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Brad,

I have the mirena, and my husband didn't notice the strings, but my doctor also cut them fairly short when it was implanted.

He really didn't like the nuva ring when I was on it several years ago, and I didn't give him a choice this time with the mirena, lol.

As far as the eroscillator. Yes, it is expensive, but it comes highly recommended, and it will probably last for several years. I usually end up spending quite a bit on buying luxury sex toys since quality does really count. I think you can also buy the standard eroscillator and not have to purchase every attachment as there are a lot.

What are you talking about? I could use a boost.

Lol, of now I'm confused.

I was providing an answer to Beth's sex toy question.

The toy is not meant to be penetrative, but rather you use it directly on your clit. Many women find it difficult to orgasm while having sex without direct clitoral stimulation. This toy looks like a good bet that you can use during sex or while going solo. :laugh:

Holy moly I'm surprised you have had so many fills so quickly. I was banded a month before you and have and am not scheduled for the second fill until after Christmas. It's weird how each doctor has his own rules.

Hey Beth!

Although I haven't personally tried it, I did a little research and it comes highly recommended!!!

It's not penetrative, so if you need a little clitoral boost, it looks like a good bet. Enjoy, and let me know how it goes.....I might have to get one myself :huh2:

Hopeful thanks for the question!

Yes, it is very very common for women to fantasize about other women....what's not to like really, we are soft, sensual, smell good, and pretty damn hot!

As you can probably tell, I have a very healthy appetite and fantasize about women often. It doesn't help matters that I give expert oral sex (have even given workshops to gay men in San Francisco, lol) and think I would totally go to town on a hot female!

I have also been very happily married for 13 years and been with my husband a total of 17 years. He isn't quite as into my sapphic fantasies as I am, and that is alright.

In reality, she would probably have to be one amazing and hot women for me to get weak in the knees :huh2: I am still totally open to that happening one day, and my husband and I will just have to talk it through if that day ever comes. I'm sure the guys reading this are getting pretty excited about now, lol!

So relax and totally enjoy one of the most commom female fantasies!!

I, like many of us on this site, was self pay.

It is not easy to come up with and part with close to 20k, but many also consider it the best thing they have ever spent their money on.

My insurance simply did not cover bariatric surgery.

I found a great APR through Capital One credit and ended up financing the hospital and anesthesia fees while paying my surgeon's fee upfront. In total, my surgery cost 17k.

There are many ways to finance it, and believe me that people can get very creative when finding a way to pay for this surgery.

My humble advice to you is to stop praying for a miracle. Be creative and proactive into looking into all the different ways you can finance the surgery. Good luck.

Holy cow I am at a loss as what to say!

Adrian, it kinda seems like everything about your situation is backwards. While it is no uncommon for people to go through surgery only to come out without a band, the vast majority of people know exactly why they are without band. For instance, fatty liver or large hernia that needs repair are only two examples.

I am also self pay, and there is absolutely NO way I would let my surgeon operate on me again without knowing exactly what the complications were in detail. Because I was self pay, my surgery was scheduled about one month after my first meeting with my surgeon. In the iterim, I read about 5 different books and was on this website educating myself about the process.

I am shocked you got your first fill only 2 weeks after surgery! I wasn't even hungry 2 weeks later, and I could physically tell I was still swollen from surgery. Then to get another fill right after that seems really contraindicated.

I know this isn't the most comforting post. I sincerely hope things work out ok for you.

Congrats Steve!!

Btw, I love your lap-band party foods :shades_smile:

I think the bariatric doctor your primary sent you to can go suck it! You might want to check into another bariatric doctor that may be in group, or even consider going to a different doctor altogether if you don't find one you like through your pcp. If you found one you like, you can always petition your insurance agency to get him or her approved.

I was self pay so I didn't have to go through the the whole insurance run around. I absolutely love my surgeon and my trust in him made both my surgery and aftercare fairly easy. Bottom line, find a surgeon you feel comfortable with, and the entire process will go much more smoothly.

I've been banded a little over 2 months and am loving the results.

