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Your having major surgery. I don't believe there is a doctor anywhere that would release you to return to work the next day. You definately need time off to heal. The amount of time depends on which surgery your having, your age, your health, your financial situation ect. Read the previous threads on this topic and take your doctors advise.

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You've chose sleeve along with surgeons advice, that's great! Other posters brought up bypass, I would continue on the road that you've already have chosen. And if theres not anyone on this sight that has your starting weight, you can always check out intagram or utube for information and support. I wish you the best on your journey!

I am heading down to have a sleeve in the 17 of December. As I look at the board here I am not seeing a lot of folks in my situation. I am about 530 pounds right now and I was wondering if there was anyone out there who was closer to my size that could give me some insight into how weight loss went for them after surgery?

If there was ever a post/thread that should be closed, this is definitely the one. Beating a dead horse over and over.

The OP already responded. The original post was a RANT. She said that twice. When she said "can't go to the ER ,I've got kids' she meant nobodys got time for that when you have four kids. That's where the response came that we get that as Moms. Nothing was meant against Dads. OP did not mean she was against getting medical attention and so many people started unfair posts back at her. Some posts were harsh when all she was looking for was support. Nice things like "suck it up. You made the decision, ect". We could respond to everyone's post that way actually. Close down the sight and just day suck it up.

OP probably left the sight. One other poster did for sure. Me, I do the usual here, most of the time I choose not to post for fear of backlash, being bullied and all the negative comments. But it's OK, the veterans run the sight. They stick together, have to have the last word, and are always right. That's the way I see it. Didn't take long to figure out. AND I have the right to my own opinion.

Goodness. All caught up now. Things got wild! My surgeons also sucked. I had to go around them to my main PCP, who basically called them and forced them to IV me. The surgical idiots couldn't seem to understand I was dehydrated. Total nightmare. The next step for me would have been ER. It sounds like you're trying to do what you can. Definately try rocking the sugar free popsicles. Those have worked well for me when nothing else did, even Water. sugar free Jello? Sometimes I could tolerate one flavor (orange) when it seemed like bothing else worked.
Also, when I couldn't tolerate cold Water, room temp worked. Some days, I still wonder if doing this surgery was the right choice for me as well, but it is getting better. I hope it does for you too.

Hi ya'll. I'm kinda having a hard time right now and no one around me seems to understand. I just don't feel happy with my progress. I've gotten some compliments and I notice a slight difference but I still feel like I should be losing weight much faster.
I'm almost 6 months out of surgery. I had surgery may 22nd and I weighed 363, I now weigh 285 and It seems like I should be wayyy smaller than that by now. I have an appointment with my doctor in 2 weeks and I'm afraid to see him because I feel that he may be disappointed in me. I sometimes workout and then ill stop for weeks at a time. My doc told me to never count calories or weigh things because thats like a diet and they don't want me to feel like I'm on a diet. I don't overeat and everyone says I barely eat now. I don't know if I'm developing some type of body dysmorphia because I still feel the same amount of fat. I don't know what to do.
Just based on y'all knowledge is 78 pounds 6 months out good?

Your beating a dead horse right now. Poster already responded. Enough said, holy crap.

All the people that offered support gave the best possible advice.
Support is about ensuring the person gets what they need. If someone can't drink and is having Migraines those are signs of dehydration and that is a killer.
If someone had given "soft" advice e.g you poor thing go and lie down and take a couple of Headache pills instead of advising to do what was needed to treat dehydration then it's possible the outcome could have been fatal.

Conversations here are too often turned into a debate and someone "winning". That's why at times I step back and get out for awhile. Everyone chiming in about the original poster. Where Is she? I don't see her posting. I just hope she feels better. Thats what counts.

That was a pretty douchy thing to say--and if a guy had said that to a woman, he would have been roasted for being sexist. Matt spends hours helping people here with very factual information and has deep compassion.
The OPs situation is very dire. And she's using her children as a rationalization for not going to the ER mainly cuz she knows ultimately the ER is a giant PIA and represents a time-sink. Wah. Baby wah. And so she's just sitting and spinning on her thumb rather than taking action for her own health and being an adult. She'd rather whine and talk about "conspiracy theory" than do something constructive.
She could:
1. Go to the ER like any rational adult.
2. She could force ice chips.< br> 3. She could use Biotene spray to help the metallic taste go away (most of us had to deal with that--as rational adults)
4. She could use citrus wedges or infused waters from watermelon, strawberry, cucumber, anything.
5. She could hold her nose and get the forking Water down her piehole--again like any rational adult faced with a dehydration crisis.
But does she? Nope. And the dehydration feeds the irrationality and the exhaustion, and the panic and the lack of good decision making skills. A temper tantrum has never helped someone get through a crisis. Never.

If they wanted to just rant, there is a section for that, this didn't come across as just a rant though, and the OP keeps stating "I have kids, I can't do XYZ" .... I just wanted to make sure the OP understands that, not doing what is needed, because of the kids... isn't a valid excuse, because if the OP doesn't get help, they could very well die... Dehydration is no joke. I'll provide support to anyone looking for it, I didn't get that from the interactions the OP was making.

