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I went out for the first time since having surgery. My friend Dave and I went to Hunans, I was good and ate a bowl of egg drop soup minus all the stuff they put in it. I just ate the broth. As we're sitting there having lunch Dave asks..."So, are you full yet?" So of course I have to explain to him that right now I could eat anything that I wanted but because I'm healing I follow what the Dr. tells me to. So he goes on to ask Why, if I could follow what the Doctor has been telling me to do under my own will power to do( and doing quite well since I've lost now 25 pounds total), did I feel the need for the lapband surgery. I explained to him that I saw this as a way to finally keep the weight off. I've been successful at getting weight off before just not keeping it off. A little later he says "So, I failed you." I said no, you didn't fail me it was a choice that I made. He kept pushing that he had failed me by not supporting me and blah blah blah. Now, I'm a little frustrated and feeling down about myself...Questioning myself...Dave's right I should be able to do this, why can't I, why haven't I, I know how to do it I just don't...GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I have been ok with this decision and researched it and know in my heart that I made the right decision, why am I letting someones opinion have this much of a hold on my thinking? Why does it matter so much???? As I sit here in tears....Why do I care what he thinks anyway??? I'm just feeling like a failure. I hate this feeling. :biggrin::thumbup:

I went out for the first time since having surgery. My friend Dave and I went to Hunans, I was good and ate a bowl of egg drop soup minus all the stuff they put in it. I just ate the broth. As we're sitting there having lunch Dave asks..."So, are you full yet?" So of course I have to explain to him that right now I could eat anything that I wanted but because I'm healing I follow what the Dr. tells me to. So he goes on to ask Why, if I could follow what the Doctor has been telling me to do under my own will power to do( and doing quite well since I've lost now 25 pounds total), did I feel the need for the lapband surgery. I explained to him that I saw this as a way to finally keep the weight off. I've been successful at getting weight off before just not keeping it off. A little later he says "So, I failed you." I said no, you didn't fail me it was a choice that I made. He kept pushing that he had failed me by not supporting me and blah blah blah. Now, I'm a little frustrated and feeling down about myself...Questioning myself...Dave's right I should be able to do this, why can't I, why haven't I, I know how to do it I just don't...GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I have been ok with this decision and researched it and know in my heart that I made the right decision, why am I letting someones opinion have this much of a hold on my thinking? Why does it matter so much???? As I sit here in tears....Why do I care what he thinks anyway??? I'm just feeling like a failure. I hate this feeling. :sneaky::thumbup:

I have to say that there really isn't much that I wish they would have told me that I didn't get here before I had my surgery. I read so many post about the gas because I was really nervous about that and the common denominator in all the threads was WALK WALK WALK AND WALK some more so, that's what I did. I really didn't have any problems except for at night I used a heating pad on my back. The other thing is sleep in a recliner for the first few days. I tried laying in bed and just cried. So, I slept in the recliner for the first three or four days. Good luck on your surgery!

Yes the pains will go away. WALK WALK WALK WALK AND WALK some more. I know it may hurt right now but that's really the only way to get the gas out. I slept in a recliner the first four days because I couldn't get comfortable in a bed. If you don't have a recliner, I'd suggest adding lots of pillows and get to a reclined position instead of a flat. I hope you feel better soon, welcome to band land! Stacy

I used a diet plan and lost about 40 pounds in two months and it was great. I loved it so much that I became a health coach. I had a really bad breakup and stopped using it but plan on going back to using it when I can eat real food again because I love the bars. It's really simple to do and it works great. With the band I hope that I can keep the weight I lose with it off for good. If you want more information just click on the link I am posting. Take Shape For Life - The Breakthrough Approach to Fast Weight Loss and Long-Term Health Even if you chose not to use this plan I would be happy to try and keep you motivated any way that I know how. I really want to see you succeed. Your stories touch me in a deep way because I know the frustrations. Feel free to PM me. Stacy

Congrats!!! You should be proud!

