Mattymatt

I don't think anyone is currently bullying. Rather it's just an open discussion. I think we all get really heated when it comes to discussion and we have to remember to be compassionate towards others. We're all struggling, more or less, from the same affliction of being (or having been) morbidly obese. A little bit of compassion goes a long way. I challenge folks to use compassion instead of bluntness to get a point across. I include myself as well.

that sucks! I remember when I was your stage... I hated thinking about going to the grocery store because nothing tasted right. Luckily for me, that went away. I don't have many aversions to anything now. So give it some time, you may enjoy it again.

You know what's really strange? I think gastric bypass physically broke a large part of my addiction to food because almost all of the foods that I used to enjoy pre-surgery now taste awful and make me physically sick. Yesterday I had a carefully crafted Qdoba burrito bowl. By carefully, I mean I had no carbs/starches. I just had black Beans, ground beef, cheese, and salsa. Well let's just say it was something I used to enjoy. I am still sick from it today and I it wasn't the overeating kind of sickness.

Something called Bullet Proof coffee automatically makes me suspect.

2 hours ago, FluffyChix said:

Because it's another "me too" thing that is going around. You disagree with someone. You dare to voice an opinion or get animated or passionate about a topic or in stating your case that is in opposition to the opinion of the someone else, and everyone who's received a participation trophy for taking part in anything including life, decides to holler, "Bully!" "Bully!"

It's the word of the day.

In my youth, the word of the day was "groovy." And I grew up in a world of suck-it-up-buttercup, life doesn't revolve around you. LOL. So two different worlds.

Sigh.

(Great post by the way.)

I guess I grew up in the world of suck it up but I honestly hated that world. It turned me into a bitter and morose person. I think the world would be a better place if more of us practiced a little compassion and tried to walk a mile in the other person's shoes. I understand that we're all human and make mistakes but I think a little compassion goes a long way.

Dumping sucks the big one!

is there anyone out there that was depressed[emoji11],before surgery and now afterwards it is now under control? Everybody knows how badly i want surgery but is surgery going to make me THAT much worse?[emoji37]

I was so stunned...I had my surgery on january 31st 2018, and for the first time went shopping for some clothes to help me get by (considering its only almost 3 months, but my "old" clothes are litterly falling off me) i could not believe it i fit in an Xl-1X!!! Before surgery i was a size 26-28 or 3x i almost cried my mom was there with me and i told her i never thought i would fit in them...
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It probably doesn't hurt to consult your surgeon about it.

3 hours ago, charismatic said:

I like to buy fresh foods mostly when I grocery shop but I always end up with more than I can eat. I bough 3 avocados (what was I thinking?) and 2 went bad before I got around to eating them. Same with cucumbers and zucchini. It’s such a mental thing I know. I’m still shopping like my stomach is pre-surgery size. I used to eat an entire zucchini in 1 meal - now it’s at least 3 meals.

I need to figure this out. I don’t want to have to go grocery store stopping all the time but I don’t want to waste money or food either.

Fun times!

I am struggling with this too. Some deli meat I had bought went bad.

Vitamins are a whole lot different than prescription medicines. Generally-speaking, they don't have the side effects and untold other horrors. I will gladly trade my chewable vitamins for the prescription meds any day and 5x on Sunday.

8 minutes ago, AshAsh1 said:

It was soda, diet or regular, and potato chips. I haven't had either one since pre surgery. I don't think I could have one in moderation without slipping back into a deep dark hole.

That's good that you're avoiding these triggers. Diet soda is a slippery slope for me as well. I am just as happy to be free of it.

I was told somewhere in the 3-6 month time period. My surgeon said she prefers to consider the stomach healed at 6 months.

I still use Protein Shakes for Breakfast because I don't really like eating when I first wake up. I also use them when I am out and about and don't want to stop for fast food.

1 hour ago, nyguy28 said:

Hi everyone I am in my third week post op and my weight loss has stalled.

I weighed 339llbs 5 weeks ago on my last way in before the two week diet. After the 2 week diet and before the operation I was 316llbs and last Thursday I was down to 306llbs but I have not dropped 1 pound in the last week.

I know there is plateaus but I did not expect one this early has anyone else experienced the same and is there something I can do to help get weight loss going again?

Stalls are common. You just have to ride them out. I had one that lasted a week and a half and then, all of a sudden, I started losing again. In fact just overnight I dropped 2 pounds.

@baribetty I had surgery on March 12th. So I am just about at 6 and 1/2 weeks post op. Funny but it feels like an eternity.

1 hour ago, irishmicmama said:

So I finally went, it was the most unbearable excruciating pain ever! 12 days after surgery, two days of taking Miralax and drinking Smooth Move tea. It was like trying to push a giant cement Boulder out. I remember being constipated after having my children but this was 10 times worse. I actually went and got a enema from CVS pharmacy & tried to give that to myself, I didn't have much luck with it, because it super difficult to do by yourself. But I'm glad no one was home to hear me scream and cry on the toilet that's how bad it was.

