fourmonthspreop

Oh my God girl I FEEL YOU AND I HEAR YOU!! It's absolutely mind boggling why people continue to do this is such a destructive and careless way. I don't remember a time in my life where people weren't commenting on my body and size. From school, parents, extended family, sibling, etc. I dated a guy in college who asked to be my boyfriend and then proceeded to tell me literally word for word "you're great and all but you know I only date hot girls? You're fat and it's weird to date a fat girl" he consistently made comments about my body size to the point where I started self harming because I started to see my body the way he did. I had to undo a lot of bad **** because of these comments. People are uncomfortable maybe within themselves, they're hyper concerned with what others will think of them or they just believe they're helping you. I think it's okay to be concerned about someone's weight but it's apparent when it comes from a place of disdain and superficiality. There's a right way to do things ultimatly if it has to be done at all, and only those who truly love you should partake in the dialogue in a safe and loving way. This lifetime of people calling me fat has adversely affected me to my core, to the way I carry myself and try not to take up space, how much I see the words of others carved body to this day, how apologetic I am for just existing.... But I'm doing so much physical and mental work to undo all that harm and learning slowly how to choose compassion for these people instead of letting it destroy my self worth. It's tough. We're fighting everyday. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

Aww I appreciate you sharing and sorry that happened. It sucks at any size I realize. My therapist gave me really good advice about it recently. I'm working on being less affected by what people say about my body, good or bad (because it really does ruin my day most of the time). She said that like art, the human body is subjective. People are allowed to have opinions about bodies, like art. It doesn't make it correct however. Like there's no "correct" form of art. Some might appreciate it, some might like your earlier work while others like the new stuff you've done but at the end of the day, it's all just subjective assessments. She also made the distinction that it's my thoughts that create the feelings. Some a*****e might say something negative but I can instead choose to feel compassion- that person has something within them that is giving them a hard time and making them act that way. That really helped me take the sting off of these body comments for me. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

Hey! I'm about one month post op (gastric bypass feb 14). I've only lost about 23 lbs post op. I was at 309 when I went in for surgery. I think my weight was like 314 right after surgery because of all the fluids though. Anyway I'm getting annoyed because I've been in between 287 and 286 for the last 2 weeks. I am eating more calories now but not nearly enough to gain or even stall. I have about 700-800 calories a day right now. Is this normal to stall out so early? I try incorporating exercise in my daily routine but I'm still dealing with a lot of fatigue and lightheadedness from anemia so I feel terrible whenever I really exert myself. Any advice or tips? Thanks! Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

Omg I miss coke zero SO MUCH Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

I love pasta and chips too but sadly I will tell you it doesn't go away...especially the 2 week liquid diet (or more) you'll miss food sooo much and crave it. Best to develop the right mindset, find healthy alternatives when you can eat solid food and find the right coping mechanisms. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

Have my first post op airplane ride tomorrow. So fricken nervous. The last time I was on a plane, I weighed around 324 lbs. I flew southwest and the buckle didn't close, I was so damn embarrassed I covered the buckle with my arm against myself and just prayed the attendant didn't notice. Now im about 270 lbs, still have a ways to go but im terrified the buckle won't fit again. I've flown at 280 and the buckle fit on jet blue and coach american. I'm hoping it'll be okay but still have so much anxiety. I got the bigger seats in the front on American Airlines this time but Ughhhh can this weight come off already? This is probably one of the worst parts about being obese. I love traveling but hate that I'm so scared and embarrassed of not fitting into plane seats. I know it'll be huge NSV when the buckle isn't suffocating my lower stomach and sides but just being confident enough that I fit any plane seatbelt is so annoying. I'm trying not to beat myself up but it's so frustrating when you've lost 70 lbs and you're still dealing with things like this. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

: 3 I appreciate it. I'm still dealing with a lot of body dysmorphia. I def have weight to lose still but I carry most of it in my hips and lower stomach.

Omg this looks so good. I'm not eating breads just yet because of my program but I miss egg on toast more than anything wowwwww yummy Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

Wearing this cute set I bought in 2018 from a boutique. I finally fit back into it! Great for summer. Not at my goal weight yet and 3 months post op but surely getting there. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

This is weird... but seeing my knee caps again. I haven't seen them since 2019. My legs are still chubby but they're starting to look like a normal leg shape overall haha I took a picture of them because I was surprised to see it when I had my legs propped up on a table (not good manners, I know but no one eats or even sits out on this table in my household). Yay to having visible kneecaps! Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

Congrats! Worst part is done with. Now you just have to focus on healing. Did they give you a binder? That really helped me with pain. Also yeah, the napping is no joke. I'm 3 months post op and still find I need naps some days when pre op I was not a napper. But yeah, the first 2 weeks after surgery. I was falling asleep left and right. Lol Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

