SleeveToBypass2023

How are things going now? Are you feeling any better? Did you get tot he bottom of what is causing the pain?

How are things going now?

How are things going for you now?

You're actually not doing bad at all. You're averaging 11 pounds lost per month. That's above average. Typical weight loss is 1-2 pounds per week (4-8 pounds per month). So don't worry about the number on the scale. You're actually doing quite well.

Hey girl!!! So how are you doing now? Are things better? I've been away from here for a good while, but now that I'm back, I wanted to jump on your thread and tell you how proud of you I am that you saw what was happening, you were honest with yourself how things got to where they were, and you worked to fix them. That takes guts and a lot of hard work.

The title pretty much sums it up. I keep thinking about the workouts I need to do, the walks I need to take, the beginners pilates and yoga I need to start....and I honestly just don't feel like it. I WANT to do it and I don't feel like it at the same time. I have no idea how that works exactly, but here we are. My husband thinks it might be a bit of depression because I started a GoFundMe to raise the funds I need to complete my certifications to move up at work and get better pay. I've asked everyone I know to please share it where they can (I have NOT asked anyone I personally know to donate, but the more it's shared, the better the chances of hitting the goal) but there's been NO movement on it at all. I'm not sure if it's being shared or not and I really hate having to make it to begin with. My husband thinks being so bummed about that is affecting everything else, including doing my hair (I usually at the very least maintain it, but now I just throw it in a pony tail or headband and call it good) and working out. I'm not usually a depressed person so I'm not super familiar with how it feels. But it does make sense. I'm more motivated to get stuff taken care of professionally, but I know I can't let my health slip. Any suggestions on how I can get my motivation back? Anyone else experience anything like this?

I first came to this board in March of 2022. I had my 1st surgery (sleeve) in May 2022. I had my revision to bypass (due to A LOT of complications with the sleeve) in June of 2023. Since then I have been complication free. But I was struggling to maintain my weight. I was put on a diet and exercise regimen to gain and then maintain my weight. Well, my metabolism finally sorted itself out, but I wasn't paying attention. I was supposed to weigh myself once a week to see how things are going. I went 4 weeks without weighing myself. And I was just eating whatever I wanted in hopes I would gain. And boy oh boy, I did gain. I went from 176 to 190 in 5 weeks. That shocked me, because I wanted to get to 180 - 183. Now I have to stop eating willy nilly, get my diet back on track, and focus more on my workouts. I became lax with what I needed to do and I found myself going back to old eating habits. Examples include eating whatever I wanted, even when it went against my diet. Not working out as much as I was supposed to because I was tired or didn't feel like it. Eating when I was bored. Eating something because it's there, not because I was hungry. Grazing all day and night, which was ALWAYS my issue. I'm telling you all this because I've seen so many posts where some of you guys really beat yourself up for messing up. You're afraid you'll undo all your progress. I admit, that has creeped into my mind a bit, but I remind myself that I know what to do and what not to do. I know how to get back on track. And I know how to give myself grace while still holding myself accountable. It's just a matter of doing it. So I'm going to course correct, get back to the proper diet and exercise routine, and really work on my eating habits. Just know that EVERYONE can slip up. It's not the end of the world....even if it feels like it is. Just own up to your mistakes, correct your actions, eat and exercise properly, and it'll all be ok. And with that, I need to go work out. Have a good one, and wish me luck that I get this sorted.

Thank you so much, guys. I love that this is a safe space to speak our truths about this surgery. So many people think it's a miracle cure, and it's not. We have to do the work. It really is just a tool for us to use while we do the work. You guys have been so supportive. Thank you so much. I'm going to go back to weighing once per week, meal prepping again, sticking to my diet, and start back with my work out plan. I'll work to lose 10 pounds, to get back to the weight I'm happiest at. You all are awesome!!!

What surprised me was all of the food allergies I got after my surgery. I never had ANY, and now I'm lactose intolerant, allergic to peanuts, and DEATHLY allergic to shellfish. I also hate the constipation. No matter what I eat or how much I drink, I have to take Miralax every morning and sometimes at night, too. And when it's REALLY bad (as in, I haven't pooped in 4 or more days) I have to take a stool softener and laxative to get things moving. I use to poop everyday with no issues. Now...I have ALL the issues.

My initial goal weight was 200 pounds. I hit that and thought "I'd like to be in ONEderland so I'm gonna keep going" and I got to my new goal weight of 190. Then I dropped well below that, gained the excess back, and I'm at 190 again. I need to lose about 7 or 8 pounds to get back into "wiggle room territory" and maintain it. But yes, I definitely had a secret goal that i never thought I would see lol

When I had my surgery, I had long straight (with a slight wave to it) hair. After the surgery, I treated myself to a haircut (and I got it cut layered, which I normally don't do) and when I did, my hair literally curled lol I always knew I had wavy hair, but I had no idea it had so much curl lol People keep asking if I got a perm and I say no. But I don't think they believe me lol

I did super well with not paying attention to the head hunger, but in the last 3 months it's come roaring back. It's super hard to ignore sometimes. When that happens, I try to have smaller meals more often and add an extra snack. It's been a while since my surgery, and while I can't eat like I used to, I can eat larger meals now. And when the head hunger hits, I try to "fool" my brain into thinking I'm eating more when I'm actually eating the same amount but broken up into smaller portions so my brain sees me eating again and again and thinks I'm eating more. It sounds weird, but for me it actually works. And I prioritize protein (some days I hit 100g of protein) because it fills me up and keeps me full longer.

