Dfidelman

So some more developments sleep has been crap but I've been avoiding edibles because I'm so close out from surgery. But my mental health has gone to ****.
I think I am doing the stuff most people do at the beginning. I want to avoid everyone. I'm about 2 seconds from snapping and eating normally and flipping my doctors off because that's been a trip already to say the least. And im going stir crazy.
Yes I have hobbies. But even then tell that to my starved mind body and spirit to stay motivated and that's provided I don't feel tired or too sick to my stomach to continue on.
I hate this I hate it so much. I have to watch tiktoks of people spilling food . Commercials everywhere. Family and friends shopping their food like pigs and all I want to do is eat and probably cry in the process while doing so. It even angers me to watch my roommates fill their bellies with supper then eat Snacks like a damn bachelor pad for just one person or take the experience for granted when I can't eat a lick of it for months. And blast it all the damn weather. At least I could go for a walk if it was warmer but nope I live where it's cold all the damn time. Ugh. Sorry I'm just beyond frustrated. I love you all and grateful you all have been here for me. I couldn't be strong without you.

I'm sorry you had such a hard time my friend. I hope you are doing a lot better. This journey is harder than most of us realized. But we got to stick together we got this.

yeah i think I am going to try that. I have a fitness gym at work that I can do and maybe this will get me up going enough so I am not upset or at least let me get some of those negative emotions out. I just feel stuck as a whole with life and just wanted to let go in not the best ways like get high all the time or depression sleep or whatever. its just a bigger sad spike than im used to recently. I thank you for the support my friend. *hugs*

I can relate. I became a recluse the last few years of my life. Rarely left my home and found excuses to avoid any type of social events. Now, 6 weeks out from surgery, I have a new sense of hope. So I'm trying to change my mindset.
Not sure if you exercise but doing so will help increase endorphins. The feel good chemicals in the brain. I made myself leave the house and walk outdoors in the sunshine today. First time in years.. Only a little over a mile around a lake at a local park. It was a first for my little Rat Terrier too. I think she loved it even more than I did. When done... tired but felt like a million bucks.
I have a few edibles lying around too and my vape but saving those for a future rainy day;)
Hope you get to feeling better soon!!! {{hugs}}

There is some Gatorade Protein Water. I’m in the Preop diet phase. My surgery is 4/20 but I’ve been drinking these Gatorade Protein Water and they’re awesome. My doctor said these were fine and they have 10grams of Protein in each bottle.

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Thanks so much. I have a zoom with the nurse and group on Tuesday. We all had surgery the same few days so I will ask

I am on day 4 after bypass and tried my Decaf coffee with coffee mate and threw it up. Then for lunch I tried some strawberry Protein Shake and threw it up. I have kept down chicken broth, clear Protein drin, hot tea, Water with crystal light and sugar free Jello, I am think maybe the coffee mate and the protein shake is too rich yet. Afraid to try the greek yogurt or pudding yet. Did anyone else have this

You’d know if it was dumping. Cold sweats, heart palpitations, nausea, cramping, dizziness, etc. More likely just your tummy reacting. The potatoes could be too heavy/dense because of their starch content. I wasn’t allowed potatoes (for the starch reason too) until maintenance though I know many are allowed them from purée. I still can’t eat them - too heavy in my tummy. Could have been the mayo too. Lots of trial & error as your tummy is healing & recovering. The taste, smell or texture of some foods can set off your tummy.

You can try adding some greek plain yogurt to the Beans to thin them out or broth.< br>
Not sure about the dumping. But I was advised to stay aeay from starchy veggies in pureed food since they are high in carbs and sugar, and do not provide any Protein.< br>
I mainly had crab salad, soft fish, hummus, beans, Soups, chicken mousse

