Akdub27

"her comment to me was that she was so glad to know I had weight loss surgery because I looked like I was dyeing from cancer cancer lol!"
Classic example of passive aggressive behavior. I can relate. My mother was obsessive about staying thin. Through my preteen and teen years I would yo-yo between average size to slightly chubby. Within weeks after my youngest child was born, I moved out of state. Two years later I moved back to my hometown. I was thinner than my mother. She would make comments that I was too thin (I wasn't). I was almost 30 and she was in her early 50s. She secretly started abusing diuretics and laxatives to drop pounds in an attempt to be smaller than me. She ended up in the hospital with electrolyte imbalances and deficiencies. Years later, my daughter was battling with about 35 to 40 extra pounds. She asked me to help her with a low carb diet which is how I maintained my weight at 115 to 117 for most of my adult life. She lost the excess weight and I was bragging about my 22 year old daughter's victory to my mother. My 73 year old mother, who was weighing in about140, replied with the most selfish and disgusting comment imaginable...."Great, now I am the only fat one in the family!" I very sharply responded with "That is digusting! Be happy for her. It's her time now."
Be prepared.....people who once secretly pitied you, emotionally supported you and openly cheered your success may now feel threatened by the change in the dynamic. My mother's self-worth was so closely tied to being the most svelte of any woman in her circle. When I surplanted her claim to fame, my mother felt assaulted. My daughter's weight loss after my mother's gain was the final blow to her ego.
Because of my mother's sabatoging and competitive nature, I chose not to tell her about my choice to undergo VSG.

Finally went this morning and I feel you pain, literally lol

I went on day 2 and it hurt like the dickens!! Then last week turns out I had a small bowel obstruction and that caused some Constipation that I didn’t know was happening because I thought the way I felt was supposed to be normal. Now I’m having to take Miralax 3x/day until my post op follow up appointment. Hopefully all is still good and I won’t have to keep taking stool softeners.

I'm so sorry you are going through this! Complications after surgery are so frustrating and discouraging... One thing to remember, anesthesia can cause depression after surgery. It doesn't last forever, but it can really depress your mood and have you feeling low. So remember to give yourself some grace during this period. You just had major surgery and your body is fighting off an infection, snuggle up on the couch with your feet up, hydrate well, and only get up for short walks to keep your circulation up.

After I had a hysterectomy for cancer I really didn't understand what "go slowly" was until my body fought back and I ended up with a bladder infection from the catheter. When they say slow they mean SLOW! One thing that really helped me was someone on a forum saying "You only heal ONCE!" That really hit home for me. You only heal from this surgery once, so be sure to lavish as much care on yourself as you would your best friend. It seems like forever now but you'll be through this soon! ❤️

Thankfully you had the good sense to go to the docs for antibiotics. If you feel any worse go to the hospital. Don't worry about your incision site, it will not hurt to be reopened, you will be a sleep or had local anaesthetic.
Everyone having this surgery has their hormones all over the place, so feeling discouraged and depressed are quite normal. Lots of us have the ' OMG what have I done ' moment. Roll on a few months and you will be ok and super happy that you did this. Hang in there and take things as slow as you can. Hugs

As someone who has had a plethora of complications from my 1st surgery and then 1 or 2 small ones with my revision, I can 100% understand how you're feeling. But try to remember that our bodies go haywire after major surgery like this. It will eventually calm down, and when it does, it will all be worth it. No matter what, I still don't regret either surgery. I'm so much stronger, healthier, I got off 4 meds, I'm no longer diabetic or have high blood pressure, I can do a 3 1/2 mile hike with no issues, I can work out 5 days a week and really push myself, and my mobility is SO SO much better. The complications are temporary but the benefits are permanent.

Thanks so much for your kind words. I’m so scared right now and trying to be positive. It’s hard to do when you’ve got an open wound. I went to the doctor and they had to reopen the incision anD pack it with gauze. I’ve never had anything like this happen before and starting to regret having this surgery.

So sorry to hear that, it's good that you had it checked out and discovered what was wrong before it got worse. Hope you're on the mend ❤️

I had my gastric bypass surgery on 9/26/2023 and was doing ok recovery until this week. I’ve been in unbearable pain and went to the urgent care and unfortunately my longer incision has an infection. The pain is horrible and I knew something was so wrong because the oxycodone was doing nothing for my pain. Really got freaked out when it began draining in its own. It’s been non stop. 😭😭😭. Very stressed and angry that I’m still having issues and can’t get around better.

I had my gastric bypass surgery on 9/26/2023 and was doing ok recovery until this week. I’ve been in unbearable pain and went to the urgent care and unfortunately my longer incision has an infection. The pain is horrible and I knew something was so wrong because the oxycodone was doing nothing for my pain. Really got freaked out when it began draining in its own. It’s been non stop. 😭😭😭. Very stressed and angry that I’m still having issues and can’t get around better.

We all have the regrets at some point, its a whole new world. You need to give yourself a pat on the back for getting to a month out. I promise it will get better very soon. I did not appreciate how big a surgery it was TBH. It is a massive learning curve. Use your team when you need to, that's what they are there for. As we all have been given different regimes we do not know what yours entails
Lots of us can not make the liquid or Protein goals. As soon as you can, you will feel so much better. Try your hardest to get the liquid in. Hot, cold or frozen. It doesn't matter which, just sip all day long. Lots of us still take drinks to bed too. One day you will be able to drink easier. Your internal stitch line will calm down and the swelling will dissipate. Then you can take bigger mouthfuls.
Lots of liquid without food will made you nauseous too. Apparently we have the same amount of stomach acid as pre surgery and this rises [GERD] when we sleep lying flat. If this is a problem, try propping yourself on pillows, a bed wedge helped me.
I had to drop the Iron in my Vitamins, it made me super nauseous. Don't be afraid to go back a step if the next step is too far for you at the moment. I never did puree, just looking at it made me heave.
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Hi all! I’ve got my surgery this upcoming Tuesday and I’m struggling with making a schedule for my daily Vitamins. Feeling very overwhelmed. Any suggestions or templates any one can provide?