BethFromVA

Wow, Ebony, hope all is well. That sounds strange... Fermenting, perhaps?

Oh shoot, I didn't realize family was that close! I thought she was on her own where she lived. Nebbah mind... :biggrin:

Yeah, I know... but my thought is if she seriously has NOBODY, then he is better than nothing. She's going to need some assistance, no doubt.

Oh, I totally understand what you're saying. If somebody I knew was very overweight and saw me losing weight and asked, I would likely tell them in secrecy. But none of my coworkers are overweight, so I don't say anything to any of them. It's not their business. But as for who to tell who is overweight, I would feel I'd need to be approached first. Strangers wouldn't know I had lost weight, only people I know. And I could never presume to walk up to them and start this conversation. We all know that we are at different points in our respective journeys. I think each and every one of us has had to hit some form of rock bottom before we considered this route. My mom had mentioned surgery probably a half dozen times in the past and I was like, "No, no way, nope, can't do it. I can do this with diet and exercise." It took me getting to "that point" before I considered it, then I jumped on it. So in other words, if a very overweight friend or acquaintance asked me, I'm not saying I wouldn't tell them the whole truth. I guess it depends on who's asking. But I don't feel comfortable yet just shouting it from the rooftops.

Nah, couldn't be. Isn't it amazing how the body is? Takes a week+ to lose six pounds but only 8 hours to put it on. :laugh: I'm excited that I have another fill in two days. Thought it was like the 20th or something, and then decided today to look in my purse for the card and it's Thursday!

Wonder if she'll take mama in since she is the primary reason mama is losing her house. Octuplets' Mom Getting Bigger House, Free Nurses - Babies : People.com

I remember that show, Marmite, and yes, she WAS nasty. I think the passive-aggressive behavior is what happens most. I have known more people who were trying to lose weight and their partner would bring them home donuts and cookies and fast food. It's a way to try to keep the status quo.

Yes, you got it. I'm not saying that those who shout it from the rooftops are wrong in any way. It's just that, no matter HOW we handle it and whether we choose to tell or not tell, it is right for us no matter what. I don't feel guilty for somebody else's weight issue if I don't tell. I just can't feel responsible for others that way. Now, it doesn't mean I would NEVER tell, but if I chose not to, that is my choice, and it's not wrong. Nor is it wrong to tell everybody from the lady at the lunch counter to my garbage collector. It's just not for me is all I'm saying. And it's not to say that I won't be more forthcoming or open about it once I lose the weight. I may. And if you knew me and knew how not private I am, you'd understand how keeping this close to the vest is unusual for me.

LOL, you know what I mean. :laugh:

Am I the only one thinking dirty when I read this? :laugh:

*snorkle* :laugh:

Eh, that's nothing. Come back to us when you have one that looks like Jesus or Mother Teresa or something. :laugh:

Try to look at it as your trophy for all your wonderful weight loss, a trophy that, while you can appreciate it, are all too willing to rid yourself of in the near future. Hey, as you can run, you can imagine the smacking flesh as clapping for your success. :laugh: No family or friends who can trade off shifts?? Barring that, and I hate to even suggest it, but what about hubby/ex/whatever you call him now? Doesn't mean you have to have anything go on afterwards like a reunion or anything, but you ARE the mother of his children, and it's the LEAST he could do for you after all he did. He may just be waiting for you to ask and not taking it upon himself to offer.

It's not so much that I care what they think, it's just that for me it's not anybody's business. I wouldn't tell people if I was treated for VD, either. :laugh:

You could say, "Well, it took $11,000 to fix me. How much do you figure it's gonna cost to fix you?" :laugh:

And I'm a big World of Warcraft'er, killing monstahs an' stuff. And some of these MILs, well, they's monstahs.

Understood, and what you say makes sense. On the flip side, though, I think weight can be a harder issue on women that it is on men. We still live in a society where women are expected to never age, never get fat, and never be "less than" in any way, while men are often given a free pass. If an overweight person asked me how I lost the weight, would I tell them? I dunno, maybe. I certainly would never walk up to an overweight person and say, "Hey, I got the band, you should look into it." However, I will share what a poster on this board says, and it says a lot (luluc): The band does not go shopping for good foods for me. The band does not put good foods in my mouth. The band does not make me exercise when I want to stay in bed. YOU have to do all of that. So with that in mind, she wasn't incorrect in what she said. She wasn't even untruthful or misleading. She IS exercising more and she IS eating better and less. Our reasons for telling or not telling are as vast and different as we are. I read below your scenarios about taking the easy way out and how you would never hear people say that chemo was the easy way out of cancer. That is true. However, many do NOT see obesity as a disease like cancer. Heck, I don't even see it that way and I'm fat. Most see it as an inability to control oneself. I doubt it will EVER be viewed by the vast majority as a disease, so yes, for many, we ARE taking the easy way out.

Oh honey, I've BEEN ready. I love that I finally found somebody who thinks like me. Don't know if that's good or bad for you and everybody here... :crying: I'll hold her like Lucy holding the football, and you can be Charlie Brown running to do the kick into next week. Only difference is, I will NOT pull away!

Front 'n center. I'll even allow you a little kick to the shin while I have her down if you like.

Grrrrrrrrrrr! I have a crappy MIL too. I get visions of her in my head when I hear of Slim's. It's just wishful thinking. :crying:

Hear that, Ebony? Time to have a coming to Jesus talk with that hubby of hers. Though the biotch in me wants to tackle that MIL of hers. Yes, literally tackle her. :crying:

No comment. :confused:

It's the draw to the dark side.

So... set him straight. "No, dearest, it's because of your mama."

Atta girl, slim. Next I'd tell him if he wants to reconnect with mommy dearest, he ought to go over there and have tv dinners with her. His reconnecting with her does NOT have to include you. He can do it without you at HER house.