Silly YaYa

This is a phenomenon I refer to as the "One A$$hole Rule"...somebody did it, now we've all got to be told not to LOL

I feel like a lot of practices write their guidelines with the expectation that you, the bariatric patient, are the single dumbest person who has ever walked the earth. If there's even the slightest chance that something could be problematic for anyone, they'll just forbid it for everyone, because you can't be trusted to, like, adapt or think or anything.
And maybe they actually had a patient who was the single dumbest person who has ever walked the earth. That person put a piece of chicken in the microwave and let it go for 60 seconds and still choked it down, but then they got a tummy ache.
Now no one gets to have warm leftovers.
Maybe they had one patient who thought that 'black coffee" meant a triple-caramel venti machiatto.
Now no one gets to have no-cal brewed caffeine Beans.
Maybe they had one patient who guzzled full-sugar Mountain Dew by the bottle post-op.
Now you can't have a sip of champagne at your wedding.
My dietician told me I can't have Soup, because some people have trouble with it. Great, that's terrible for them. I've perfected my soup technique and I'm pretty sure that I'm not going to balloon back into super obesity because I had a cup of chicken noodle, so leave off.

I recommend reframing your weight loss mindset. If you can't help but focus on the number, try to look at it as *total* weight lost, not just since surgery. Try to focus on *all* the progress you have made. It can help your morale when you are feeling impatient with yourself.
And absolutely, hide that scale from yourself! The number is only one way to measure your progress. Is it easier to move, breathe? Do you have more stamina? How are your clothes fitting?
Hang in there! 🤗

I recommend reframing your weight loss mindset. If you can't help but focus on the number, try to look at it as *total* weight lost, not just since surgery. Try to focus on *all* the progress you have made. It can help your morale when you are feeling impatient with yourself.
And absolutely, hide that scale from yourself! The number is only one way to measure your progress. Is it easier to move, breathe? Do you have more stamina? How are your clothes fitting?
Hang in there! 🤗

Hi everyone,
I'm 53. Standard yoyo dieting over the last 30 years...each time I gain, it's more than I lost. I have a lot to live for, so I'm getting the RNY gastric bypass. I don't have a surgery date yet, but it's looking like it will be in August.
I live with my son, dil, and 2 grandkids. I want to live a long time to be a part of the family for years to come.
The only weight related diagnoses I have (shockingly, with a BMI of 59!) are high blood pressure and sleep apnea. My labs are great: Cholesterol is 176 with an HDL of 57, Triglycerides are 114, A1c is 5. We attribute that to having good genes, and boy, am I grateful for them!
I have chronic, severe, treatment-resistant, depression, so everything is harder than it should be. Even when I don't feel like I have a lot to live for, I make myself do it anyway. I take baby steps until I can see progress and then take bigger steps. This decision, though, to get surgery, is different. I actually have hope, and it feels strange because it's been a long time. I feel motivated, and that's new too. I'm hoping that being able to move and be active will help to decrease the depression, because I would like to avoid ECT if at all possible. I also have a hip problem and am on bedrest 90% of the time, per my orthopedic surgeon's orders. I can't have this fixed until I am down to 200#, so that's another motivator for me.
I hope to get and give lots of good info here, and look forward to reading ya'll!

Hi everyone,
I'm 53. Standard yoyo dieting over the last 30 years...each time I gain, it's more than I lost. I have a lot to live for, so I'm getting the RNY gastric bypass. I don't have a surgery date yet, but it's looking like it will be in August.
I live with my son, dil, and 2 grandkids. I want to live a long time to be a part of the family for years to come.
The only weight related diagnoses I have (shockingly, with a BMI of 59!) are high blood pressure and sleep apnea. My labs are great: Cholesterol is 176 with an HDL of 57, Triglycerides are 114, A1c is 5. We attribute that to having good genes, and boy, am I grateful for them!
I have chronic, severe, treatment-resistant, depression, so everything is harder than it should be. Even when I don't feel like I have a lot to live for, I make myself do it anyway. I take baby steps until I can see progress and then take bigger steps. This decision, though, to get surgery, is different. I actually have hope, and it feels strange because it's been a long time. I feel motivated, and that's new too. I'm hoping that being able to move and be active will help to decrease the depression, because I would like to avoid ECT if at all possible. I also have a hip problem and am on bedrest 90% of the time, per my orthopedic surgeon's orders. I can't have this fixed until I am down to 200#, so that's another motivator for me.
I hope to get and give lots of good info here, and look forward to reading ya'll!

