YummyMummy303

My surgeon has me avoiding grains breads Pasta etc until 6 months post op and then it must be whole grain for the Fiber content , but I'm happily giving them up for a good 8 months if not more -just not interested anymore . I tried quinoa once but the Protein count wasn't worth justifing eating it, when I could just have some cheese.
Also how did this thread get so judgey and mean so quick? I went from page 1-9 skipping the middles and I was like WTF!?! …

Keep in mind that a exercise is a VERY small % of overall calorie burn for the day - as such, whatever you're doing with your diet is contributing to almost all of your weight loss. Feel good about yourself for that - it's a win!
Check this out for some interesting tidbits on the impact of exercise on weight loss: https://www.vox.com/2018/1/3/16845438/exercise-weight-loss-myth-burn-calories

Well my response wasn't aimed at you, it was aimed at the person who asked the question about what changed.

She asked a question and I answered.

I have all the awards I need, and they don't have anything to do with what anyone posts on a message board.

Good luck to all.

So now every single post I write on here all of you are going to come on and continue to slam me over a post I wrote at 2 weeks post op about being honest about having a bite of pizza? ?? Do you not think there’s anything wrong with that?

If my post is unrelated why are you all still bringing it up to start a fight? It was weeks ago and I’ve lost 20lbs since op. Stop trying to drag me down and everyone on here being honest.


Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

I’m not a vet & I find it to be foolish. It’s everything we’re all warned against from the first meeting & by dietitians all the way through pre-op. I’m actually shocked at that kind of behavior 2 or even 4 weeks post-op. I’v personally made excuses for a very long time & that’s all they are is excuses. Why attack someone for making perfect sense. I’m committed to this surgery & after I have it I’m not making excuses anymore. I’m accepting that I have a problem & want to change. I’m not saying I will never eat a piece of pizza or a cheeseburger again but straight out of surgery having not even recovered yet & eating poorly & drinking just seems like sabotage. Sorry if I’ve offended anyone but that’s just the way I see it.

Oops meant: and unrelated*


Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Enjoy your babies and your new body. I have 3. Gained and lost 80 with all 3. Then gradually came back to gain 80 because of stress causing me to not care anymore about food coming into my body. Although I ate healthy- salads Protein healthy carbs- my portions were huge. ( plus had to go back to work full time for financial reasons- so no time to exercise like I used to. ) that’s how I gained weight. Gained weight. I also was never thin to begin with so before 80 pounds weight gain I was a Sz 12 looking voluptuous and quite happy- but at + 80 I was a cow! Too tired to wake up at 5:30 am to work out before job- then family stuff after work day. Now that I’ve lost over 60 pounds I have more energy to exercise and energy to wake up early.
But kids are hard- always food around. Always cooking baking and packing lunches. I have def shared a bite here and there and even a slice of pizza at times. I try to do the best most of the time but do like to feel normal. Since I’m not a binge eater nor do I have food issues- just enjoy food and had a big appetite- the sleeve is working well for me as my portions are so much smaller and I don’t get sick with any foods so I do w joy food. ( except Chinese - which I don’t enjoy anyway). Im thinking you are similar to me so wanted to reassure you that it sounds like you are back on the right track again! You can do it!


HW. 289
SW. 284
Height. 5’8

I haven’t been on here for months because of the post some newbies post. I came back as I thought it had changed. It’s the same stuff all over again.
night.. best of luck ..

Good luck... contact me in four years and we can chat.

Good luck... contact me in four years and we can chat.

It’s never been easy for me ....I paid twenty four thousand dollars to have this gift... no insurance... no easy days. I have worked hard. Very hard. Then had plastics. It’s been 31 months of hard work so when I hear of someone eating pizza at two weeks I feel sorry for them. I pity them. I’m not angry or pissed off with them. I just feel sorry for the medics who might have to patch them up. Is that’s wrong, Or should we just validate their choices.
People can stuff themselves with food at week 1,2,3... ohhhhh I made a mistake. Now all say you did too and we can be part of a gang.
The reality is... if you’re not going to listen to your surgeon then so be it.
But I won’t be someone saying awwwwww when you are ill.
Now making a mistake months out. That's different. We have all made mistakes. I know I have. But 2-4 weeks out? After surgery. Not listening to their surgeon?
Fill your boots.

