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Thanks so much everyone, that really helps. I'll send him your thoughts and see what he thinks. I was hoping that he'd join the forum but he is taking baby steps. Maybe in a few weeks, one never knows. LOL

Thanks again!

Shannon

Hi all!

I have been talking to my husband about him getting the band at the same time as me, so we begin this journey together and can keep up with one another.

He is receptive but fears not being able to "stick" to the food plan once the procedure is done.

He is 6' 5" and eats very quickly and in decent/large quantity. He is heavy but has a fast metabolism.

My husband is not a sweet tooth kind of guy. He likes the occasional treat but if given a choice between pitas with hummus and ice cream, he'd probably choose the pitas.

He *does* love soda, and regular soda, not diet. I had gotten him to quit a while back but he fell off the wagon. I am slowly trying to gently nudge him back on.

He also LOVES meat! Especially steak and red meat, though he likes almost any meat on the planet. LOL

He doesn't tend to snack a lot during the day, (except on weekends occasionally).

So, the recap, he LOVES:

meat, regular soda, salty snacks and, occasionally, sweets like ice cream etc..

He CAN CONTROL easily his consumption of:

most sweets, (candy, cake, pie, chocolates etc.), starches etc.. He likes rice and potatoes etc. but also enjoys salads and high protein items.

So, any words of wisdom from folks that have a similar pattern?

He has *never* dieted, per se, just increased his activity levels. He has lowered his salt intake and has gone lower caffeine and diet soda for a long stint, however, which is a big thing for him.

I am sure, given his metabolism that, even if all that he gets out of the band is a slightly smaller stomach, he will still lose a substantial amount of weight and that may become addictive, this making him want to stick to the program even more... in theory.

So, I hope that some of you have had similar loves and cravings and can set his mind at ease.

Thanks, in advance!

Shannon

Thanks again for your notes. I have actually suggested, again, that he get banded so we can start the journey together and he is more receptive now... knock on wood.

I think, personally, that he fears losing me if I lose weight. He has never been thin and has a bad self esteem. Over the years, and with a little prodding/support, that has gotten better but I do feel like there are 2 parts to his sabotaging me; 1) the above, (his fears of losing me), and 2) he tends to REALLY crave things he isn't supposed to have. When I was pregnant he started drinking my favorite drink, (margueritas), because I couldn't have it.

I know this sounds like he's a sick pup/mean spirited person but he is not. I addressed his drinking when I was pregnant and he stopped. The food, though, he still hasn't been as supportive on.

So, hopefully after he meets with the Dr. on the 2nd he'll be even more receptive, and maybe even excited, to have the procedure done. As I said before, neither of us can remember being thin. We both started packing on pounds at about the age of 2.

I'll keep folks posted, thanks again!

Shannon

PS, any other NH band-lovers out there?

Thank you for your comments. I know what you mean about the sabotage and where it's stemming from... I come from a family of counselors. :devil: That is why I tried to talk my husband into getting the band with me. He has always been heavy, just like me. As long as we can remember we have been heavy. Neither of us are the "overly active" types either. My job/business is very sedentary as are most if my hobbies.

I am hoping that, once banded, I can start having more active hobbies, like skiing and rollerblading etc.. Maybe once he sees that he can't keep up with the kids and I he'll finally take the plunge!

Thanks again, I'll try to post as things progress.

Shannon

Hi all!

I have been considering getting a lap band for a while now. I couldn't before because of my insurance but it looks like my husband's new insurance *might* actually cover it... knock on wood.

I went to a meeting a while back and the doctors were saying that, in order to succeed with a lap band, one must have a lot of self control and, if not, one should opt for the bypass instead.

Personally, I could probably keep myself in check if I was single but I have 2 children and a husband that ALWAYS attempts to sabotage my weight loss attempts.

I don't think it's conscious but he is not willing to get the lap band with me and I fear that if I get it he will only encourage me to push it to it's limits.

I don't like the idea of rearranging my organs, (at all), but I don't want to get a lap band and then not be able to keep myself in check, with him taunting me along the way.

Has anyone had a similar situation and, if so, what came of it and your weight loss decision?

Please, no "no one can sabotage you, you can only sabotage yourself" kind of comments. I have heard them all and have learned one thing over the years: if it's in front of me, I will probably eat it, (and like it).

Thank you, in advance, for your experience!

Shannon