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If you’re still feeling nauseas, make sure you tell your surgeon’s office about it. It may be nothing, but it may also be caused by something that they need to or can treat.On 08/14/2018 at 20:11, Starr2015 said:
I try. We bought gatorade because I will actually drink the bottles. I drink more in the afternoon and night, not really eating a meal until about 12pm or later. I am no where near 64 oz but even before surgery I am a chronic nondrinker that paid for it with kidney stones.
Towards the later part of the night I tend to try to drink a shake and a gatorade. But I just feel nauseous most of the time whether I eat/drink/nothing.
I can’t recall if I had nausea that far out. I think my only bout of unexplained nausea was the day after surgery. -
It is tough, but you just need to prioritize getting the liquids and protein your program states. It will get better soon! I’m 1 month post-op and no longer have discomfort unless I eat too much or eat too fast.On 08/14/2018 at 19:42, Starr2015 said:
So now 8 days out of surgery... and I am still mixed. With no weight loss at first appointment, and jumping to pureed because at least i get my Protein in, I wonder why I can no longer stomach the shakes. Legit 2 swallows and it hits a wave of spasm pain. Same for Soup or Jello. But gatorade is okay. If I can only have 2 spoonfuls of something (and it is hard mentally to make it 2 spoonfuls) I really need the Protein. And I need to force more Water. I just don't always have the urge to eat/drink.
The first few weeks are the hardest. I still have to prioritize and be mindful of drinking Water and hitting my 64oz goal every day for fluids. -
I went shopping Saturday and bought a pair of size 20 jeans! Before starting this process, I was a solid size 28. Day of surgery I was a 24.
I remember holding up the size 20s and saying, “no way are these tiny things going to fit big old me!” But those suckers fit like a glove!
One month post op and I can’t wait for the NSVs to keep coming. 😄 -
I thought my RNY sucked a lot more than my gallbladder removal, but I was 12 years older when I had the RNY and that may have contributed to it. Also- I had a stone stuck and was in so much pain going into my gallbladder removal that I was actually in less pain post-op than I was in before surgery. So- these two things could contribute to my experience/perspective...
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Exactly this!!!!! A million times over this. As if being fat was about the worst thing in the world for a person to be and just negates every other accomplishment you’ve had.On 08/11/2018 at 12:29, heyprofessor said:
YEP YEP YEP. News flash everyone: I have always been smart, kind, hard-working, hilarious, and even, yes this is hard to believe, attractive. This is about my joints and my health and managing an addiction. But fuck, I’m glad to know that you all thought I was so hopeless before this.... (grad degree, college professor, mother of two, homeowner, award winning writer—but FAT???? Pearl clutching.)
Or not having kids. I’ve got a killer job and so does my husband- but because we’re fat and haven’t procreated, we suck at this life thing... poor, poor us. -
I weighed 12lbs more the day I was released from the hospital.
It was all fluids. It will go away quickly, I promise. -
There’s a way to ignore certain people. 🤔🤔. Where do I find this magical functionality?!On 08/08/2018 at 10:14, macadamia said:
This guy is an internet troll. He is baiting everyone here. I hate to say this but he is now the first person I have put on my ignore list. I have better things to do than listen to this.
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Sorry- I am a bit touchy to accusations of ableism or innuendo that may liken me to a deplorable. 😬😬On 08/05/2018 at 15:38, Missouri-Lee's Summit said:
@insta_adventurer It is extremely difficult to insert a bit of gentle humor into one's comment without being misunderstood. I obviously failed in sharing what I considered to be humor with you. Darn those emojis. They didn't help me out one bit.
I am also obese. Actually, on all my medical records I'm classified as morbidly obese. Your profile is blank so I'll take your word for it that we are in the same group.
Again, my attempt at humor did not go over well with you. I mentioned person-first language in my post because it's something that I recently encountered, so it's on my front burner. PFL is about respecting people by not labeling them with their diseases. Yes, it's just silly semantics to some, but it's also an interesting movement with heartfelt objectives.