I would give up Jess. Let’s leave it to those a few weeks out who seem to know everything.
If it wasn’t so sad it would be laughable.

I only listed my size because the original poster likes to slam people who started more overweight than she ever was.

My weight is smack dab in the middle of the normal range.

OP - I am 3.5 months post-op, and I have had a few rough days. Today, in fact, I ate a bagel. I felt like crap afterwards, and it reminded me why I don't eat Bagels now. [emoji4] I'm still doing really well - down over 80 lbs from my HW and 52 lbs from my SW.
I never expected this to be easy, and I never expected myself to be perfect. I wanted to improve my eating habits, have more Portion Control, and reach a healthy weight. I'm a work in progress, but I have definitely made progress. I agree with trying to find more non-food rewards to treat yourself - I need to work on that, too. I don't think you should worry that an occasional treat is going to derail all your progress, though!!
Good luck!!

I feel like this whole debate got off topic. Am I missing something? To me the critical issue isn't whether or not you're pure or hedonistic or even just a human who has food issues and occasionally messes up. I think the early posters were wiggin' out because of the highlighted area...that the OP was only 1 month out from surgery, and that it was the second occurrence of her eating beyond her surgeon's advice.
I don't think most of us are saying...if you don't stay on the absolute straight and narrow you're not going to succeed? I think it was absolute fear for her that her tummy would explode.

I’m not one of those loser a good and bad thing for me but it has taught me endurance... but I’m still proud of myself!

I'm two days short of my 3 week band to sleeve anniversary.
Ok - so before anyone starts on the safety issues they think there may be with what I'm about to say: I had my post-op appointment a week ago - at said appointment, I was already progressing into pureed foods pretty well. I asked my surgeon about continuing through the progression of foods - I asked if I were to progress faster than the foods of the week, could I seriously hurt myself. His response was, as long as I don't make myself throw up, nothing (within reason, obviously) I put in my stomach will hurt the staple line by this point. Yes, even a little bit of red wine is ok...
Anyway - with that being said, I ate all of a 6oz filet of sole tonight for dinner. The fish market had fresh dab sole in today, and I got the smallest one, because I love sole. I did a quick saute in a carbon steel pan with cultured butter, minced shallots, and lemon zest. Very soft with a crispy crust...yum.
I ate slowly, chewed well, paused between bites. Didn't get nauseous, no pain, no discomfort. I was absolutely full at the end, but not uncomfortably so.
So my question is, has anyone else experienced this level or pace of progression to full Protein servings? I've seen some other posts surmising their surgeon had left too much of their stomach, etc. I trust my guy, so I don't think that's it.
Between my pre-op diet and the three weeks of liquids/squishy ****, I was damn glad to be able to enjoy that piece of fish - but I'm a little concerned at the volume I'm able to eat so quickly.
Thoughts? Experiences?
Thanks!

Do not worry, my SW was near yours and I only lost 8lbs the first 2 weeks post-op. I’m 5 weeks post op now and 20lbs down, clothes are getting baggy.

As you start getting more active, you’ll notice it coming off more. I’ve just started at the gym again, and I feel great and energy is great.

Keep going and don’t compare yourself to others. We will get there and I’m a slow loser too.


Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Today I went to put on a bra that was tight when I went in for surgery, and it was too big to put on!

I’m a month post-op and I needed that boost so much! All my back fat is going. I look in the mirror and I’m still feeling really far from my goal, but trying on the bra and seeing that huge difference was the boost I needed to know I’m definitely on track. I just wish a stranger would notice soon and say something.

Keep at it, the scale doesn’t always reflect how much your losing. I still feel swollen in my stomach - is that possible 5 weeks post-op?


Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

Hello, I had my surgery 6 days ago. for the first few days I felt good but on day 5 and today I been craving real food (not liquids or Jello or popsicles) to the point where thats all I can think of. I know I had the surgery to control my eating and not my cravings but I been feeling hungry. I don't feel full and I am wondering is there something wrong. I can drink clear Protein Drinks, eat the Jello or have the popsicle but my stomach does not feel full. I am doing my best to follow the diet but I am ready to make myself some eggs or maybe some fish. I feel weak and I am sleepy the entire day. what can I do??