You and matt are hard core, blunt to the point. You are both right. But sometimes people just need to vent and know they are not alone. Thats why they came here. I was a crazy dramatic and I'm so thankful for those that listened and were supportive. Everyone have a great day!

I have to agree with Matt on this one. Stop whining and deal with it. You can’t go back in time and you cannot get your stomach put back in. Your only option now is to work through it and find something that works. Or go back to the hospital and get IV fluids put in.

Had my sleeve surgery two weeks ago with no problems. I can start my soft foods tomorrow. I feel so weak though. I can't imagine returning to work right now although I will be next week. I have my post op tomorrow with my surgeon and will get a list of what Vitamins I need to take. Anyone else have this weakness?

Your grieving the loss of your best friend, food. If you feel crazy, believe me..I was nuttier than you. Your in the right place seeking help from others that have been through it. Just get your rest, focus on getting your Water and Protein amounts in. Best wishes to you!

My surgeon's office JUST called while I was randomly bawling my eyes out. I think I briefly scared the nurse. lol. I seriously feel like I am experiencing the worst PMS of my life. That's the only way I can explain my emotions right now. She said every day it will get better, and even after week 1 there will be a marked improvement. I'm just in a crazy place right now, emotionally. And there seems to be no reasoning with it. My brain is being an a-hole. I know I did the right thing. I KNOW it. But some part of me is trying it's hardest to make me feel just awful.

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I got you, girl. I'm six months post op. Been in that same place..its not easy. Your body and mind is wigging out. You will go thru ups and downs, more changes than you will ever go through. Get a journal scribble down your crazy thoughts. Doesn't matter if you cant read it. Get it out. Pray if your at all religious. Concentrate on the positive and stay focused on yourself and you will get through it. Go to a support group if there's one in your area.
Your going to be just fine..it just takes time. It took me until four months till the waters parted and I felt human again. Please keep us posted..hang in there. Every day will get better.

My surgeon's office JUST called while I was randomly bawling my eyes out. I think I briefly scared the nurse. lol. I seriously feel like I am experiencing the worst PMS of my life. That's the only way I can explain my emotions right now. She said every day it will get better, and even after week 1 there will be a marked improvement. I'm just in a crazy place right now, emotionally. And there seems to be no reasoning with it. My brain is being an a-hole. I know I did the right thing. I KNOW it. But some part of me is trying it's hardest to make me feel just awful.

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You are a real trooper! I would have fallen
Asleep at my desk, totally knocked put when boss came around! Lol

I have a desk job as well. I had my surgery on a Thursday (sleeve) and returned the next Wednesday. I work 10 hour shifts and only "problem" I had was sitting down for long periods of time, so I took frequent breaks walking around for 5-7 minutes and everything would feel better. Hope that helps !

Cott@ge cheese, I used to [emoji174] it, ate oodles of it prior to surgery, now Precious Pouch repels and forcibly repulsed it. Lets see,how my endoscopy November 9th,does, Maybe just Maybe I will OPEN UP enough to get some value from it?[emoji53][emoji54][emoji25]

I'm six months post sleeve. Tastes definitely changed. After bland liquid diet, funnel diet, soft food stage ect. And I would also like to mention I stayed in those phases a little longer just to be on the safe side....my taste buds have definately changed. Use to love tuna before surgery, now post surgery has super strong fishy taste to me. Love fruit now since its sweet and juicy. Watermelon being my fav food!! Frozen, canned or processed foods turn me off, have no desire to eat. Have no desire or cravings to ever go thru a drive thru again. Hope that lasts for quite sometime. Tried one bite of Pasta. Had weird sponge flavorless texture, not for me. bread is the same. I eat yogurt everyday and love flavors I did not before. Use to absolutely hate carrots and now love the crunch and can eat them every day. My tastes have definitely changed and I believe its from the initial change of diet post surgery. So happy for the changes! I'm so blessed to have met my surgeon who made it all possible and affordable. Love love blossom barriatrics in las Vegas!!

Ok so I keep reading about taste preferences changing after surgery- something you once loved to eat or drink and now cannot stand even the thought of it post op. Science can't explain it. Tell us your experience with this strange phenomenon....

Have things gotten better for you? Please post and let us know. I also had a hard time in first weeks. I had iv therapy twice for dehydration. It all gets better. For me it took till right around four months till I felt myself again. I hoping your doing better!

I am 1 weeks out. And my gut feeling was not to do it! I had a terrible time with the band and this is no different! I even asked my surgeon AND nutritionist about my health issues BEFORE and they assured me I’d be fine! I have IBS (now terrible diarrhea and a fissure), Migraines (can’t drink anything with artificial sweeteners so I’m dehydrated-water makes me vomit due to the metallic taste in my mouth)! I am hungry, in pain, and dehydrated and the only thing they want me to do is go to ER! I can’t spend 4 months in the ER because I can’t drink Water or anything else!!! I have 4 kids! I should have just accepted my body for what it was! Seriously sick of myself and my dr. It’s all about the money for them! Sorry so negative but I needed to rant and cry....somewhere..