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I use Oikos tripe zero yogurt they have 15g per small container, they also have Oikos Pro (more sugar) with 20g and Ratio yogurts have 25g of Protein. If you like chocolate milk, Fairlife Core Elite Protein Shake taste like it (or what I recall choco milk tasted when I was little, do not care for chocolate much as an adult) and its 42g of protein. I use those if I'm low on protein but use a 14oz bottle in 3 servings since I stay at 60g now that I'm 4 months.
I did not have any back pain but I still have discomfort and numbness on the left side where the stomach went out, is not by the incision but near the belly button. The RN said it was normal since nerves are cut and can be 6+ months for it to heal.
Regarding fullness cues, at the beg is hard because your stomach is healing and even just eating something new or a new texture will have some sort of reaction which we confuse with fullness or damage. I will usually get hiccups at the beg and sometimes I do now too, but its usually more about me not chewing properly or eating too fast. My guidelines say to eat slow and take 30 min, so I will eat, take a break and continue if I want more within the timeline, otherwise save it for later.

One thing I've noticed mentally with this surgery and I've already had to explain it to so many people that think it's th easy way out Is that ...
1) my stomach is the same as your stomach just smaller.
2) It just reminds you of what you already knew what to do, you just didn't.
3) I still have to work as hard as everyone else I just have a harsher reality check now because I lacked discipline or whatever. (Medical issues etc.)
Like it's insane to me how much of this had to happen for half of it to stick. I know a lot was education the other half was convenience getting the best of me. My pcos etc played a small part. But I'm glad I'm here. And I am kicking butt and working through it.

Nice! I'll do some research. I appreciate the help so much

I know its tough some-days more than others. I remember thinking ....I thought I would have no more hunger!!
That was only true the first 60 days, but my feelings of hunger returned shortly after.
Commercials never bothered me, I
I find years later what bothers me , is I no longer do not enjoy any meals.
They over before you know it.
So take your time when you can eat.
I do have one regret, I wish I would have had to see a shrink more than just one time to see if I was ready for the surgery , it would have been nice to get to the root cause of the reason why I gained so much weight.
But I am happy and doing the head work years later.

It’s a brand called YoPro. I’m in Australia & don’t know if you have it. Annoyingly they don’t produce their yoghurt drink anymore. I like it better than Chobani which I found too sweet & was only 15g Protein. But others have mentioned 20g protein yoghurts available in the US I just can’t recall the brands.

I have a feeling they are not gonna be yay no matter what we do I just want my body not to reject them at this point. I can tough out not so yay but headaches, gas, almost throwing up, bloating etc is not cool.

I tried something like 15 different brands of Protein Shakes and my top three are Fairlife chocolate or strawberry banana, Ensure Max Nutrition in vanilla and Premier Protein Chocolate blended with 1oz banana and a scoop of PBFit. I really loved the Fairlife Vanilla (has the taste of melted DQ), but my taste buds shifted after surgery and now I have a hard time with it. *shrug* this process is pure sorcery. 🪄

Hello everyone,
I finally got to have my surgery this passed Monday. I had a vertical sleeve done. Pre op I went from 255.9 to 239.6 so very excited for that. Sadly that's not the reason I'm writing today. Sorry in advance this may get TMI.

So for me it is day 4. I called my nurses because I had only been on Water this whole time and just felt awful. They told me to just rest get some Protein water and apple juice because even though I was following the liquid diet to the letter my body needs those to function.
What I wasn't warned about was the bathroom issues. I literally take a sip and almost instantly to and hour later I'm upstairs with bad bathroom issues. My stomach feels like I have a kicking baby in my abdomin and the gurgle wow.
Did anyone else experience this? How long did it last?
It sucks. One more thing to worry about. My doctor said it will balance out once we get more food in me starting Tuesday. Help me survive the next few days. Please?

The hardest dairy item for me to get down is the shakes. I'm gonna focus on. The chocolate ones though those seem way easier right now. I have zero sugar chobani yogurts I love and the tomatoes Soup with milk diluting.
I'm also gonna see if heat pack helps things move along. It at least feels comforting. 😌

I found I had to change what I watched. So, I found a whole positive resource on YouTube about weight loss with healthy diet (no fads) and exercise. I also found gentle exercise videos and mental health videos. My goal was/is to find one new positive healthy habit to add to my life per week. This week was massage. It felt wonderful and I’m so grateful the PTO at my school paid for all the teachers to have one! Next is eye massaging I do for myself. Find other things to watch/read while in recovery beyond what you did before. Push yourself to be your best self

Thank you, Yes doing great now thanks, it will be 2 years July 28 for me.

