charlotte girl

I have an 8 year old and a 3 year old. My 8 year old know. I was honest with him and told him I was having surgery on my stomach so that I can lose weight and be healthy. He has seen me always dieting and working out and he knows how much I've struggled. We've never used the word fat or made it about looks. When we've discussed it it's been all about losing the weight to be healthy and have more energy to do more things together. With my 3 year it was easy, I didn't say anything because he doesn't understand but when I came home I did show him my stomach so he could see I had a "booboo" and therefore he would have to be gentle and I explained I couldn't pick him up for a while.

I have a 2 and 5 year ols. I told them I was going to get some things fixed in my tummy so I'd feel better. I also tried to prepare them by explaining that I wouldn't be able to pick them up for a few weeks but we could still snuggle. Most importantly I explained some ways it would benefit them like how I'd have more energy and be able to run around with them and play outside, wrestle (with my son), ride our bikes ect. and they like all of that because they will get a benefit too my date is 3/16 and can't wait to start my new life.

That's what my mother told me after her RNY when I was 9, lol! None of us knew that years and years later I'd be getting sleeved....

I have a 18 yr old, 15, 12, 10... I haven't told them because they will tell the entire church, school etc and I'm just not ready to disclose my personal business. My surgery is on the 20th so I'm going to tell them I had Gallbladder surgery.

Oh, and they won't notice your diet. If they offer you a bite of something, just tell them it looks really good, but your tummy is upset. Or you could say the doctor has you on a special diet. Either way would work.

Now, my youngest is 11, so it has been a few years, but honestly I think I would just keep it to what they will experience.

"Mommy has to go on a little trip for a few days. You will be taken care of by... I'll be back before you know it, and if you are good, I'll bring a present!"

Don't mention what is happening while you are gone, and when you do get back, just say you strained your belly and are sick, so that's why you are sore and resting.

There will be time enough later to be honest. At the moment they are really too young.