Put your health first. Your having surgery and lordy, lordy..your body is going to go through alot. So take the time you need to heal. unless of course, if you can not afford to be off work then your situation may be that you have to go back to work right away. I would not, as an employer, even want someone to return to the workforce after a few days.

I am an Assistant Controller- another total desk job, My surgery is scheduled for a Thursday and I plan on coming back Monday. My boss thinks I will be working from home and they are setting me up that way, but i want to come back LOL.. She also has a couch in her office and i told her if i need it, i can use it.

That's awesome!

Desk job and I only missed 4 working days. With the weekend it was like a full week.

I am an account manager, total desk job. I was curious how long others were off work due to their surgeries.

Take it slow. You got a baby's stomach now. Eat as you would feed a baby. Try one food at a time and see how it goes. Then add another soft food. No reason to rush this process. Weigh or measure your foods also according to what your doctor told you.

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At one week I was drinking Protein Shakes, sugar free popsicles, Jello, maybe a few bites of yogurt. No way thinking of getting a chicken bowl. Call your surgeons office or doctor cause your food plan is nothing I've ever heard one week after surgery.

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Ttjank you for your response!!

The way it was explained to me was the reason why they don't want u to drink during meals is so that you don't flush the food through which in turn allows you to eat more. It also ensures that u r getting the nutrients. This is what I was told. I know ppl that are a year or more out that will drink with meals now but I haven't tried it yet. I imagine I will one day tho. It drives me crazy!

Question to may sleevers.... Are you still following the golden rule not to drink at the same time as eating? I've slipped few times recently and didn't feel ant difference. Think I may call surgeons office and ask if its OK now to drink with meals or if this is for life.

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Sleeved on may 2nd at over 300 lbs. Started my life over at 55 years. I'm so grateful for the chance to live again. I'm down 60 lbs and will lose another 100.
I've had no.complications but have went through a lot emotionally. I've had plenty of stalls and have only lost a couple of lbs in the last two months. But I'm OK with that. I'm off all medications and have more energy than ever! My dream already came true..went to.the beach and was able to.walk and feel the sand on my feet. Complete bliss..
Thank you for listening to me and thank you to everyone for understanding.

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Listen to [mention=291533]Diana_in_Philly[/mention]!!! She's had such amazing success and is now an Olympic athlete!!! This to me is the greatest balance in life. Does that mean you eat out 3 times a week? Nope. Not at all. But do you avoid it and become a shut-in--only cooking at home? No forkin way! You had this surgery in order to reCLAIM your life, not limit it and lose it!!!! LOL.
So we go out to dinner usually about 1 time a week. And when I do, I ALWAYS check the menu first, figure out what I'm going to eat, figure the macros and cals in MFP and plan that meal first. Then I plan the rest of my day around it.
We do typically go to the same neighborhood restaurants because we like the food, know people there, and know what to expect. It makes my life easier and no brainer. If I don't order off the appetizer menu--love the shrimp pomodoro and either sauteed broccoli or spinach, I will order the "Add On" grilled chicken breast or grilled shrimp. It's about 3oz of Protein for $2.50 or $4.50 respectively. Then Mr. F and I share a capreses salad of which I have 1 slice tomato/1 slice mozza/1 basil leaf/ 1/2tbsp capers / 1/2oz roasted red peppers / 1/2tsp balsamic reduction and I'll have a couple of bites of his sauteed veggies. That's dinner for me. And I still usually bring home leftovers.
I will always eat from his salad plate and veggie side without ordering my own. And I will look for add-ons, or appetizer sizes, or childrens sizes of Proteins. Like the kind where you can add "4 extra shrimp" to any entree for $4.99. Or "add a 3oz lobster tail to your steak" for $7.99. That way Mr. F. gets what he wants, I may have a bite of his Protein too if my add on isn't enough...and split like I said. That cuts down on my leftovers tremendously, lets me enjoy a date with Mr. F. and allows me to be out in a public setting enjoying friends without stressing about food, leftovers, etc.
If I order an entree it has to be pretty special. LOL> Cuz I will eat it for at least 3 meals. I generally don't want anything bad enough to splurge for 3 meals in a row. Something like that would usually be pretty decadent, high fat, high cal and it's not worth my time when it boils down to it.

I'm not "giving up my life". Its all part of my life style chsnge . like I said , eating out is big part of my weight gain over the years. So why go back to it.

That's great advice for new post-ops. But you can't give up your life cuz you had surgery. You do have to find some balance. And yes, eating in is wayyyy better IMHO than going out. But when you go out, you DO have to hopefully acquire new habits. It's a learning process that I'm still in, so I can't speak as an authority on this! LOL.
I did take my measuring cups into restaurants, especially in the early days! And I'd immediatly ask for a box to go and put the remaining portion away. I would also transfer my portion to a bread plate so it looked like more and had the server to take my other plate away. I didn't care if I looked dumb, it was more important to eat and not stress.
Now I use my palm as 3 ounces, my thumb as 1oz, my index and middle as 2 ounces, my fist as a cup. I'm sure I'm off, but if I overserve myself, my tummy does tell--even though I would probably be eating more than weighing and measuring here at home on my scale and in the cups.