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Sadly I lost my baby at the end of November. Trying again but it has been rough. Luckily my doctor does not think my surgery contributed in any way to the miscarriage. Thank you to everyone who gave me support and advice. I appreciate it so much.

C-Sections have been a thing in my family so I am pretty resigned to the fact that I will likely need one. I am glad to hear that you made it through. I appreciate the info!

I haven't had surgery yet but I have a 3 year old daughter and I had a csection with her. It was basically an emergency one since our heart beats were dropping back n forth. I didn't want a csection at all and it was rough recovery. It sucks when you can't get up right away for your baby. But it is worth it in the end. Children are a blessing. Congrat! Everything will be okay.

I just spoke with my OBGYN. My surgeon is in a different city now. I should probably talk with a bariatric surgeon in town though...

Thanks! Did you talk to your surgeon also or just your OB Dr?

Really don't have anyone to talk to about this. No one at my support group has gotten pregnant that I know of. And this would be our first time to try at all so everything is running through my mind.

I just (like JUST) found out that I am pregnant! I have not told anyone but my husband so far. I won't tell family until the end of the 1st trimester. It's my first pregnancy and I am terrified that something will go wrong. One thing I've been reading is that there is an increased chance of having to have a C-section if you've had WLS. Can anyone tell me if that was their experience? Anything else I should know? I am six years out since the surgery so I am pretty comfortable with getting enough to eat. I am just trying to make really good decisions as far as WHAT to eat. I haven't had morning sickness *yet* not sure how bad that will be... Anyone who could share their pregnancy stories with me, I would greatly appreciate it.

When my husband and I first started trying to conceive, I spoke to my OBGYN and he told me that there is not much to be concerned about after WLS. Obviously getting really good nutrition and taking extra prenatal Vitamins are important and I would definitely discuss those topics. He told me the main thing he wants to avoid is for me to freak out because I will gain a little weight.

I am almost a year out from my RNY bypass and I have done very well and have not had any complications. My husband and I have been talking about maybe trying to get pregnant in a couple of months. I go see my obgyn next month and I don't know what questions to ask. Does anyone have any advise/insight that has gotten pregnant after WLS?

You know, I think it's taught me a lot about spices and flavor combinations that make my food taste incredible without making them bad choices. Also, just because we had WLS doesn't mean we can't enjoy cooking and food, we just have to adjust for our new lifestyles.

So glad I'm not the only one.

Egg Face (online blogger) has the very best recipes. Her crockpot green chili carnitas is an all time favorite recipe that I make for big family get togethers.

Congratulations!!! Well done. A happy dance was definitely in order.

At my smallest after surgery I'd lost half of my body weight. I gained some back over time and I'm steadily losing back to that. You can lose more than 1/3.

YES. All the time before the surgery, even a couple of times after. But it gets easy after surgery because you CAN'T eat that stuff. Then your taste buds change, and you start to enjoy the healthier stuff. It's not always an easy process but I am so glad I went through it and I have yet to meet anyone who's had bypass who wishes they hadn't. Hang in there, it really does get easier.

Sleeve was not an option for me, but I chose bypass over lap-band because of the risk of complications associated with lap-band. My MOM is having bypass next month and she chose bypass over sleeve for two reasons. 1) Studies have shown patients with Type II Diabetes who have bypass get rid of the diabetes faster than those who have sleeve. 2) Dumping when you eat something that is too sugary or greasing doesn't appear to happen with the sleeve and she wants to use it as an incentive to keep from 'cheating'. I will say that I have two relatives who've had the sleeve. My cousin has lost over 100 pounds and is doing well. My uncle who first had a failed lap-band, then revised to a sleeve, has not had significant weight loss and eats as bad as ever. I think it's a good tool, but I think it requires commitment. I hope that helps.

Also, I just wanted to point out that even though you've gained and it feels horrible, you have still done so well! Look at how much smaller you STILL are. Congratulations on finding a wonderful husband. I wish you the best!

This may or may not be something you would be interested in, but I am in a similar place. Struggling to make good decisions, allowing old habits to rear their ugly heads (candy all the time!). I started Ideal Protein at the end of May and one month in, I've lost over 10 pounds. I am slowly but surely getting back on track. IP helps me because it is high Protein, encourages taking all the right Vitamins, and has me drinking Water again vs. diet soda. I thought it would be difficult but it has been a blessing. I feel amazing and I feel in control again. If at all possible for you, I would highly recommend it.

