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Do you have a date yet? I'm happy I had the surgery, but it's been a roller coaster emotionally, physically, and everything in between.

I was excited and nervous. I was just like you and I was thinking I won't pass my psych eval, I'll lose too much weight before during the pre op liquid diet, I didn't weigh enough even though my insurance already approved it, that once my Dr got in me there would be a reason not to finish, etc. I was a nervous wreck up until I woke up from surgery.

I have ruined the taste of many yogurts with meds in it. I can't wait to be able to swallow pills again. But now that I hve found these Bari Life powdered multi with Iron, I'll never buy anything else unless they stop making it. I haven't tried the capsules because I got a sample from my surgeons office and that is how I found out I enjoy a Vitamin finally I had tried another brand, but after swallowing it, it had that vitamin after taste. YUCKY!! My kids even tasted the Bari Life and my husband and we all agree that this tastes like those powder things you put in Water for flavor. It does leave behind a little granules almost looks like sand, but I kept shaking it and this is something I would actually recommend for those with a hrd time with Vitamins.

Well after many failed attempts at many nasty to me Vitamins, I found Bari Life vitamins. Apparently the capsules have a vanilla taste. But I tried the powder that dissolves in Water and it was yummy with a weird look. The watermelon and lemonade are the colors you would think they would be (pink and yellow) they have a milky look too.

But i'm happy to hear I'm not as odd as I thought.

Yes, I'm 6 months post op on solid foods and my calories are at 500 a day. But my doctor said no more than 700 since I've been struggling. My dietician is aware and she's gotten onto me for going over. I am always full with my 500 a day limit, but I continue eating for unhealthy reasons; boredom, stress, wanting to prove I'll enjoy it, etc. I've got bariastic app on my phone which is like a MyFitnessPal but for bariatric patients with a bunch of bells and whistles. I log for about a week then I get tired of it or forget a day then just justify why not to for a few days to a week.

But like I said earlier, I get to move up calories once I reach my goal weight to start my maintaining calories.

I only had to go with the starting BMI and the doctor wanted some weight loss because it makes it easier on your liver and for the surgeon to move around inside. I had a 2 week liquid pre op diet.

I have had the hardest time with taking Vitamins because of the tastes and textures .Before surgery those types of things never bothered me, but now I get so nauseous with foul tastes and textures. I have finally found a decent Multi-Vitamin with Iron through Bari Life that I can mix with my Water. It has a great taste and texture. The only issue is it looks like a milky lemonade or Pepto Bismol for the watermelon. Has anyone else had problems with vitamins and textures?

I'm happy to find this about compression clothing. I have thought about getting something to help feel more comfortable walking and jogging. I just don't know whether to get pants or a shirt. It's my lower fat of my belly that smacks when I jog and that embarrasses me and is very uncomfortable.

You are all an inspiration to me. I have a hard time getting myself up to walk. I had my surgery in April and I know I would lose more weight if I incorporated some kind of exercise. I have an elliptical and exercise trampoline, but they just sit and collect dust. Man I need to get off my butt.

I had my VSG done in April. I've noticed after I had kids, my hair thinned out a lot, so I was terrified of the known hairloss after surgery. I have 7 month old dreads, so I can't tell what Hair loss I have.

I had my surgery in April and my doctor for the first year to eat 3 meals a day and not to exceed 500 calories. At least until I reach my goal weight then we go to 1000 calories to maintain. I have been going over my calories and my weight loss kinda paused. So my doctor said not to exceed 700 and try to stick to about 200 calories per meal whenever I eat them during the day.

I had my surgery in April and I"m so disappointed I've only lost 45 pounds. No, I'm not always eating right or staying within my 500 calorie Iimit. I have an unhealthy relationship with food and I've been so angry because I can't and don't enjoy eating at all anymore. I have to cook my food separate from my families and things don't taste as good as they used to. Has anyone else been through this and how did you get past it?

I had my surgery in April and I still struggle eating too much until I get way too full. But like someone else said, I notice that I start hiccupping and burping when I'm full.. My nurse told me she did the same thing, so I knew to look for that.

I had the sleeve gastrectomy in April of this year and if I have a small drink of anything carbonated, I feel nauseous until I let out a huge burp. I've actually had to get my hubby to pat me on the back like burping a baby.