It's not my nature to be disrespectful or unkind to others. I would never be so pretentious. I'm sorry that you misread my poor, poor attempt at humorously mocking your words.
Do you have a surgery date yet, insta adventurer? How far along are you in the pre-op process? Are you planning to have a sleeve done or a gastric bypass?
That said, I had RNY surgery July 17th. Are you pre-op or post-op?
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Please do not check me about which terms I use to identify a group that I 100% still belong to. It is not your responsibility to educate me or dictate how I choose to self-identify.On 08/05/2018 at 13:07, Missouri-Lee's Summit said:
@insta_adventurer I think many of us can relate. The person you know you went to urgent care for urgent care was given a big dose of fat-shaming instead. I'm sure she got a prescription for antibiotics, too, but that doctor just couldn't see past her weight.
And sometimes it seems that the care obese individuals receive is palliative in nature and not curative. Like the goal is to keep them comfortable because they’re basically as good as dead anyway.
Brilliantly stated, insta, except for your crime of not using people-first language.
https://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/417677-weight-bias-and-people-first-language/?tab=comments&comment=4670423&embedComment=4670423&embedDo=findComment#comment-4670423
My primary just retired. I adored her. She trusted me and I trusted her. Her replacement is a new, untested doctor who just finished her residency in family medicine. I have an appointment with her next week. I hope she's someone I can trust in the same way.
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I will have to check out that book! I’m always looking for a good read!On 08/05/2018 at 13:36, AELdoesRNY said:
Agreed about “losing my fat identity”. My decision to do this was about my personal health and was not because I had a problem with my fatness or resented it. And it almost seems like people assume that’s the motivation for such a choice. Listen- if I had perfect health I would not have done this. Such endorsements make it almost seem like society feels like our bodies aren’t worthy of praise or love until they are a certain size- which is not true at all. The choice to do what we have done is deeply personal.
You put it so well - when we get these kinds of responses it feels like we're being congratulated for finally conforming to what society wants from/expects from us. Have you read any Roxane Gay? She wrote a memoir about her body and her weight last year (called "Hunger", AMAZING) and wrote my FAVORITE article on WLS this past winter ("The Body that Understands what Fullness is"). She captures so much of what I've felt/thought about/worried about/etc. throughout my process so far. I can be a Roxane Gay proselytizer, I know, but she's AMAZING and I highly recommend her work if you haven't read it before!
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Maybe! But the accomplishment isn’t really the surgery, is it? I mean- we just laid on a table for a few hours. The accomplishment is everything we went through to get to that point... and everything we go through afterwords. Getting approved to have surgery is a lot more work and effort than the act of surgery itself.On 08/05/2018 at 12:51, Orchids&Dragons said:
I've gotten this but I appreciate it. My interpretation is that they've been worried about my health and they're happy that I made such a big decision to better my life. I actually think it's very much the same as congratulating someone on getting their Masters. I got mine in 2011 at the ripe old age of 52! You'll probably get a lot more years use out of yours! Congrats!
And congratulations on your masters! I went back to college part time at 25 to finish my bachelors.. and finally ended up with a masters when I was 33. It truly was a lot more work (the masters) than I anticipated!
Totally agree about perhaps they do not understand the work and effort that went into obtaining the Masters because they have not done it. But for me, a country bumpkin from a working class town, advancing in a space I never felt like I belonged in was a huge accomplishment.On 08/05/2018 at 12:49, GreenTealael said:
O.M.G
I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND
when I got my Masters a few years ago I thought it was a big deal, and it was to me. It was to my Mother and kinda to family and less close friends, but I don't think they really understood. None of them have advanced degrees or travailed that path.
But I haven't really told anyone about WLS, just a proxy.
BUT WTF
ALL people can talk about is the physical weight change. The only thing I can think of is because its visible and relatable.
So that may be proud of you in a way they finally can understand and relate to you.
But gather anyone who is out of line immediately, I'm always here for the clap back !!!
And like I said, I know being so open about surgery does sort open the door for comments about my weight and, for the most part, before surgery people had the good sense to not comment on my weight... but just because I want to talk about my experience does not make it open season to let me know how they really feel about fat bodies.
