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Hello my fellow ladies!

I have another question. It's a bit uncomfortable but I am just curious.

As we all know, it's inevitable that breasts are going to (for lack of better term) "shrink" after surgery. This has been bothering me a bit as shopping for bras and finding decent tops has always been a challenge for me, regardless of my size. I just have weird shaped breasts I guess, lol. Anyways, I wanted to ask what helped those of you who already had the surgery? Are there specific brands or types of bras that worked best for you? How about plastics or silicone prosthesis? I know they make "breast vests," which are a mere hair of the cost of implants. How about breast lifts? Anyways, I just wanted to ask what worked best. I know it's down the road for me but I like getting ideas beforehand. 🙂 Thank you!

Thank you all for taking the time to respond to my post. Your help and support means a lot to me!

I sincerely appreciate it @FluffyChix, @lvidacovich, @JRT Mom, @Cherylmilla, @Melinaz, and @apiane thank you! 🙂

So I've really been struggling with staying positive lately. I know this may sound juvenile, but I feel like I'm losing my friends! It seems like in the beginning when I first decided to go through with this, the support and encouragement were overwhelming. But now that I'm so close to surgery, it appears people's attitudes have drastically shifted. I've pretty much lost all my fellow heavy friends, thinking I've somehow "abandoned" them just because my eating habits have changed and I'm going through this. My lighter friends are just weirded out by the whole process and can't believe I'm actually serious about going through this. Both groups have stated that WLS changes peoples personalities because they can't eat for pleasure anymore, they "become eternally cranky and mean," and my friends all claim I'm "too nice to go through this." These things are very hurtful to me, especially since I've known so many of my friends for years and years. Then I get scared and think...what if they're right? Will I become that person?

Anyways, I'm not feeling very happy lately. I need to stay positive, but dealing with all this has been hard as hell.

I sure hope so. Fingers crossed!

Thank you @Mikeyy, @Recidivist, @Maidenhail and @AJ Tylo for taking the time to respond. I know my health is top priority right now, but it's difficult to not start thinking down the road. We all know how much this changes a person's life. I sometimes get discouraged because I'm already starting to notice changes in my friends, who seem kind of weirded out by the whole thing. It's frustrating, but the important thing is to stay optimistic, right? :)

Hello to all my fellow ladies!

OK, I'm not entirely sure if this is the appropriate place to ask this, but I thought I'd try. I've been struggling with PCOS for several years now. As far as WLS is concerned, I'm being told two things about PCOS. On one hand, my surgeon is telling me that in his experience, PCOS goes away in women who successfully complete and keep the weight off after surgery. On the other hand, my OB-GYN is telling me she doesn't think it will change anything other than I won't have to take Metformin anymore. She says I'll most likely still have to take Aldactone, Progesterone and Inositol even after WLS. However, it's also worth noting she's mentioned she's never treated anyone with PCOS whose undergone WLS during childbearing age.

I'm so confused! I have no idea what to believe and I never met anyone else in this situation before.

If anyone knows anything about this, I'm am very grateful in advance for any help or advice. Thank you!

Hi! So this may sound like a stupid question but I just joined this site, forgive me.

Is this section for dating as in like...dating-dating? Or is it more for advice for single WLS patients? Lol, again, sorry if this sounds stupid.

If it's for advice, what have been people's general experiences with WLS and dating? Are people who haven't been through or are unfamiliar with it usually understanding when you explain it them? I'm thinking it's probably hit or miss like with anything else when it comes to dating. But still, a date may wonder why you're not eating this or that, etc.

I'm afraid of looking weird when going out like when I have to ask for smaller portions or having to explain my dietary restrictions. Lol and admittedly, I'm also nervous about sex. While I've dated plenty, I've never actually had sex with anyone (gasps! LOL). I was always too uncomfortable or shy about how I looked as a heavy person. But now, I'm thinking I'm probably going to feel the same as a lighter person because of the expected loose skin. 😕

I've heard some pretty fierce horror stories from the support group I was attending at my WLS Center. From what I've gathered, dating isn't very successful and a lot people who were already married claimed their spouse couldn't be with them anymore because they became "too high maintenance" or jealous of their weight loss. Even our MODERATOR was telling us her husband cheated on her because he got too jealous of her weight loss and couldn't handle all the changes she had to make in her life because of it.

Hello fellow single 30 year old female from Ohio (I'm in northeast). I just wanted to drop a quick line to wish you good luck and let you know you look great! 😄