KayLow42

Honestly, I totally understand where you’re coming from. I’d rather know I dump for certain and had the experience in my own home so I know for certain what it’s like. I totally 100% understand you. Obviously you had surgery because you had an issue with food- we all do. I don’t see this post as wanting to try those foods, rather I see this post as a fellow type A wanting to know what to expect before we’re out and it happens and we’re unprepared and scared.

My surgeon is only allowing me 5 boost glucose control shakes per day and Water. I have been on liquids since December 3 and my surgery is December 20. I feel like I am literally going insane on this diet. I have only stuck to it truly for 6/9 days. I am struggling so badly with this much restriction for this long 😭 I am 247 lbs at 5’5.

Does anyone have any insight on changes to a marriage when one partner has WLS? I know there is a higher rate of divorce with people who have WLS. I’ve been heavy all my life and always told “you’d be so pretty if you lost weight”.... so I’m worried about new attention from men when I go out because I’ve never had it before. I feel comfortable being invisible. I am married now for 4 years.

Me too, Gloria! Same surgery date and on the liquid diet. I am sticking to it but it is so so hard.

Ok everyone! I want to know what the absolute best thing about getting the surgery has been AND what has been the worst or hardest part?

October 14! Getting very nervous!

Thank you all SO incredibly much. I read your responses almost daily and it is so nice having access to a group like this. I have decided to go through with the surgery and my date is still October 14.

Hi all. I’ve been reading the posts for a couple weeks now and too scared to post. But decided to just get over it and reach out for some advice and help.

My surgery is scheduled for October 14, 2019, after a full year of being in the Kaiser program. I am getting the bypass as the only option from Kaiser. I am currently 257 and started at 265. I was in a bariatric program before, made it to then end, and then they told me they missed an initial step of verifying my insurance and found my BMI was not high enough initially to qualify so I wasn’t able to get the surgery and was devastated. Since then (around 2014) I have been actively trying to get the surgery and am just now finally getting it. My mom had the surgery 12 years ago and has kept her weight off but had significant issues with Iron deficiency that nearly killed her. My husband has also had the sleeve and is struggling three years post op because he has not made the changes and relies solely on the surgery. I am 27. I also have PCOS- enough of my background...

My issue now is that I am getting cold feet. I guess I spent the last 5 years trying and trying to get the surgery and never really thought it was going to be reality for me. Now that it is, I am feeling scared. I’m mostly scared of the fact that I need to make the LIFELONG changes and if I could have done those on my own for all the years I’ve been trying I would have done it already. I don’t want to have a lifetime of sickness because I can’t commit to the changes I need to make to my diet to be successful. I have come a long way and am so much healthier thanks to the kaiser program but I still have issues with my diet. I’m also scared of the actual surgery and recovery.

So I guess my question for you all is- if you were in my situation- which I assume many of you have been- what would you do? Do any of you regret the surgery? How has the adjustment been to the diet? Any of you had experiences of not making the changes with diet and struggle? I’d just like to hear any and all stories or feedback or advice to help me decide what to do