BigJay79

Thanks for your reply I am 41 years old.

Hi, I'm new to this. Today I just got the call that I've been accepted into molina's bariatric program. Lots to do within the 6 month period! I'm trying to decide which surgery would be the safest way to go and less invasive gastric sleeve or gastric bypass?? Also does anyone have any tips on losing the 15 lbs required for the surgery?
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Hi all, I'm just starting the journey so I've been reading and researching a lot! I attended a seminar and I have my first individual consultation later this week. My concern right now is with my husband. He's technically overweight on the charts, but has never been obese and hasn't gone through that experience--he can shop in regular stores, sits in middle seats at concerts, and actually prefers booths at restaurants. My experience is pretty opposite, as I've been big since I was 15 (25 years ago lol!), and have ballooned up to a BMI of 51, the highest ever.
When I first brought up the idea of WLS, I positioned it as a tool to give me a head start on the weight loss and to give me some time to develop healthy eating habits without starting so far behind. I think he's really nervous about surgery in general because he started tearing up and said that he's really scared, so we talked about the risks of surgery vs the risks of staying this obese, and so on. I thought he was coming around to the idea since he said he supports it, and when I talk about going to the "fat people clinic," he corrects me and says that it's just a tool. It's super sweet actually!
Now he's started offering new diet suggestions instead. He's seen me go through a number of diets in the last eight years, though I'll admit I've given up a little in the past couple of years, but he hasn't seen the whole history. He thinks that because I do really well with losing weight when I stick to a diet, I just need to do a better job of sticking to one, but I keep telling him that if it were that easy for me, I would have done it already! Just today, he suggested "what if you do the Keto diet but this time cut out all artificial sweeteners? I really think that's why you had trouble before."
I understand that he's scared, but it's making me question myself a little. Do I really need to try every different variation of all the diets out there? I've also never really tried any of the prescription weight loss drugs (outside of some bronkaid/coffee stacking experimentation that was super unhealthy in a number of ways). Is there more due diligence before I give surgery such heavy thought? The other part of this is that he thinks that the doctors are only interested in their profit and won't give me accurate information, and while I believe that they deserve to earn a living, I have some trust in the hippocratic oath. I do understand that when you have a hammer (or scalpel?), every problem becomes a nail (or surgery lol).
Anyway, I know this isn't a relationship advice site but I thought others may have encountered a similar situation! I'm venting a little but would appreciate your thoughts!

Hi I’m just looking for anyone who can help ease all the thoughts in my head. Lol I’m up for surgery in January and I’m only 23 I’ve always been pretty big my whole life so this whole losing weight thing is a very scary and happy journey. Anybody have any advise. Thank you [emoji3590]

Lord have mercy.... ever since my surgery my new name is skinny BITSHHHH at work.... at time it was funny...now im starting to feel uncomfortable these same coworkers we have been working together for 19 ...20yrs ...and when i buy cute dresses and show them my pic the respond i get bak is so BLAH.... im thankful for this journey and the big change i have made physically and mentally but jeeeshhh the hate is very awkward at time cuz i am still the same person only thing i look way different....... all my so called friends or people i just talk to are soooo different now i see it but pay no mind ... [emoji2358]
In need of new friends I could text away
This is my Before and After [emoji3059][emoji173][emoji119]
bless be our lord almighty to see this change [emoji173][emoji173][emoji173][emoji173]
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Hey all! I am frustrated! Can you tell by the title of my post? Lol! I had surgery on 4/9/19 and although I am down 71lbs, I have been stalled for 3 months now! I've only lost 6lbs since October. I'm not sure what is going on. I will say, back in April of 2017, I did have a Total Abdominal Hysterectomy so maybe my hormones are all over the place. I need advice BAD. Has anyone experienced this long of a stall? If so, how did you come out of it? I am grateful for this tool and am trying to get all I can out of it. HELP!

More and more, the people around me have been calling me "skinny", "skinny Minnie" "slim" etc. as nicknames. ("Hey skinny!", "How you doing slim?") I know their intentions are good, but it almost feels like a mockery as I am clearly still obese. I get that I have lost a large amount of weight but I am FAR from being what one would consider skinny.
It also leaves me in this weird place where I feel I have to tell them that I know I am not and that I have a lot more to go still.

Im Dana had sleeve surgery April 2018 and am having the Duodenal Switch January 22nd 2020. I have lost 240lbs and still can't find a decent person to date. I'm awesome lol I don't really think I have any MAJOR character flaws...im thinking maybe it is my excess skin? It is awful
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Ok, so 1 day post opp and let me just be honest day 1 was very rough the pain and the gas was enough to have me calling on the lord.... but its been a little over 24 hr and I kinda feel 1/2 way ok..... still have not had anything to drink yet but I have been walking. One thing 4 sure I am making sure they stay on top of my pain meds every 2 hr.