Oh wow! I am very sorry .... that is an extremely uncomfortable and even frightening experience.

@FluffyChix has really good advice on this matter. Hidden sugar can be everywhere which is why a consumer needs to be as educated as possible when it comes to food labels.

My weight is dropping like a rock. I think I am averaging a little over 3/4s of a pound a day and it recently picked up and shifted into high gear. I had a stall that lasted slightly over a week and I am back on the loser's bench again.

10 hours ago, Kels7887 said:

I had RNY on March 29th, I was discharged 2 days later and felt “ok” besides pain and nausea. 2 weeks went by and I had not had a bowel movement and wasn’t even near meeting my fluid goals. I had been in twice for IV fluids. The day after I got graduated to soft foods I ate an egg and it stayed down but I was uncomfortable after. The next day I had an egg for Breakfast and tried 4 small grilled shrimp for dinner. I fell asleep after dinner and woke up around midnight feeling that the shrimp hadn’t moved at all and were just sitting there and felt very sick. I ended up throwing up the contents of my pouch and calling the advice nurse. She talked to a surgeon on call and he said go to the ER. After being put through a CT scan and an XRay with contrast it showed there was a blockage of either swelling or a complete blockage and I was transported to the hospital where I originally had my surgery. I went under for a laparoscopic investigative surgery to find out what the swelling was, and it proved to be scar tissue at the site of the jejunostomy. Only two weeks and I had that much scar tissue? Disheartening. My surgeon said he fixed it, and I was in the hospital 9 days total. I have been home for 3 days and I am still in so much pain, and already constipated again, I feel full and again am having a hard time meeting Fluid requirements. I feel like I was botched and ruined my life, that I will be stuck now continually getting revision surgeries and always feeling sick. I am 30 years old and a mother of a 3 year old, what have I done.

I am so sorry to hear this. But I have some good news for you, this situation is only temporary! The end goal of your surgery is to be healthier for your family, your child, and yourself. Remember to take it one day at a time and that getting healthy is rarely a straight line. They have a real saying in the 12 step program that I can get behind: This too shall pass. You'll get there!!

Congratulations on the first step towards the new you, Cara! All of your feelings are perfectly normal and just about everyone experiences these at some point along their journeys. I am a Type 2 Diabetic, and in just two days post-op, I was completely off all blood sugar control medicines. Gastric Bypass is the gold standard for Bariatric Surgery as it has the most research data and still has the best success rate. Basically your stomach is reduced by about 75% and you have a malabsorbtive component which helps you lose weight. It's probably one of the most "major" routine surgeries performed. My surgery was completely performed laprascopically and my surgeon told me that basically robotics do the majority of the work. A robot is going to be far more precise than the human hand at incisions. The end result is that the incisions healed up very quickly.

The one recommendation I make to everyone starting out is to seek out counseling, because some people may experience worsening depression post-surgery. I experienced this, and consequently, I had a much harder time with the mental game. I had very few, if any, physical complications at all. They say anesthesia and the hormonal changes can effect each person quite a bit differently. I am still learning to eat slowly and more mindfully. If I don't do this, I end up praying to the porcelain god. I also don't like sugar anymore. If I accidently have too much, then I get an uncomfortable feeling of shakiness and rapid heart beat.

I hope this helps you out some! Good luck and I think you'll find some really receptive folks on here.

No, it's not. It's a good question. I had RNY and it took me pretty much a full 5 days before I took a dump.

1 hour ago, kordie said:

Ugh... So, last week, I had my last few appointments, was signed off by psych, dietitian and the surgeon. Received an email on Saturday that my primary insurance has approved me for surgery but have not heard back from the surgeon's office yet. I both emailed last Friday and called this past Monday and have not heard back yet. I really don't want to be a pain in the a** and keep bugging them but I really need to get this surgery scheduled as soon as possible. There are only a couple of days in May that would work for me and the surgeon only does surgeries on Tuesdays. Can't take off of work at all in June as the other night nurse that works opposite of me is on vacation that month. I do have secondary insurance through my hubby which needs to deny me coverage before the surgery. I'm thinking that this is possibly the hold up? The message that I left on Monday, however, addressed that concern because if I need to contact the secondary, I will to get them to turn in the denial. Just very frustrated that I've had this hanging out there for almost a full week at this point and the insurance coordinator is not returning my messages. Rant over.

My advice to you is be a pain in the butt because this is your health, and sadly, you must be your own strong advocate. Also, the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Keep after them!

Honestly, at one point I was just going to give up trying to lose weight altogether and just eat myself to death. I thought I had exhausted just about every option out there. I never even heard of anyone implanting a tape worm inside them to lose weight. It's interesting but I am sure extremely dangerous because it is a parasite that can and may kill its host.

I am not going to say that any of you were messed up. It's a known fact that stress and desperation can drive living things into doing what they would not ordinarily do. These acts can be seen in animals and human beings. Obesity is the hardest problem to surmount! Anyone that says otherwise has never walked a mile in our shoes.