One question first, when was the last time you saw your Surgeon for a fill? You should probably check in with him and see if he can help you. Next, Please don't take this the wrong way as it's meant only to help you...I've read several of your blogs and there is a reoccurring theme in them all and that is what I call "negative Nelly syndrome". Your blog is laden with I can'ts and it's not gonna work anyway so why try. When we think it we can achieve it! If we think we can't we won't. I really think that the best place for you to start getting back on this journey (mind you I haven't been on it that long so you can take this advice or leave it) is to think back to why you wanted to have this done, then check your attitude...Is your attitude conducive to achieving or failing? Do you want this or are you satisfied with making excuses as to why this won't work. PS...The why this won't work is what got us to the point we had to look toward surgery. You're a teacher, use that to your advantage, schedule yourself time to exercise and eat right in your lesson plan. Don't give up you can do this. I know it's not easy, I'm in bandster hell right now and could take a chunk out of a cow. I have faith in you even though I don't know you. I have faith because you wouldn't be asking for help at the end of your posts if you didn't want to do this. So to wrap this up...ditch negative Nelly and find Positive Polly! You CAN do this!!!!!!

I have HUGE bruises all over my stomach!! I have the mystery bruise as well. I thought it was just me. Glad to know I'm not the only one.

HH, I loved your post, definitely helps remind me of why I did this...THANKS! Stacy

Hey glad you're feeling good! I'm feeling good, just came in from my second walk of the day. I'm able to walk for about 40 minutes at a time without even getting winded. I usually hold my hand over my port site so it doesn't get a lot of movement. Over all it's been a good experience. It's tough not eating when I know I can. Good luck and hope everybody is doing well. Stacy

Well, it's Friday, two more days and it's back to reality. I'm a little nervous about going back, I work nine hour days and as it is a three hour trip to town yesterday wiped me OUT. Thankfully, I have an office job but can get up and walk when I want. I'm sure my office is a disaster by now as no one does my job while I'm away...Oh well job security right??? I love my job, I miss the people they are great. Donna came out and walked with me. I'm so proud of her for at least making the effort. She said she felt drained before we went and then she felt great after we got back...YEA!! Me on the other hand...I'm ready for a nap. Which I'm going to take as soon as I finish this. I like blogging because it gives me an outlet for my thoughts and helps me sleep better. I should have done it last night. I didn't go to sleep until well after 2 am as I could not shut my mind off. I was a little wound up after the softball game. It was fun! We lost but oh well. For those of you who read my blog I apologize if it's random and disorganized. I mention lots of people in my blogs and have even created a blog about the people just for additional information, if you want to know the background of the people involved in my ...days of our life blog... I'm starting to notice a difference in my legs and I have to say I'm a little miffed at the fact that it looks like I am losing muscle, I really don't want to lose muscle although, I know that I will probably lose some. I'm going to have to drink more protein shakes. They just are so sweet that I don't really like them, never thought I'd say something was too sweet. Sugar has always been my addiction. I will struggle with it until the day I die I am sure of that. Thankfully, Russell Stovers makes really good sugarfree candy. I'm ready for a nap! I'll blog more later if I'm feeling frisky when I wake up.

Well, it's Friday, two more days and it's back to reality. I'm a little nervous about going back, I work nine hour days and as it is a three hour trip to town yesterday wiped me OUT. Thankfully, I have an office job but can get up and walk when I want. I'm sure my office is a disaster by now as no one does my job while I'm away...Oh well job security right??? I love my job, I miss the people they are great. Donna came out and walked with me. I'm so proud of her for at least making the effort. She said she felt drained before we went and then she felt great after we got back...YEA!! Me on the other hand...I'm ready for a nap. Which I'm going to take as soon as I finish this. I like blogging because it gives me an outlet for my thoughts and helps me sleep better. I should have done it last night. I didn't go to sleep until well after 2 am as I could not shut my mind off. I was a little wound up after the softball game. It was fun! We lost but oh well. For those of you who read my blog I apologize if it's random and disorganized. I mention lots of people in my blogs and have even created a blog about the people just for additional information, if you want to know the background of the people involved in my ...days of our life blog... I'm starting to notice a difference in my legs and I have to say I'm a little miffed at the fact that it looks like I am losing muscle, I really don't want to lose muscle although, I know that I will probably lose some. I'm going to have to drink more protein shakes. They just are so sweet that I don't really like them, never thought I'd say something was too sweet. Sugar has always been my addiction. I will struggle with it until the day I die I am sure of that. Thankfully, Russell Stovers makes really good sugarfree candy. I'm ready for a nap! I'll blog more later if I'm feeling frisky when I wake up.

Congrats!!!! It's encouraging to see stories like yours. I'm still in bandster hell but I know I'm going to make it through it.

My tummy is so hungry it growls and my cats look around like they need to be fighting something that's about to attack them! I don't get to start mushies for another five days...Can have blended Soup but no cream Soups. I did make some chicken noodle with a little homemade herb butter ...it was YUMMY. I am ready to CHEW!

Susan, thanks for posting the propel suggestion, I have felt really drained today. I'm going to try the propel and see if it helps. Thanks, Stacy

I've been banded for a week...the best thing that I can tell you is WALK walk WALK and walk some more! It helps a lot. I walked a lot and had very little gas pains. I did have some in my back and used a heating pad and thermacare. Good luck and welcome to bandland!

I feel totally DRAINED today. I think I may have over done it a bit yesterday, that and TOM(time of the month) had to show up...dang it! I did force myself into going for a walk, I thought maybe it would give me some energy but it only drained more out of me. I think I'll have to take a nap. The one thing that I absolutely hate about the band is not being able to take pills normally. I have to cut them in really little pieces and put them in applesauce or pudding to get them to go down. I hate taking pills anyway so having to take six small pieces of one pill is FRUSTRATING! Last softball game is tonight!!! I really like it but I think ten weeks is a too long, it's tough keeping everybody committed. Besides it will be good not having to see Larry every week. I have to plan the bbq next I'm waiting until I'm on the soft food stage though, I want to eat like everybody else...Just not as much. Well that's all the energy I have for my daily random thoughts...It's off to napland!

I feel totally DRAINED today. I think I may have over done it a bit yesterday, that and TOM(time of the month) had to show up...dang it! I did force myself into going for a walk, I thought maybe it would give me some energy but it only drained more out of me. I think I'll have to take a nap. The one thing that I absolutely hate about the band is not being able to take pills normally. I have to cut them in really little pieces and put them in applesauce or pudding to get them to go down. I hate taking pills anyway so having to take six small pieces of one pill is FRUSTRATING! Last softball game is tonight!!! I really like it but I think ten weeks is a too long, it's tough keeping everybody committed. Besides it will be good not having to see Larry every week. I have to plan the bbq next I'm waiting until I'm on the soft food stage though, I want to eat like everybody else...Just not as much. Well that's all the energy I have for my daily random thoughts...It's off to napland!:sneaky:

Sounds like you're doing great...Congrats! Zumba is a BLAST!!! Good luck, hope things continue to go good for you.

These are some great moments to remember! HH your story brought tears to my eyes. It reminded me of my wedding day, I went to see my 94yo Grandma at the nursing home on that day then a few weeks later I took her the pictures, she was looking through the album and pointed to me and said "Who is that little fat girl?" Wow that one hurt Gma...Thanks! That was fourteen years ago and I have lost 60 pounds on my own and now since banding I've lost 21. My family have always made fun of me for my weight, my mom always says "You'd be so pretty if you'd just lose some weight." It will be nice to finally be rid of this weight and their rude comments. I hope I can have great success with this band and be able to have a few of these in your face moments. Thanks everybody for sharing and keepem coming.:juggle:

WOW< 47 pounds that's amazing!! I hope I have the same success! Keep up the good work!

Still on the mushie stage. B=4oz vanilla yogart S=sugar free popsicle L=4oz sf pudding with protein powder S=protein shake D=Enchillada soup...YUMMY I'll be glad when I can move to the soft foods in a week.

Excellent post!

That's awesome!! You should be proud!! I'm ready to party!

I'm actually a health coach for medifast Take Shape For Life - The Breakthrough Approach to Fast Weight Loss and Long-Term Health You should be able to eat food. The way the plan works is to eat Five meal replacements...Love the new bars! And then have a lean and green. I use the shakes now since I'm on liquids but plan on eating the bars when I get on real food. If you want more info feel free to pm me. Stacy