So I haven’t told many people about me going through the process to have WLS my surgery is scheduled for July 3rd and I just don’t particularly care to hear about others opinions on it at this point in my journey. Well today I find out my grandmother is going around telling EVERYONE who will listen about me having the surgery. I. AM. PISSED. I didn’t even tell her about it so someone else apparently needed to share information about it as well. Now all I’ve heard all day is how I don’t need the surgery and how I don’t even look “big” enough to have the surgery. I’m 5’3 and weighed 250 lbs at the beginning of my pre-surgery weight loss. That is medically considered obese. I’m so frustrated right now and I just don’t know what to do about this situation. I can’t necessarily tell my grandmother to STFU lol. I tried telling her I wasn’t okay with her sharing that information but it didn’t phase her at all. I’m seriously going to lose it if I hear one more time that I’m being stupid or making a huge mistake. I don’t need the negativity when I’m this close to surgery.

One way I know I'm full is when I get hiccups. It's crazy, but my husband laughs about it and it makes me laugh.

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My cousin had wls and lost her butt, I have been terrified of losing mine. And I mean this in these most respectful way, but you still have yours, and that gives me hope. You look amazing. I'm 5'2 and my heaviest was 230. I'm 2 months out and I'm a little around or before 198 (haven't weighed at my surgeon in a few weeks)

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Sleeved on 1/10/2018. Down 112 so far.

I had pcos and in 2001, I had a miscarriage after numerous negative tests. I took metformin for years for it with no luck getting pregnant and this was before I had diabetes. Then I ended up have 3 kids back to back in 2010, 2011, & 2013. The last one my cousin has, whole nother story. And that was all before I had wls. I'm grateful I had a hysterectomy last year because I already know I would be a fertile myrtle. My Dr always told me a faint line is as good as a bright one. Keep us updated. Your life is not a show like "my big fat fabulous life". This is real and I hope the best for you.

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I'm only 2 months and 8 days out, but I'm so happy I went through with it. I came home without diabetic meds and I have more energy now. It's a pain figuring out what I can eat now, but nothing worth having comes easy. I'm on track with what I'm supposed to be losing. I'm 5'2 and I weighed 230. I'm now below 198 (I haven't weighed at my Dr in a few weeks so I don't know the actual number)

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I had dehydration for the first 3 weeks post op and my Dr made me go get iv fluids. It's easier to eat right when your hydrated and you feel better. 25oz is way too low even for someone not obese. My Dietitian told me its more important to get the MINIMUM of 64oz than any Protein.

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On 05/06/2018 at 1:26 AM ,Frustr8 said:

Start a file to show him it's right for you. Hey we all are landing hard on you? Sweet Sleevie I could be the worst of all. I am 72,yeah you read that right, and at this late date I'm still growing up. See I was what you could become, I was married 44 years to someone, when I look back , was very emotionally controling. Why did I stay there? My generation was taught you put up with a lot just to keep a man, you're nothing without a man, ooh I'd could tell you until nightfall, but now I'm finally,standing,on my own 2 feet, not easy,when every joint is broken down by arthritis. My parents didn't want me to rush my health, I didn't have surgery, I got married, my husband put,me down for my weight, I didn't stand up to him about,it, I stifeled my heartbreak and kept,on, doing any thing to appease his anger so I could keep that man, and I grew a little heavier, had a daughter, raised up until she started school, goody half the responsability, now b I can have some time for me, lost a little weight, felt a little better about myself, did Mr Perfect notice? He complimented me to others but never to me, I was the fat blob,that should always obey him, asked about surgery, told what good would that do? As since I had be taught not to rock the status quo, I gave in, I was warm in a house, yes I had groceries, as long as I cooked what he wanted when he wanted it things were peaceful. I was such a good robot that when the 2 subsequent children cried I took them somewhere, took them for a walk so their noise wouldn't disturb Mr Perfect, the Great White husband, and I started gaining again, when he told me how ugly I was getting, I just gave in , agreed thinking that would make him love me more. Did it work ? Maybe,but he was still against a surgical change for me. And my arthritis kept on getting worse but I gritted me teeth and went on. And my children grew to young adulthood and then adulthood. Did I leave them or him? No I had promised to stay married to him in the wedding vows and my main duty was to,prep him and all the children happy, my wants got stuffed down and I continued on in my warm sheltered prison. Even when I got a job I was expected to return home promptly, gave my check into,the family coffers and kept my mouth shut, I wasn't out in the cold that way.

