwing up HELPS Me migraines . I have been known to make myself vomit to relieve the pressure off my head. I try the best I can to catch the migraines with meds. Imetrex, amerge, Zomig, Ect... Luckily now that im on Topamax and Wellbutrin I average about 2 a month instead of 4 or more a week. Plus I stopped smoking and that helped me ALOT. But migraines and vomitting is on my list of things to discuss with my surgeon. There are meds available that are not in pill form when you DO get a migraine, imetrex has a nasal spray (it leaves a NASTY after taste though) Imetrex also has an injection, which works that fastest . Maxalt has a dissolveable pill you put under your tounge that works fast. I prefer that one myself. Migranal also has a nasal spray , I havent tried that one yet though. Hope that helps a bit. Mindy

I have seen clips from the movie and on Oprah , I use to think that there was a difference in being Racist and Prejuidice , Judging people at first glance by what they look like or sterotyping people. ( which from what I Understand is addressed in the movie) Oprah had a professor on her show and he said " NOPE its all the same if you walk down the street and hold your purse tighter because your in a dark street and a black man walks by , YES Its sterotyping or judging .. BUT Its Racist." Before I would have said I was guilty of sterotyping some people. Espically living in Texas and being around so many hispanics . I am VERY Guilty of that. Having a construction company though that depends on Hispanic workers for its bread and butter has changed that for me a little. I think i might go rent that movie tonight . Mindy

I keep meaning to rent that . I saw the cast on Oprah and wanted to see the Movie after that I just kept forgetting. Thanks for reminding me TOM . Mindy

EWW EWWW Those are 2 I Like Tucking in my shirt and Jeans. Can I steal those and add them to my list ? LOL I Forgot about those after my last incdient at the Avenue trying to jean shop I cant WAIT for normal jeans. Mindy

my husband grew up in a very racist family . Not only racist but they are ignorant and uneducated. I agree that everyone probably see's race or color. Everyone I think that is except Children. I do not think Children see color until they get older and someone points it out to them . My parents were some that I would never really consider racist or prejuidice . I had a roomate that was black. Not only was he black he was a COWBOY . In Texas walking into a Country Bar as a White Woman with a black man is NOT the norm or from what I found the safest thing to do sometimes. I can not tell you how many times i got into fist fights with people over that. One time my roommate and I were at a Rodeo and I was standing there talking to him and he had his arm around me ... My dad walked by said hi and moved on . When I saw him later that week he said to me " MINDY I didnt apprecaite walking by and seeing my daughter with a black mans arm around her , what if someone I knew saw you what would that look like " And he LIKED My roommate. I truely was FLOORED . I thought my dad was not like that. But I guess when it came to his daughter it was a different story which is SAD. Being around my roommate alot was really the first time I really experience, witnessed racism on that kind of personal Level and its UGLY ... I hate it and I do NOT Want my children to think that of people. I dont allow that talk in my house and my husband is MUCH MUCH more tolerant and less judgemental of people now because of his son ... Children have the right idea sometimes DESPITE their parents lol Mindy