Agreed about “losing my fat identity”. My decision to do this was about my personal health and was not because I had a problem with my fatness or resented it. And it almost seems like people assume that’s the motivation for such a choice. Listen- if I had perfect health I would not have done this. Such endorsements make it almost seem like society feels like our bodies aren’t worthy of praise or love until they are a certain size- which is not true at all. The choice to do what we have done is deeply personal.On 08/05/2018 at 11:51, AELdoesRNY said:
I 100% feel you on this one. I get very prickly very fast when family members start going in on how "proud" they are of me, or too much of the "good for you", or my dad's "you're a hero". Especially when my parents do it, whose attempts to shame my fatness and "fix" it started when I was like 3 years old. My mom has gotten better, and she's been really great at acknowledging that this was a hard choice, that I've always been fit even at my highest weights, and if she becomes complimentary it's usually about how thoughtful and thorough I was in making this hard decision. I've been surprised but grateful at her response. One of my sisters responsed "OMG you so DESERVE it!" when I told her, which just made me PISSED. Such an obvious thin person being unable to even imagine a fat person who doesn't yearn to be thin like them. Who can't imagine a fat person who, when given the opportunity, wouldn't just leap excitedly for a chance to not be fat.
Obviously, this was the choice I made. I wish it wasn't a choice I had to make, but there are so many things in this world that made my size inconvenient and made my size an obstacle for me. There's a big part of me that's sad about the prospect of losing my "fat" identity, and I have a lot of frustration toward a society and individuals who are so apt to praise and get behind a weightloss story while ignoring things that matter as much/more.
I know an individual who is overweight that went to an urgent care with a horrific respiratory infection and when the urgent care doctor walked in, their first words were: “how long you been so big?” 😮😮
And sometimes it seems that the care obese individuals receive is palliative in nature and not curative. Like the goal is to keep them comfortable because they’re basically as good as dead anyway.
I do feel like I’ve finally got a good primary care doc who does not assume every ailment is caused by my weight, but they certainly don’t ignore that my weight is causing health issues (high blood pressure mostly). However, I’ve certainly dealt with plenty of providers that zeroed in on my weight (or smoking when I was a smoker) as being the cause of *every* illness.
Does this sound condescending to anyone else? Maybe it just irks me so much because of my own situation. I’ve got a few people tripping over themselves to let me know how proud they are of me for having the surgery... mostly family members.
I am pretty open about having had surgery- so I know that opens me up to this sort of stuff... and comments like “before long that dress will be like a tent on you!” 😒😒
But what really grinds my gears about this “proud” comment? I completed my Masters degree this year also and these same people barely said a peep about it. I’m sorry, but in my mind getting an advanced degree is an accomplishment... having weight loss surgery to improve my health is just a smart medical choice. Obviously it’s something I’m working hard at... so yeah, it is an accomplishment, but I just feel that the “I’m so proud of you” comments are really, “I’m so proud that you’re going to be thin and attractive.” It just really kind of highlights how much importance some place on physical appearance and a number on a scale above all else.
I am not trying to diminish our struggles or experience with weight-loss surgery. I know we all fought for this and worked for this, but I’m pretty sure most of the ones telling me “I’m so proud of you” are probably the same ones who will think I took the easy way out and didn’t work hard enough to lose the weight. I was working plenty hard at this BEFORE surgery. I got to the point where at 340lbs I could actually do a push up, plank for 2 minutes, and make it through a 45 minute spin class and not die.
I have a family reunion in a few weeks and am already prepared to clap back when someone tries to give me their opinion about my body and my decision. So yeah- this is my contribution to the rants section. 😂😂
I am 3 weeks out of RNY bypass. I was a nervous wreck before surgery. To the point that I had a read a story on here of someone having their surgery cancelled because they were so nervous they broke out in hives, and I was for sure that would end up being me. I was worried about the pain, the permanence, and the change this would bring to my life.
