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Quick question for the masses. My surgery was on ,10/29 and for the most part things are going ok. But of my five incisions, four look great and have no pain whatsoever. My concern is my fifth incision. It's the larger one on my lower right side used for the liver retractor device. It still hurts...a lot. Sharp pains when sitting or standing and especially when walking. My surgeon looked at it Wednesday and said it is fine because the bruising is almost gone, no swelling, no seepage, no redness and it's not warm to the touch. It's just VERY tender. I wouldn't be so concerned if I was still having any sort of pain or discomfort with the other incisions but because this is the only pain I am experiencing and it doesn't seem to be improving I am concerned.

@Alpaca55 I totally get what you're feeling. My surgery date was October 29 and I came home the 30th. I initially wanted to tell family/friends what I was doing and my husband and kids (ages 16 & 19) we're all good with it. But once I attempted to break the news to those outside my home, reactions weren't all that pleasant so after attempting to tell a couple additional family members I stopped telling people. I knew these changes were going to be hard on me so I actually signed myself up for therapy as well and had my first appointment yesterday. For the first little bit I will be going weekly until I get a handle on feeling so anxious and find a way to break off my emotional relationship with food. Good luck and I know we got this!

My kids are teens but I had the same fears. I didn't want to leave my husband and kids but I kept telling myself what made me consider the surgery in the first place (my son plays football and I had gotten so large that even walking up the bleachers to watch him play would wind me and leave me out of breath.) He will be a senior next fall and with the path I was on (I had gained over 20 lbs since 1/1/18) I was going to miss seeing him play his senior year. I just told myself I had to put my own fears aside and do what was best for not only myself but also my kids. Now I'm 4 days post op and it still hurts but each day is getting easier and I am convinced I made the right decision to proceed with surgery.

Now that I am officially post surgery, I'm thinking I should have maybe done this earlier. My pain tolerance isn't what it used to be. 🙄

Me too. I was sleeved and had my gall bladder removed at the same time.

On my way now. 10am check-in for pre op and noon surgery. Best wishes to everyone!

@notmyname & @jflower88 - I'm tomorrow too. Nervous and a little scared about how things are going to be afterwards but I know this is what I need to do and that I've already put this off for too long.

Turned 40 in February and having my sleeve done on Monday (10/29). Scared and nervous but I'm glad I joined this page so I can read everyone's feedback and know that I'm not alone on the dark days and see the light at the end of the tunnel through all your positive experiences.

That's what I was thinking as well (that 115 sounded low). My surgeon and my PCP are not on the same page as to where my goal weight should be. My surgeon is looking for 125. I'm just confused and have no idea where I should be. (But I'm pretty sure 240/250 is NOT the answer.)

@Swimmer - thank you for the encouragement. Less than a week till surgery and I am still really nervous. It's gotten better since I stopped telling people what is going on. Now I only have to deal with my own doubts and not anyone else's.

Officially halfway through my pre-op liquid diet and discovering that I can be quite hard to live with sometimes. 😞 7 days and I am losing my mind. My surgery isn't until the 29th and I am feeling like a neglectful wife/mother for missing so many events this week (my hubby's b-day dinner, my sons team dinner for football, sweetest day dinner with the family and my sons playoff selection team/community cookout). I go, so physically I am in the room, but as I sit clutching my protein shake watching everyone else chew their meals, I'm not enjoying myself, I'm just feeling jealous and bitter. (Partially because I had to help prepare this food that I can no longer enjoy in some of these cases.) my husband and I went to see the new Halloween movie this weekend and I cried through it...not because I was scared but because the smell of the popcorn was driving me crazy! I want to stick with this and lose the weight so that I am healthier and more active but I don't want to be this miserable all the time. Does it get easier after surgery, like once you finally transition to normal foods? Also. when it comes to goal weights, do you have to listen to your PCP in order for the surgery to be considered successful? My husband and I have always had a goal weight of 130-140 in mind for me but, because I am only 5'1" my PCP claims I need to be 115, which I don't feel is realistic considering I haven't weighed that since the 4th grade. If I manage to pull out of this funk and get myself together, I want to know what number I am looking for and what my actual goal is.

