Emotional eaters: What made you change for good? in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A Posted July 5, 2018 Hi everyone Happy 4th of July! Newbie here seriously exploring a sleeve. I am looking for advice from people who use food as an emotional crutch, a friend, the only relationship you really have etc. I have always known my obesity since I was 16 was always related to psychological issues and not physiological. I am in therapy and until now I never considered surgery because I knew it was a tool but if deep down I did not choose to get better, surgery was not going to change that. I started researching surgery because the health consequences of the weight are manifesting very seriously. But as scared as I am of diabetes, arthritis, and loss of mobility, for some reason none of that convinces me to put the food down. It's so irrational that no matter how many issues the weight brings or how much life I feel like I am wasting (no boyfriend, very few friends, limited social life and few activities) I still choose 2 minutes of food bliss over a leaner option. I tried WW, food anonymous, therapy, hypnosis, CBT... At the end of the day if you don't want to change deep down, no one can change in your place. It terrifies me because part of me really wants to move forward in life and part of me can't put the fork down. I plan to go to a residential treatment center (a rehab in other words) to try to get to the bottom of this but in the meantime, can you guys (who may relate) share your own journey? I am convinced food addiction exists (we can debate that later) and I have seen the folks at food anonymous use the 12 steps to beat food addiction and reclaim their lives. But I couldn't follow the plan and my head hunger got the best of me. I am frankly desperate because I don't know if the surgery can help me. I want to know how you guys managed, what happened in your head that made you go through liquid diets without your cravings crawling under your skin and drive you crazy? Every month I get an epiphany that lasts a few days but then I sink back into a carb loaded food coma and the pounds keep piling... How did you keep the aha moment going? What tools or strategies did you have to follow through? Thank you so much!!