I am...now. I had a sleeve in 2022 and had SO many complications and I was miserable. I had a revision to bypass in 2023 and honestly, it's been amazing. I 100% love that I had the revision. I recommend the bypass to everyone. It literally solved all my issues. And I'm so thankful that I got my life back. I take meds for severe anxiety, for MS, and for lupus. The only real issue with meds are extended release with the bypass. But if you can find a way around that then you'll be fine.

I can't use any student loans for these certifications. I tried a loan and my credit isn't good enough. Part of the reason I want to get the certifications is so I can make more money and repair my credit. And also to catch up on bills and finally build my nest egg back up. My husband is disabled and I'm the main breadwinner, so this is REALLY important. I don't have anything left to sell, so the crowd funding is all I have left to try. But I'm not going to let it get to me. Or at least, I'm going to try not to. I'm going on a hike in a little while and then I'm going to take a long shower and take a nap. And then I'm going to spend the rest of the day chillaxing and watching true crime on youtube.

I'm just so frustrated. I have so many things I want to do and complete and accomplish. My GoFundMe has had zero traction (not sure if it's even being shared, tbh), money is so tight, and there's just no wiggle room right now. I need to get these certifications to move up and make more money, but I don't currently make enough to be able to do that, so I'm stuck at the wage I'm currently at. It's enough to get by and pay the bills, but there's NOTHING left over to pay for the things I need to get ahead and do better. UGH....... I made myself work out yesterday and today, and even though I didn't want to, I did it anyway. And I honestly felt a little better. I'm prepping some meals that way I can just grab them and go and not worry about it. I definitely still take care of my hygiene and I'm completely safe (and will stay that way).

That sounds amazing!!! I've always wanted to go to Athens and Mykonos and Crete. Maybe someday it'll happen....

OMG that sounds absolutely amazing. Where in Greece do you go?

You're going to Greece??? I'm absolutely SO jealous. That's my life's dream, to go to Greece. I love all things Greek so so much. Have fun!!!

@SpartanMaker situational depression sounds about right. I've never had depression, so what you said makes sense. Thank you so much for what you said, and for the tips. @BlondePatriotInCDA and @NickelChip, thank you so much for your posts. It helps knowing others feel this way and I'm not going crazy lol I knew posting here would help. When I tried to explain this to people in real life, they always say "what are you bummed about, you lost all the weight, you look great, and your career is on track. Why be upset about the funding? Just go along to get along." And it's SO frustrating. I want to move up in my career SO BAD and I hate that funding is stopping me. I want to tone up and build up my lean muscle, but it's frustrating that feeling upset about my inability to move forward professionally is potentially stopping me from caring about doing what I need to do healthwise. UGH.....

Doesn't sound like a hernia. I had one that had to be surgically repaired. But I can do the same thing with my belly button that you were describing. No pain, just feels weird. First noticed it in the shower like a year ago when I was cleaning it. I never thought to ask the surgeon about it because it doesn't hurt or cause me any trouble.

I had a sleeve in 2022 and had a revision to bypass in 2023 due to complications. I had little to no pain, I was up and moving around with ease, I've really had a great experience. And I've lost quite a bit of weight with the revision, even though that wasn't why I got the surgery to begin with. I have ZERO regrets.

Absolutely AWESOME!!!! I'm so happy for you

I'm right there with you when it comes to my arms. I need ALL the things done, but my first priorities are my neck and arms. I use Spanx right now to keep my skin in place on my thighs and stomach, so I'm not quite as worried about that right now. Second to be done will likely be a boob job (I used to be a DD, now I'm a small B). Third would likely be a tummy tuck, 4th would be a lower body lift (including butt lift). That's really the order based on priority for me. I have a ton of loose skin on my face, so I may look into that one day, but that would be well after everything else is done.

I have no idea why I feel this way. I'm finally down to 1 more surgery (my hysterectomy) and then I'm totally done with hospitals. I'm healing well from my hernia surgery (even did a VERY light workout today for the first time in a month since I'm only 3 1/2 weeks out). I love my job, I'm feeling good, our rent is paid and we have plenty of food, car is running well, gas tank is full, finally stable again. Hubby and I get along great, kids and granddaughter are doing well. It's driving me nuts that I can't figure out why I feel down. Normally I'm excited about the new year. I don't get SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder), and I was fine up until about 2 days ago. I don't suffer from depression, so it's just really bugging me. What in the world do I have to be down about???

So a month and a half ago I started working 12 hour shifts overnight 3-4 days per week. Everyone said by now my body would adapt, but that hasn't happened. Instead, as time goes on, I'm getting more and more fatigued. I sleep all day and wake up feeling like I haven't slept at all. My joints hurt all the time. I talked to my doctor and my nutritionist and they said to get more rest, eat more dark leafy greens, increase my protein, and maybe drink some coffee. I've done all that and it's been no help at all. Then I was told "maybe you shouldn't do overnights" but that's not an option. It's a requirement for my job. Energy drinks don't work on me (I'm not caffeine sensitive so no matter how much I drink of it, I don't get any kind of a boost) and b-12 doesn't do anything for me, either. I'm at a loss now and I was hoping some of you might have some suggestions. Thanks in advance!!!