Queen ApisM

I'm 5 weeks out, and I don't have much desire to eat. Sometimes I get an empty feeling that might be hunger (I'm not sure) but unlike the olden days I can just ignore it and move on. I have no cravings and very little interest in food.
Like others have said, I find this liberating! It's so nice to not obsess about food. I'm sure this won't last, so I am taking advantage of it as long as it does. I'd rather feel like this than be hungry all the time.
Even though I am not interested in food or eating, I still eat to a schedule and track all my intake, focusing on Water and Protein goals. The structure is helpful for me. Sometimes, I set reminders for myself using the Echo/Alexa, reminding myself to drink (after the 30 min post food wait), reminding myself to eat a planned snack or meal, etc. It is helpful when my body doesn't signal me.

I'm 5 weeks out, and I don't have much desire to eat. Sometimes I get an empty feeling that might be hunger (I'm not sure) but unlike the olden days I can just ignore it and move on. I have no cravings and very little interest in food.
Like others have said, I find this liberating! It's so nice to not obsess about food. I'm sure this won't last, so I am taking advantage of it as long as it does. I'd rather feel like this than be hungry all the time.
Even though I am not interested in food or eating, I still eat to a schedule and track all my intake, focusing on Water and Protein goals. The structure is helpful for me. Sometimes, I set reminders for myself using the Echo/Alexa, reminding myself to drink (after the 30 min post food wait), reminding myself to eat a planned snack or meal, etc. It is helpful when my body doesn't signal me.

I lost all hunger and all interest in food until about month 5 post-op. Not uncommon. And it was WONDERFUL! I wish my hunger and appetite had never come back! It was so liberating not to think about food - ever. And so easy to lose weight when I didn't give a flip about food! Savor it and take full advantage of it. For most of it, it does eventually come back, and then things get a lot more challenging.

Agree with others here. This was my first surgery with general anesthesia. One minute the anesthesiologist was talking to me and I was taking deep breaths with the oxygen mask, and then next it was over. It definitely is like a weird time jump. No dreams while being under. It's like snap you are asleep and don't know it, then snap you are sort of awake, though I was definitely was disoriented when I first woke up, and I just kept dozing on and off for a long time afterwards.

Don't let this derail what you want to accomplish for yourself. At the end of the day, this surgery and losing weight is about you. Don't let anyone steal that and make it about them, which is exactly what he is doing. What were your goals for this surgery? Better health? Living longer? Being able to more easily shop for cute clothes? Being able to more easily do things you want to do? Whatever they were, if he is a true partner he should want those things for you as well, and support you to get there.
If he can't do that, well that speaks to a deeper problem. Now, as others said, he may be insecure and scared, which is understandable since change is scary. But, as an adult he needs to understand that and work through it. If he isn't willing to do that... whether through self introspection, counseling or some other method, well, then I'd question how strong the relationship really is and if he is worth it.
You deserve to have what you want. Don't forget that! Good luck.

Don't let this derail what you want to accomplish for yourself. At the end of the day, this surgery and losing weight is about you. Don't let anyone steal that and make it about them, which is exactly what he is doing. What were your goals for this surgery? Better health? Living longer? Being able to more easily shop for cute clothes? Being able to more easily do things you want to do? Whatever they were, if he is a true partner he should want those things for you as well, and support you to get there.
If he can't do that, well that speaks to a deeper problem. Now, as others said, he may be insecure and scared, which is understandable since change is scary. But, as an adult he needs to understand that and work through it. If he isn't willing to do that... whether through self introspection, counseling or some other method, well, then I'd question how strong the relationship really is and if he is worth it.
You deserve to have what you want. Don't forget that! Good luck.

that sounds really unusual for seven weeks out. I'd contact your clinic. It could be something like a stricture - if so, they need to get that "fixed".

The first night after VSG, I had terrible pain in my shoulder/neck area. I also had back discomfort and couldn't get comfortable. I was pretty miserable that first night and it wasn't from my incisions or my tummy. Looking back, I realize now it was probably from the gas. I was pretty out of it the day of surgery so I didn't walk around much except to the restroom so it was all trapped inside me and moved to various places. Once I started moving and getting the air out from Day 2 onward it improved until it was gone after a few days.