You know how you incidentally touch yourself all the time without really thinking about it? As my body composition changes, I am feeling a bit disoriented because my body is so unfamiliar...for example:

1. When I lean my head on my hand (you know, elbow on the table, chin in hand), the shape of my face feels different - I can actually feel the point of my chin pressing into my hand.

2. I generally fall sleep lying on my left side with my right arm lying along the length of my right leg. Now, my leg feels different - the curve is more pronounced because my leg is smaller overall. Before the surface felt almost flat and now I can feel the curvature very definitely.

3. When I wash my face, my forehead feels very firm now that there is less fat under the skin.

4. As I continue to lose weight, my tummy, which used to be firm and packed with fat, is now soft and squishy as the fat dissolves. It's almost like a pillow that has had some of the stuffing taken out.

5. I have an over-the-shoulder-around-the-body style messenger bag and I can feel the bag pressing on my collar bone when it's heavy. That never happened before.

6. As my arms slim down, they hang closer to my sides. I find myself adopting an "elbows-in" posture more often, because my arms fit into the curve of my waist now.

Then there's the visual disorientation...when I look in the mirror, I have a hard time internalizing that that is me. It's been decades since I was this thin...I don't know this body.

Anyone else feel a little disoriented living in a new body?

Thank you so much for your Support, I can not say that I repented it I do it. because I lost a lot of weight, but If I only could do it by myself without the help I definitely would think it twice. It's been a rough time, I lost all appetite and I used to enjoy food so much, my favorite thing was wine and cheese & pizza. I can not eat those anymore. but I feel awesome with the new me. I need to keep learning this new lifestyle and foremost love myself even more.

Thank you everyone for answering!!! I was having a bad moment this week. I felt extremely lonely with this problem. I have not met anyone that has done it so far or could at least comprehend my pain. Thank you again!

[mention=324758]MNgirl1234[/mention] I experienced the same thing years ago. We were married for 26 years. The last 5-6 were hell. When we first got together i was about 100#.... (5'2") So i was very tiny. I started gaining in my 30ies and put on 132#. In my mind the reason we stopped having sex was my weight. I now know that it was not. I thought if i only lost weight he would find me attractive again and want to be with me.... NOPE. If anything it got worse. He would say the most horrible things after i lost 89#. I was too thin, my face wasn't pretty anymore because you could see some wrinkles, I looked like a "bag of bones"..... and of course i was losing weight to "find another man".... I could stand naked in front of him and he would look around me or tell me to move. It was devastating...... I started getting attention from other men/woman and it became intoxicating.... I was finally getting the praise and reassurance... but not from the ONE person i wanted it from..... We only had sex maybe 1-2 times a year. I was starved for affection, as i am a very touchy person.... I craved attention from him in every way. The last few years i strayed from my marriage. I told him that i needed him, needed attention, needed affection, and yes..... NEEDED SEX. Honestly, i was "self-satisfying" every day. He didn't care..... so i told him, if he didn't i would find someone who would.... and i did.
Not saying it was the right thing to do..... but what's done is done and i own up to it. We tried counseling, but honestly, it was too late... I had shut down and checked out.
We divorced...... I dated..... I found the love of my life. Happier than i have ever been. I think i was around 47-48ish when i decided i was not going to live the next half of my life like that.... so i "got off the pot" so to speak.... so glad i did.

Hello all!!! I am 2 years out from BPD-DS and in maintenance. I started out at over 400 lbs and in the 150's now. I am healthier, happier and just overall doing well.....except for the intimacy department. I've been married for 12 years. My husband is obese and he was not terribly supportive of my decision to have surgery. He now thinks I'm too skinny and will sometimes make comments about my loose skin or the fact that I'm not the girl he married (physically), my breasts are practicallynon-existant. Now onto the sex----I have a very healthy sexual appetite, especially now post surgery. I'm 36 and enjoy physical intimacy, touching, and feeling connected. The husband is hardly interested in having sex at all anymore and at first I tried to look past that, but it's becoming harder and harder. I don't think I'm unattractive...but the fact that he doesn't initiate or show intimacy is really wearing on our marriage. I have tried to initiate sex 3 times this week and have been ignored each time. I don't know what to do!!! I love my husband, but I cannot spend the rest of my life with that lack of intimacy.
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So I had my surgery in the begining of July 2020. Lost some at first but since end of September I stalled until today Nov 27th. Just list 5 lbs.
What I do not understand is I have been doing the same thing Protein and Water keeping calories low but once I have a ton of carbs grazing 2 days in a row of carbs I finally lose 5 pounds.
I just do not understand why doing the opposite of what I have been doing is causing weight loss.
hw 417
sw 351
cw 328
gw 175 cross fingers