Yes, it's hard to make good food choices everyday, but it's a heck of a lot better then always thinking or worrying about food 24 hours a day!

The best way I can describe the feeling is you know what it's like to go food shopping right after you have eaten? You're really not too concerned with food because you are satiated right? Well, that's how I feel the majority of the time now.

It's not that I am no longer interested in food; it's just that I am no longer consumed with food thoughts because I mostly feel full.

I'm excited to see where the next few months will take me and my band!!

Yay I still have mine.

My doctor put me on 6 months of Actigall to try to bring my chance of gallstones down to under 3%. Apparently, WLS result in gallstones about 30% of the time, and he uses actigall with all his wls patients.

1 week seems waay too soon to me, but them I'm just going by my doctor's schedule. He simply won't do a fill before 30 days (of course you can get an unfill at any time if you are uncomfortable).

I'm personally very wary of any doctor who is way too aggressive with fills. Any fill runs the risk of extra swelling, and that can really become problematic if food gets stuck, and some people have had to have total unfills when that happens. Good luck!

I'm really interested in hearing from other people too!

My BMI was around 36 I think. I'm currently at BMI 31 and plan on doing naked cartwheels when I hit a regular BMI.

Hi Charlotte,

Congrats on your great success.

Since you are new here, you might want to check out the lapband complications thread. There is lots of discussion about fluro and people talking about possible leaks or slips.

Good luck and I hope you find your answers.

Wallisj,

I'm sorry to hear you are so unhappy with your band.

You might want to post this in (or check out) the life after lapband removal or lapband complications threads as there are many other people going through similar issues.

Good luck.

Congrats Kelin and thanks for sharing your success!

Hi Babe,

I could be getting old, but i swore I saw someone else asked this questions a few months ago.

If no one responds to the thread, you might want to try doing a search for midband.

Hi everyone,

Pre-band as I put on more and more weight, I became consumed with thoughts about food. Actually, I think I mostly thought about craving foods for me like chocolate, cakes, pie, ice-cream, etc.. I knew that these were the foods I always had to severely restrict or I would just pile the pounds on :mad2:

Don't get me wrong, I still love those foods, but now that I am banded, I simply don't think about food all that much. I could not have imagined just how radical the change is. I no longer go to bed thinking about my favorite foods and wake up thinking about how I need to stay on track least I continue to gain.

I had no friggin idea just how much time I used to spend thinking about food and that it was a normal thing for me. Now I actually feel like I should pick up a hobby or two since I seem to have more free time, lol. Anyone have any suggestions!

My surgeon mentioned that I wouldn't be very hungry, but never really emphasized that I wouldn't think about food much. Actually, I doubt I would have believed him back then.

I still can't get used to how weird this aspect of my new life is!:blushing:

My port is placed on the left side about one inch higher and to the left my my belly button.

I have one incision close to my bra line but thank god its really small since I pretty much wear minimizer bras each and every day.

I'm at 24 pounds and counting....only a few months since being banded and doing great!!

Fireman,

I'm so glad you are updating us on your situation!

I have wondered what is happening and sending you my sincere and most supportive e-thoughts.

How has all this been affecting your weight loss journey?

I had a book too. Our school nurse gave us one in 4th grade I think. My left boob is a lot bigger than my right and I really hate it.

Carrie, are you left handed?

I noticed my right breast is bigger then my left cause it's my dominant hand!

This has to be one of the hardest things to go through and I hope you can find some refuge here while going through this difficult time.

My best to everyone.

I am so curious as to what will happen to my lady lumps. I began with a 38dddd(g) bra size and all I can say is that after losing close to 25 pounds, my bras fit soooooo much better. Who the heck knows what size they really were before I lost the weight since they seem to fit well into my older bras now, lol.

I hated anesthesia, and would really like to avoid another surgery at all cost, but am also a bit scared to see what happens to them after time and gravity.

Sorry I don't want to hijack the thread, but I simply have to say Jacqui has perhaps the best responses around here!

She is a true inspiration!

Fatman, I loooove your name and couldn't help smiling at the thought of Chris Farley in Tommy Boy!