I won’t lie, the first four days after surgery there was a good deal of pain. And I’m so early post surgery that I can’t say for certain I’ll be a success story... but was it worth it? Absolutely. Because maybe I don’t lose all the excess weight, but I certainly wasn’t losing it without the surgery. At least I can feel like I’m giving it my best shot, that I *tried* my best, and did what I could to overcome my weight issues and the health problems I had/have that are caused by it.
Have you both tried liquid acetaminophen? Rite aid carries it here and it’s their store brand.On 08/05/2018 at 08:52, BadWolf523 said:
It is the worse. I threw mine up. So I guess I’m doing this with no Pain killers.
I found the taste less offensive and obviously it not being a narcotic means it won’t co tribute to Constipation and isn’t addictive. I also doesn’t make you sleepy and dopey (but certainly isn’t as effective for pain as the codeine).
I am nearly 3 weeks and do believe I have hit the dreaded 3 week stall. I know this is normal- so I’m doing my best to not let it get to me.
Challenges I’ve run into? Finding things to wear to work. Nearly every pair of pants is too big, so I’ve been wearing dresses and skirts. The dresses are a bit loose- but dresses can’t fall down so it doesn’t matter.
I’m also in a constant battle against Constipation and have to take colase and drink Smooth Move tea every night. It sucks, but I’m sure this will get better as my diet gets more varied.
I am averaging between 400 and 500 calories a day. Still relying on Protein Shakes to meet my Protein goals.
I am down 27lbs since surgery, 65lbs since starting the process in January, and 103lbs since my heaviest in October 2016.
Yesterday I treated myself to a iced Passion tea sweetened with stevia from Starbucks.
And I drank it through a straw.
It was great.
I am 17 days post op and yes- still swollen and tender. I think the left is where they move your liver aside to get at your belly and this could be way it’s an extra tender spot.On 08/03/2018 at 14:33, Poppygirl said:
Advice needed please 🙏🏿 my tummy still feels so hard and blown up! I am day seven today, is this normal? I’m still doing liquid diet but still getting stitch pain on left. Are your tummies still really hard and blown up?
That was a super sore spot for me during the first week and a half.
I had this happen with some chicken a few days ago. I think I just ate too much or too fast. I’ve been taking it easy since and only eating really soft purees/things and Soups.< br />On 08/03/2018 at 12:21, J San said:
I have a question. This morning 2nd day on phase 4 which allows me to eat meat, I tried ground beef. My wife made fresh burgers last night for dinner with an 80/20 mix and I took 1oz of one of the patties. I ate about 1/4 of it and done. Couldn't eat any more, I was too full. After about 35 minutes after I took a small sip of Water then went for a second. I didn't swallow it because I had that tightness in my chest suddenly build up really strong. Then kicked in the nausea. 1st time since surgery I had to vomit. Silly and it probably doesn't matter but when this happens do you track that as a meal? Does any of it get into your system in that amount of time?
I removed the chicken from my tracker, because I was pretty sure every bit came back up. lol
Second this statement. Zoloft will suck the sexy right out of a person. Ask whichever provider prescribed the Zoloft to change it to something different.On 08/03/2018 at 11:53, Sosewsue61 said:
I think it’s important to have realistic expectations... at your starting weight, 30 lbs in 3 weeks is really rather remarkable.On 08/02/2018 at 19:07, Letsgetgoing2018 said:
Hi all. I was 248 the day I walked into surgeons office. Had sleeve July 10th. Now 215. I feel like I should have lost more by now. Doing everything I’m told to do except have been limited to mostly walking as my form of exercise. I’m very sore and still get periods of exhaustion but it’s getting better. I know slow and steady wins the race but I feel like I should have lost more by now.
I don’t think that’s losing too slowly at all.
Bald spot... is this caused by the surgery?
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Ummm so I am one month post op. I haven’t really noticed an uptick in Hair loss yet.
However, today I was getting my hair done and my stylist asked, “have you always had this bald spot?”
And I said, “Durrr uhhhh what?”
So yeah- I’ve got a quarter sized bald spot in the back of my head. Could this be surgery related? I’m not talking shedding either- I’m talking BALD. Anyone else experience this? I’m starting to freak out that it may be Alopecia (thanks dr. google)!
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