thewifehere

My husband and I just started exploring weight loss surgery literally last week… I brought up the concept of the lap band because I thought it was a temporary tool he could use to lose the weight he had been wanting to lose and then you can take it out after a year.
We have met with two surgeons and my husband has decided that the sleeve is probably the route he wants to go. He is thinking of getting the surgery in three or four weeks.
To me this seems sudden, he is in his 30s and weighs 300 pounds at 6 feet tall. He was overweight as a child and had to diet in high school and work really really hard to be at a “normal weight.” He’s gained over 100 pounds in the last 9-10 years (8-10lbs per year) and had a lot of yo-yo dieting. He says he does not want to struggle for the rest of his life trying to get back down to a normal weight and stay there. We have been married 11 years. I am trying not to pretend I can really understand where he is coming from, I am fortunate I have not ever had weight issues. Does this seem too sudden? I do not want him to make a decision that he will regret the rest of his life. He says what he would be missing out on is over eating and this would allow him to live the healthier lifestyle we have talked about for years.
We are very much so two people who once we decide on something we have our mind made up, I get it. I just want to make sure he’s making the right decision and I want to support him the best way I can, but I want to make sure it is the right decision.
Thank you in advance for your responses. This forum has been very helpful to me so far.

edit: The doctor we met with today who he would likely go with is an older gentleman who has been doing this forever and he gets lots and lots of good reviews. He says he thinks my husband would make all of this look easy, my husband is a broad shouldered muscular man in very good health other than being overweight with sleep apnea. It didn’t seem like he was blowing smoke. Maybe only good things can come from this.