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I've just told my wife, and my 2 bff's. Going to tell my employer that I need a couple of weeks off for Hiatal hernia surgery ,,, just don't want to have to deal with all the questions my employer will ask if I tell the absolute truth. My daughter lives across country so I've decided not to tell her,,, but not for the reasons you might suspect. I know that she would be supportive but would worry because she does not live here. Actually,, I want to surprise her. While I am doing this for me,,, my daughter, her children and husband are a great motivating factors in my decision to have WLS. As for everyone else,,, maybe I will tell them at some point,,, but for me right now,, it's no ones business except for my immediate support group.

A wave to you Diana!!!!! Ditto what she said!!
I have kept my surgery a secret, only my niece (who had the surgery), my godchild, my hubby and now my 2 sisters. I was worried about telling them but since I was able to have my hernia surgery in Dec I wanted them to know. Turned out they were both very happy and have been my biggest cheerleaders. They also agree that I don't need to tell anyone else. So far I have lost 42lbs. 6 mo. It's been slow but the benefits are, skin has a chance to catch up and no one looks at me and says, oh wow you must have had wls!! ( with that very smug disgusting disapproval look)
I just credit my loss to having been strict bc I needed the hernia surgery. Now that I have had the hernias repaired I am cleared to workout like a champ. I hope to knock off another 50lbs by July 2018, my 1 yr mark.
If you are thick skinned and don't mind being scrutinized, then tell everyone, just be prepared for the "oh you took the easy way out comments along with the rest of the b.s. that comes along.
One-day maybe I don't know, if someone makes a shitty remark, who knows what I might say. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right now, this is for me, to get my life back and man I am loving it!!!!!
Between the support here, my few family members and my Instagram buddies it's enough. I love sharing my little milestones and struggles with those who truly care and understand.
Everyone else can go ....well you finish it....lol if you are like me it's the expletives!!!
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As the Lady Gaga song says, "so happy I could die"




HW 274 SW 263 GW 125 GASTRIC SLEEVE 7/21/17. Height 5'1" instagram: K_aane_VSG

Are you getting a hernia repair or gal bladder out? If so talk about that and then people still know you had a surgery, but not all the details. A hiatal hernia repair also has some of the same dietary restrictions as the bypass or sleeve.

i am not telling anyone ether i am having hernia repair also so thats what i am telling anyone that ask only mt husband knows that im also getting vsg

I explained to my Boss that i had some sudden health concerns first. For me my decision to have WLS is grounded in a sudden increase in my liver enzymes and big jump in my A1C. At first it was worried that i may need for emergent surgery but that has not been the case. So since then i explained to her that one of the options to help with both my Diabetes, liver enzymes and high cholesterol is some form or another of weight-loss surgery and that i have chosen to follow that route right now unless something should arise that requires time lines to move forward. I told her there is a bunch of things i need to do in order to make this journey happen and if this is the final route taken i would be off work for about a week (I work from home at a desk most of the time) and that i would not be able to travel for 6-8 weeks following.
Apart from this i just dont tell people, that way im not lying to them i'm just making the choice to not share a whole truth. Now if someone was to ask or was to notice and say something then yes i will share and politely ask that they keep the information to themselves.

So far my Boss has been great, she is allowing me to take an extended and early lunch on Tuesdays ( i just make up the time during the week) so that i can attend my classes and has been completely on board when it comes to the requirement of not traveling following the surgery.
I figure be up front with those required, but feed them the information slowly, let the idea that something is not right sink in, then let them know that there will be some changes coming and what you will need. You will be surprised how much people will actually want to help you.

I’m telling close friends about it - at work I said I’m having a surgical procedure and that’s it. If anyone wonders about my weight loss I plan to just say that I drastically changed my diet and am exercising more. That’s enough.

I also have been very careful about who I tell... I’ve already got my sabatogers out of my life and only those I know will be supportive know. I also have back problems (not from weight) and anyone who knows I’m having surgery assume that’s what it’s for... I did tell my boss and he has been great but did tell him not to say anything to other employees. He had let me work extra hours as I haven’t worked there long enough for vacation time so that is a huge help. I live in a small town and am able to go to most appts during lunch hour. He even told me of another agent in a difference office and how she had the surgery and how impressed he was of how well she has done. So I’m lucky that he is very supportive and I think understands why I’ll be a bit slower for a bit.
good luck!

Thank you so much for the article you attached to your post. I am 58 pre-op, entered the program at 288 and currently at 270. Hoping to get a surgery date soon. I found your article to be very informative and encourage anyone to take the time to read it. Thank you!

Thank you so much for the article you attached to your post. I am 58 pre-op, entered the program at 288 and currently at 270. Hoping to get a surgery date soon. I found your article to be very informative and encourage anyone to take the time to read it. Thank you!

It is common to have regrets immediately after surgery. It gets better but not overnight. It took me 6 months to reach my happy state when all the problems seemed to melt away.
The three most important elements after RNY gastric bypass surgery are to meet your daily Protein, Fluid and Vitamin requirements. food is secondary because your body is converting your stored fat into the energy that drives your body. Thus you lose weight.
Weight loss is achieved after surgery through meal volume control. You begin at 2 ounces (1/4 cup) per meal and gradually over the next year and a half increase the volume to 1 cup per meal. With this minuscule amount of food, it is next to impossible to meet your protein daily requirements by food alone, so therefore you need to rely on supplements such as Protein Shakes.
This article describes my experience after surgery. http://www.breadandbutterscience.com/Surgery.pdf