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My partner says I don't snore like a piggy any more.

I had a NSV today! I went for a walk at work and it didn’t suck! I’m only a few weeks post-op but it’s crazy the positive effects I’m already noticing.

I am pre-surgery. I'm thought about the surgery for a decade. Shame and fear got in the way. Finally I realized that being morbidly obese was FAR more dangerous than having the surgery, and I had a better chance of dropping dead over the next few years than I would flatlining on the table. The shame was harder to get over and I am working on that. What helped me the most was saying to myself, "What would you think of someone else who had the surgery?" I wouldn't judge them at all. I am working on trying to be as kind and accepting to myself as I would be to someone else.

I thought I had forgiven myself for getting so out of control. I felt peace with my decision to have surgery. I needed it more than anything. After surgery, laying in bed, feeling pain, feeling numb, feeling excited for all the days ahead, I suddenly and profoundly felt "ashamed" all over again and I cried about it for a long time. I wouldn't say it was regret although I understand that is common to feel as well, but I did feel like such a failure for putting my body in such jeopardy. Those feelings have all passed now. They will for you too! And..if by some chance bad feelings linger, please get yourself help. Don't be afraid to talk to a psychologist. They really are quite pleasant.

Great advice @Matt Z. You are not alone in this journey. Life happens. I was terrified myself, but then my doctor told me I had higher odds of dying if I continued my previous path and did not have the surgery. I was more than twice what I should be weight wise. I've now lost more than half of my weight and feel so much better. I am no longer diabetic and almost off my high blood pressure meds. Last week I swam in a lake and went kayaking. I would not have been able to do this last year. Take your life back. YOU are worth the time and energy.

I understand your fear and shame. First, know that the surgery is very safe and you are in good hands. The surgical team and nursing staff know their stuff and they will take care of you. Second, trust that you are a courageous person to make the decision to have this surgery. It's not easy! But you have decided to take a proactive course to live a better, healthier life. That is something to be proud of. Best wishes on your surgery and recovery!

First of all, Good for you that you are on your way to better health. NO need to be ashamed. I think all of us can name at least 1 thing in our life that we can feel shame over. So YOU are NOT alone. Its ok to feel that emotion, but don't get stuck there. Try your best to focus on better health and feeling great. Being scared is very normal. If you want I will pray for you . I will pray for peace of mind, comfort, a successful surgery and a lifetime of improved health. Remember YOU are NOT alone is this

Getting sleeved was my very first surgery and being put under was my biggest fear. That being said we cant be ruled by our fears if you let fear of surgery control you the weight will take away your life 1 pound at a time.
we adjust and slow down so gradually we do not even notice how we are withdrawing from life as our weight piles up and make everything we do harder.
Please face your fears and get your life -all of it - back.

Being afraid is 100% natural. But the sleeve's mortality rate for "on the table" issues is amazingly low. In fact, ALL of the WLS now have super low "on the table" mortality rates. The numbers you might be looking at or hearing are usually skewed by old numbers, the surgeries have all advanced quite a lot even in the past 10 years.

As far as getting "too fat"... we all understand. It's not 100% your fault either and you shouldn't shoulder all the blame. It's a battlefield out there, horrible easy to access foods are all over. Advertising bombards our subconscious mind at every turn.

Let the past be the past. Stop dwelling on it and start moving forwards. The road ahead is going to need your undivided attention. You can't change the past, but you can control your future. So leave the past where it belongs, behind you. Now you get to start working on where you are going now.

Congrats on deciding to take back control of your life. The path laid out ahead of you is tough, and is going to require major changes to so much of your typical daily routine. It's going to get emotional. It's going to get stressful, it's going to be painful, it's going to be very hard. But. It's very worth it!

Remember, you are stronger than you give yourself credit for, be ready, post-op is an amazing journey!

Now that's a visual I can't get out of my head!

My top 12 (In no particular order)
Diabetes in complete remission Sitting in booths Not worrying if I will fit if I need to use a public restroom Boundless energy Fitting in a chair with armrest - getting out of it without it being stuck to my a$$ Not avoiding my photo being taken Everything I do is easier No pain (Knee, feet, back ....) Going from a 48" wait to 34" Having to remove 4 links from my watch band This conversation - Me: "Honey, did you pick me up anything while you were at the clothing store?" Wife: "NO. I'm afraid to buy you clothes because they will be too big by the time I get them home!" This picture VVVVV

I shaved off my beard and saw the strangest thing in the mirror: My jawline

My scale numbers aren’t great but my NSV is pretty much all of the stamina I have now. I can take longer walks without being winded or tired. I no longer have knee or ankle pains. I just overall feel great

At least corsets gave you some boobs. Jeans just created muffin tops!