Toward the end of my marriage I got a little more independant, having a job gave me a little more fire in my soul. I didn't hardly,mention WLS but I decided I would eventually have it for I felt my bodybstarting to slow down from the years of weight.

The last few months of his life he started a new tactic on me. I couldn't cook right, now the children were mostly grown and not around to hearing him, he could try a few more belittling things. People at work started noticing I wasn't as bouncy and cheery as I once was, they attributed to me approaching retirement age, I didn't admit the unhappiness I got at home. I had started walking for exercise with a friend, I was accursed of having an affair with her. I couldn't keep the house clean, he could ha e helped, wouldn't, not a mans job so I did what I could in between working, decided he didn't feel like driving me back and forth, started using public,transit, asked if he would help me regain a license, I hadn't driven in years. Thought,maybe I drive it there with him in other seat, because I had learners permit , then if he drive the car back I could drive home. Seemed reasonable to me, he didn't think so, why would I want to be so silly and do that? And he started talking more about my ugliness, if weight,was,mentioned it was my fault,i was fat and ugly. Got a pedometer to check , my exercise level was quite adequate. I finally Rationlized maybe he was getting Alzheimers, if so maybe he couldn't help what he was saying. The unhappiness must be all my fault. And he started getting thinner, maybe I wasn't making sure he was getting enough to eat. He was always home, did he fix his own food, nope? Found out later after he would announce he was too tired to drive me, he would go out to eat. But I accepted everything was my fault. Didn't admit problems to anyone, that would admit my imperfections. After pointing out to me that he could control his diet and the diet didn't control him, another dig at me. He offered his ultimate insult,I was so ugly that not even a blind man would touch me, and if I did ever find,one, it would take every dollar in my wallet to pay him, for no intelligent would do it for free.

And still he did this and I meekly accepted it.

Then we lost power during a bad storm in 2012, no cold drinks, he wouldn't drink warm drinks or Water so he basically dehydrated and died on the 4th of July. After he died I started going through his personal papers, turned out his doctor had told him he was in kidney failure, without intervention he would die. Had he told me, the woman who gave up college, sublimated her wishes, her self respect and did her up most to please him for 44 years, 2/3rd of her life?Nope, and suddenly the blinders fell off my eyes. I had given everything up and got little in return. I was basically alone, yes I still had my son, although he was and still,is a comfort, to me I would have to be an adult, yes the self-same person told,she was nothing wihout him to,lean on. Guess what he was wrong then and he's still wrong. I am loved in this world for being,me,not somebody's daughter, somebody's wife, somebody's parent, loved for me and me alone. And like a prisioner wrongly,imprisoned for a crime he didn't commit, I am free! And since I am now freed, I can want and achieve a dream, bariatric surgery, yes it is a late date in my life, but I can still have a few more years to live smaller, fitter and with a greater degree of health. And sad to say, there probably surgeon's that will say,i,am too old, too physically depleted for surgery. So now I have to carry,my own banner, at 20,30,40 even 50 people are happy to March with you on such,a journey. At 72 I am forced to,make my own kind of music, sing my own song, but even then, the sound of my voicecspeaking up still deserves to be heard.

You said he is not supportive of your plans for surgery? Well earlier today I wrote a poem, well I do write poetry, that part of my personality didn't get killed. You'll find it posted under Surgery is it the easy way out? I may be a little proud of my own work but I think,of is pretty good. Go read,it, everyone else reading can too. Then get back to me if you like. I'm almost always within earshot,of my android phone. Your older but wiser friend Frust8

I confess I cheat eating snack crackers or hot Cheetos. I'm a month and a half out and I'm still on liquids because I wasn't getting my fluids in. I confess I'm jealous of my husband and kids because I cook them a yummy dinner and I drink mine or eat a pickle pop. I love seeing people eat especially what I've cooked, but I'm sad I can't even eat tuna

I tried scrambled eggs and it makes me nauseous. but after a visit to my Dr I had to stay on liquids because I'm not getting my fluids in

I'm a little month post op. I'm still on liquids because I haven't been getting my fluids. but it's still the best gift I've given myself