Hey! I'm 3 months post op from gastric bypass. I've been doing really well getting in my protein and vitamins everyday and the weight is coming off. I feel like however I don't eat nearly enough veggies as pre op and wish I could add more for overall health, wellness and gut health. Do you have any tips or tricks on incorporating more veggies into your meals? I can't really have raw vegetables or raw leafy greans but raw cucumber, raw fruit, raw shredded carrot, raw onion all seem to be fine in moderation. I absolutely HATE mushy cooked vegetables and mostly ate all my veggies raw before surgery (while doing pre op weight loss). Everytime I put cooked vegetables on my plate, I barely touch them because I find them so gross. Anyone have any dishes or tricks they can share on how to incorporate more vegetables? Thanks! Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

I honestly can't figure out why they tell people to drink two of them. 1 is plenty! Full disclosure, I was told that I didn't have to do bowel prep but I got nervous about having to go after surgery and wanted a completely clean system when I woke up post-op so I totally bought a bottle of it two nights before my surgery. I drank a little bit more than half of the lemon-lime flavor (I agree, Sprite from hell) and passed everything in my system including all my liquids. It was an experience for the books.

I really want to jump on the smoothie train with protein powder in it but I'm so terrible at making good smoothies. They always end up weird and fibrous. But I could give it a try - that might be the veggie boost I need. What are yalls favorite bariatric friendly smoothie recipes?

Yeah the right sauce can definitely help. I'm so jealous of people that can eat salads. Never have I wanted a salad more than anything else in my life. Theyre just so convenient and healthy. I will try some low carb berries as snacks I think here and there. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

I'm literally cracking up! Sprite brewed from hell Omg how true is that???!!! Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

Yes! I took a hot melatonin lavender bubble bath and watched movies on my laptop (I put it next to my bath to not risk it falling in). Then I did the special cleanser thing after. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

No, I wish! I looked at some low carb recipes but didnt feel like it so I used cut da carb flatbread and air fried it to make it crispy. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

I think im okay. The nausea went away. I think I was just recovering from being om vacation, late nights, no sleep and wasn't on my typical eating routine. I've felt pretty normal the last week except one day I ate some almond flour crackers and felt really sick after bur I think it's because my stomach didn't like it. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

Hey! I had my bypass Feb 14 this year. It's been pretty smooth sailing honestly up until the last week. Everytime I eat, about 15 minutes later I get extremely nauseous and even start retching. I threw up the other day actually after eating a protein yogurt but nothing came out. Just some red stuff from a pill I took. I'm not eating sugar or high carb foods. It's all stuff I ate before no problem. Liquids seem to be fine but I've had things like eggs, avocado, protein yogurt, cheese and cooked vegetables and wow do I feel like I need to throw up after. I eat slow and stick to small portions too. And then every now and then after eating I get incredibly fatigued and feel like I need to go to sleep. I've never had issues with insulin/pre diabetes or diabetes and feel like that's unlikely since I've been in weight loss mode and barely eating. It's getting difficult to reach my protein goal because I get so sick all of a sudden after eating. I really don't want to fall behind on things. Wondering if this is a stricture or normal? Am I becoming intolerant to certain foods or is the restriction just going strong? Feels so all of a sudden. Is there something I can do for a couple days to "reset" like only liquids or something? Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

Taco cups with vegetarian ground meat, cheese, tomato, guacamole and salsa. I could only eat one and some broccoli. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

I think my vitamin has that worked into it. What's weird is my nails are growing like crazy. Like never before and are super hard and tough when before they were brittle but the hair is falling out. Hoping it's temporary. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

I feel the fatigue still. Hopefully it'll pass soon. Has the hair loss started for anyone yet? I'm starting to notice a good chunk of hair come out each shower now. Not looking forward to this at all. Thr left top side of my hair is already really thin [emoji854] (Sorry about the flakes, I'm recovering from a scalp sunburn) Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

Looks normal (and fresh). My incisions turned yellowish green too. So long as there's no discharge, swelling or fever you're likely fine. Good to check with your doctor too. Here's what mine looked like one week post op. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app

I'm almost 3 months out and I've been eating carbs since my puree phase (had beans then). I do everything in moderation, eat my protein first and enjoy carbs on the side. I've lost 42 lbs since my surgery. Carbs aren't the enemy, eating too much is. Of course we have limited room as weight loss surgery peeps so I understand the need for protein first but if your dietician okays it and you can stand it, go for it. I do best with Chickpea pasta, wild/brown rice and potatoes. You can chew them up really well so they go down easy. I've had the low carb tortillas but they get "stuck" most of the time so I avoid them. Haven't had bread/toast/flour/corn tortillas yet because I was told to wait 6 months for bread products. Sent from my SM-G975U using BariatricPal mobile app