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journey2-199

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    journey2-199 got a reaction from GreenTealael in Weight loss, dating and confidence   
    Hi I’m 34 and looking forward to having the sleeve next year. I’m really hoping this surgery will boost my confidence and help me get back into the flow of dating. I’m so tired of being used, closet girlfriend or finding out I’m a side chick. Oh that’s hard to even write. It hurts and has caused me to kinda shut down on the dating. I’ve always been very out going, confident and enjoyed dating and I can’t wait to be there again.
    I’d love to hear some uplifting stories of dating success after survey.
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    journey2-199 got a reaction from GreenTealael in Weight loss, dating and confidence   
    Congratulations on the weight loss!! That is so amazing. I bet it feels amazing.

    I could totally see where your coming from. The thought of someone not liking me now but liking me then makes me feel yucky. Yes I physical will change but I’m still me. I’ve heard so many times your so petty but…..

    I live in Southern California where a big girl just doesn’t fit the scenery. It’s sad but the truth.
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    journey2-199 got a reaction from GreenTealael in Weight loss, dating and confidence   
    Now that is amazing!! I can’t wait tell I can say that! I look forward to so much. How much did you lose? Do you deal with lose skin? I’m 5’4 and 280.
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    journey2-199 got a reaction from GreenTealael in Weight loss, dating and confidence   
    Thank you both! I love the battle scars too! I think I’ll be using this for several friends that only see the negative. Thankfully I do love myself. Dating when your a bigger girl just sucks! Lol

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    journey2-199 got a reaction from GreenTealael in Weight loss, dating and confidence   
    Hi I’m 34 and looking forward to having the sleeve next year. I’m really hoping this surgery will boost my confidence and help me get back into the flow of dating. I’m so tired of being used, closet girlfriend or finding out I’m a side chick. Oh that’s hard to even write. It hurts and has caused me to kinda shut down on the dating. I’ve always been very out going, confident and enjoyed dating and I can’t wait to be there again.
    I’d love to hear some uplifting stories of dating success after survey.
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    journey2-199 reacted to Hopeful_Gal in Weight loss, dating and confidence   
    Hi there, I don’t have exactly what you are looking for but have some thoughts about confidence. I have just scheduled a few consults and am >300 lbs and have continued to date. Not everyone is interested in me. That’s fine and I don’t let that stop me. Therapy has gotten me to a place where I see myself as strong and confident despite my imperfections
    I found reading Brene Brown’s books or watching some of her Ted talks on the power of vulnerability, shame, and the power of imperfection very useful.
    Now there is weight/size but after surgery there may be extra skin, stretch marks, and even regain so my one piece of advice is to try to think of all of those physical “flaws” as battle scars from fighting a disease that not everyone has to deal with.
    If people you date don’t give you the respect you deserve then screw them. You are strong in your imperfection and deserve better.
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    journey2-199 reacted to blackcatsandbaddecisions in I hit goal today!   
    I had surgery on 11/10/20, but started my weight loss efforts on 7/5/20. If you’ve been here a while I’m sure you’ve seen me lurking about the forums.
    Stats: SW 339. CW: 165. I am a 5’10 woman in her 40s. I work full time and have young children. My current BMI is 23, I started off with it closer to 50.

    I knew it was going to take me a while to hit goal- I had 174 lbs to lose. I did all the calculators pre-op that said I would be lucky to get under 200 lbs, but I decided that just wasn’t going to apply to me (haha). My plan was to focus on fruits, vegetables, and healthy Proteins while ramping up exercise. I eliminated Cookies, pastries, and candy but that’s about it. I don’t do low carb, because that isn’t how I’m planning on living the rest of my life. I focus on calorie reduction, which sounds like oh if that’s so easy why did you need surgery? Well cutting calories is possible if you aren’t hungry all the time no matter how much you eat, and if you can fill up on the healthy things without it being like flash paper into a volcano. I honestly did need the surgery, and I’m not going to pretend it did the work for me, but it gave me the help for the work I wanted to be able to do.

    Six days a week I do a split between running and rowing for a half hour. I’m going to run in a 5k this spring, which has been a dream of mine for years. I exercise on my lunch break every day.

    Yes, I have some loose skin. It’s nowhere as bad as people make it out to be. I am not exactly planning on running around in a bikini so it’s not like it limits my life at all. It’s not visible in my clothes, not even tight fitting ones. I might get it removed some day, but if I don’t I’ll still be happy.

    This weight loss has been the fulfillment of a lifelong dream for me. Life is difficult when you are morbidly obese. It’s difficult physically, emotionally, and socially. This weight loss hasn’t fixed every problem in my life, but I didn’t expect for it to. It fixed my weight related problems, and I had a lot of them.

    This surgery can be life changing, but it’s not a magic bullet. You still have to make huge life changes. But if you feel sabotaged you your own constant hunger, cravings, and binges, this can really be the tool you use to dig yourself out of the seemingly insurmountable weight you need to lose.

    This isn’t a finish line for me. I am still working on hopefully losing another 15 lbs, and I’m never going back to my old eating habits. I know I signed up for a lifelong change, otherwise I’ll be right back where I started. But finally hitting goal was a nice early Christmas present to myself. Sorry for the essay, but I don’t really have anyone in real life to share with who gets it!




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    journey2-199 reacted to Jnfinney in Weirdest None-Scale-Victory - I'll go first   
    Wiping my own butt without breaking my back trying to reach 🤦🏼‍♀️
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    journey2-199 reacted to ShoppGirl in Weirdest None-Scale-Victory - I'll go first   
    Idk about weird but it was surprising when the towel fit around me again without a gap.

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