Make sure you do your research before going to Mexico for surgery I ended up going to Mexico Bariatric Surgery Center in Mexico what a huge mistake first of all I can say Mexico is not the cleanest it when it comes to being sterile and following protocol for safety measures my Iv fell out and was dragged on the floor the nurse that wanted to reinsert the needle back into my arm. They have a little Tin Cup to keep alcohol and cotton balls together. the tin cup had people's blood on the rim. the showers had bloody bandages clearly not clean. Never once did they change their gloves from Patient to Patient. To top this off I had my surgery they removed 95% of my stomach which here in the States that is not recommended. I returned back here in Michigan and I knew something was not right I decided to go into the hospital to get checked out they lacerated my spleen I was lucky to be alive I immediately contacted Mexico Bariatric Center they told me that my diagnosis was incorrect that I would have died there basically saying that a CT scan was wrong I tried to contact them raising matters that needed to be corrected for safety purposes they seem to not really care I thought I did my research and it was pretty thorough at what I was looking at boy was I wrong nearly costed me my life!

Fishers, Indiana. Haven't chosen a surgeon as of yet.

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I started my pre op liquid diet almost 2 weeks ago. I did pretty good, I cheated twice, having a subway sandwich one day for lunch. And another night I had a oriental chicken salad for dinner. Other than that. I tried my best to stick with it, and on surgery day I was down a total of 16 lbs in a week. I had my surgery Oct 29th 202p. I'm currently on day 4 of post op. The 2nd and 3rd day of was feeling very overwhelmed. Emotional. Was wondering if I made the worst decision of my life. The pain I felt was mainly from the air and gas, omg that was horrible. But here on day 4, I don't really have too much pain, except where my drain currently is, and only sometimes. I get it taken out on a couple days. But I'm starting to not feel as emotional, glad I have my mom here to help me out as I am a single mother of 3 kids. Without her, lord I couldn't of done it this far. I'm starting to feel alone better about the decision I made. I'm on my liquid diet right now, and I haven't really thought about food, the only thing I want to do more than anything is GUZZLE a glass of Water !!! Lol. Taking small sips throughout the whole day helps I suppose. LOL I just feel so thirsty. I am glad I found this support forum, I love reading everyone's journey, and I'm glad to be here !
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Carbs are hard. I have no solution for you there but good job on losing that 3 pounds. Keep it up!!

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I find out my liquid diet details on 11/17. Im anxious so I can get started early. Surgery 12/8 at noon.

Yeah, it sucks. My date for gastric sleeve is 12/8th.

Thanks love!! It’s going well. I’m 64lbs down since surgery & 82 down since the start of my journey back in Jan [emoji3590]

July 23rd for me, gastric bypass

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Hey ya’ll!
So I haven’t gotten a date yet, but I do believe I’ll have one soon for July! I started w/ a new doctor this month (I’ve been through all steps necessary, with another doctor so my current surgeon isn’t requiring me to do anything else.). Luckily for me, my insurance doesn’t have any requirements for diet visits. Anyway, hoping to hear something soon. I speak to the doctors Monday & they mentioned after this appointment I will be submitted to insurance. Hoping it all works out! My 30th bday is in September & I’m ready to feel good!

I'm nervous. Can anyone help me? Need suggestions.... [emoji22]
Me, I decided a month ago. My insurance gv me 3 mnths b4 my sx. Uuugh!
I hv changed my eating habits for the better. I just can't seem to get my cravings to stop in the middle of the night. What I hv done, is drink a 8oz smoothie to soothe my hunger pains.... Is that good?
I can't seem to eat 6 small meal in 1 day. Forget the Snacks. I can only stomach 2, maybe 3 meals & 2 small smoothies (ingredients I got from another app "LOSE IT") which includes cottage 2Tblsps cottage cheese, vanilla whey Protein Powder & 1/2 banana. That seems to b my go to snack. Most my meals r on a child's plate. meat, Beans & brown rice... If not that, just a bowl of Soup. I do get almost of my H2O in my system. But I'm still hungry by 230a! Even if I finish my dinner by 8pm. [emoji22]
I'm not an early riser (about 930) so I try to do by my meals btwn 10a & 8pm. Water is the last I do b4 bed @10pm
HELP!
I REALLY NEED HELP!
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