Hi YaYa!

I too am a Grand Parent and made the same decision based on wanting to live long for them.
It sounds like you are in the right frame of mind to get this done. Everyone crosses the line and makes that final decision. Congrats!
Going into this with depression will be a little harder, in my opinion, because most of this journey is mental. My best advice to you is to make sure you have a counselor or therapist to touch base with. Does your team provide you with this? if not, make sure to ask them.

My own journey has uncovered some eating issues that I’m dealing with, and I am working through the reasons and finding it very insightful. It’s amazing how things get connected in your mind.
You are correct on the mobility as you lose weight it will get better. Heck just washing myself in the shower is easier, I have more room! LOL.
There will be ups and downs. You can always check in here to find someone who has been through the same issues. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, you are not alone.
Your motivation is key, find strength in that… make it your prime focus.
If a doubt creeps in, look towards your son and grandbabies, and remember that long life you will have!

Welcome! We all, I think, come to a place where we are faced with a "this is my reason for doing this" moment. For me, at 40, my health was deteriorating very quickly. I had to do something. I still have kids at home, a husband, a life... seriously, I'm just 40.
I also have depression, anxiety, PTSD, and BPD. I've been on so many different medications to try to treat my diagnoses. It's a lot of work managing mental health. I also lean very heavily on my faith to get through.
It is key to build a great and supportive of the bariatric surgery mental health team. Therapy and a great med provider are very helpful. Medications will need to be closely monitored as you lose weight quickly. And therapy is SO important. A lot of mental space is needed after surgery, and therapy helps sort out all that's running through your mind.
If your insurance pays for it, there are also other non medication options for depression such as TMS. I did that a few years ago, and it helped take the edge off. It's definitely something to speak to a psychiatrist about. Some people also do ketamine treatment for depression. My insurance didn't pay for it, so I can not speak to it effectiveness.
I do have to say, losing weight has been a huge boost in confidence and has helped me feel less depressed. Also, exercise has had the same effect. Keep pushing through. You got this.

Welcome in this great forum. You will be on the other side of the op before you know it. August is so near. I believe there is a August thread you could join.
I read lots of the back pages of this forum and it gave me a lot of knowledge I needed later. If you have any questions just ask. As we are world wide, there is always someone here.

Hello! I am new here, so I am still finding my way. I had weight gain his me over the past 10+ yrs. like it came on overnight. And I've tried and tried to diet but I always fall back-to-back habits. I had an eye-opening moment where I thought to myself, "You don't really see a lot of overweight elderly people" and that thought hit me hard. I am 40 and much too young to feel this old! My joints ache, my ankles swell, my back hurts, I have high blood pressure, sleep apnea, GERD and anxiety out the wazoo. I am nowhere near ready to die, and I sort of had a "come to Jesus" moment with myself and knew I had to get serious about my weight and health. I have so much to live for and I don't plan on going anywhere any time soon!! I am a mother to a wonderful adult son. I have an amazing boyfriend and a family whom I love dearly. I love my job and have so many blessings that I don't want to take for granted. I keep telling myself "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels", and I know that has to be true. I have one more appointment with my PCP before I can be submitted for insurance approval, and then hopefully a surgery date!

Hello and welcome. One day very soon you will wake up and your bad symptoms will have disappeared. Its amazing. I feel as if I have had a new life, I gallop around now and do stuff that I never thought possible. Once you are through the early rough patch and are on real food again you will already know you made the right decision. Congratulations on starting the whole new version of you

Hi there! I'm pretty new here as well. I appreciate being here, and it's a pleasure to meet you all. Yaya and Flowergirl, I can relate on a few levels. I join some of you in the grandparent category. I'd like to keep up with my little darlings and be here for them. I've been learning a lot from the seasoned group here and I'm grateful to those of you willing to stick around and share. I ruled out WLS 2+ years ago for, well, weight loss. But in January, liver disease and increasing health issues brought me back. If you would have told me a year ago I would have been motivated by health reasons I wouldn't have believed you. At age 62, it's time to act. I'm scheduled for sleeve surgery on July 27th. I wish you all well in your journey!

