BethFromVA

I'm trying to decide whether that makes it sound better... :grouphug: LOL

You're welcome, Melissa, and glad I made you feel better. I've had days like that. Heck, one time my "day" lasted an entire month -- doing EVERYTHING right and I bobbled up and down the same two pounds for about 30 days. I only showed a 3 pound loss at my doctor's. It was disheartening. However, I try really hard to remind myself that this is a journey, not a race. I try to remember I don't do everything perfect, but overall I'm doing most everything right. And if you are doing everything right, the right things will happen. As for my ticker, yeah, I just got a fill on Tuesday. I did a day of liquids before my fill, so I had three total. That liquid diet really kicks me into gear. :hurray:

Omg, that's gotta chafe over time! :grouphug:

You've done a great job, Melissa! :grouphug:

LoneStarRedHd, was that ugly message on my message board really necessary?

Parrothead probably had her gall bladder taken out before they could do it laproscopically. That's how they used to do it probably 10 years ago, the way she had it done.

Can you give us an idea of what you eat in a day, amount and specific foods? That may be a start.

I've only had the Lap-Band and gall bladder removal, so I can't compare Lap-Band to the other two, but I'd say mine was a little bit more uncomfortable than gall bladder surgery. That said, my gall bladder surgery was a breeze, and I was on vacation in Mexico less than a week after surgery. I was in the hospital for one day with Lap-Band surgery; and though I didn't feel bad after going home, like in major pain, I did feel weak and a bit woozy here and there for up to a week. Some days were good and other days were not good, but not in a pain sort of way. I also didn't have the gas pains in my shoulder that many people complain of. I only took my pain meds for the first couple of days, and that was mainly at night because I was afraid of hurting in my sleep. Hope this helps!

The fact that the left-wing media ran with a BS story does not make it fact, BJean.

You mean the intolerance of people who don't play the PC game, who don't walk in lock-step with the beliefs/thoughts of minority opinion? Yes, I agree.

Well, I hafta agree with you there! Wow... sounds like.... fun...?

That's not what he said. And you are welcome to move along any time you want. Nobody is keeping you here.

Thanks, BG! And I'm with you on the upchucking thing. I get three rungs up on a ladder and my knees are knocking. And I hate canoe bosses.

I wouldn't recommend trying to deliberately regain the weight. The fact that you have PCOS (a co-morbidity) and only have to have a BMI of 35 or more due to the PCOS says you're safe. Why not enjoy six fewer pounds?

Just the fact that he says it's not band friendly got me. And just because a salad is served first in a restaurant does not mean it must be eaten first. My mom always eats her salad with her dinner, and she's not banded. Besides, how many of us eat out every meal, every day? Even if we did go out on a Friday and ate that salad first, are we gonna die? Not lose any more weight? Turn into toads?

Thanks, Donna. My last stall was an entire month between March and April. *Sigh* is right. I talked to my nutritionist/nurse and she said to shake things up a bit and maybe go on liquids for a day or two and then go back to eating normal. That did it for me.

I absolutely ADORE Dr. ROBERT Pinnar's office! Paul is the first doc I have ever looked forward to see to get stuck by a needle. Sue is also great and full of fantastic information, and Shara greets you with a smile. I would highly recommend them for your WLS consideration!

Give Plain a cee-gar. He gets it.

Agreed, Dan. For me, the first few months were all willpower. Restriction still comes and goes depending on where I am on my fill schedule. Usually right after a fill I'm fine for a couple weeks, and then the next couple weeks I feel hunger sneaking up because I'm losing weight internally and loosening my restriction. However, with each month/fill, it gets better and better. But I have also read some bandsters on here who had restriction almost immediately and a year out are only getting their second or third fill (I just had my sixth). We're all different, our doctors all fill differently, and some just simply lose easier/faster than others. Men seem to do especially well (as usual). I read a guy on here just the other day who lost 100 pounds since late JANUARY! Try not to let the stories freak you. This poor woman has obviously gotten a shit for a doctor. You have to feel really comfortable with whoever you choose as you'll have a relationship with him/her for some time. If you feel they don't listen to you now, they sure as hell won't later.

I know, but it'll all happen before you know it.

I had a feeling...

I don't catch a ton of your posts, but have thoroughly enjoyed and agreed with every one I have caught. And if I agree, then you must be right. :thumbup:

Also, if he is mad as you say and acting like this, I wouldn't put it past him to be sabotaging your fills -- either not truly filling you, or filling you just the teensiest bit, OR you have a leak and he couldn't care less. Jerk.

The guy sounds like a total jerk. It wasn't HIS decision, though he probably made less money on the Lap-Band. I agree -- RUN, don't walk, to another doctor. Any doctor who wouldn't ask my questions like that wouldn't make it out of the room.

I absolutely agree with the advice given you above, especially that from Restless Monkey (she is a true font of wisdom. Listen to her!). To add to that, the fact is, this is about and FOR you. You have to do what you feel is best, even if right now he's not "on board" with you. When you dieted in the past, you didn't diet for him, did you? Or did you do it for yourself, to make yourself healthier, look better, feel better? The surgery is the same thing. Though it would be great if 1000 percent of the time our spouses were completely on board, sometimes they just aren't -- sometimes for a while, sometimes forever. I agree with RM that you need to get him to express how he feels and why. However, if this is something you have chosen to do, something you think is for you, I would strongly recommend that you stick to that and do what you need to do for yourself. Just as you probably wouldn't let him talk you out of a bypass if you needed one, we shouldn't be talked out of -- OR INTO -- a surgery like this. For me personally, I didn't tell anybody, including my husband, about the surgery until after I had gone to the seminar, met with my doctor, and started getting the work-up done for surgery. The reason being was this is MY body, MY life, and MY decision. I didn't want anybody from the outside putting in their two cents, good OR bad. I wanted to come to this decision myself. Luckily he supported me in my decision, though it is still sometimes hard for me where the food is concerned (had a fill the other day and was on liquids, and he ordered a pizza, ugh). You have to determine for yourself how badly you need him to be 100 percent on your side in this decision. Only you can determine that. Good luck!