So the pants I bought a week before this two week trip were a smidge tight. This week I need a belt for one pair and the others aren’t far behind.

I also bought my first aspirational piece of clothing. It’s a good 2-3 sizes below where I’m at but I feel totally doable.

Hello ALL!!!!
i had my surgery back in March 26, 2018. my highest weight which 2 weeks before surgery was at 348. I went on a two week liquid diet (UGH) before surgery and on my surgery date i was at 326. Today i am down to 245 pounds just outside of my 4 month mark. i am extremely happy that i had the surgery. i like a lot of people was very scared and even got to the point of cancelling the surgery the night before but here i am now. it is possible. it is a different life style but its a better life style. to anyone out there trying to get the surgery id say DO IT!!! it is very important to have people around you to support you. i had my amazing girlfriend who has helped me sosososo much and also my sister. i couldnt be more grateful.

Every few days or when I am feeling thinner. I did start getting weird about the whole thing and if I hadn't lost or god forbid, gained, it really affected my day.

I decided life is too short to hang my entire days happiness on what the scales say.

Weighing daily would drive me insane. I know because I've done it before. I am only weighing once a week. We have a scale at my work, so I weigh on it every Monday at around the same time, wearing similar clothing and the same shoes.

I don't own a scale. don't plan on owning a scale after my surgery either. owning a scale would just mess more with me emotionally. I go by clothes and when I go to the doctors. my weigh ins will be at my follow ups only.
again, this is just my personal preference. Just want my focus on this exciting journey and the new lifestyle changes. I know everything else will follow

Once a week. I stopped for a couple of years and recently noticed that my clothes weren't fitting comfortably. I weighed myself and I had gained seven lbs. I started food tracking again and counting calories and lost the seven. I'm back to weekly weigh-ins because it's easier to lose two than seven, and I've decided two is the upward limit for me. 139 and below, okay. More, and it's lose it time. Besides, I spent a lot of money getting new clothes that are pretty and fit and I refuse to buy bigger ones.

Eberhard - good for you!
I have told most people too and don't mind shining the light of education into the darkness of ignorance, BUT there is so much ignorance it can get exhausting after a while. 😩

Typically overweight people and healthy people have different lifestyles. This can lead to incompatibility on lots of levels.
It is also hard to watch someone you care about be sick and unhealthy, over time this can wear at a relationship too.

Typically overweight people and healthy people have different lifestyles. This can lead to incompatibility on lots of levels.
It is also hard to watch someone you care about be sick and unhealthy, over time this can wear at a relationship too.

I met my husband when I was 22 but we did not start dating until I was 25. At that time, I weighed 125-130. He was a former model and absolutely gorgeous. We were wildly attracted to each other. We married in 1984 when I was 26 and always had an active lifestyle (sailing, Water and snow skiing, tennis). I never had weight problems and we had a great relationship.
In my late 40s I begin to gain weight even though there were no changes in my diet or activity level. I had multiple appts. with my doctor to do testing (thyroid, cortisol)---all normal. I gradually got up to 220 which was unbelievable to me. At age 50 I started Atkins and lost 40 pounds in about 7 months. At age 51 I quit smoking after 33 years. Over the next few years my weight really shot up and my asthma got worse. I then, in 2014, was involved in a horrible car accident and sat in my house recovering from surgery and injuries for 4 months and then forced myself to return to work but I was unhealthy, obese and miserable. I hit my all time high weight of 290 pounds in November 2017. I had gained 165 pounds since we met...
Through all of this, he was and is my biggest supporter. Our relationship has suffered in every way because I was depressed, sick and felt so bad about myself. He has never gone a day without telling me that I am beautiful and he loves me. He has always said that the only thing that bothers him about my weight is that it makes me down on myself and limits/changes what activities we can do together. I do not believe this 100% but that is the type of man he is. We especially miss being able to take trips on the Harley, which we dearly love. Hopefully back to it soon.
He is thrilled with where I am at now, even though there is still a ways to go. I know our commitment is forever.

Typically overweight people and healthy people have different lifestyles. This can lead to incompatibility on lots of levels.
It is also hard to watch someone you care about be sick and unhealthy, over time this can wear at a relationship too.