JeezLouise91

Definitely go to the ER! doesn't sound normal at all. Hoping it gets better for you soon xxx

Surgery due January 17th 2018

CW 238
GW 133

Im having mine after the 17th of jan 2018

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Mine was January 10th but got moved to January 17th! I'm soo nervous but the before and after pictures keep me going!

Surgery due January 17th 2018

CW 238
GW 133

I want to give u guys an update. I'm currently recovering in my room, one day after getting sleeved. I did it! Lol. All of your comments reassured me, and helped me look at the bigger picture, and that this procedure is going to help me in the long run. I'm achey, and currently battling gas pains, yuck! [emoji13][emoji21] Thank you guys for all the support, it really helped! Wish me luck on my recovery!

OK so if my name looks familiar to any of you, you may remember me as the indecisive, anxious all over the place girl who asked 1000s of questions and really wasn't sure whether to get the sleeve or not

After re-reading through all your advice and doing more searches I've decided to stop being such a wuss and JUST GO FOR It.

This is my little thank you post to you all as I don't think without this community I would of decided to do this.

My surgery date was moved and is now January 17th. Now that I've decided to do it the nerves have got a little worse, but one thing that's changed is for the first time in a long time I'm actually excited. Now I can look at all these inspirational photos and say "that'll be me soon!"

I've decided to make an Instagram account (jeez_sleevedlouise) especially for my journey and even posted a cheeky vlog which is not like me! But then again getting a major surgery isn't like me either lol.

Thanks guys once again and glad to finally feel like part of this with all of you!

Much love xxx

Surgery due January 10th 2018

CW 238

GW 133

I've had cold feet for about a month and I don't even get sleeved until January! It's so easy to be sure about getting it when we're in the process isn't it?! But as soon as you get accepted and get a date, bam it hits. Unfortunately we can't see into the future so nothing is certain. Complications can happen but that's the risk we're willing to take for a better life. I don't have diabetes or high blood pressure either, but will probably get it the way I'm going, so when you think about it, not having the surgery is a risk too! Losing weight is harder for me too with PCOS. Let's face it, the chances of us successfully losing weight and keeping it off without the surgery is slim. It's not like we haven't tried. Sorry I can't answer any of your questions as I'm not quite there yet! But I really related to some parts of your post so wanted to give you some encouragement [emoji3] xxx

Surgery due January 10th 2018

I hope it went well for you! I'm probably going to have to be dragged to hospital kicking and screaming on my surgery day lol. Such a wuss, but i know how worth the surgery will be, just like you!

Surgery due January 10th 2018

I've quit smoking by Vaping for two and a half months now and have been slowly trying to wean myself onto 0mg nicotine. The nicotine is bad for you as it affects blood circulation therefor makes it harder for the wound to heal. Vaping is no way near as bad as smoking and people who say it is isn't educated on them enough, so if you used to be a smoker congratulations on making the switch.

Surgery due January 10th 2018

Concerned that this whole thread was hijacked by alcohol - how to drink, when to drink, what to drink, can I ever have fun drinking again?????
You are young so I get the mentality to an extent. Maybe you compensate while being obese by being the fun, drinking girl? And maybe your fear is more than just the being able to drink part - maybe it's the changes about how others will see you once your at normal weight and aren't the life of the party?
Also not dominating the thread, your health issues. What is more important? Put your priorities in order. With fertility the main one, do you want every chance to resolve the PCOS while you can before premature menopause, or do you want to worry about drinking?
Go to counseling and bring all this up and get it sorted out. I wish you the very best in your decisions and the future joy of good health.

I understand your concern and this SHOULD be a hard decision. It totally alters your life, but in SUCH a great way! Think of all of the simple things that are hard to do. After surgery, they wont be. You will no longer get winded so easy, it wont be a hassle to tie your shoes, it wont suck to buy clothes etc... Also you mentioned you are not diabetic, don't have high blood pressure... there should be another word attached which is "YET". I 100% guarantee you will.
Lastly, if you are not an atheist I say let go and let God. We are all going to die and complications happen but it is super rare. Let your higher power do the worrying for you. Whatever your decision is you can get support here. Nobody will judge you here. [emoji4]



51 year old woman
VSG DATE: 10/28/17
5' 5"
HW: 259
CW: 239
GOAL: Healthy and hard! 140-ish???

