Chandni

PS - how do you get those cute tickers in your signature line? I want one!

I am 476 lbs and will have my surgery soon, no date yet but stuff is at the insurance. My surgeon told me that she did the surgery on people who were much heavier than me

Mine is the 28th too and I am on an all liquid diet (sugar free items) for 2 weeks. Unlike you, I do feel hungry a lot. They said females can only have between 60-70 grams of Protein, which means 2 shakes for me and one yogurt. The rest is sugar free jello’s, puddings and Soups with no chunks. How have you managed to stay full? Have you tried the ready made Premier Proteins? The chocolate and Bananas and Cream are really good.

My surgeon doesn't require 2 weeks liquid diet. Mindful low carb, high Protein eating is all she wants. I still want to exchange two meals with shakes though just to be on the safe side lol I'm in Germany, MIC Clinic Berlin

That's my worry /fear too. Never been under before, never had surgery before. I'm great with everything else. But that still scares me.
A friend says it's almost like going to sleep. You fall asleep and then wake up.

I talked to my future surgeon about my fears and she told me that of over 450 patients they never lost one. The personnel has worked with people bigger than me (which is an achievement in itself) but it calmed me somewhat. Once I'll have my date... Ask me again lol

Trust your surgery team and keep us updated!

I added you too. Stuffnroll

Wishing you the best for the surgery! You got this!

Berlin, Germany

I started a weight loss journey blog years ago. I had a long break but recently started it again to talk about weight loss surgery and my path down the road. http://biggirlonthelose.wordpress.com/

I also am on Instagram, feel free to add me there @stuffnroll - might have to change that name at some point LOL

I basically told everyone. First my parents and husband and best friends, and then my social media. I am not making a secret out of it, I have a blog that I share too, the writing down helps me to process what is happening and what is going on in my life now and later.

But I had the one or other strange experience. Like a friend who heard surgery and got worried but when she heard what kind she was like "oh, okay" and told me that if I had done more before I wouldn't need the 'easy road' now. Since she is someone I care about I gave her a link to learn about the surgery and told her to repeat that to me after reading this, she never did.

If it's people I don't know or don't care much about I just let them talk. As a fat girl for over 30 years I have learned at some point to let haters hate. Pick your battles and all that. Of course, sometimes it still gets to me, I'm not a machine, but it has gotten easier. My body, my choice. Easy peasy.

I am a candidate for both too and together with the surgeon I decided that I want the bypass. I am diabetic and the bypass can have the side effect that I wouldn't need to take any additional diabetic meds anymore from the day of surgery instead of going down over time. Also with over 200 kilos we believed that the faster weight loss would be more beneficial to me.

If during surgery the doctors notice that they can't do the bypass I'll get the sleeve, so while I prefer the bypass, I won't be angry with the sleeve at all.

Thank you, everyone, for your words and support.

I keep doing all the preparations, getting my doctors' appointments, paperwork and what not together. The longer I go with that, the more my mind is imagining how it will be afterward. It feels like my mind is made up already, though there still is that tiny itty bitty corner of my mind that is like "I could still change my mind" but most of my mind won't think that'll happen.

I'm actually getting excited about what the change will bring with it.

Do we have more folks from Germany here? I myself am in Berlin.

Shopping here too. For years I have not been able to buy anything at all, I badly sewed my own shirts and hoped my loosened up pants don't fall apart because I'd be arsed lol

The oversize store here is a top size of 60, I'm about 66/68, so I can't wait to shop something from a store.

I also am looking forward to showering without pain and without squeezing my body through the shower door - in the place we live we have no control over the shower cabin's design.

I can't wait to tie my shoes without having to plan it for an hour and I can't also wait to think of a 10-meter re-route as a 'don't mention it' thing instead of a 'That is extra pain.'

Lots of things hehe

First of all thank you so much for your answers guys. I appreciate you taking the time.

I do want to try swimming but I have no income, so right now the only thing we pay money on is regular living bills and groceries. No way to put anything aside. We hope it'll change in the future but alas not right now.

I have tried chair exercises before and they were fun until the pain came. My problem was that since I connect exercise with pain it is hard to get myself to do it. But I want to try because I need to. So I'll go back to slow starts, not punishing myself when I can't do much yet because it'll get better.

@Thucydides Thank you for sharing your story, it gives me hope that things will get better. I have always been the heaviest and biggest person in my RL, and I hope that it doesn't sound wrong (I am sometimes not good with words) that someone who started out bigger than me got to where you are now, is simply amazing to me and I can only hope that things will go like that for me. Thank you!

How are you feeling Bree? Everything still well?

