SleeveinIL

I am slowly, s-l-o-w-l-y, learning in my old age that you don't always have to do everything for everyone else and that it is ok to take care of your own needs first. $260 is a lot to spend for a family of 4 to eat without any leftovers, especially when one person can barely eat anything. Maybe next year you can do the buffet, or maybe your sister and her family can go out to a buffet, and you and your kids can have dinner, and then everyone meets up later for board games and football or something. Focus on some fun post-meal activities. I'm skipping Thanksgiving this year because I am on liquids, which means my mom won't attend either (her choice, she doesn't want to go without me). She is ok with that, but I feel guilty about ruining her holiday. I made my peace with it because I realized that skipping this one Thanksgiving to have surgery earlier this month means that I will hopefully be healthier, live longer and have more Thanksgivings in my future.

Losing a pet is terrible, and it's OK to be sad. ❤️
Taking care of yourself is also OK--better than OK!--and if you're offering to cook, that means your sister doesn't have to cook or stress, which is kind of what she was after, anyway? So you don't need to feel bad about this.
I can definitely imagine going to a buffet again, even though I don't eat much, but we're talking, like $10 Indian lunch buffet, not $65 (holy crap) Thanksgiving buffet! And I'll probably always favor non-buffets, since not eating part of my meal immediately just means I get to enjoy it later on (or my spouse does). It feels like less pressure, or something.
Anyway, I'm babbling. I think you're doing the right thing, here. I hope your sister is cool about it.

So sorry about the dog. It is so hard when they pass.
Yes, that $65 is super steep. You'd really be paying $260 for 3 people to eat and you to watch. Yikes! And I'm sure they wouldn't let you in without paying. Maybe just beg your sis to put it off until next year when you might be able to enjoy it too? I mean, honestly, you've already got the darn turkey. You're still a work in progress and you sure don't want to throw up in the restaurant. Maybe thinking about it that way will help your sister understand. By next Thanksgiving, you'll be far more sure of what you can handle and what you can't.
Good luck.

Sorry about your pup. That's a real grief you need to allow yourself to express.
So $65 for each person is hefty. We couldn't afford that for TG for 4. But buffets don't freak me. I wouldn't even pay--just sneak a bite or two off a plate here or there. No biggie. But doing a restaurant or keeping food simple is also what works for most.
Sorry you're having a tough time about the upcoming holiday. Remember, our joy will mostly be with being with those we love.

Woot! Woot! Way to go.

Woot! Woot! Way to go.

It looks clear but very small so it is hard to know for sure.

It got real for me about day 4 of the liquid pre-op diet! LOL You will do great. You've got this.

Great news on the follow up. The tricep issue sounds not so nice. I guess numb is better than in pain though. I have a similar issue on my right thigh - the whole top and outside of it is completely numb but I was told it is from a pinched nerve. I would think after losing 90lbs that the nerve would no longer be pinched, but nope, still numb.
You are doing awesome and are an inspiration for me!

Thank you. I was working so hard to get to this point. I wanted it so bad I could taste it. LOL

Congrats! I am soooo jealous. I have never weighed less than my 6'1" husband! But in about 16 more pounds . . . (If he doesn't drop 10 pounds by skipping lunch one day )

It is. I have dropped quite a few inches and I fit into chairs and seats so much better. I need to take a day off work and go see if I can ride amusement rides at Six Flags! I said I wanted to be small enough to ride with my kids again. Today was exciting as I hit 219. I weight only 3 lbs more than my husband now. And get this...yesterday I ran circuits! I ran a total of 24 min on the treadmill with circuits at the 2 4 and 6 min marks. I actually RAN! I haven't run since high school. Mind you I wasn't breaking any land speed records, but I RAN!

It is. I have dropped quite a few inches and I fit into chairs and seats so much better. I need to take a day off work and go see if I can ride amusement rides at Six Flags! I said I wanted to be small enough to ride with my kids again. Today was exciting as I hit 219. I weight only 3 lbs more than my husband now. And get this...yesterday I ran circuits! I ran a total of 24 min on the treadmill with circuits at the 2 4 and 6 min marks. I actually RAN! I haven't run since high school. Mind you I wasn't breaking any land speed records, but I RAN!

Nobody who has not done this can understand how nothing we are doing is "easy".
keep up the great work.

Congrats girl! I'm rooting for you

You've got this! I'm here for you. PM me anytime things get tough.

You accomplished something in the wake of a disappointment. I call that a HUGE win!!!

Well, that sounds awful. Glad to see you back.

Hi and welcome to the forums. I too had a lot of mixed emotions, I started to lose weight when I started with my NUT 3 mos prior to surgery and I questioned if I even needed it. I did go through with it and it was the best decision. It is very normal to feel like you are.
When you say "How did you get things prepared?" was there something in particular you are thinking about like hospital stay or family meal preparedness? I might be able to offer some thoughts, but don't want to drown you in too much info.

That's terrible! Glad to hear you're on the mend!

Glad to hear you are out of the hospital and on the road to recovery!

I am embarrassingly gassy. You are not alone. But the good thing is that the wind that comes from the 'nether regions' does not smell! At least

You are not alone with the gas! I worry about that sometimes too. It used to be worse, but it has gotten better in the last few weeks. I am extremely gassy now. I do use a straw frequently, so I wonder if that is the culprit.
And congrats on the trainer! That is something I really want to try. I just cringe at the cost factor.

It's funny you mention the photo at work! I got questioned a bar this past weekend because my picture didn't look like me anymore. Congrats! You may have inspired me to take a bath

putting your health and happiness first is really a form of putting family first. What good are you if your sick and miserable.