Congratulations. That first time someone notices is so wonderful & so motivating too. My first time (apart from my mother) was a friend who’d known me big & small. I hadn’t seen her for a couple of months & she didn’t know about the surgery. I was wearing a slim fitting dress that was looser - when I used to wear it it would pull across my butt & I’d wear a jacket. I’d lost about 15 kg (10 post surgery) & it was early month 2. I loved how she hugged me in greeting (remember how we used to do that all the time - sigh!) & whispered in my ear I was looking great, then looked into my eyes & nodded her head. I knew she understood the battle weight loss had always been for me & was honestly happy for me & being really supportive. So much more meaningful then the loud ‘have you lost weight’ comments I got later & then the ‘you’ve lost too much’ ones.

This happened to me. I decided to change the practice I was going with right at the beginning of COVID. When I submitted the paperwork, I was one weight (my early pandemic, too anxious to eat low). Flash forward to my first surgeon consult which was 4 months later (thanks COVID) I was 10 lbs heavier - my early pandemic anxiety and inability to eat had gone out the window and I regained the 5 lbs I lost due to stress plus another pandemic fifteen. In the end I wound up around 20 lbs heavier than when I submitted the paperwork originally.
In the end, it didn't affect anything but I was self pay and not at the mercy of an insurance company. It probably would have been different if I wasn't self pay. My surgeon did have me attend more nutrition sessions, but they were useful so I didn't mind at all.
I'll also add that my lack of success before surgery didn't affect how I did with the pre-op diet and now post surgery. For someone who was having so much trouble during the process, once I had my date and had to start my pre-op diet, I was 100% all in and super careful about everything. I wound up losing 11 lbs in the two weeks before surgery.
Do your best - it's all you can do. These are extremely difficult times we are living in.

I was self pay for my sleeve - my employer-paid insurance plan had a specific exclusion against bariatric surgery. All in all, it was just under $20k. Had a stuck to my original practice, it would have been much closer to $30k (I'm in the Washington, DC area).
Timing from start to finish is hard to comment on in my case... I switched practices at the beginning of COVID so that slowed things down incredibly. And then I was a bit slow in getting some of the requirements done (like getting my endoscopy, etc) because life and work got crazy. If I had been more on top of that sort of thing, it would have been faster esp with no insurance involved.

I was self pay for my sleeve - my employer-paid insurance plan had a specific exclusion against bariatric surgery. All in all, it was just under $20k. Had a stuck to my original practice, it would have been much closer to $30k (I'm in the Washington, DC area).
Timing from start to finish is hard to comment on in my case... I switched practices at the beginning of COVID so that slowed things down incredibly. And then I was a bit slow in getting some of the requirements done (like getting my endoscopy, etc) because life and work got crazy. If I had been more on top of that sort of thing, it would have been faster esp with no insurance involved.

I just had surgery on Aug 16th. I'll be honest - I planned on reading and futzing around on my phone/tablet at the hospital, but I did nothing. I didn't even turn the TV on, which is weird because at home I am always listening to music, having the TV on, reading, something. The first day I was dozing in and out and the second day I was so focused on trying to drink and taking small walks around the ward that it seemed to fill the hours. Bring something you can entertain yourself with (books, tablet, whatever) but don't be surprised if you don't touch it much.
Once I got home, I did a lot of reading, writing and jigsaw puzzling. I had all these other plans of what I would do with the extra time, but honestly again I was so consumed with trying to get all my fluids in, as well as napping now again, that I just let my body guide my decision making on what to do or not do. Especially in the first week - it got better in week two, I felt like much less of a slug.

I just had surgery on Aug 16th. I'll be honest - I planned on reading and futzing around on my phone/tablet at the hospital, but I did nothing. I didn't even turn the TV on, which is weird because at home I am always listening to music, having the TV on, reading, something. The first day I was dozing in and out and the second day I was so focused on trying to drink and taking small walks around the ward that it seemed to fill the hours. Bring something you can entertain yourself with (books, tablet, whatever) but don't be surprised if you don't touch it much.
Once I got home, I did a lot of reading, writing and jigsaw puzzling. I had all these other plans of what I would do with the extra time, but honestly again I was so consumed with trying to get all my fluids in, as well as napping now again, that I just let my body guide my decision making on what to do or not do. Especially in the first week - it got better in week two, I felt like much less of a slug.