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OP here, they changed my date to May 23, so excited to be a month sooner. Wishing you all the very best on your journeys!

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers too. Giving you hugs.

Dknal2, First, you look amazing. About husband, I'll try to be kind but honestly, when I read that it's his insecurity and he is "afraid" I tend to get all sorts of angry. The way I see it, you've worked hard to add years to your life, to improve the quality of your life, to feel good about yourself. A good man wants his woman happy. He also wants her to stick around. A good husband and partner encourages their mate to be at their best because they know if their partner is healthy and happy, it works to the benefit of the relationship as a whole. Rude comments about your physique are abusive, and in my book a deal breaker. That he went on Facebook to talk to someone about you and his feelings, before doing counseling to talk to someone about his feelings so that the relationship is stronger, tells me he is not loyal and not someone who copes in a healthy or honest way. He has control issues but is also emotionally abusive, especially, because when someone plays the kind of games he does, by complementing your hair and make-up while putting down your body, they are purposely trying to set you up for failure, not being supportive, not caring about your feelings. Playing games and being emotionally underhanded. He is devaluing you and trying to make you feel bad about something that makes you happy. If he isn't attracted to you, that's ok. You can go your own way and find someone who is and he can find his ass a donkey butt. You worked hard and look amazing and you need people around you that support your new, healthy and motivated lifestyle, and who will encourage your motivation. Not squelch it. It doesn't matter about most marriages suffer etc., it matters how yours is doing and how you feel. Reading your replies, you are so deeply unhappy and sad, and I don't blame you, I'd be devastated. And. I've been there. You'd be better off single, working your new life and health, and getting over a controlling spouse than to take anymore of that crap. Just my own opinion. I hope I don't offend you but it makes me so angry when partners do this to their spouse, abuse is abuse. He needs to love your heart and mind. Support you, period. I've been with guys who try to slow me down, and in my mind, and experience, it never got better. I had to go.

Thank you for sharing your list of needed things ~ and all the best on your journey [emoji4]

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Thank you! Good luck to you too [emoji4]

Hi seeker, I'm not required to do a pre-op diet but I'm doing a month long one anyway. Nothing to be scared of I will do only liquid but may have a protein drink once or twice a week if I become too tired, then back to only liquids. I'm also going to be walking. I've water fasted 27 days and juiced for three weeks. While it isn't the same, I can share with you my experience regarding discipline. The first three days of liquid diets are generally the hardest. About seven days in I felt pretty good and was able to stay on it much easier. My advice is to measure your portions of solid food and be sure to skim off the top - don't do rounded cups. Drink a lot of water, it helps you feel full. Eat no solid food after 6pm if you can help it ( unless awake lake and eat a late breakfast ) you'll know what works for your body. I suggest the solid food Morning, liquids later, that's what I'm doing. I wish you well on your journey, you can do this! Drop me an email if you need encouragement

My date was moved from June 19th to May 23. I'm excited about this, and while I'm not required to start a pre-op diet I'm starting tomorrow anyway. This is very exciting news indeed. I'll be updating on my blogs from here on out, as I feel I gathered all the information I could on pre-op, and post op surgery from my doctor and these forums. I don't really need a buddy but Im open to anyone who wishes to exchange emails.

I was raised Catholic, an Atheist twenty years, and am non denominational Christian now. I have tons of Atheist friends and friends from differing religious backgrounds. I keep my views to myself and don't proselytize, and generally find many Christians very unchristian, and most practitioners of faith very much unlike their faith. I find some Atheists embittered. Good and bad in anything. I honestly try not to judge and let people go their own way, I figure it's their bit. Most Christians and atheists haven't bothered to study theology or critically look at it anyway. I've told loved ones they'll be in my prayers and meant it. I do pray, I also offer to help them out anyway I can, or put together care packages depending on what they need or what the occasion is. I generally read two pages of the Bible in the morning or evening, contemplate and then pray for my loved ones and myself, especially concerning troubling issues. I guess the point is, no matter what ones faith or lack of is, to just try and be a good example to others and kind, or patient, is the important thing to me. Nobody is perfect but I guess it's where a person's heart is coming from that matters. It wouldn't matter to me if someone couldn't spend money on me by putting together a care package, or if they offered to say a simple prayer if I knew they love me and their heart means well. It's about character, I suppose. To me someone saying "I'll pray for you" is like saying "I'll keep you in my thoughts." There is nothing wrong with that in my personal opinion.

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I just want to apologize before hand if I offend you, and I'm not there or know him, so I can't really say what is happening on his end or what he's thinking. From what I glean, you probably should look for support elsewhere and have a friend pick you up from surgery. I have to admit, his comments are coming across very childish and cruel from what you are typing here. I wouldn't put up with that sort of unkindness from a partner. It's selfish, whether it's fear or something else. This is about your health not his feelings. Being obese is a disease, many diseases are treated through surgery. My unwarranted advice is to stop trying to talk to him about your surgery. Use the forums here, talk with family and friends that care, and completely shut him out of the process. He obviously, from all you've typed here, seems to not care, feel comfortable, and/or is uneasy and uninterested in being supportive. Maybe it will change after, when he's see's you're ok. But it doesn't matter. What matters is being strong for yourself. Exercise, proper eating, training your mind to focus on what you need to do for yourself is what matters, not seeking the validation of someone who doesn't want to give it. My partner is supportive but only attended one seminar. I'm okay with that. I'm doing it for me, not him, not anybody else, ME.

I always forgive. I must or I suffer, or cannot let go. I forgive myself first by realizing I've issues too, that I'm imperfect. If they abused me, I allowed it but why? Once I learn the why, I understand myself, the understanding helps me forgive. Then I can forgive them, the process is the same. I understand them, then I forgive them. It doesn't mean I condone what they did or accept the negativity of the situation, nor does it mean I want them near me, but it better than thinking I'm imperfect and tolerating their bad behavior or, harboring continual anger. To me, not forgiving feels worse to me than to them, it just keeps me in a constant state of negativity, as if suspended in the reoccurring memory of how I was wronged - and that's just no good for my mental health or spirit. To me personally, people who cannot forgive are lost, and that's terribly self destructive and sad. It's worth the work and effort to get to the other side.

I know a 21 year old who was sleeved. Your doctor sounds biased for some hidden agenda, what, who knows. Consider speaking with other doctors and consider researching more on your own, too. It alarms me your doctor is telling you this. And worse, that he assumes you cannot keep the weight off or cultivate a healthier lifestyle to keep the weight off. Very negative, and IMO, bad doctor. I'm sorry to be so blunt, it just concerns me for you.

I'm Las Vegas, and have almost two months to go before my surgery. It will be moved up, though. I'm with Dr. Soong at the Surgical Weight Control Center. Wishing everybody a safe and happy journey.

Fresh veggies, Fish, Bio Chem protein powder, legumes, chicken, roast, eggs, apples, clementines, nuts ( with shell ) decaf tea, Perrier, beef jerky.

awwww, Im sorry the dates were too far out! I love how they do it, very slow for me and this allows me to learn all i can about it, and I know Soong is one of the top in Nevada, so I cant be more happy. When do you have yours or did you have it??? And agree! Vegas heat SUCKS. Im not looking forward to it AT ALL. Its going to be awful. But, I can walk early and in the evening, so it will work out well. Where are you?

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Hi, I'm going to be sleeved in June on the 19th, possibly as soon as May, as there is a high probability they are moving my date up. I'm hoping to exchange emails with someone or people who are interested in cultivating a healthy diet and lifestyle. This means holding each other accountable for diet and exercise. I use a Fitbit and would love to have someone who is doing the surgery and looking to work out more to add to it, but only if they get to know me first (Don't add random people to that account) OR, would simply love to correspond in email pal fashion habitually.

I've not had my surgery so can't say, but perhaps call your doctor and ask them?

Well said.

Lawdy, that's gross lol. I would say so! Definitely stress related. I've not had any since the last I posted about, so I'm hoping that's it. Keeps fingers crossed*

Hi, I once did a liquid diet of water 27 days. Then juiced vegetables for 14. I understand how you feel. I became tired toward the end of both, and that due to lack of Protein. Generally these diets are not healthy. If you have some activity liquid diets take from stored fat and also from the heart muscle (what my doctor told me.) I'll be starting my pre op diet today, and I'm not too concerned. I'm thinking for me personally it's a great start to weight loss. I didn't have too much trouble with the water and veggie juice fasting, but know the pre op will be a bit more challenging. Still going to try my best to stay on plan. My surgery is June 19th with the probability of being moved up, so I've a ways to go and staying on a liquid pre op diet that long is too much, so will allow myself hard boiled eggs and apples/clementines this months and taper off them about ten days from surgery. My doctor told me it doesn't matter if his patients do pre op diet or not since they've no way to tell if the liver will have shrunk or not until they are in there, and sometimes the pre op makes no difference, plus he can get in there anyway. I wish you the best of luck with your sleeve, sounds like you're off to a great start.

I would ask this question in "post op" because a lot of people here have not had their surgeries yet, this way you get some great feedback based on their experience! I think you're going to be okay, and wish you many blessings on your journey