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I dated a man for a year who would watch over every bite I took. He was never happy with how much weight I lost. He lived 4 hours away from me and we would only see each other on the weekend. It finally hit the point where I was at 138 pounds (I am 5'5") and everyone who knows me in the town I live in was scared because that is way too thin for me.
He still felt I needed to lose another 20 pounds or so.
What people did not know is that I would only drink Water Monday through Friday. No food. I would only eat on the weekend when I was with him and, like I said, every bite was monitored.
I had my hysterectomy during that time and my doc refused to let me go back to work even part-time until I gained at least 5 pounds. This guy said "I can't believe that a doctor wants you to get fat." He told me I was lying to him and that I just wanted to eat junk.
He finally told me that it was just not going to work because I was not working to lose the last of the weight he felt I should lose (which would have probably killed me) and he broke up with me.
I have since met an AWESOME man who loves me unconditionally. He has loved me 100% when I was thin and 100% while I have been heavy. He supports my decision to get the band but says that he does not EVER want to see me get as thin as I was when he met me. He is the love of my life and I thank God every single day for him.

I dated a man for a year who would watch over every bite I took. He was never happy with how much weight I lost. He lived 4 hours away from me and we would only see each other on the weekend. It finally hit the point where I was at 138 pounds (I am 5'5") and everyone who knows me in the town I live in was scared because that is way too thin for me.
He still felt I needed to lose another 20 pounds or so.
What people did not know is that I would only drink Water Monday through Friday. No food. I would only eat on the weekend when I was with him and, like I said, every bite was monitored.
I had my hysterectomy during that time and my doc refused to let me go back to work even part-time until I gained at least 5 pounds. This guy said "I can't believe that a doctor wants you to get fat." He told me I was lying to him and that I just wanted to eat junk.
He finally told me that it was just not going to work because I was not working to lose the last of the weight he felt I should lose (which would have probably killed me) and he broke up with me.
I have since met an AWESOME man who loves me unconditionally. He has loved me 100% when I was thin and 100% while I have been heavy. He supports my decision to get the band but says that he does not EVER want to see me get as thin as I was when he met me. He is the love of my life and I thank God every single day for him.

I dated a man for a year who would watch over every bite I took. He was never happy with how much weight I lost. He lived 4 hours away from me and we would only see each other on the weekend. It finally hit the point where I was at 138 pounds (I am 5'5") and everyone who knows me in the town I live in was scared because that is way too thin for me.
He still felt I needed to lose another 20 pounds or so.
What people did not know is that I would only drink Water Monday through Friday. No food. I would only eat on the weekend when I was with him and, like I said, every bite was monitored.
I had my hysterectomy during that time and my doc refused to let me go back to work even part-time until I gained at least 5 pounds. This guy said "I can't believe that a doctor wants you to get fat." He told me I was lying to him and that I just wanted to eat junk.
He finally told me that it was just not going to work because I was not working to lose the last of the weight he felt I should lose (which would have probably killed me) and he broke up with me.
I have since met an AWESOME man who loves me unconditionally. He has loved me 100% when I was thin and 100% while I have been heavy. He supports my decision to get the band but says that he does not EVER want to see me get as thin as I was when he met me. He is the love of my life and I thank God every single day for him.

I would try switching to all liquids for a couple of weeeks. Learn that you CAN keep those down. Then go to mushies for a couple of weeks and learn that you CAN keep those down. Then on to soft foods the same. The regular.
I had to do that. I had to retrain not only my body and my band but my mind that it did not have to come up. That I was not always as stuck as I perhaps felt I was.
I still get carried away and will eat too fast or not chew well enough and end up in the bathroom. If I notice I am doing this routinely, I have to force myself to go back to square one and start over. Kind of a "time out" for me to get myself back in line.

I would try switching to all liquids for a couple of weeeks. Learn that you CAN keep those down. Then go to mushies for a couple of weeks and learn that you CAN keep those down. Then on to soft foods the same. The regular.
I had to do that. I had to retrain not only my body and my band but my mind that it did not have to come up. That I was not always as stuck as I perhaps felt I was.
I still get carried away and will eat too fast or not chew well enough and end up in the bathroom. If I notice I am doing this routinely, I have to force myself to go back to square one and start over. Kind of a "time out" for me to get myself back in line.

Both docs are okay with it. My general doc is okay with me having surgery and my Lap Band doc is fine also. I was just curious to know if anyone else was dealing with the same thing and how they were dealing with it after the surgery.
I do know that one thing I am wondering is about the day before surgery how you are not supposed to eat after midnight and all. I have to have my Xanax every four hours or things go bad pretty quick. I can maybe go six hours but it varies from day to day. Wouldn't that be lovely to be in the ER at one hospital hours before I have surgery at another. Somehow I think that would throw a monkey wrench in everything. :cursing: Perhaps they can give me a longer lasting benzo for that night.