Oh PoMo , i am without a doubt the very last person who should be answering your post.
All the advice you seek is in your post.
dont eat every 2-3 hours
cut out the sugars
increase Protein
increase Water
add exercise
after the surgery it is all a mental game and you have to commit to winning the mental game or the physcial one is lost.
Start by cutting out the sugars
then the refined carbs- if its located in the middle of a store it is not a good idea.
replace with protien
and start walking and dont stop. walk all the time as much as you can whenever you can.
drink water pls. If you have to add 0 calorie flavors to help.
Last - Dont Surrender
come back everyday and lets us know how you did and how far you walked and google wls support for you city and find a grp of local people going thru this so you can feel connected.
Just dont give up