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Sometimes you've just gotta get it out of your system. But, my goodness, you were enthusiastic! Hope you feel better soon.

You might want to increase your calories a bit with Protein if you are doing some serious workouts, you are going to burn through upwards of half your daily intake in 1 good session!

Cutting the alcohol and coffee is a good idea, lots of extra calories and carbs in the alcohol. What's your Water intake? If it's not upwards of 128oz, work on getting it up there.
Something else to watch for in case you didn't think of this, working out is going to increase muscle mass, so you might appear to stall weight wise. If your gym has a body fat % measuring device or scale, start checking it out to track your body fat % losses.

Stretching your sleeve isn't the answer, Connie! Take out your frustrations and talk with someone! All these people that are giving you advice are here to pick you up! You are going through this journey with all of us!! Don't give up so easily!

Hi Connie.

The first month is the hardest. Please try to hang in there. It will get better.

That being said, at this stage in your recovery, please don’t be tempted to do things to stretch your pouch. The risk to you and your health is substantial so early after surgery.

Unfortunately, people who aren’t interested in seeing a therapist are often the individuals who need to work with a therapist the most. Yes, it is painful to work through tough issues from childhood, but you will come out stronger in the long run.

Please seek some psychological help.

Please consider seeing a therapist. This is an incredibly self destructive thought process. You are young, take this time to get mentally healthy.

Not sure what kind of preparation and evaluation you received before surgery but I would strongly recommend finding someone with experience in eating disorders that you are comfortable with to talk to. Many people use food (as well as drugs/alcohol) to treat depression and childhood trauma is a big causative factor especially in someone your age.
It is entirely possible to stretch the sleeve out so you can eat what and how much you want to. I know people who have done this. However, it is vitally important that you follow your doctor's recommendations until you are fully healed to avoid life threatening complications. I am hoping that by then you will be feeling more accepting of the limitations. And this whole concept of "cheat days" only cheats yourself. There is a reasonable portion of anything that you can enjoy eventually. You ARE losing weight naturally, the sleeve is just a tool to help you.
Please be gentle with yourself and take it one day at a time. Hugs!!

I understand that control is an issue for you and I also understand that childhood trauma can alter your state of mind at anytime but these are some serious thoughts you are having. Regretting your surgery to the point that you are already contemplating ways (albeit very unhealthy and unsafe ways) to stretch your sleeve back out really isn’t safe for your physical and mental well being. I read that you didn’t want a therapist, but having someone to talk to at this time could really help you adapt to the changes that you are uncomfortable with. And I say this because, as fresh out of surgery as you are, if you opted to try to stretch your sleeve out with food anytime in the near future, you could have some serious health risks at hand. I do not believe that you would want to risk your life by rupturing your staple line which could result in death or serious additional surgeries. Also, if you survived, your adaptation back to real food would start over and be a much slower process. These are things that you should consider before automatically dismissing therapeutic intervention. If you were able to work thru your lack of control, I am sure that you would find the healthier physical you will appreciate the healthier mental you as well.

This is a genius idea. Thank you for this!