AmazonianBombshell

I'm also in Philly! 2 more nutrition visits until I can get approval. Going through Barix in Langhorne, PA

I didn't tell any co-workers or friends about my surgery, so they don't know. I still get asked how much I've lost every few days though? I just say "I don't know". That is a signal for them to stop asking. I have 100 co-workers, so eventually it will stop. I feel flattered by the complements, but it does get old really quick.
With most of America being overweight or obese, people just gravitate to others that have found that magic pill or formula for weight loss. They are fascinated by it. I understand that.
You can give subtle cues that you are over it without just coming out and telling people to leave you alone. One word answers or an "I don't know" will convey that you don't want to talk about it. Don't elaborate on it. The next time someone asks how you are feeling...Just say, "Fine." That's it.

One man at work wanted to comment about my weight loss, but didn't know how to go about doing it until he overheard a woman ask how much weight I'd lost. Then he walked over and joined the conversation and admitted he had wanted to say something but didn't know how. That was 17 pounds ago. I think men are afraid they'll offend a woman if they make any comments about her weight. Women aren't as shy.

Thanks for the mansplaining here.

I am clear it is well intentioned. Peoples actions are what communicates, not their intentions.

It could just be different for us girls, given our bodies are regulated, legislated and seemingly up for grabs in even casual social interactions.

THIS!
(citizenlizzie, fellow Oregonian here)

Really, it's not worth getting worked up over. You have changed, people are going to notice, why let that bother you? In time people will get used to the new you and the comments will stop.
Worry about what you can control, let the other things go. For example, you can't control what people say, so let it go. You can control how you feel about or react to those comments, so work on that.
For the most part, people are not trying to annoy you. They are simply noticing an accomplishment and want to let you know. The correct answer to "You are too skinny now" or "You look younger" or "That must have been difficult" is "Thank you for noticing, I have been working hard."

I get a lot of good compliment almost daily especially about how much younger the weight loss makes me look and when I look at old pictures I can see for myself so stay encourage everyone

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Y'all run with a different crowd than I. People ask me "how are you?" all the time, but I just take it to mean the same as it ever means to anyone. It's a form of greeting.
I've had all of two people comment on my losses. One was my daughter's boyfriend, and he ONLY said something because my daughter encouraged him to (she knew it would make me feel like someone had NOTICED!). The other one just asked if I'd lost weight, and that I looked good.
I did have an interesting interaction with someone yesterday. She herself had a bypass 10 years ago, I know her because she worked with my teenage daughter back around the time of my surgery. She knows about my surgery, but hadn't seen me since I started losing weight. So I'm 98 pounds down, but she didn't say a peep about my weight loss. Instead, she started talking about how her daughter steals clothes out of her closet to wear. I admitted the shirt I was wearing came out of my daughter's closet! LOL!

You've lost 50 pounds. I would want to kick him.

This makes me sorta mad and it’s not even happening to me. I think it’s just embedded in our culture that the female body is there to be managed, controlled, commented on and otherwise handled.

The other day One led the commentators came back to me and asked if it was inappropriate that he said something (as I was walking past him in a busy office he literally said “How much weight have you lost???” No greeting - just that.)

I told him that I recommend that he never comment on someone’s body ever. And if he has a relationship with that person he should ask for permission to ask about it. People lose and gain weight for all sorts of reasons and we can never assume that we know what people are dealing with.

When my aunt was initially diagnosed with pancreatic cancer people started praising her for her weight loss at first - she lived for a year.