Lacecute

On 10/2/2017 at 0:46 AM, zallykatz16 said:

I hope your surgery went well @SGirl35. MY NSV is being able to cut my toe nails with out pain.

P. S. what does NSV actually stand for?

Non scale victory (:

This post has been wild! I hope no one takes to heart what people say via the internet.

I get it, and I already apologized. What more do you want? You can ask for an apology from every single person that has ever said something rude on here.

And stop acting like you’ve never been rude in your life.

I understand everyone on here is struggling with their weight, I hope they all reach their goals and live happy, healthy lives.

21 minutes ago, Finnix said:

Everyone who has responded to this thread tonight should be ashamed. ALL of you. Especially Lacecute, StartingFreshNana and Abeille. Who talks to people that way? I don’t care what somebody says to you, who says things like that? You should all 3 be banned from this site. This is shameful. I’m embarrassed to know I even joined this page. I had no idea it was like this.


As of October 12, 2017, I am 4 months post op and have lost 100 pounds. I have reached my goal weight and could not be more ecstatic!

If someone is going to be rude to me, I can be just as cruel back. Never have I said or done things like this before. You can go look at my other posts, and what I post on others questions, I provide help, and support. People here are rude. People advised me not to join websites like these because of everyone hiding behind a computer screen. I’m on Instagram and NEVER ONCE have I gotten a comment like the ones I did here tonight.

I asked for it to stop, people didn’t want to stop and continued with all the rude comments.

Honestly I want everyone on here to reach their goals and get the support they need. But after today I see there’s more of the opposite. I’m pretty new on here, I’ve only made a few posts and to see this side of bariatricpal is so disgusting and disappointing. I understand I was in the wrong too, and I apologize to those who I was rude to. But I’m going to say something especially when someone is being THAT RUDE.

2 hours ago, Abeille213 said:

Lol this is fabulous! I love that it’s this easy to get you worked up enough. And fat shaming? Really? Give me a break. There is absolutely nothing you can say to upset me. I’m secure enough in myself that I don’t flip out due to a comment on the Internet. Sadly, you cannot say the same thing. No wonder you’re failing at this process, not losing properly and eating potato chips. You’re incredibly unstable and in desperate and immediate need of serious, intensive, inpatient treatment. You will fail in this journey, my dear. I give it 6 months, at the absolute most. You’ll gain every pound back and then some. Very sad. Feel free to flip out again and attempt to insult me. I find it wonderfully hilarious.

Also, I’m 6 feet tall and was 402 at my highest weight. I lost over 100 lbs prior to surgery. Since my surgery 3 months ago, I’ve lost an additional 97 pounds. So, which of us is failing here, darlin’? I’m 23 pounds away from my goal weight. How about you?

I’m honestly not upset. I could care less about what you think or say. You aren’t far out from your surgery, you could regain too. So 🤷🏻‍♀️. Lol and just so you know, I checked out your profile, looks like you had a meltdown at 6 weeks post op because losing a pound was “bad” in your book. I’m not “crying uncontrollably”

heres your post post if You forgot

STOP POSTING ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY.

Thank you to those you kindly approached me with solutions and your wisdom. I appreciate the help.

If anyone knows how to delete this post, please reply to this. Thank you

1 hour ago, Abeille213 said:

No, I’m not a physician, however I am a doctor. I’m a psychologist. You can chastise me if it pleases you, but it won’t change anything about me. I am not here to coddle. Coddling does not help anyone. It only encourages this type of self sabotaging behavior.

This poster isn’t interested in any suggestions that don’t immediately fit what she wants to hear. She has already proven that by jumping down the throat of others. I will call that type of behavior out every single time I see it.

I’m sorry you don’t seem to approve of how I deal with things. That’s your right. However, I’m certain there are things you may do or believe that I wouldn’t approve of. That’s the beauty of human beings. Believe what you will. Think what you will. Do what you will. And so will I.


On June 12, 2017 I had my gallbladder removed, my lapband removed and revised to an RNY.