We approached this subject in my house recently . My husband and his cousin are from around Vidor TX. Which if you know anything about that part of Texas was a VERY Racist part of TX. Were talking use to be KKK country . My hubby's cousin was staying with us for the week and hubby said " Your going to have to watch your mouth this weekend " (he likes to use the N Word which i DO NOT ALLOW USED in my house) cousin says " WHY " I said becaues Tyler ( my 14 yr old) is having 2 of his friends spend the night. The cousin says " AND " I said " AND You need to SHUT UP With the RACIST CRAP Around my kids , you can call it just playing or what ever you may think but YOUR RACIST weather you want to admit it or not so DO NOT SAY ONE WORD ABOUT BLACK, mexican, jewish , asian, ANY PEOPLE THIS WEEKEND PERIOD" . He pops up " Geez you act like Tyler's Friends are Black " . WELL as a MATTER OF FACT THEY ARE . BUT I did NOT Feel the need or purpose or RELEVIENCE to to tell you that. I also told him " ANd If you want to get POLITICALLY CORRECT .. They ARE African AMERICANS ... they have been in the US From Sierra Leon Africa and have seen more HORRIFIC CRAP in their live than you can even begin to DREAM OF " . My point of all this is ... 10 yrs ago my husband would NEVER of allowed his son to have an "African American " friend in his house. NOW, those 3 boys are togeter all the time. My son's friends mom works alot and they are over here before football games, we take them to games, weekends, they spend the night on week nights, and are the only one's allowed to do so . BUT my husband has changed. The cousin after being around these boys for one DAY changed ... they changed him . They are the NEATEST Children you have ever seen . Ya cant help but love them . Some say that racist people CANT Change ,,,,, the cousin , wouldnt allow HIS son to have mexican or black friends before that weekend,,,, NOW he can . However Living in the South I DO See alot of racism . Its still around . as for the teachers issue. .... I would tell the other teachers " I think sponsoring the dance team is a TEACHERS responsibility and if they asked ME To do it then im going to do it" I find it interesting that statements like THAT was said to you . are not thought to be Rude or inappropriate . HTH Mindy PS Sorry I rambled on a bit .

Did anyone in Texas watch the Debate tonight ? WOW Was that interesting ! I didnt see all of it about the last 30 mintues. If Kinky was not SO Far out there and a little more well spoken he would have come off better. Carol , Well as much as I like her .. She came off as very rough . Chris Bell I actually LIKED . I Didnt know that much about him . I liked him alot because of his issues on the TAKS . PERRY on the other hand. OMG he came off as such a PRICK . I wish I could have caught more of it though . Mindy

That woman makes me SICK. How in the HELL She can live with her self after the things she said about the widows of 911 I have no idea. She was out of control before that . But those comments were SO FAR Out of line it wasnt even funny . She is SO Far out there she makes BUSH look Sane. Mindy

I have a list already started. I dont have a consult yet . Im waiting for money to be saved up first. But here is my list so far some are the same as everyone else. 1. Go Dancing . 2. No more plus size clothes 3. wear swim suite 4. play ball with my boys 5. Not be out of breathe cleaning my house 6. NOt be out of breathe doing ANYTHING 7. Cross my legs 8. Be able to hold my head high when i walk in ANYWHERE 9. Be able to feel proud to be out with my husband when he's at "Professional" Funtions. That's it so far. Mindy

Dawn , LIke i said in my post below, the Wellbutrin I think is what REALLY made my cravings less for the cigs AND its got an appetite suppressant in it . Wellbutrin is the generice of zyban which is the quit smoking drug. If you take it as an antidepressant it keeps you level. VERY Little side affects if any . Also like i said the patchs. When I did feel like smoking ( and still do ) I chew regular wrigleys spearmint gum . Im telling ya I have had NO will power in the past with quitting. I do not think i have gained much wt either. I just weighted myself and im maybe a pd or 2 more than i was a month or so ago. So GOOD LUCK . Check into the wellbutrin . Mindy

I TOTALLY Understand how ya'll feel . I quit smoking about 2 months ago. I have smoked for 15 yrs . I started when i was 15. I quit cold turkey when i was pregnant with my last son . This time I used the patches and it helped ALOT . that and the fact that im on Wellbutrin anyway for my migraines , So i think that helped take the edge off. A friend of mine who is a respritory therapist told me people who quit with patchs or smoking aids like that are more likely to NOT Start up again . So far i have not TOUCHED a cig since i quit. Frankly I have not wanted to. As for weight... well I dont know honestly if i have gained or not . I am not banded yet. I quit because of the surgery and I firgured IF Im going to gain wt from quitting I might as well do it BEFORE The band lol Good luck to everyone who has quit and for those who are thinking about it ... JUST DO IT. I did not set a quit date, I just went to the store one day picked up a box of patches and threw away my smokes and i was DONE. I have the LEAST amount of will power as anyone I know . SO IF I CAN DO IT YOU CAN TOO! Mindy