ChattyKathie

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My husband refuses to drop me off or pick me up from the hospital. He disagrees with my decision to have surgery. I expected this but now need a plan. For those who have a spouse like mine or kept your surgery a secret, how did you arrange for hospital pick-up/ drop-off? Uber? Swear a friend to secrecy?

I am in the same boat, I lost 85 gained back 10, now I am stuck can't lose but I am not gaining either. I am trying to write down everything I eat. I am so scared I will gain the little that I did lose and be right back in the same boat. I need to lose another 85 at least. Went to the doctor yesterday and they bascially told me there isn't much they can do now for me. I can't take diet pills. So i am going to lose I just need to get mad at myself. If I have to join weight watchers, jenny craig, medical weight loss etc all at once I want to lose the weight. I also feel like I can eat just about like I use to, but I stop myself because I dont want to blow up my stomache bigger than it is.

How about the year stall, I want to lose way more than I did.

I had occasionally stalls throughout my whole journey. They seemed to be more frequent and lasted longer the further out I went. There were three or four times when I thought "well....this is it...", and then I'd start losing again. It finally stopped at 20 months out. So you may still have a chance!

See I have never thrown up, sometimes if I eat to much I feel yukie. I even ask the doctor if he is sure he did the surgrey. Never no pain or anything. I had my surgrey Sept 2019 and have lost 70 pounds. I need to lose another 70.

How can I slow myself down from eating to fast. I have always eaten fast, I have to slow down or I'm going to ruin my stomach. Now I'm stuck haven't lost anything for about a month and I know it's because I eat so fast I'm eating to much.

Sounds like you had quite a big surgery. For them to say it isn't enough is ridiculous. Your body is healing. It scares me how calories driven it is in the US. Here in Austria we started normal food with restrictions after 4 days. Everything had to be chewed to mush, but it was food. And there was no counting calories, only counting Protein to make sure you got 60g. There was a lot of stuff that was forbidden for the first 6 weeks, but no liquid diet before or after surgery.
You are doing great. Keep up the good work.

I really do try not to equate it to others since every single person is really different. I don't get driven by the numbers but more so now my clothes feel and since I had smaller stuff I had outgrown, I really have not had to buy anything yet which does make me feel like I haven't really lost that much weight (which is totally a weird way of thinking about it I know)

I actually weighed this morning since I haven't weighed in several weeks and the scale said I'm down 50.2 lbs but I think 45 is probably more realistic for some reason.

I still can't eat much when I eat - maybe a bite or two definitely not able to eat 4oz of stuff at one time but it's been hard to realize where the stopping point is before you eat that one bite that was too much. My husband had roux en y back in 2008 and he tells me all the time that I should be to where I know stuff like that but I'm still trying to find the limit or get where I chew my food to mush or don't get too big of a swallow of Water at one point. It makes me feel bad feeling him that I'm still trying to figure out stuff like that since I really should probably know that stuff by 8 weeks after surgery.

Oh well....just venting and chit chatting....thank you for the replies so far. I am just scared to death that even if I think I'm doing well that it won't be enough for my surgeon and he will have a freak out. 😬

that person is crazy. Especially crazy since she works at a weight loss clinic and should know better. Is she brand new there or....??? I've been hanging around this and other boards for several years now. I also talk to pre-op classes every month, because I'm one of my clinic's model patients. Just based on reading and listening and working with a ton of people all that time, I'd say the average amount of weight loss for the first month is somewhere in the 15-25 lb range. Of course there are outliers (people who lose more or less than that) - and there are of course "My 600 lb Life" contestants who are NOT representative of the average weight loss patient by the way, but I'd say for the majority of us, we fit somewhere in that range. And you ARE in that range. That woman is out of her freaking mind.

P.S. the 700-800 calorie a day part of that is OK. A lot of us eat around that much the first few months. It's her comment about your weight loss that baffles me. She should know better!