charlimc

oh and he is the one who has always asked for me back, during the last time we were apart for 6 months he was seeing some other girl and i was dating the field, he broke up with this girl to ask for me back, i gave him a chance and started going on dates with him took me a while to say that i wanted to be with him but he proved hhim self to me.

Yep your right its not what i want to hear, but yes it runs through my mind. I love this man to death, i had a conversation with him on the phone last night and i said that i feel like you have done a complete turn around and just acted like this man to get me back and i feel tricked and played a fool, he turned around and said hes been played a fool by forking out the money for the deposit and then hung up on me.

I sent him a email last night stating my feelings about it again and the fact that i dont want to feel like a problem in his life.

Im so upset, i dnt know what to do, we have holidays booked, and the house thing... i love him, i just want to feel it back. Ive had this conversation wth my mum and she seems to think that im over reacting, that i shouldnt expect it to be la de da all the time.

Im so sorry that i have vented out on here i feel quite ashamed posting and showing all my problems to the world

I guess anything is possible, im stuck i dont know, ive tried approaching the problem about telling him how i feel but it just ends in a argument, we arnt even talking right now.

yup i agree ill stomach down these shakes i bought and stock up on some bars, although at $20 for 6 bars is abit ouchies on the pocket:unsure:

3 times.. eek ive introduced it today and ohh yuk!

Ok guys sorry to make me way into the MAN area but im guna take my chances to get some advice for u fellas about my little relationship issues that i have at the moment.

My partner have been together for a while now this is accually the 3rd time round we have been together we were seperated for 6 months, when he came back into my life things were absoluteley wonderful, he was a veryu humble positive person to be around, he was very open about his feelings towards me and very affectionate. I felt like he was very proud to be with me and i was for the 1st time really with him feeling very secure in our relationship. At the moment we seem to be arguing alot, hes not affectionate at all really and we only have sex if i iniciate it if ofcourse he dosnt reject the idea. Its making me feel like he is bored of me, dosnt find me attractive ... i dont know.. we have just appied for a loan for a house, he says he wants to get married and have more kids.. but his actions dnt match.... help? what can i do? help me understand please?

im having a insecure time feeling like im not attractive or my partner is bored of me, im quite a sexual person and lately my partner and i only really have sex if i iniciate it and im finding alot of the time now he will say not right now or show no interest that im even playing around with him. Im taking this very personally that he dosnt want to have sex with me anymore.. what can i do?

my surgery date is 25th june

Yesterday i had my Pre Op appointment with the aneathesist and the nurse and now i starting to feel very scared which is a surprise to me, its hitting home, its real, this is really happening very soon. Im going to be put to sleep and be cut and pulled and poked. Im scared of waking up, im scared of the pain after, Hospitals make me sick. Im not turnibg back now because i know how much i want this, but i am seriously crappy my dacks !

theres a clothes swap website aswell , someone on here posted a while ago about being on tele advertising it. I cant rem the name of it but if u have a search u may find it.

I have just had my 1st opti fast bar today, wasnt that bad, a little cardboardish but nothing to puke over.

I had my appointment with my aneathaesist ( i think i spelt that wrong) and she said the the sooner i start the opti fast the better as in the more weight i lost pre op then less pulling around during the procedure and the less pain i will be in after surgery. So i have started incorperating some Optifast now, ill have a shake for lunch and see how that goes down, quite prepared for it to be discusting.

Today im really crapping my dacks had a dream last night that i can cuts everwhere after waking up after surgery with a tube down my throat. After my appointment yesterday its really hit home that i will be having this done very soon. eek!

PS is something that i have in my head that will be a path that i will need to go down, I am only 24 but i have a very bad over hung apron belly, masive thighs that are extreamly bumpy and lov ely saggy boobs. I havnt had my Lap band in yet but i am very concered how my skin is going to go. I want to be prepared now for plastic surgery, i am a public patient and i dont know what im going to have to do finacially to be able to have PS.

I dont want to sound like im jumping ahead of myself as i havnt even had the band in yet, but it has been playing on my mind.

I Completely understand what u are saying, even though food has had such a hold over us and we want to be able to control that and be a healthier fitter sexier person its quite emotional to let go of it, knowing that as of the time i start Optifast i wont be having food pass my lips for a while and then slowly introducing small amounts of it. Cant put into words exacly how i feel about it but im sure it will get better. Its just a Change which is taking me out of my comfort zone which isnt something i do often.

i feel bad no one has seemed to reply to you, Im in Perth but i did not Have and i havnt heard about Dr Couch. I know with Dr Dolan there were alot of info about him just from doing a google search lots of forums with his patients, so maybe see if there is something like that on him. Although by now u would have seen him its still good to have a squiz.