Hi everyone,
I'm 53. Standard yoyo dieting over the last 30 years...each time I gain, it's more than I lost. I have a lot to live for, so I'm getting the RNY gastric bypass. I don't have a surgery date yet, but it's looking like it will be in August.
I live with my son, dil, and 2 grandkids. I want to live a long time to be a part of the family for years to come.
The only weight related diagnoses I have (shockingly, with a BMI of 59!) are high blood pressure and sleep apnea. My labs are great: Cholesterol is 176 with an HDL of 57, Triglycerides are 114, A1c is 5. We attribute that to having good genes, and boy, am I grateful for them!
I have chronic, severe, treatment-resistant, depression, so everything is harder than it should be. Even when I don't feel like I have a lot to live for, I make myself do it anyway. I take baby steps until I can see progress and then take bigger steps. This decision, though, to get surgery, is different. I actually have hope, and it feels strange because it's been a long time. I feel motivated, and that's new too. I'm hoping that being able to move and be active will help to decrease the depression, because I would like to avoid ECT if at all possible. I also have a hip problem and am on bedrest 90% of the time, per my orthopedic surgeon's orders. I can't have this fixed until I am down to 200#, so that's another motivator for me.
I hope to get and give lots of good info here, and look forward to reading ya'll!

Hi everyone,
I'm 53. Standard yoyo dieting over the last 30 years...each time I gain, it's more than I lost. I have a lot to live for, so I'm getting the RNY gastric bypass. I don't have a surgery date yet, but it's looking like it will be in August.
I live with my son, dil, and 2 grandkids. I want to live a long time to be a part of the family for years to come.
The only weight related diagnoses I have (shockingly, with a BMI of 59!) are high blood pressure and sleep apnea. My labs are great: Cholesterol is 176 with an HDL of 57, Triglycerides are 114, A1c is 5. We attribute that to having good genes, and boy, am I grateful for them!
I have chronic, severe, treatment-resistant, depression, so everything is harder than it should be. Even when I don't feel like I have a lot to live for, I make myself do it anyway. I take baby steps until I can see progress and then take bigger steps. This decision, though, to get surgery, is different. I actually have hope, and it feels strange because it's been a long time. I feel motivated, and that's new too. I'm hoping that being able to move and be active will help to decrease the depression, because I would like to avoid ECT if at all possible. I also have a hip problem and am on bedrest 90% of the time, per my orthopedic surgeon's orders. I can't have this fixed until I am down to 200#, so that's another motivator for me.
I hope to get and give lots of good info here, and look forward to reading ya'll!

Hi everyone,
I'm 53. Standard yoyo dieting over the last 30 years...each time I gain, it's more than I lost. I have a lot to live for, so I'm getting the RNY gastric bypass. I don't have a surgery date yet, but it's looking like it will be in August.
I live with my son, dil, and 2 grandkids. I want to live a long time to be a part of the family for years to come.
The only weight related diagnoses I have (shockingly, with a BMI of 59!) are high blood pressure and sleep apnea. My labs are great: Cholesterol is 176 with an HDL of 57, Triglycerides are 114, A1c is 5. We attribute that to having good genes, and boy, am I grateful for them!
I have chronic, severe, treatment-resistant, depression, so everything is harder than it should be. Even when I don't feel like I have a lot to live for, I make myself do it anyway. I take baby steps until I can see progress and then take bigger steps. This decision, though, to get surgery, is different. I actually have hope, and it feels strange because it's been a long time. I feel motivated, and that's new too. I'm hoping that being able to move and be active will help to decrease the depression, because I would like to avoid ECT if at all possible. I also have a hip problem and am on bedrest 90% of the time, per my orthopedic surgeon's orders. I can't have this fixed until I am down to 200#, so that's another motivator for me.
I hope to get and give lots of good info here, and look forward to reading ya'll!