Rainbow_Warrior

I know how you feel. It would be very unusual not to be concerned that you could draw the short straw. When I first considered WLS ten years ago, the mortality rate was about 1 in 45 and the rate of complications from surgery was 2 in 45. That was when surgery was scalpels and open abdomen, etc. Now that it's keyhole and minimally invasive, the risks are lower. Mortality now is about 1 in 230 and complications from surgery occur in about 3 of 230 cases. Roll a die/dice 230 times and count the number of times you get a triple ... i.e. three of the same number consecutively. It's possible but extremely unlikely. Get the surgery but make sure you do the pre-op and post-op eating plans ... minimise the risks to you by doing what you're supposed to. (I'm 17 days out from my surgery.)

My four weeks leading in to October 12th is like this. This is the dietitian's guideline. So today (Monday 25th Sept) is Day 12 of my program. My saviours have been: ** "any low starch green vegetables". This is code for a stir fry of zucchini, wilted baby spinach, green capsicum (bell pepper), celery, bok choy, choy sum, etc. ... I rapidly heat these then add a dash of lemon/lime juice and a squirt of white vinegar. ** diet or diabetic jellies (jellos) These two allowable extras are helpful for me. I've also had a few peppermint and spearmint teas (although I am very much NOT a tea drinker). I've even done bonox and vegemite in boiling water as a drink. I still have the soups up my sleeve. I might go there this week ... just to be different. - - - HAVE I CHEATED? Yes. 1. At the pub for trivia, I had diet ginger beer soft-drink (soda) both Sundays. 2. I had a slice of bread one evening. 3. I have been having a third serve of fruit most (but not all) days. 4. Twice, I added some sliced mushrooms to my stir fries.

The trouble with 'My 600 Pound Life' is the prurience and the nature of sensationalism in it. Shows dealing with obesity and its treatment have to avoid both those negatives. The shows "Weight Loss Ward" and "The Obesity Myth" do a much better job of looking at obesity and its treatment factually and dispassionately. The case studies are done much better. Somewhere in between these two excellent examples and the somewhat trashier "My 600 Pound Life" is the almost bearable, "The Fat Doctor".

That seems extreme ... even in context of the 469lbs in your profile. In the first instance, if I were you, I'd go to the "over 400lbs" sub-group here and discuss their access to surgery and their anecdotal evidence of what to do.

And you are staying on with this demoraliser, this non-supporter? If he "doesn't play on your team", so to speak, he should be dropped from the playing roster.

Two of my long-term (female) acquaintances are also preparing for surgery on the advice of their family doctors and the bariatric surgeons they've consulted. One is fully-supported by spouse and immediate family. The other knows (from many former conversations and opinions) that her husband is dead-set anti-WLS. She's going through a living hell and may have to reassess her whole relationship because he's such a controlling, negative b@$t@rd to her. I worry vicariously about her. My wife and I are worried for her long term future/success.

Most Optifast products are 21% to 24% sugar(s). Typical Nestles ... load us up with something our bodies are best off without.

Emphasise then, to your surgeon and the practice/hospital manager that you wish ALL your information and procedures to remain private. Point out, if you are concerned, that a certain staff member may need to be reminded of his/her professional discretion.

I don't want this to come across as hurtful or negative but you may be awry in your estimation. No best friend or true friend would 'open' your secrets and personal information to third parties. That's the mistake people also make when assuming that anyone they speak to or mix with, including social media, is a friend. If I was in your position, I'd be reassessing any one of my so called "best friends" if they were the sort of person that would open private information up to public scrutiny.

More than likely, yes, but I have no power to give you a concrete guarantee on that.

Choice of two ways: 1) electric yoghurt maker appliance OR 2) store-bought yoghurt-making kit ... a reservoir for hot water, culture and other media. Both work out to 25%-35% the price of supermarket yoghurt. I use method 2.

JUDGE: We are searching for more evidence. PIRATE CAPTAIN: There is none. JUDGE: Well, firstly, where are your buccaneers? PIRATE CAPTAIN: On me buccan head!

A pilot in a plane flying over the ocean had to ditch as the plane engines failed. He saw a ship and headed towards it hoping to be saved if he ended up nearby. Sadly, he misjudged and went straight into the ship. He went through the upper deck and every deck below and, finally, right through the hull of the ship causing it to sink. With the passengers swimming towards the lifeboats, he resurfaced and joined them. The others were totally amazed at how he could have survived this and asked how he did it. He said, " I've been through hardships before."

Just to round out the baker's dozen ...

Found some extras ...

And ...

So many ...

It sounds like you have been having a problem with "audience selectivity" or "audience resistance". RULE: Pick or choose VERY CAREFULLY whom you will share your weight loss surgery news with. As my dad used to say, "Opinions are like arseholes; everybody has them. Some are bog-ugly and off-putting. So, son, when you share something you think is happy, not everyone will be seeing it through your eyes and thoughts"

In an extreme case, this period can be six WEEKS but I've not heard of six MONTHS until you mentioned it. I'm tipping a misunderstanding or an unfortunate glitch. Contact the practice or the dietitian ASAP to clarify that you heard it right or that it was written down correctly. Do NOT change doctor unless you find out that it's not a glitch/miscommunication.

Mr dietitian said that if I can get a generally acceptable food through the blender and it can pass through a fine strainer (or cheesecloth) then it's okay. Check with your practice dietitian or your surgeon.

Agree in the most part. I come here and read opinions and anecdotes. Most are absorbing and inspiring. However there are some extremists and very strongly held 'outlier' views. I try to be careful, ingest the thoughts they have and divide by the number of outlying opinions.

Wonderful result ... about half the woman you used to be! Congratulations.