I start sneezing when I’m full - it’s the strangest thing ever!


Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

My surgeon told us not to per say diet ever again, because they obviously don't work. He said for every 3 bites of Protein eat a bite of a vegetable. Then 3 bites of protein and a starch. He said if you do that it will all work out. And basically if you have one bite of a dessert, or "one" cookie, every so often it's no big deal, because it's unrealistic to expect that you will NEVER have dessert, or wine, or chocolate, or whatever, again. The main key is to learn to pay attention to hunger and full signals.

And your stomach growling is NOT a sign of hunger!

However, none of that applies to me right now because I never get hungry. I'm lucky to eat 3 bites of anything in a day, 3 months out. Nausea is killing me!

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Here's an example of why I think this is bullying behavior....instead of well intended advice.
There's a thread on here about a woman throwing up clots of blood. Almost no one responded. I did. I encouraged her to seek medical advice immediately.
Then...there are posts where someone admits they've had a weak moment and eaten something high calorie...hoping for some encouragement....and the wrath of God rains down upon them like they're committing suicide.
It's bullshit. It isn't about helping others, it's about feeling self righteous. If it was about helping others, the blood clot thread would have dozens of urgent replies.
People who have been bullied often become bullies, and it's sad. Worse, they pick on those they secretly identify with.
Fat shaming is the last safe prejudice. "It's for their own good" is not an excuse to be tone deaf and unkind.

I am not a vet. I'm pre-surgery--so you all may say that I've no business posting on this thread.
But this isn't an issue of judgement. It's an issue of asking for advice. The OP asked for advice/validation (but she said, "only the people who are gonna validate my action need reply/respond"). So I do see many of the people who've actually been through the surgery reply with the knowledge they have of the process--even though their information doesn't affirm her choice(s). Empirically, we have to be very careful about protecting our new anatomy--regardless of food issues--or maybe even despite our food issues.
There is no "good" or "bad" judgement. It's empirical medical advice. If we don't follow our surgeon's orders, we can potentially fu*k up our new anatomy while it's healing...and either land back in the hospital with a popped staple/suture, or worse, end up in surgery again or even die. So to me it's a pretty black and white subject. If we challenge our new tummys too greatly, we can split our guts open and die in less than 5 minutes. The human body can bleed out in under 4 minutes. That is all the time it takes. Four minutes. That's a pretty sobering thought. Before an EMT could get to you--you could die. Because of what? A craving for a cookie, or piece of pizza, or cauliflower Soup? After 3-6 months or more of careful preparation...why would anyone want to gamble that way?
Absolutely no judgement here. I'm a big huge ass sinner. I sit in no ivory tower. Some days I have to sit on my hands to keep from backsliding and eating off plan. I struggle with hunger and hanger every day. It doesn't make me holier-than-thou or preachy judgemental. It makes me human. I'm just sayin, eating too soon, drinking too soon (cuz it thins the blood and lowers inhibitions--which can make you bleed out even faster than 4 minutes, or can make you not care about consequences and overeat to the point you split open and bleed out even faster than 4 minutes) can have devastating consequences.
Why indulge in risky behavior? Would you go out an have a few drinks and knowingly sleep with someone HIV positive without protection? Would you load a revolver with a single bullet, spin the cylinder and pull the trigger on a dare? It's all Russian roulette. And it's all fun and games until someone splits open their suture lines and bleeds out in 4 minutes or less--my question is...would that mean you get your pizza for free? [emoji3]

Thanks to all the ones that posted positive responses that were helpful, if you didn’t receive a like, I am not talking about you.

Basically I was looking for support for others that realised that this surgery didn’t completely stop them from craving some bad foods, and had broken their diets, and how they got back on the wagon after falling, because if I were so perfect at diets,
I wouldn’t have needed this surgery.

And anyone on here trying to act like they’re perfect when their SW is way higher than I’ve ever been in my life is a liar - this isn’t easy for anyone.

I actually worry for the ones trying to act perfect or attack me or anyone else on here for being honest - they’re the ones that will break the worst, and I think they’re writing from that place of fear. Controlling and criticising others helps them to deflect from looking at themselves.

Anyway, most comments were great, really inspirational and helped me to feel less alone with the struggle.


Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs