Mattymatt

I'm March 12th but RNY. Does that still count? Stupid diabetes pretty much dictated the course of action.

It sounds like you were smart about it. Alcohol effects different people in different ways, just like there is a minority of people that don't get dumping syndrome as a result of RNY.

This is the way to go about it! You have to always keep the voice in your head that you want to continue to progress stronger, than the voice that's telling you to eat. This is what has helped me in the past to lose weight. I was (obviously) not very good at the maintenance phase.

If you're overweight, though, it does increase difficulty.

I wouldn't do it. Why obsess over 10-20 pounds if you are otherwise healthy? Did you take measurements along the way?

If I remember correctly from diabetes education classes that you want at least 50% of your weekly numbers to be in target, which for a T2 diabetic, is 77 - 140. I am a new diabetic having just past the 1 year mark on Jan. 15th of this year. I am also still pre-op so I don't really know what to expect post-surgery. You may want to get in touch with your endocrinologist because they might recommend a low dose of an oral medication for a little while until your body adjusts to the new you.

But you've been honest with yourself. This will help the dietitian help you. The more data they have to go on, the more they can do to make suggestions and offer tips and ideas.

It's not weird at all. I get that way myself sometimes and your explanation of it is a lot better than what I could come up with.

Well, I cannot afford the gym membership now that I am back on the unemployment line. You know what, right now I don't care that much. I am just going to keep consistent until I get through surgery. Not looking to make too many changes right now.

Dating isn't easy for an NT person, let alone you and I. My heart has been played with now too much. I want to get to goal weigh and stay there for a while until I have found my "new" normal and rhythm. Then I might dip my toe in the water again.

At long last I am finally understanding what head hunger is. Since last December, I have been taking Victoza in an effort to get my blood sugar under control. Victoza is a physical appetite killer but I still have this drive to eat. Thankfully, my blood sugar is under control and my A1C is 6.7%, safe enough for surgery in March. But man, I feel like I could reach for something to eat despite not being hungry. It's not a pleasant feeling ....

Hey I'm a March 12th as well!

Is it possible that now that you're healthy, you're just less apt to put up with what you once would? Now you kinda know what you want and you aren't willing to settle?

@CalGuy64 It could be that you are now feeling physically stronger and healthier and just less apt to be bullied by people. When I was healthier, I gladly rose to the challenge when placed in a fight or flight circumstance. Now, I am less apt to do so because it will be trivial to whip my ass. I certainly can't run and I hurt all over from being overweight so one good punch in the right place and I'll be down.

@Todd_196 You're not alone! I am right there with you! In fact you took the words right out of my mouth. If you do one thing only, just one thing, move forward in any amount, no matter how small, that you can.

That is from your personal experience. If we look into the research that has been done on dating and physical attraction, it has been well-studied that overweight people have a harder time in the dating market. There will always be exceptions, but I am certainly not one of them. Losing weight only opens the door to the dating marketplace a little bit wider, it isn't the answer. I have problems with relationships because I tend to lean towards co-dependency and losing my ability to define myself externally to the relationship. I also suffer from Autism so I have a whole other set of challenges. Finally, I am at an age where, by society's rules, I should have an established career and some sort of "future." Whatever that really means. So I am not a prime catch. I am overweight, disabled, and was just let go from my job today for reasons that I cannot comprehend. I share this with @CalGuy64, not to gain any sort of sympathy, but to let him know that if I haven't given up with my set of challenges, nor should he. I will only quit when I am 6 feet under. For now, surgery comes March 12th and dating comes at goal weight.

I am sorry that your wife left you. That's never easy, man. Being at a healthy weight simply opens the door a little wider to dating but does not automatically make it easier. The two times in my life when I had lost weight and the door opened, I still had difficulty dating. Plenty of 1st date flops! Just don't quit. You have invested a lot in getting yourself healthy and you continued that investment despite the pain of breakup. That's huge and shows you've got some immense resolve. I've only had two relationships in my life and I am a pretty broken person as I am a high functioning autistic, but because of those two relationships I strongly believe that there are multiple people out there for everyone - I am walking proof of that.

Admittedly, I am not jumping for joy over the liquid diet phase but I understand that it is a medical necessity so I'll grin it and bare it. Speaking of surgery, @FluffyChix, yours is right around the corner in no time at all. How are you feeling?

Please stop binging! It's not going to help you at all. Perhaps you will consider a revision to a sleeve or bypass.

Finally, after a long journey and lots of ups and downs, I will be going to have gastric bypass on March 12th. The pre-op OptiFast diet begins on February 26th. We thought I was going to be able to have the surgery in February and that will not happen but March 12th is only a blink in the eye of time. I began the entire affair in September of 2017. Between the doctors appointments and the fight to get my blood sugar, I am tired and elated that the time is almost here. A new beginning ....

Today I had a small setback. I've been pushed back until March for my surgery. While disappointing, it's still not that long of a time. I was really hoping to get this done sooner than later but it is what it is.

Type 2 Diabetes, as I understand it, is insulin resistance. If it is caught and treated early enough, it can be reversed. Type 2 Diabetes is what brought me to the information session on bariatric surgery last September. I realized that I am not going to win the battle by remaining stuck in the cycle that I am in: I could get progressively worse. The doctors tell me that I will most likely not need my diabetes meds after surgery. I actually have a small glimmer of hope for a healthier life.

@orionburn Those are the thoughts that are going through my head right now. I am concerned about "mourning" the loss of being able to eat all those comfort foods. I was thinking about how I am going to deal with life's upsets without having those foods. A part of me almost said, "Screw it! Maybe it's just better to eat whatever I want and enjoy ... " I stopped there because I realized that I was doing just that but not enjoying life at all. The psychologists want me to have a game plan for dealing with this. I don't have a solid one now, just some vague ideas. Sometimes it's very hard to think clearly when you feel so physically bad that it effects your mental and emotional health. I am just barely stable enough physically and mentally to get through this. I am really going to have to lean on my support systems during this time.

I don't know what to call it but I had some of that same issue. When I lost weight the first time, I kind of felt bereft when the compliments went away because I was at goal weight. I sort of asked myself what the next big thing was and I picked something from my childhood that I always wanted to do but couldn't - backpacking. And by golly, I did it. Then the second time I lost weight, I realized that I could do distance bicycling and would ride 50-60 miles per week. I don't know what I am going to do this time around. My physical and emotional health is a lot worse now than it was on my last rodeo. I believe this will truly be a grind. I am just barely healthy enough to undergo surgery. At least I haven't had a heart attack or stroke.

I honestly think it depends on your set of circumstances. I am a T2 diabetic so every one of my healthcare providers strongly encouraged RNY because of the well-documented effect of curing the diabetes. This is what made the decision really easy - I want to have the surgery best suited to end the malady of diabetes. T2 is a misery that I just want gone. I was also concerned about GERD from the sleeve and I do not want to potentially have to do a revision surgery. Going through one of these is enough.