When you are ready, I am sure you will do fine. Complications from surgery are infrequent if you follow your DR's advice.
I can only speak for me; I am kicking myself for not doing the surgery sooner. I think of all the activities I have missed out on with my daughters because I was too fat. I also think of all the embarrassment they had because their father was the most overweight guy in the stadium. I am sure I hurt them as much as I was hurting myself. People say they don't notice but wait until you have the surgery and start to live a healthy life. You will have people that you never thought cared come up to you and tell you how great you look. That should go to show you that people do take notice they just don't say anything.
I allowed my weight to rob me of so much, you are still very young don't let it take any more from you.
Diabetes is no joke; it is a horrible way to go. My Dr told me they were going to start at my toes and start cutting but the good news is by the time they got to my knees I should be blind so I will not see the effects.
All my girls are away at school and are coming home for the Holidays; they have no idea that I had the surgery, I did it for myself first but also for them.
Good Luck, hope you change your mind.
FYI my blood sugar never gets above 140 after eating and stays around 85.

I mean, there are people who have "pushed through" and lost the weight, but...for me , the complications of surgery are way lower and less of a risk factor than those of staying overweight. Add to that the fact that the chances of you getting the weight off on your own and keeping it off are extremely slim -- I believe the number is somewhere around 1/125 people actually succeed in doing this. That's less than a 1% chance of success.
If you want to give it a try, give it a try. Maybe you're the one in a hundred who can do it. But I'm not sure what you're so afraid of in surgery. And, again, it really sounds to me like you need to talk to a psychiatrist about it all before you make a decision either way.

The fact that you have battled with depression and anxiety and still went through with the surgery is amazing.

My anxiety is what's stopping me from taking the plunge, and I'm 26!

Be proud of yourself, remember that you won't be stuck indoors forever. This stage is only temporary, soon you'll be going out having fun again AND be slimmer, healthier and more confident all round.

It must be hard but keep visualizing what's to come.

Well done you! Be proud of yourself!

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I'm a little concerned about this too! I live with my parents and boyfriend and since I'm the only one who don't work I do the cooking and cleaning. Not out of choice may I add lol. Lazy days for me are kind of frownd upon! 🙄 I feel like if I didn't do it I'd feel terrible watching them finish work and having to cook when I could of had it ready for when they get in because this is what I've always been used to. So even if they said it was fine it'd be a problem!


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If you're from the uk the anesthesia and pain appointment will be to talk over with you what you have to do on the day of the surgery and what to expect in regards of pain relief afterwards. Also to make sure someone will be able to take you home!

The surgeon then spoke to me briefly about the different types of biactric surgery and to confirm I definitely wanted the sleeve before then getting me to sign the documents and giving me some instructions for pre op.

Hope this helps!

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Wow! Were I live your bmi has to be way higher to qualify . I think my bmi was about the same in the 40s but I went private as I didn't want the long wait. Its whether you want to go back on the list again. And I know what you meant about now considering what could be a risk etc your doing the right think really thinking deeply. Its easier for me as I'm already on the other side. The weight is just falling off and my confidence is going up every day. I have days were I'm like I just want to eat a whole meal.. Then I get on the scale and I'm like sh** were did these lbs go ? Lol Its sureal. There is no going back and I was miserable first month. Every time someone sees me they are like damn what happened ?! How?! You look amazing. I can tell you right now there is no effort. 4 months post. I eat what's on my plan and I don't even weigh as often anymore as I finally believe in the process lol if you have any questions as were the same age and around same bmi I think I was 17 stone+ on day of surgery now 13+ approx so can't complain.. Not trying to convince you ! As if its not right for you it isn't. Just my experience.

I can say. People have heart attacks at barely overweight and its unexpected.. So not being there yet.. I don't know if anyone knows when they are there yet.. The risk is higher.. But other things along side obesity contribute. I respect my self and my body .. That's what made me do this. [emoji4]

The doctors are very serious and sober about the diet and lifestyle rules that you must abide by in order to avoid or lessen the complications. This procedure is not for the faint of heart. I believe you need to be 100% committed to it. I am struggling badly right now so I have great hope that when it becomes my turn on the surgeon's table, the journey to life long health will begin.

They asked her to stop smoking a couple of weeks before surgery but she never did her husband told me she told the doctor that she did but she really didn’t. He led me to believe that her complications were caused by her own fault not the surgery.

Your chances of a speed and easy recovery when you reach the phase that I am in are far less. Just keep that in mind.

It’s a difficult life altering decision and at the end of the day you need to do it for you and no one else. It’s your body and your life and ultimately you will have to live and deal with the consequences. Today I am glad I did it but would I recommend it to anyone else? My answer is no. I agree that you should speak to a psychiatrist and your doctor and then make the decision that’s best for you. I once spoke to a man before my surgery who lost his wife 5 years after the surgery he said that she was not following her doctors post surgery advice and not taking care of herself and that’s why she died of complications. However he said if I cannot change the way I think first in other words my mindset then don’t do it but If I could then go ahead and it’s true if you can’t change the way you deal with food before surgery then you are not ready. Take care and again don’t worry about what anyone else thinks, you do what’s best for you[emoji6]

