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Thanks again for your notes. I have actually suggested, again, that he get banded so we can start the journey together and he is more receptive now... knock on wood. I think, personally, that he fears losing me if I lose weight. He has never been thin and has a bad self esteem. Over the years, and with a little prodding/support, that has gotten better but I do feel like there are 2 parts to his sabotaging me; 1) the above, (his fears of losing me), and 2) he tends to REALLY crave things he isn't supposed to have. When I was pregnant he started drinking my favorite drink, (margueritas), because I couldn't have it. I know this sounds like he's a sick pup/mean spirited person but he is not. I addressed his drinking when I was pregnant and he stopped. The food, though, he still hasn't been as supportive on. So, hopefully after he meets with the Dr. on the 2nd he'll be even more receptive, and maybe even excited, to have the procedure done. As I said before, neither of us can remember being thin. We both started packing on pounds at about the age of 2. I'll keep folks posted, thanks again! Shannon PS, any other NH band-lovers out there?

Thank you for your comments. I know what you mean about the sabotage and where it's stemming from... I come from a family of counselors. :devil: That is why I tried to talk my husband into getting the band with me. He has always been heavy, just like me. As long as we can remember we have been heavy. Neither of us are the "overly active" types either. My job/business is very sedentary as are most if my hobbies. I am hoping that, once banded, I can start having more active hobbies, like skiing and rollerblading etc.. Maybe once he sees that he can't keep up with the kids and I he'll finally take the plunge! Thanks again, I'll try to post as things progress. Shannon

Hi all! I have been considering getting a lap band for a while now. I couldn't before because of my insurance but it looks like my husband's new insurance *might* actually cover it... knock on wood. I went to a meeting a while back and the doctors were saying that, in order to succeed with a lap band, one must have a lot of self control and, if not, one should opt for the bypass instead. Personally, I could probably keep myself in check if I was single but I have 2 children and a husband that ALWAYS attempts to sabotage my weight loss attempts. I don't think it's conscious but he is not willing to get the lap band with me and I fear that if I get it he will only encourage me to push it to it's limits. I don't like the idea of rearranging my organs, (at all), but I don't want to get a lap band and then not be able to keep myself in check, with him taunting me along the way. Has anyone had a similar situation and, if so, what came of it and your weight loss decision? Please, no "no one can sabotage you, you can only sabotage yourself" kind of comments. I have heard them all and have learned one thing over the years: if it's in front of me, I will probably eat it, (and like it). Thank you, in advance, for your experience! Shannon