I did practically the same thing. I was given my surgery date (October 29) the first week of October. (I was hoping for sometime after Thanksgiving. [emoji22]) My husband grilled all my favorite foods in the next couple weeks and the day before I started my liquid diet we went out for lunch and dinner and followed it up with a movie with popcorn and slushies. I know people who have been through the surgery kept telling me, it isn't the end of the world and I can still eat (small portions) of what I want after surgery but I am scared to death because that isn't what my surgeon is telling me. He is claiming that with the reduced stomach capacity, by the time I do my shakes, multivitamins, and fluid intake, I won't have time/room for "empty calories" unless I stretch my pouch. I will have a few bites of protein and vegetable at meals. I WANT to believe the people who have been there done that, but it's hard to ignore what the doctors are saying. Sent from my BLN-L24 using BariatricPal mobile app

Same....some of the criticism was brutal so I just stopped telling people. My husband and kids (thankfully) are supportive but they don't really understand how difficult this journey has been. Outside of them, my family has been a nightmare! One family member even told me I was going to die! That was where I had to stop. I don't want to fight this battle alone but I have to do what is best and I have too many people relying on me now and in the future to keep carrying this extra weight around.

Thank you for reaching out. My family are in three distinct groups: 1. My husband and kids (ages 16 & 19) are trying to be supportive but since they are all active and not overweight, it's hard now that I am on a liquid diet. 2. There is the "I'm disappointed in you." Crowd. Those that I've told who, despite watching me struggle for over 20 years still think it's because I don't really want to lose the weight. "You don't need to get the surgery. Just eat like you already have." To them it's a willpower issue and if I truly wanted to lose the weight, I would. Then there's group 3. A small group of family who believe in ONLY holistic medicine. This is the group that's been the most difficult to stomach. They've told me I'm going to die from the complications, I'm going to spend the rest of my life depressed and an outcast because I won't be able to be a part of family gatherings (which ALWAYS include a ton of food/sweets) and if I would just commit to a couple flushes and the whole 30 diet, I could get the same results. I had come to terms with the negativity and settled in knowing my husband was behind me. But now that I'm on the liquid diet, all those fears I had laid to rest are weighing on my mind...it's only been 3 days and I'm frustrated and angry. My sons football team has their team dinner Thursday and family dinner Sunday...here I am making taco salad and chili and I can't even have a bite. Sweetest day is coming up this weekend as well as my husband's birthday and for the first time in 19 years, i can't take him out to dinner. I just really hope giving all of this up is worth it in the end. I don't want to stretch my pouch and end up right back where I am now. [emoji53] Sent from my BLN-L24 using BariatricPal mobile app

My surgery isn't until October 29 so I will be behind a lot of you in terms of what stage I'm in but I am on day 3 of my liquid diet and have decided I needed to reach out to a community/forum of people who know what I am going through. I've been dealing with family and friends not agreeing with my choice to have the sleeve done (or any bariatric surgery for that matter) and I thought I was going to be fine but after spending an hour crying in the shower today out of hunger and frustration, I realize I am going to need all the advice I can get. It's been helpful to read some of the past posts and know I'm not alone. It's a start...

My surgery date is October 29 and I have ran into the same issue. I stopped telling people I'm having the sleeve done. (Easy for me as I am having my gall bladder removed at the same time. So I've just been mentioning that and not the sleeve.) Now that I am day 3 of liquid diet, I am ready to just go to bed and sleep till surgery day. Between the hunger pains and the comments about how disappointed people are in my choice, I just am having a difficult time. The worst are the ones who have told me they know I'm going to fail because "if you don't have the willpower before surgery to lose the weight, you're not going to have it after and you're just going to stretch your pouch and gain the weight back." I really don't think I would be able to do this without my husband and kids making our house a support zone for me where I can hide from the nay Sayers. I just joined this page in hopes of finding some answers/support from people who have been in my situation.