I would go through with it were I you. Weight problems tend to worsen with age or so I am told. You do not want to be in my position. I am 40, have to lose 176 pounds, have high blood pressure, sleep apnea, and diabetes. So, in essence, yes, the older, bigger, and more unhealthy that you are, the greater the risks. I have already been told that I will need 3 days in the hospital before the surgeon would consider me for discharge. If you think you're scared, walk a day in my shoes. I am fearful that I could have a heart attack or stroke even prior to surgery. Hell, it's entirely possible that the strain of the surgery could cause problems. But, as Yoda from Star Wars would say, "Committed, I am. For better health, to have."
I won't call you chicken and won't pass judgement but I think by dropping out, you will regret this in the long run. Also, we are now in Republican-dominated times so you can fully expect for it to get harder to qualify for surgery and coverage uncertain. Your insurance company might even use the fact that you dropped out as a strike against you and might require more scrutiny in a future attempt at qualifying. That letter you got is worth its weight in gold. Show up, complete your mission, live better. Don't put yourself in a situation similar to mine.

It IS a difficult decision.. but I guess I'm confused. You've gone all the way through the process, and now that you get your date, you're thinking of backing out? Was "backing out" always a possibility in your mind? Was it one of those.. "well, I'm not sure I wanna do this, but just in case I decide to, I'll go through the process and decide at the end"?
That kind of open-ended decision is fine, IF that's what you did. On the other hand, maybe you decided early on to do it, there was no question that it was the right thing.. and these are just last minute cold feet...
When you started the process, did you make a list of reasons? Many times, if we get nervous, we can refer back to all the reasons we wanted to pursue the process in the beginning.
There IS a bit of a leap of faith required. I know for me, once I set my mind up to do it, that was it, I didn't let my mind carry me away from the decision. Sure, it's scary, but then I'd remember some show or movie (or real life) that I'd seen where someone has an accident, and their life is changed forever. Things can and do happen all the time, and if something were going to happen to me from the surgery... well, who is to say that something wouldn't happen due to me NOT having the surgery? Maybe if I wasn't safely tucked away in the hospital, I'd be out driving on the highway and get into a terrible accident.
It may seem like a weird way to look at it, but our perceptions that we can control anything.. that's the illusion.
Get the surgery, don't get the surgery.. the choice is yours. Which way leaves you with the fewest regrets?

Hey everyone thanks so much for all your replies. I am sorry I have had a hectic couple of days and not had a chance to even read through these let alone reply.

Now that I have can I just say thank you for all your positive and encouraging words. It sounds like most of you wish you had it done sooner. And the fact that loose skin may not be as much of an issue if I get it done now sounds tempting.

Maybe I'm not mature enough to commit who knows. My life was different nearly two years ago when I first started towards my journey for this surgery (I'm from the UK and getting it done on the NHS is a looooong process). I was in kind of a bad place and felt like not only would surgery help with my weight but also force me to kick some bad habits I had with alcohol and cigarettes.

Now things are different and I've learnt to respect myself I have cut out the cigarettes and lowered my alcohol content greatly. I'm also thinking do I now have the will power to lose this weight on my own?

I tried many attempts before but outside factors and stresses contributed to making it more difficult than usual but now that they are no more and I am finally happy I feel like I can try one more time to do it myself before getting this done. 2 years ago I didn't even care about the risks I was at such a low point and desperate. Now I respect myself and my body and my life and feel that I am not having enough issues with my weight to consider this.

I hear stories of people not being able to walk 5 minutes without getting out of breath, or not being able to go on fairground rides, or even having past heart attacks. I am not at that stage yet and feel I am not only less deserving of it but also not in the position where if I don't get this now I might not be able to see my 50s.

Being slim again would be lovely I must admit and being able to have children would be amazing but right now my life isn't at any risk. Which is why I don't think I should put it at risk if that makes sense?

This is not me saying a definite no just going a little deeper into why the complications concern me more than usual now compared to when it did at first.



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So a letter came in the post a couple of days from the hospital.

They offered me the 16th of November and as I read the date I felt my heart drop to the pit of my stomach.

I said that I wouldn't be able to do that date and would February be possible the lady said no February is too late, we're going to offer you one more appointment in January at the latest and if you decide not to take it you will be kicked off the program and will have to be re refferd by your doctor again.

That was me told lol.

Looks like I'm really going to have to make a decision soon. This is so hard. One day I wake up with such confidence like what's the big deal? Loads of people can do it so can I! The next day I'm full of anxiety and thoughts of complications.

In regards to complication worries:

Are you at more risk the older/bigger/unhealthier you are?

Or can leaks etc just happen to anyone?

I'm 26, not the biggest but obviously big enough, have no medical problems such as high blood pressure or diabetes. Only pcos which is to do with hormones.

If any of you read my last post you're probably thinking "not her again, stop being a chicken and just go for it" lol. I do apologize. There will probably be another post next week from me crying

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