Hiya, I'm quite new and pre-op, but would like to already get into good habits to make things easier after the OP, since it'll be hard enough

I am 214.2 kg (472.23lbs) which means I can barely move, every move hurts and I can't stand for longer than 2-3 minutes without massive pain. I have a mini bike, that I can use when I sit in my chair but I can't get more than 5 minutes without pain. Can't go swimming even though that would be awesome for my joints because it's expensive and there are no swimming suits in my size - I live in Germany.

Does anyone know what I could do that isn't going to cause me too much pain and make things worse? Any suggestion is welcome.

That is awesome! Congratulations

Hiya, I have joined yesterday. I'm Jess but also go by Chandni for years so choose either

I am 38 years young from Germany, been overweight forever (since I was a kid) and I had my first consultation and information meeting 1.5 weeks ago. I was told I can do my surgery basically now if my insurance agrees to pay it. I still have to get all the paperwork done, but couldn't start during the holidays. Now that the new year is here I'll be able to start.

My surgeon wants me to do the Bypass, because of its immediate effects on diabetes (wouldn't it be great not to have all these ghastly meds anymore?) and because it's apparently most effective. With a BMI of 61.6, it's high noon (Any other Overwatchler here hearing that in McCree's voice?).

I am scared and nervous about the general anaesthesia and complications during surgery, but I can't do this alone, I need this and am looking forward to the change from 'can't stand for 3 minutes without pain and not take care of herself properly' to a normal life.

That's fantastic! Congratulations and so proud of your hard work and success

20 hours ago, catwoman7 said:

fatality rates on these surgeries are extremely low. 0.3% for gastric bypass, even lower for sleeve. That means you have a 99.7% (or greater) chance of making it through. The techniques have improved so much over the last few years and they do so many of them now that they've pretty much become routine surgeries. People have died having their tonsils taken out. But seriously - what are the odds of that happening? Same with bariatric surgery. It's not the same as it was 30 or 40 years ago. I would not worry about dying on the operating table *at all*. You're much more likely to die from an obesity-related condition than you are from the surgery. In fact, doing it could save (and extend) your life!

Thank you for your kind words!

You are basically saying what my surgeon said too, that the likelihood of obesity-related conditions killing me is way higher than the surgery. I have a lot of trouble already (I am 214kg with 1,90 m height) like that I can barely walk, high blood pressure, diabetes, thyroid problems and more, and to be honest I can't even imagine a life without all of that because it's been part of mine for so long. But I gather it would be pretty awesome.

A 'normal' life at least health wise would be fantastic. I don't mind putting the work into that at all. And today I actually got my first "Next year this time I will be able to enjoy the fireworks instead of focusing on my back pain" moment. So yeah I think my mind already made up its mind. Now let's beat these fears into submission.

My diabetologist kept suggestion the surgery and gave me the info for the clinic. I went home and told my partner about it. I also told him that I didn't know yet if I'd do it, but I'd make an appointment for a consultation at the clinic.

The night before I left we had a long talk about it, he had a bunch of questions that I could answer already because I hate not being thoroughly informed to know what I need to ask the doctors. He said to me that this is my body and I should do what feels right for me. He loves me for me and will support me either way. I think the thing that made me realize how serious it is was when he said: "I want to grow old with you, any way you need to get there is worth seriously thinking about."

He's been supportive all the way, he reminds me of getting used to new habits like eating slowly, chewing more, not drinking during eating, as a preparation for post-OP but also because it's healthier. He was the very first I told about because this change will be something we both have to be in for. I can't do it without him having my back. Well, I could but it would be a LOT harder.

My parents know and my friends know. I wrote a blog about it, so my readers know too. Grabbing support where ever you can get it, right?

So talk with your husband, if writing a letter is easier for you than vocally talking, do that. Sometimes it's easier to do that, to be able to sort out what is going on in your mind and to structure your arguments. In the end, it is YOUR body. His support would be fantastic. He does want you around for a long time after all, right?

You can do it, keep at it!

Hi everybody!

I am new here. I am Jess but also go by Chandni. I am 38 years young, live in Germany and have been overweight since I was 5 years young. I am pre-OP. A week ago I had my first chat with the Adipositas center at our MIC clinic.

A bad time to start because due to the holidays I couldn't start on getting any of the paperwork started lol

Well, up until a few days ago I wasn't even sure if I'd do it, and actually I still half expect to run out when time comes. I am terribly scared of not waking up after surgery, or if so just to say goodbye. Phobia of death makes decisions like that super hard. But on the other hand... Decades more of life and a better life than now is super tempting.

So at least I'm getting started now and then take it day by day. Hope to get to know you guys in the process. [emoji1]

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