HW: 402, SW 306, CW 249, GW 185

I wouldn’t come to you EVEN IF I NEEDED help. You seem like a horrible person. Besides that I already had my psych evaluation and was cleared for surgery. If you had any sense you’d know that after a major surgery it’s okay to be fearful of if I’m doing the right thing or not. So why don’t you bounce off my post and worry about fixing yourself. Obviously as a doctor that didn’t prevent you from tipping the scale at 400 pounds. So why should I listen to anything you have to say, you couldn’t even listen to yourself.

6 hours ago, Abeille213 said:

Yes! I am soooo freaking tired of the whining, “omg I’m ONLY losing 15-20 lbs a month it’s so unfairrrrrrrr!!!” [emoji849] Like, seriously?

Then don’t read it? Lol you took the time to read all the replies so are you really tired of it? 😂😂

12 hours ago, Abeille213 said:

“The world’s shittiest results”?? You’ve lost 30 pounds in under 2 months and you’re saying the weight loss is too slow. What exactly were you expecting??? I don’t understand posts like this at all. Did you not talk to your surgeon and nutritionist prior to surgery? Did you not do research? Are you not familiar with how this process works? Are you unfamiliar with how common stalls are? How long lasting they can be? Right after my first month post op, I had a 6 week stall.

You are going to have to get your expectations in check or you’re not going to make it through this. You’re already getting frustrated and eating potato chips (I.e. sabotaging) and you’re not even 2 months out. This is happening because your expectations are not reasonable. I would strongly recommend attending support group meetings and finding a therapist. You also need to meet with your nutritionist so he/she can set you straight on expectations.



On June 12, 2017 I had my gallbladder removed, my lapband removed and revised to an RNY.

HW: 402, SW 306, CW 257, GW 185

I’ve basically stalled throughout this entire journey so far. I already went two weeks in September not losing a single pound. Then I upped my cardio for an hour and I had to work my butt off to lose 2 pounds a week. I see others doing absolutely nothing but they’re losing 3/4 pounds a week. Even my nutritionist said I was probably stalling at the time I lost weight on my own. Me working out was probably why I was still losing. I don’t think I’m sabotaging myself by having 4 chips in 2 months. I never said I was eating them everyday. I know I probably shouldn’t have. But it’s not the end of the world. And yes I did do my research, and yes I spoke to my doctors and my weightloss team. They told me I shouldn’t have to feel as if I always have to work out to lose weight. I know my expectations, I already reached my 3 month goal before my 2nd. I wrote this post while frustrated with the process of a stall. But I’m going to do everything I can to speed up my stall and keep things going. I don’t want a 2 month stall. And there are people on here that will tell you how they helped overcome their stall ie by increasing calorie, or exercise or increasing their Protein. It doesn’t hurt to try new things in order to see what works, thats what I’m doing.

1 hour ago, JohnnyCakes said:

i did read your post. now for you to learn something new...

exercise does not cause weight loss. and MORE exercise definitely doesn't cause MORE weight loss. sorry to be the one to dispel this myth for you, but it's been pretty well proven by a lot of credible research. in fact, if you are "slaving away" at the gym, that might be hampering your weight loss even further. that is, if you had a real problem with rate of weight loss, which you do not.

i would recommend you stop obsessing and doing something lighter that you enjoy (walking is probably best) rather than "slaving away" at the gym.

but what do i know, i'm just an a$$h*le.

I’m doing what my doctor and my nutritionist want me to do. They said cardio, so I do cardio and I burn 800 calories doing so. Because I HATE exercise, to me it is slaving away. But exercise is part of being healthy. A calorie deficit = weight loss.

2 minutes ago, JohnnyCakes said:

now see... pain and throat problems is something to complain about. losing 16lbs a month is not.

you need to keep an eye on your rage levels as well. perhaps a psychologist can help with that.

fact remains that lately there has been a rash of b*tch sessions (mostly from women... conclude from that what you will) about not losing weight fast enough even though they are losing at the rate of 15-20lbs per month. likely because they cruise these forums and see 400+lb men who lose 25-30lbs in their first few months and greedily want the same.

You know if you’re just going to complain about women I don’t think ANYONE wants to hear it. Also statistically the majority of people who get bariatric surgery are WOMEN. Wanting to lose more weight doesn’t make you greedy by the way. People just want to know if they’re doing something wrong or can improve their results by doing something similar to what someone who is losing more is doing.