Don't forget your hormones will be reeking havoc on your feelings and moods. I had a terrible time in my first few months post op. I spent 6 weeks curled up in a ball on my sisters couch. Cried multiple times a day for weeks thought I was going to die etc etc. it does get better and a lot easier every week

So some more developments sleep has been crap but I've been avoiding edibles because I'm so close out from surgery. But my mental health has gone to ****.
I think I am doing the stuff most people do at the beginning. I want to avoid everyone. I'm about 2 seconds from snapping and eating normally and flipping my doctors off because that's been a trip already to say the least. And im going stir crazy.
Yes I have hobbies. But even then tell that to my starved mind body and spirit to stay motivated and that's provided I don't feel tired or too sick to my stomach to continue on.
I hate this I hate it so much. I have to watch tiktoks of people spilling food . Commercials everywhere. Family and friends shopping their food like pigs and all I want to do is eat and probably cry in the process while doing so. It even angers me to watch my roommates fill their bellies with supper then eat Snacks like a damn bachelor pad for just one person or take the experience for granted when I can't eat a lick of it for months. And blast it all the damn weather. At least I could go for a walk if it was warmer but nope I live where it's cold all the damn time. Ugh. Sorry I'm just beyond frustrated. I love you all and grateful you all have been here for me. I couldn't be strong without you.

No judgements at all. You’re going through a lot. It’s pretty major surgery & you’ve made dramatic changes to your digestive system. If you are like many us, you look to food to comfort you & you can’t now. It’s to be expected that you are mentally, emotionally & physically stressed.
So you had a quesadilla chip. Once, one day is okay. It only becomes something to really worry about if you have one again tomorrow & again the next day & the next & you have 2 or 3 or more. Give yourself time for your body to heal & your head to catch - up. The fight is worth it.

Lots of plant based alternatives to dairy foods available now: milks, cheeses, yoghurts, etc., etc. Are you lactose intolerant or just don’t like it? (My mum doesn’t like yoghurt & cheese so I get that.) Give them a try instead of forcing yourself to eat traditional dairy.
There’ll be ups & downs along the way. Lot’s of new things to learn & discover about yourself & your tummy. I’m still learning at almost 4 years. Recently I discovered my tummy doesn’t like grated tasty cheese. Don’t know why. It may be okay with it next month.

Aah the joy of Constipation. Add a soluble, non swelling, fibre to your shakes to help & try to keep on top of it. You’re not eating much so not going everyday is to be expected. I used to take a stool softener if I got to the third (sometimes 4th) day with out any movement. Any longer & it became more difficult to break, more uncomfortable & then painful when you do go.
I diluted my hideous shakes as well to dilute the flavour & graininess & got bonus fluids. Didn’t care if it took me two hours to drink it. Just sipped until I was done. It can be hard at first to meet your Protein & fluid goals. As long as you’re making an effort & slowly getting closer. It does get easier.
Avoid social media. I think it’s the worst when it comes to promoting unhealthy eating behaviours, food choices & excessive portion sizes. I developed an aversion to those types of images. I would start to feel ill looking at them. I also avoided live tv & would record any programs so I could fast forward the food ads. Thank goodness for ad free steaming services. What was odd was that I could watch baking & cooking shows. British Bake-off, British MasterChef (all three), Great British Menu & Top Chef were my favourites & they didn’t make me hungry.
Don’t have any suggestions for coping with your house mates’ eating habits. I live alone. You can’t force them to eat as you do but maybe you could let them know it does make it difficult for you & you may have to leave the room they’re eating in. It is something you will always have to face. I rarely eat sweet foods but in time I reached a point where it didn’t bother me if people around me eat cake, deserts, etc. My niece had a box of cakes, brownies, cake pops, whoopi pies, cheese cakes, cup cakes, etc. samples for her 13th birthday last week. Everyone was filling their plates with a variety of things & I was fine - I ate a strawberry. As I said before - it does get easier over time. Just got to work out how you can manage it now - what works for you.