Vitamins are Protein are your best defense against Hair loss. It's normal, it DOES stop after the first year or so, and Biotin will help. Congratulations on being 50 #'s down!

100% normal. Also, if it's anything like my surgery they're pumping you full of pain meds that make you drowsier. Take it easy because you need these couple of days to heal! And congratulations.

Had my RNY this morning. Not feeling too horrible but I cannot keep my eyes open. Like the drowsiest ever . Normal???

Look on Pinterest, or just Google 'Plank Challenge'. It's a plan for getting your core in better shape and it really helped me! You start out with 20 second planks (which I thought would kill me) and then work your way up. Also, a good sports bra DOES go a long way. Good luck with the exercising! It's great that you are out there early in the process moving more.

Oh my gosh so many things!

1. You will be cold ALL THE TIME. Invest in hoodies.

2. Loose skin happens, it feels bad, but it's NOT the end of the world.

3. Sometimes you experience 'hunger pangs' that mean you are thirsty.

4. Life is going to get so much better because you are going to feel like a new person. (I guess people tell you this, but seriously, it's not easy to comprehend until you're there.)

Good luck!

No energy is perfectly normal. Are you taking Vitamins? Even now, if I do not stay on top of my Vitamin intake, my energy flags. Remember that your body has way less fuel to process for energy. Be patient, because the exhaustion does pass as time goes on. Protein and vitamins are going to be your best helpers.

About three weeks after my surgery I was out running errands with my Mom and we went to get pet food. I was in the parking lot and suddenly smelled bread from the Schlotzsky's in the same parking lot. I cried for like an hour. I felt (briefly) as if I'd ruined my life. I could never eat good food again (mushy food was not going well for me because at this point I still NEVER felt hungry). After I'd finished up I wondered what the hell was wrong with me. That was the first time of many times that I felt like a great big sob. I am sure some of mine WAS hormones. But I also think I was just scared at the enormity of what I had done. I was barely able to force myself to drink a little bit of beef broth, I was scared that I would somehow be unsuccessful, and I was also a little disappointed that I hadn't already lost more weight. It's an emotional process. Mostly the emotions are very positive, but it's completely normal to have a bad day. Looking at your ticker, you've already done an amazing job with the weight loss. I hope your day gets better.

I had my surgery at 27 and my loose skin is horrible. Plastics are definitely in my future. But first I am going to focus on having babies. No point in a Tummy Tuck just to mess it up with a pregnancy. My arms and belly are the worst areas. I have seriously considered surgery on both.

I am an almost compulsively honest person so I told my future husband very quickly about my surgery. He was really sweet. No judgments that I've ever seen and unlike the OP my loose skin is pretty severe. Later, after we were married he read up on WLS and told me all these health benefits that pass along to children of WLS patients. It blew me away. He has only ever seen my surgery as a positive. I think you need to give this amazing man a chance to prove that he is the real deal. All cards out on the table. You will probably be very pleasantly surprised.

I found the 'Pamela Anderson Diet' in my local paper and tried that for a while and lost weight on it, but also felt like hell. Nutrisystem was crazy expensive and I hated the food. I tried SMOKING because one of my friends told me it would definitely help with weight loss but it was so gross I almost immediately quit. Yep, my early 20's were chocked full of bad decisions.

I just told my Dr. at the time, "I am having WLS and I need you to help me with the approval process." He asked if I wanted to go on a diet plan for a while and I said no thanks. Been there, done that. My mind was made up. So he helped. It never once occurred to me that he might not.

OMG this is so funny because I felt soooo guilty when I did this. I was supposed to eat chicken breast and drink Water for dinners the month before my surgery. So I ate chicken nuggets and drank orange soda. My justification was orange soda was healthier than Dr. Pepper. I was delusional. But I think it was a perfectly normal thing. There is so much fear about not being able to eat as much or the things that we want.

I really believe that popular culture / society makes women look at gaining weight as a negative to such an extent that even when we lose weight we feel bad about NEEDING to lose weight. I had a very hard time taking compliments as I lost the weight. As happy as I was and as proud of how I looked as I was, I always felt somehow like I didn't deserve to be complimented because I should never have been obese to begin with.

That said, a lot of 'compliments' are underhanded digs, and if you felt like he was being unkind then you are probably right. When people have tried to give me underhanded compliments I've always done the same thing, smiled brightly and said, "Thank you. That means SO much to me." I make sure that the message is that their opinion is worth a bucket of warm spit. It generally shuts them the hell up.

Buck up, I think that people who do these things are genuinely jealous or bitter.