Quit hating. No one needs that. If you’re going to just be rude to the people here that are offering their help and me then GET OFF MY POST.

14 hours ago, JohnnyCakes said:

you started at a relatively low weight and you’ve lost 30lbs in less than two months.

WTF ARE YOU COMPLAINING ABOUT!?! that is a very good rate of weight loss!

when will you 250lb women learn to stop comparing your loss rate to 500lb men?!? this isn’t that hard of a concept. proportionally you’re losing just as fast!

the complaining.... jesus christ.......

First of all don’t be rude. You can the exact same thing while being nice. I’m not comparing myself to 300 pound men or women! I’m comparing myself to people who are at around the same weight as me. Also did you not read my post? I’m saying I’m slaving away to lose those 30 pounds. I actually work out. When I know plenty of people that don’t even step foot in a gym that are losing 5 pounds a week.

Hey guys! So I had gastric bypass on Aug. 14.2017. I was 249 starting, on surgery date I was 239 and today I am 208.8lbs.

I see everyone in here who’s weight is literally falling off! They do nothing and the weight still comes off. While all the weight I’ve lost so far, I put work in! I go to the gym everyday and do cardio for an hour! And I still don’t lose as much as other people. And now, my weight hasn’t changed since last week, school and depression got in the way and I didn’t work out for 5 days. But I can’t even say I lost a pound despite how little I eat. So this is what I ate yesterday: Breakfast was a Premier Protein, dinner was 44g of an avocado and 1 large egg. Then I had a snack of cashews which was portioned out to approx. 15g. Here comes the bad part, I ate a Pringle and I ate 3/4 potato chips from Trader Joe’s, so they probably aren’t as bad as lays. But it’s still bad I know. That was the first time I’ve had a snack of chips, today I’m throwing them all, no temptations. I don’t think it was horrible though, probably 5 chips in total . Even if I do a liquid diet, I still lose nothing. I’ll do one this week and let you guys know. So disappointed and unmotivated! I paid so much for this surgery because my insurance wouldn’t cover it. And here I am, with the world’s shittest results. Also note that I feel like I’ve been on a stall 99.9% of the time! Two weekends ago was the first time that the weight fell off and I lost 4 lbs by two days. But that’s the only time that has happened. EVER.

Hey guys I've been on the preop diet since last Monday. The first few days went by great. Then I started cheating a tiny bit like having a string cheese. My nutritionist said I could have cheese but didn't specify what kind so I just had cheese heads. I also caved in by chewing a Gummy and spitting it out. I'm starting to feel awful. I feel like I'm cheating. I lost 6pounds last week and now I'm at a stall, I haven't changed in 3 days... I'm upset, the scale isn't moving and I'm getting hungrier.. I don't know if I can make it till next Monday this whole process is making me want to cry and give up. I'm feeling guilty because I have to pay out of pocket.. and I know that this surgery doesn't do anything besides restrict portion sizes. Should I just drop the whole surgery. I'm young, I'm 19, been fat my whole life.. everything is a mess and I'm stressed.

You could do a tiny bit to get your sugars up. I would consult your doctor as sugar sometimes makes people dump. Also you could ask about glucose tablets or the glucose gel which goes on your gums

Hey guys! So I'm having a hard time eating at this point I'm about, 6days into my preop diet. Not eating feels a lot better than not eating.. I've been skipping my Protein Shakes and my meals. But Today I caved.. I had two spoonfuls of icecream... should I still be okay? I don't plan on cheating the next 7 days till surgery. Should I just postpone it to avoid problems?

Hey guys! So I'm having a hard time eating at this point I'm about, 6days into my preop diet. Not eating feels a lot better than not eating.. I've been skipping my Protein Shakes and my meals. But Today I caved.. I had two spoonfuls of icecream... should I still be okay? I don't plan on cheating the next 7 days till surgery. Should I just postpone it to avoid problems?

I'm pre op too but I've heard of surgeons not operating because the liver is too big, or they can even stop during your surgery. Crazy I know. Call up your doctor now and tell them what's going on, they could help you figure things out and get you back on the right track for surgery so you don't have to push your surgery further.

Good luck!