I havnt had the Surgery yet but feel free to ask any pre op questions, Keep us posted with your progress. Very Interested to hear how your appointment went

i just went out and bought box of Optifast vanilla shakes and a box of choc cherry crunch bars, my dietition told me to make sure i have some bars in there as i wont be chewing for a while. Gosh are they expensive!! havnt tasted yet but i bought some cottes light topping as i have read on here just incase its really needed to stomach it. Thinking of starting/adding in Optifast abit earlier just to get used to it all.

I dnt know how others are but im getting quite emotional saying goodb ye to food lol.. feels abit silly really.

not long now, u must be so excited, keep us posted

I have been on the Public Waiting list for 1 yr now my surgury is in a few weeks, at the beginning i was told that thie waiting list is about 18 months- 2 yrs but i have waited less, but it may have something to do with the fact that Dr Dolan is no longer taking Public Patients.

Cost wise so far i have only paid $150 for my first appintment and $60 for my pre op appointment.

I get 3 free appointments with the dietition

Hope that gives u some idea, this is just my experience

wow 13kg well done , ill be starting my opti fast in a week, has it been a struggle for you?

ok quick question i have seem to forgotten how to add a ticker in, ive tried through signature but it dosnt seem to work???

well well well... i have just returned from my 2nd appointment with dear Dr Dolan it turned out to be my post op appointment as i have now been given a surgery date of the 25th of june yayyyy!!!. i have bitten the bullet and no longer smoke yet i am on Patches still. Im so excited but very nervous as i was expecting a much longer waiting period but i think i am as ready as i could ever be. so now just counting down the days unless as Dr Dolan said " i come to my senses " and pull out. Its so noot guna happen lol. Cant describe how happy i am now im really looking forward to the future ..

Hi Deb

This is the first Forum I have EVER done so hope this reply gets to you. I was banded by Dr Dolan 3 years ago and he was brilliant. I couldnt be happier. I have lost 64 kilos and have maintained for 1 year now. I was 131kg and now weigh 67kg. Still a foodie but the confidence it gave me is unbelievable. For me just walking down the street and feeling different is the main thing for me. It wasn easy by any means. The first year especially took a lot of getting used to what foods I could eat and unfortunately a bit of vomiting when trying to eat meats ans breads etc,, I was banded under Medicare out of Joondalup Health Campus and Dr Dolan even gave me a referral to have the loose skin on my tummy tucked (3 kg) and that was also coveredby Medicare. I cant believe the difference it has done. I still have terrible loose skin on upper body, arms and legs but it is a small sacrifice compared to what i used to go through. Do you have family and friend support? This helped me alot. I wish you all the best. Jeanette

Hey i am being banded by Dr Dolan soonish im on the public waiting list and i see him in may again which will be a yr. It was cool to read that Dr Dolan gave you a referral to get a Tummy Tuck covered also my medicare because i thought that i would have to get private health insurance and have to come up with alot of money to get a tuck done. I didnt think medicare would cover it?

eh.. its me again, oviously still not banded but may is getting a lil bit closer .. very slowly.. which is when i go see Dr Dolan again, still havnt given up skoking yet.. ( typing with one in my hand right now.. oops...:tongue:.. just checking up on everyone seeing how its all going . still fingers crossed that i get a date in May.

Started seeing my ex again after a 6 month split things have been great except for recently things have been quite rocky, 2 very insecure ppl trying to make a relationship work get very difficult.

Anyway thats my update for now... see u all soon

Charli x

been a while since i been on here as i dnt have another appointment with Dr Dolan Pre Surgery until May, Hopefully then i will get a surgery date... have to quit smoking before May though as he said he will not do it if i dont....

No, I am not seeing Dr Dolan - I am SOR and have been told it is advisable to use a surgeon closer to home (in case of band emergencies like needing urgent fill reduction), plus I have also been told that Joondalup are only accepting patients in their catchment area (wherever that is) and I definitely won't be.

I see my surgeon this morning and hope to get some idea of time frame. Well, I guess he needs to accept me for surgery first!

good luck! let us know how it goes

Dr Dolan is very highly recommended on the yahoo lap band boards. I was told 18 months when I rang Dolans rooms, but I have heard people go in a bit quicker than that. Just make sure you are in the Joondalup hospital are catchment area otherwise they might not take you in.

I'm not, so I expect to go to Fremantle for mine. God only knows when though.

are you a public patient? because as far as i know public patients go to joodulup, when is your appointment with Dr Dolan? if it is b4 mine b sure to let me know how long you have to wait till surgery.